Did we do TWERKS?

[waverly]

I decided against asking my boss to work from home in the afternoons.  He has been in several months of bad moods.  But also, I realized I need to stay late at least 2 days a week which leads to only a $40 savings.  Which I feel like DH will just eat up the $40 in savings because he is a spender.  And instead of addressing his spending issue he just tries to get a higher salary which is great because we will be more in budget, but doesn't address his spending.  

[2chatter]

Putting the car seat into the uber was easy and DS thinks he is so cool. He's talking to the driver so I am reading here. Is this a milestone for the post millennial baby book?

[mommyatty]

Still love the dark hair and the wavy bob. I honestly can't remember ever having gotten so many compliments on changing my hair before. Now I'm wondering exactly how shitty my hair looked before, lol.

[shakinros]

Monday is DH's first day at the new job. Woo hoo! He's spent his unemployment time remodeling the office. Very slowly. It looks nice but every day this week he has lamented that he didn't get as much done as he wanted. I foresee a weekend where he helps with nothing because he *has* to finish his personal project.

So, solidarity with the mama whose H is still remodeling the basement.

[rere]

I have one garage door. The other one is supposed to be on by the end of the day. I may be wheeling into a fully functional garage this weekend.

Ds didn't get back from his football game until almost 11. Why do schools talk about getting enough sleep when they keep my kid out till 11 on a school night? Plus Dd starts volleyball today, so life is about to get nuts.

[xctsclrx]

So my DH will not be going to the new job. His labor category won't be approved until January when he will have 15 years of experience. It really annoys me that four months is such a big deal. His qualifications will not change between now and then. I feel bad for him because he is so unhappy in his job right now. He is also burned out on job searching. We are going to take a break from job searching until after the holidays and then if that company doesn't come back to him then he is going to start again.

mae0111 I am curious about what you decided to do this weekend.

[erinshelley21]

Kids: First week of school for DS isn't even over and DH and I have already contracted some sort of sickness. Public school went back last week, so DS caught the germs last week and they've finally invaded our bodies and taken advantage of the lack of sleep. Lack of sleep being from my unicorn baby that WAS sleeping through the night from May until Sunday night. I think I've figured out that DD doesn't like sleeping on her belly which is a problem since she won't stop rolling onto her belly.

House: As predicted, DH went back to being unhappy with our house, but then at lunch yesterday realized again all the things we'll be able to do to our house and still be able to maintain our current standard of living so he's happy again. I foresee the back and forth continuing until I have a check in my hands from selling the biz.

Business: Meeting with buyers next Tuesday. We're telling the asshole we are going to a special lunch with our mom for her work. I'm still trying to figure out what my plan is for after. I keep trying to imagine myself in different roles and I keep coming back to wanting to open a children's clothing store or one of those bounce house places. The clothing store would just be fun but our town is in need of a bounce house type place. The closest one is 40 minutes away. But, both of those land me back in the self-employed world which is what I'm trying to get out of.

[phdmomma]

shakinros, that's me, with the DH and the basement, which is still not done. My folks are visiting this weekend ( we are putting them in a hotel due to the unfinished basement), and my hope is that if we give DH time to work on the never ending basement project that it will get finished. However when I carve out time for him, it seems that work stuff keeps creeping in and stealing the time.

[rere]

One more. Ds did not have to eat lunch alone the first day. I ran into a high school friend and his son a few weeks ago at a cookout and introduced ds to the son who is also a Freshman. Ds said he sat down at lunch, this kid joined him, plus his football team mates. All was right in the social world that is high school lunch.

[xctsclrx]

rere, your son is the one who went from private to public right? I am happy he is not alone. That is the great thing about high school sports. They give you some instant friends until you can find your own.

[rere]

Aug 11, 2017 8:37:17 GMT -5 xctsclrx said:

rere, your son is the one who went from private to public right? I am happy he is not alone. That is the great thing about high school sports. They give you some instant friends until you can find your own.

Yes. He went from a very small class to like 400. He and two other girls came from our school.

[justcheckingin73]

rere, as a military brat, being the new kid in a new school and thinking about who I was going to eat lunch with was one my biggest stressors. I'm so glad your DS was not alone. 

[judyblume14]

"Maybe I'll know more by next Thursday. I'm hoping my TWERK will be about my huge promotion and fatty raise. But I'm thinking these will not come until next year. Boo."

I'm on a new team, with a new boss. It was not a huge promotion, and I will not be getting a fatty raise. But the person I'll be reporting to is a very well-liked guy. So, that's good.

[akafred]

Aug 11, 2017 9:01:15 GMT -5 judyblume14 said:

"Maybe I'll know more by next Thursday. I'm hoping my TWERK will be about my huge promotion and fatty raise. But I'm thinking these will not come until next year. Boo."

I'm on a new team, with a new boss. It was not a huge promotion, and I will not be getting a fatty raise. But the person I'll be reporting to is a very well-liked guy. So, that's good.

That sucks about the promotion and raise. Glad the boss seems like a good guy though.

[2chatter]

I took DS to the lobby for breakfast, and have since survived two hours of conference calls in the hotel bathroom while he plays legos. He stored all his completed creations in the fridge. "Mom, they're cool, get it?" I'm not complaining! Two hours until we go out to lunch. I am shocked at how easy this morning has been. Super laid back and I think I've gotten more done this morning than in the last two days working at home alone.

The girls did a bus trip to LA from Vegas with their Dad and I am SO excited for them. It's the one place they both have always wanted to go that doesn't excite me, and they are over the moon. Done and happy kids? Win!

DD still wants to take me up on a flight instead of a party. That's my new offer to the kids. We can do $100 round trip tickets and a weekend away with me instead of a birthday party - flight and air bnb are the same cost as a party...and other spending is pretty much like any other weekend. I finally found an upside to eating out too much, and am excited that the kids love to travel. They get a small friend sleepover for their birthdays too. I've struggled with having three in that I traveled a TON as a kid - flew all over the country alone to visit friends and family. Now my kids will get more of that experience.

[erinshelley21]

2chatter, I LOVE the birthday idea. I've been thinking about something similar for my kids.

[leap]

2chatter, I love the birthday idea for a little older kids. Unfortunately for us, there are not many places we can fly for $100 RT (maybe 3 cities), but still love the idea. Will have to keep it in mind.

[twinmomma]

2chatter, Your trip idea inspired me! Flights would be too much, but I could totally do overnight getaways at driveable places with my kids - it would be such a perfect, special way to give them one on one time apart, which we struggle with.

[2chatter]

The places we could go this Fall for sure are Denver, LA, Chicago, Atlanta and Pittsburgh. I was surprised! And that is avoiding Spirit. I can't wait to get sports schedules and plan!

[sudokufan]

You guys, I could cry. DS has been doing so well with his speech therapist, but he's had his 15 sessions and insurance has denied him any more for the year. It's $300 a session, one a week. I just don't know how we're going to find the money.

[mommyatty]

Aug 11, 2017 13:57:20 GMT -5 sudokufan said:

You guys, I could cry. DS has been doing so well with his speech therapist, but he's had his 15 sessions and insurance has denied him any more for the year. It's $300 a session, one a week. I just don't know how we're going to find the money.

Ask his therapist what the cash rate is and explain why. The rate may be significantly lower for self-pay.

[twinmomma]

sudokufan, Can he get services paid for by the school district?

[sudokufan]

mommyatty, his therapist knows, she's the one who called to tell me the insurance denied authorization. $300 apparently is the cash rate.

twinmomma, he may be able to get services through the school district, and that's where I'm leaning. We pursued it before we went private and we were underwhelmed by what we saw - we got 3 wildly different diagnosis from them, but he's made so much progress since then, maybe it'll be good enough.

Honestly, I'm a bit demoralized because if we go the school district route, they'll go to him at the DC and we'll be a lot less involved. Being able to sit in on his private sessions has really helped H and I help DS, if that makes sense. We've learned SO MUCH from the SLP. And to think when we first started this I felt like hauling him back and forth to ST was a PITA; I've sure changed my tune!

[2chatter]

sudokufan - I don't know how anyone pays for that - but people do and I think it's crazy. Is there a large scale hospital that teaches there? Friends have scored soon to be and new grads/residents for much less - for fine tuning after the really heavy lifting is done. The cool thing is, they require oversight, so the $300 people frequently attend the initial sessions to supervise. Good luck. Super stressful.

[erinshelley21]

Aug 11, 2017 15:16:37 GMT -5 2chatter said:

sudokufan - I don't know how anyone pays for that - but people do and I think it's crazy. Is there a large scale hospital that teaches there? Friends have scored soon to be and new grads/residents for much less - for fine tuning after the really heavy lifting is done. The cool thing is, they require oversight, so the $300 people frequently attend the initial sessions to supervise. Good luck. Super stressful.

If you have a university close to you that could be an option as well. The college I went to has a great SLP program that does therapy for kids in the area. Not sure on cost but I would imagine it is significantly cheaper.

[mustardseed2007]

sudokufan,I live in a suburb in a big city, and in my neighborhood there are moms in my area that do speech therapy. As in, they are SAH moms but are certified speech therapists and do therapy at your home or out of their home part time. The one I know explained to me that they actually can't go to schools (b/c the schools have their own people) but they can go to private schools or day cares or your home. And I am SURE they are less than 300 per hour. You might ask around in your neighborhood to see if there is anyone doing that kind of thing where you live.

And also, I second the idea of a cash rate. My coworker just had to get an MRI. With insurance, it was going to be 1400 dollars to her b/c of her deductible. But when she turned them down and said she couldn't afford it, that 1400 turned into 300 for the "cash rate" with no insurance. Boggles my mind, but it's true. Even if your current place doesn't do that, some other center might.

[mustardseed2007]

DS had his growth hormone stimulation test last week and he passed it. As in he doesn't have a growth hormone deficiency. But he's still not on the chart. I kind of wish he'd failed it so we'd have a direction handed to us. Instead, it's going to be more complicated.

First insurance: On paper a growth curve like his caused by ideopathic short stature (just being short) is covered by our insurance, but I hear it's really hard to get.

Second, if it is covered, should we try to give him growth hormones. Should we wait until he's 7, when they can predict his height more accurately, to decide? Right now he's looking like he'll be 5'3''. But it could definitely be shorter. My dad is 5' and my nephew is 4'9''. 

[waverly]

mustardseed2007, how far off the chart is he? How old is he again? If he is projected at 5'3" and males in the gene pool are 5' then I would say he is on track. Otherwise healthy?

I think this is coming from my place of honestly being tired of medical interventions. DS has had 5 surgeries, hearing aids etc etc etc. So personally I would wait until 7 and more info because I am too in that wait and see place where I don't think with DS's issues waiting another year will make a big difference.

[saraml13]

I heard back from the place I interviewed last week, and they want to bring me back! This should be the final round, which includes a psychological evaluation and meeting the CEO and president. Fingers crossed!

[2chatter]

mustardseed2007 - I feel for you. DD is below the chart and the ped pointed out that growth hormones would be aesthetic, and most people aren't motivated to consider this for girls. The two boys in my family who had growth hormones benefited from a big confidence boost when they got closer to and then on average. The biggest thing for me would be to not discuss it around DS - even going so far as not discussing at DS' appointments, but speaking with the doctor after. DH kept saying DD was shy so now she identifies that she is. Kids absorb labels. So hard.