The pay to play sports are rip off. No your kid is probably not going to get that full ride college scholarship or go pro. In our area they prey on the low income parents with their hopes and dreams of their child becoming something great. I find it gross.
And to hear moms say "Oh hes trying out for.." Full stop. Your kid is not trying out. They all make some type of team. If I want to pay enough and convince that coach I could get my own kid on the team. They are not going to turn down money. Parents buy into this and I want to shake them.
If you take all this money you are spending on this sport, dump it in a bank account, I can promise you this, you will have more money in that account than you will ever receive in a college scholarship.
This rant brought to you by a niece in gymnastics for many years who still sucks at it and a nephew whos parents think hes going pro. Newsflash: hes not.
Oh, I have one. I am glad my DS isn't athletically inclined because I have zero desire to participate in travel teams and be involved in kid sports every weekend. He does do soccer and tennis right now, but I am hoping this will be our last year doing soccer -fingers crossed-
Me too! Hell, even if my kids were talented and inclined, I wouldn't make our finances and schedule revolve around one kid's activity. Town rec sports then school sports will have to be enough for them.
My friend is going through a separation/inevitable divorce. She has been trying to decide what to do for over a year. I feel terrible for everything she is going through, but I wish she would just end it. It's all she talks about and I've run out of things to say. It's also become a completely one sided friendship since it's literally the only topic of conversation. Ever. Sometimes I'm a little hurt that when I have major things going on in my life, she isn't there to support me anymore.
ETA: That makes it sound like I want her to end things because I'm bored of talking about it, but really it's because her H is a terrible person and she really needs to get away from him because she'll never be happy otherwise.
This is basically me. Things have been rough between H and I for a couple of years, and honestly it was time to pull the plug. I don't mean to keep talking about this to my friends, but someone will ask me if I'm doing OK and my mouth just starts running! I do try to steer the conversation back to my friends, but I am feeling a bit like a one trick pony lately. I'm not even that upset about the relationship ending, but I'm crazy stressed out about moving out, and H is being a colossal dick lately. To make this flameful......I won't miss H, but I'll miss his income.
I didn't know it was, either, and I live in the south. I don't know anyone who's done that. The most I have seen is using a maiden name as a middle name.
My name is my mothers maiden name and I live in the south. Im 29 so I guess my parents were a little ahead of the trend lol. My mom says that she always knew she wanted her first child's name the be her maiden name.
I was the only person I knew of that had their moms maiden name as their first name growing up but I do see it more now.
Dd's middle name is my maiden name. I've only ever known one other girl with the mother's maiden as the middle, and I've loved the idea since middle school.
I got my first Home Chef box. The first was a shrimp recipe that had approximately 978 steps and took me an hour to make. As I'm standing there de-stemming and chopping parsley, chopping veggies, mincing garlic, whisking a sauce, skewering shrimp, etc, I'm like, do real people do this every night? Like, cook actual meals with multiple ingredients?
I basically put seasoning or sauce on a meat, maybe cut up some veggies, and bake a sweet potato or something.
Same in every aspect of the cooking. Foodies, we are not. Way too lazy for that shit. I had blue apron for a while but for the price, someone better cook it for me.
I need ham like water Like breath, like rain I need ham like mercy From Heaven's gate Sometimes ham salad or casserole or ham that’s free range, all natural I need ham
Man, I wish I could post some of the names I've seen at school recently... lol.
I swear teachers and labor and delivery nurses have probably heard it all!
I worked for a doctor who cared for an infant who was named after her place of birth +etta. And by place of birth, I mean the porcelain household item one sits upon when one does not know they are pregnant and believes they are experiencing diarrhea cramps and not the pains of labor. So think, sinketta but not sink.
Mercifully, the name of the device has a letter missing so it's not entirely evident what the baby is named after but the mother was all too willing to share. 😬
And yes. Tinsley is an awful name. It's better than her mother, dale though!
I mean, I do but I'm probably not the best example.
However, if I was paying for the convenience of a box service, I'd want that shit cut and cryovac'd so I didn't have to prep anything. That's just a waste of time to me if not.
I didn't read fully, I thought it all came prepped. Lol. I was like, wtf is this?
The meal was good, but I could only do that like once a week. I'm not coming home from work, taking care of a kid, and making a dinner like that. But the second meal was easier and seriously delicious.
Each meal has a rating on easy/medium/experienced on cooking/prep level. You may look into that if you decide to order again.
The pay to play sports are rip off. No your kid is probably not going to get that full ride college scholarship or go pro. In our area they prey on the low income parents with their hopes and dreams of their child becoming something great. I find it gross.
And to hear moms say "Oh hes trying out for.." Full stop. Your kid is not trying out. They all make some type of team. If I want to pay enough and convince that coach I could get my own kid on the team. They are not going to turn down money. Parents buy into this and I want to shake them.
If you take all this money you are spending on this sport, dump it in a bank account, I can promise you this, you will have more money in that account than you will ever receive in a college scholarship.
This rant brought to you by a niece in gymnastics for many years who still sucks at it and a nephew whos parents think hes going pro. Newsflash: hes not.
I did gymnastics for years (up until 12 and then on and off until I graduated college). No one I did it with was doing it for scholarships or to get on a college team, despite how much it costs. It was really, really enjoyable for me and I'm glad I didn't stop because I "still sucked."
Should kids only be in sports if they are outstanding athletes? That would suck a lot of joy out of a lot of kids.
I didn't read fully, I thought it all came prepped. Lol. I was like, wtf is this?
The meal was good, but I could only do that like once a week. I'm not coming home from work, taking care of a kid, and making a dinner like that. But the second meal was easier and seriously delicious.
Each meal has a rating on easy/medium/experienced on cooking/prep level. You may look into that if you decide to order again.
It was rated easy. (wilted)
Lol, it actually was easy, just a lot of steps and time consuming.
Are you sure about that? Seems to me like he knows this isn't just just sex, which he was previously ok with. You want to date other people, so male or female, this might be upsetting to your partner. Sounds like you have some big decisions to make.
Post by ciescalove on Aug 17, 2017 13:53:36 GMT -5
I quit my job today after 2 weeks. It was VERY physical and the one side of my hand is black from having to hit something repeatedly for 2 hours at a time, and my thumb is all messed up. After a shitty day yesterday, I walked out to find a voicemail from a different job I had received a conditional offer for but had seemingly just kind of stalled out. I took that as a sign. The flat tire I got at 5:30 this morning was another sign. I carried my butt home and went back to bed. I have 2 other potential jobs in play right now, so I guess this isn't terribly flameful other than not putting in notice, but my team lead was a huge dick and I couldn't put myself through another week of that.
I'm thrilled my daughter wants to take a year off from Softball. I think her dad has higher expectations than he should about her ability to get a scholarship. I was fine with her playing when she enjoyed it but when it turned into playing because daddy wanted her to was when I had a problem. She was MISERABLE this last season and just wants a year off. We will see if exH pushes it in the spring.
Que - I think he -wants- it to be only sexual. And that's where the jealousy comes in. And I don't like that, because it feels objectifying. When I try to explain that he gets defensive. So I just stopped dating. I rather be with him then go on dates.
If it's not just sexual, you're looking to add another partner to your relationship? If he misunderstood that at the beginning, then this is a tough.
To make this flameful......I won't miss H, but I'll miss his income.
You get ZERO flames here. That was the ONLY thing he had going for him. And let me tell you, it may not be as easy to splurge on stupid shit I don't need, but damn it feels good to not have to deal with the BS. Eventually, you will readjust and not even miss that (especially when you look at what you had to deal with to have it!).
Post by litskispeciality on Aug 17, 2017 14:22:58 GMT -5
I always feel bad when you hear parents pushing kids to their limits so they can go to x super duper high school, which leads to a scholarship in college blah blah. Did the kid say they even like playing that sport? Does the kid want to go to college? Will they enjoy the experience if they're in intense practices all day (around the class schedule)? Probably not. Thanks for planning your entire kids future without their imput.
No, not adding a partner. Just a friend, with a brain, and not just someone to fuck around with. Basically a female FWB.
At my age, I know a lot of people at various stages of their marriages trying to work this kind of thing out. Some of them are people who choose to stay in long marriages, but need something 'else', some are people who never experienced things they wanted- casual sex, bisexual encounters, subversive shit. Some are just bored as fuck. I think what you're looking for is called a unicorn for a reason.
I'm all about simplicity, like I simplify my life to a degree that would bore the fuck out of a nun, but I still empathize with my friend's desires to dig deeper into what they really want, and to go for it.
I swear teachers and labor and delivery nurses have probably heard it all!
I worked in a NICU for 15 years. Teenage girls come up with the WORST names/spellings possible. I used to make copies of nameplates (before HIPPA) to prove to friends that I wasn't making up these names.
And this is how I ended up with my name which a totally different spelling than the traditional version.