We met on Match. They have all sorts of neat singles events too.
I was wondering if they still did this, I saw some commercials a while back but haven't seen any recently. We live outside a major city so I'm pretty sure there would be some fun events.
My BFF used to say that, years ago, she'd always kind of snark on people who met online saying stuff like "I don't want to have to PAY for love".
Then she met her H on eharmony. Lol. And he's really a perfect match for her. They've been together since like 2010 so I think it was worth it for her to get over the paying thing.
Maybe to know her is to love her, but this sounds incredibly bitchy to me.
Before she became a hypocrite (kidding), did she think it was some weird thing where you paid for the account, got your man, and then everyone was locked in? "NOW YOU HAVE TO LOVE HER! SHE PAID FOR THIS LOVE!"
In a sense, everyone is paying for love. You buy a cute date dress, a drink, or meal? Paying for love.
I love that in the end she had to pay for her own love. Lol.
No, I think she just sometimes think's she's funny by snarking on others She actually IS really funny but her slightly judgmental streak is the thing I like least about her. Imagine how she reacted when I decided to give my cheating XH another chance. Ha.
This was also back in like 2007-2009 so I think online dating was actually less the norm than it is now, though it was becoming more popular. I think the percentage of people actually using it back then was a lot lower than now, so it seemed more "weird" KWIM?
Post by formerlyak on Jan 27, 2017 18:16:13 GMT -5
eHarmony. I also tried Match, but for my location and age demographic it seemed like a bar online - lots of people wanting to hook up, no one actually wanting to date or have a relationship.
Met my BF on Plenty of Fish as well. Though I had gone through my share of duds at the time. Also, he was the most patient guy I'd talked to on there.
However I used Bumble before him and I saw the overlapping of dudes on there and POF. Their Bumble profiles always made them look better or more accomplished than they actually were. If I had to do it again I'd do match.
I know a few couples now that have met on tinder. 2 are in serious relatioships and 1 just got married. It might be city or age dependant though because in the last place we lived (CA now; IL a few years ago), most people met on match or okcupid.
We met on POF in 2013. When I was dating, I tried eharmony, match, okc. If I'm being totally honest, paid vs. free didn't matter much for me. I found harmony to be very limited to the potential partners available and in I didn't care for that aspect of it--however, I think all of the labor intensive questions are worth a shot because they do try to pair you with someone that is very compatible (although that pool maybe kinda limited). I did meet someone there that was the nicest guy and we had tons in common--actually knew mutual people, but i was not attracted to him at all. They should market a site to meet friends like that!!
Anyhow, I feel that dating in general is just a gamble. It's a combination of luck and timing. Free, paid...there are lots of assholes on both. Just because someone pays for it, doesn't mean they are a better quality date. I interacted with many creeps on match. I don't think it's a reflection on the person if they're having a difficult time. It happens to so many good people.
Post by Queen Mamadala on Jan 28, 2017 1:46:53 GMT -5
I met my husband and two previous exes on OKC. This was in '14. I probably went on 100+ dates over that period of time and casually dated a few others, between '11-13.
ETA: I used Match a few times and met several from the site, but didn't really care for it, especially for what it cost. PoF is like the dive bar of dating sites. I used it plenty, but it rarely yielded compatible matches. I much preferred OKC's layout, user interface and survey. I think its matching algorithm is brilliant and yielded great compatible matches. There's definitely an overlap of membership/users for all major dating sites, but very few measure compatibility the way OKC does. The vast majority on PoF are likely on OKC, but I discovered on many occasions that a one-and-done date that I met on PoF ended up being a clear non-match, lower match %, when I'd come across their profile on OKC. There was a reason it was one-and-date. I rarely bothered with matches lower than low 90s and preferred mid-high 90s with at least a few hundred questions answered.
Tinder would not have worked for me based on its lack of filtering/screening tools that OKC has. I had far more good/quality dates and interactions with dates I met on OKC because it was far superior at matching me with compatible matches.
Post by jillboston on Jan 28, 2017 11:28:13 GMT -5
My 2 nephews met their wives on Match (in 1998 I was matched with one of them on Match - we're roughly the same age and same city at the time -eww!)
One of them is divorced (they never owned up to anyone that they met on Match - said it was at a party) - the other couple is very happily married 6 years on now.
I didn't meet my DH on match (did meet a few nice guys though) - but we likely wouldn't have met if it hadn't been for the internet. We met at a get together for Springsteen fans organized through a number of fan websites.
I met my XH on Plenty of Fish, and the guy I'm dating now I met on OKC. There is more to weed through on OKC but I'm pretty happy at the moment with it
eHarmony. I liked the fact that they scientifically matched you so for me it took some of the pressure off. According to their recent commercials, they now tell you the areas you match in so that seems cool. Plus, I felt like the guys took it more seriously since they actually paid for it.
Post by lyssbobiss, Command, B613 on Jan 29, 2017 22:20:55 GMT -5
OKC. In my experience, the success/failure of certain dating apps is regional. I moved about 4.5 years ago, and before I moved, POF was a better place to find people to date, but where I live now, OKC was more successful.
"This prick is asking for someone here to bring him to task Somebody give me some dirt on this vacuous mass so we can at last unmask him I'll pull the trigger on it, someone load the gun and cock it While we were all watching, he got Washington in his pocket."