Post by pantsparty on Sept 1, 2017 18:33:24 GMT -5
I'm pretty close with my brothers. They're not really texters but we talk at least once a month, which is pretty good given the time difference and how busy we all are.
Post by followyourarrow on Sept 1, 2017 18:42:58 GMT -5
I live 12 hrs from my sister, but we're pretty close. We text most days. Call maybe every couple of weeks. Take at least one trip together each year and see each other a couple other times per year. Last week we each drove 6 hrs each waubdo we could have lunch together.
Post by twilightmv on Sept 1, 2017 19:29:20 GMT -5
My sister and I were always close growing up. We live about 3.5 hours apart now, but we still text daily and we get together maybe every other month. But I don't think that relationship is a given. My sister and I have a lot in common and always have. But every sister relationship is different.
Post by ladystardust on Sept 1, 2017 19:38:18 GMT -5
My sisters live 4-6 hours away. My youngest sister just moved after graduating and I'm coming to terms with knowing we will never live close again. I would say they're my best friends. We are introverts though so there are gaps between communications. Maybe once a month we will talk/text each other. We have a family group chat that gets used pretty frequently though. My brother is another story. His personality is difficult and everything is always about him so our relationship is less close. Of course he's the one that lives down the road.
Post by adhdfashion on Sept 1, 2017 19:43:35 GMT -5
I have two sisters. One is my best friend. We text every day and hangout multiple times a week. My other sister, I see during the holidays and at various family events. We have a big age gap.
Post by Queen Mamadala on Sept 1, 2017 19:53:59 GMT -5
My sister is 10 years younger than me. A junior in college out in GA. I'm in CA. We'll message each other from time to time, maybe once every couple weeks. I think if she lived closer we'd hangout on occasion.
The relationship with my sister has waxed and waned over the years. For a while she lived about 4hrs away, we would only see each other every few months. Now she is about 15 mins away and has a baby, so I see her more- once a week or every other week. We probably text a few times a week.
My H has a sister who is a bit odd. She's either pissed about something and won't talk to us for 6 months or up our ass every day via text/phone (she lives overseas).
My sister and I text and Snapchat frequently. We hang out quite a bit too. I live with my parents, so my siblings/in laws and niece and nephews are often here.
My sister watches DD once a week in the evening while I'm at work. And stays at our house that night. We do other stuff about once a month and more like weekly in the summer (we both work for the school district).
My parents, siblings/in laws and niece and nephews, plus DD and I go on vacation together at least once a year, sometimes more.
Thank you for your input everybody. I'm closer to two of my cousins than I am with my sisters. I'd love to hang out with my cousins all the time, but with my sisters...not so much.
I didn't include brothers because I don't have any. lol
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Post by bohemianmango on Sept 1, 2017 20:24:33 GMT -5
My sisters and I group text pretty much daily. The constant contact is kind of new. There was a point when we didn't talk or text as much but it always seemed like we caught up quickly. We also have an older brother and try to include him or our SIL as much as possible.
I have three older sisters. The oldest one, J, lives in the same neighborhood as me (she lives with our mom). We talk/text every day. I actually just got home from going to dinner with her. The next oldest one, B, lives 650 miles away so I only see her once or twice a year when she comes down to visit. We don't talk or text often. The third one, A, lives about 20 miles away. We aren't super close but we talk and go to dinner together sometimes...she's just stretched thin with her job and usually wants to veg at home when she's off work.
Even when you are close to each other, scheduling can be difficult.
This is so true. I live literally next door to my sister. She bought my neighbor's house four years after we moved in. I still only see her for more than 60 seconds every few weeks or so. I have kids, she doesn't. I work M-F, she owns her own business and works another part-time job. We just keep different hours.
Occasionally we'll end up having dinner together because it makes more sense to fire up one grill than two, or someone has extras. Our interactions are rarely planned, but more "Hey, we're going to hang out tonight, come on over."
Post by pinkdutchtulips on Sept 2, 2017 0:00:07 GMT -5
i have - one lives 4 hrs away on the CA Central Coast (SLO) and the other lives in Michigan. I try to get to see the SLO sister every couple of months - major holidays. the other sister - every few years is fine w/ me.
my SLO sister and i are close but not SUPER CLOSE where we're texting daily. we may text 2-3x month but we weren't raised in a family that is in constant contact with each other.
My sister and I are super close. So close that she lives next door. Obviously we see each other on a regular basis and text almost daily. We only go out maybe once a month because of childcare issues, but we have activities we do together.
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My sister is my best friend. We talk every day (she usually calls me from the car on her way home from work) and see each other at least once a week. Plus, my nieces are the light of my life.
I will say that when we were kids being raised by a single mom, it cemented a certain bond. No one else can understand the shit we went through. My mom was also incredibly close with my aunt, and I think that my sister and I sort of grew up with that as a guide, I guess?
My sisters are in grad school and just about to start college. We don't live in the same states but we are close and enjoy spending time together when we visit. We sometimes go on trips together. We text a good deal. If we lived near one another, I think we would voluntarily socialize, despite the age differences.
I have never been close to my sister. She is two years older and was cruel to me when we were children.
I see her maybe once per year.
My brother was so cruel to me too. I don't talk to him except at holidays with my family every couple of years. I'm jealous of people who have good relationships with their siblings.
My sister and I are about four and a half years apart. I'm not going to lie, most of the time (especially as we entered the pre-teen/teenager years), we basically hated each other's guts. There was no particular reason; we just got on each other's last nerve. After I left for college, we learned we can be best friends as long as we don't have to live with each other for more that 48 straight hours.
Now, our relationship is okay. We tend to annoy each other at holidays, but I think we can blame the stress of holiday season for those nerves. We're relatively close. She's living with our parents currently, so she's only five minutes away, but we don't spend a lot of time together. She was my MOH at my wedding, so we are more friendly overall now than we were as children. Every so often, we might have a girls' night or go see a movie together or something. Mostly, we text or talk over Facebook, and then see each other in person at family things, so we do keep up with each other.
Post by starburst604 on Sept 2, 2017 10:16:20 GMT -5
I've always felt like I have a good relationship with my sister, but more and more I get the feeling that she doesn't really like me outside of being my sister.
We see each other and text a fair amount, especially now that we both are parents and our kids enjoy each other. But we had a rare blowout about a year ago that left me feeling uncertain about how much she actually likes me. We are very different and I get the feeling we wouldn't hang out if we weren't sisters. I have friends that I share a lot more with than my sister and I think same is true for her.
Post by W.T.Faulkner on Sept 2, 2017 12:45:12 GMT -5
I'm in near constant-communication with my sister, and I see her about once a week. My husband texts his sister all the time, but she lives an hour away so I'd say we see her every month or so, usually with his parents.
My dad lives within walking distance of all 5 of his sisters, but doesn't see them as much anymore as you might think. They're still all very close, though, with the understanding that if one really needs something, the others will swoop in.
My sister and I live on opposite sides of the country, but text many times every day and talk more days than not. We see one another around 4x a year but wish it were more often.
We weren't friends like this until she hit college, though, and now she is absolutely my BFF.
Post by rootbeerfloat on Sept 2, 2017 13:23:03 GMT -5
My sister and I live in the same neighborhood. She also works at DD's school, and our sons are the same age (though attend different schools). We get along well and talk a few times a week, as do our kids. We see each other in passing a lot, like if we're both walking our dogs, or hang out when we both happen to be visiting our parents at the same time. But we don't do things with just each other all that often.
It's complicated. I have three sisters but was only raised with one. The one I was raised with changed for the worst, add some family drama and unforgivable things said, and I haven't spoken to her in 2 years. When I visit my parents, since she lives up the road, she is told stay away from my parents house.
My other two sisters I don't have a relationship with. When I tried to connect, I got tired of being the one reaching out and left the ball in their court.
I let them know if I'm on their area visiting so we can have dinner but it's not often.
Post by ellipses84 on Sept 2, 2017 22:22:16 GMT -5
I'm very close with both of my sisters, although over the past 5 years they've become BEC with each other and I get caught in the middle. They live closer to each other than I do and see each other more often for family events. Their kids are close in age. They've had falling outs and usually suck it up and act like nothing is wrong when I'm visiting. I'm closer to one, because I don't want to deal with the drama of the other one. I talk to her a couple times a week and the other one I text a couple times a month.