Sure, you're doing your thing and adjusting. Sound like the mature approach. But if you were struggling with it and asked your family to cut back and they refused, then I think that stinks.
And it's a totally different scenario when it's kids vs H. Your husband is your life partner, it's pretty much your job to support each other. If you needed him to, wouldn't he do it?
op has said that he hasn't in the past. it's in the thread somewhere.
But did her H say he wouldn't or did he just not automatically do it?
I guess this is why I think it's a communication problem. If your Spouse has to change their diet and you don't change I don't think that's an issue. But if your spouse comes to you and asks you to make adjustments to help out and you refuse, then I think thats a problem.
It sounds to me like OPs H isn't being clear about his needs and what he could use help with (i.e. cutting back on met together) and OP isn't clearly communicating what she needs from her H (I.e. his active role meal planning).
op has said that he hasn't in the past. it's in the thread somewhere.
But did her H say he wouldn't or did he just not automatically do it?
I guess this is why I think it's a communication problem. If your Spouse has to change their diet and you don't change I don't think that's an issue. But if your spouse comes to you and asks you to make adjustments to help out and you refuse, then I think thats a problem.
It sounds to me like OPs H isn't being clear about his needs and what he could use help with (i.e. cutting back on met together) and OP isn't clearly communicating what she needs from her H (I.e. his active role meal planning).
I did not ask him to not eat particular stuff in the house while I am dieting, nor do I expect him to. We are adults and this is his house as well. Just as I would not expect him to give up drinking if we decide to have kids and I get pregnant.
And in my defense, I have communicated with him that I want his help in meal planning, and it did not go well, so I dropped the conversation. That is why a come to Jesus talk is now required.