My sister is five years older than me and we are pretty much opposite of one another in a lot of ways. We loathed one another during our teen years and early twenties. She is bossy and always right and felt I was favored and got away with murder. Our mom was Dx with brain cancer when I was 23 and she was 28. (I'm 32 now.) Everything changed. After our mom died, we realized we were it and had to continue our family connection. (Our dad isn't in the picture anymore.) While we definitely aren't BFF, we text often, see each other when it's convenient (like lunch after church or something), and try to do things together once in a while, like shopping out of town or hitting up a local festival. We live about 45 minutes away from one another. It's getting better every year and she's starting to realize that just because I'm different, she can still respect who I am. (She is very no nonsense and I am "softer" than she is, so we don't always jive.)
She finally bought into my Hamilton love and scored tickets on Broadway for us. We can be close when it works. Ha. Like, when NYC is involved.
My sister and I were close when we were little and when we got into middle school, she became a bully to me. She had a lot of health problems and some learning disabilities, but she was awful to me.
When we grew up, it became clear that she was and still is depressed, but refuses to get help or even acknowledge the issues. I was her sounding board for probably 20 years but I can't do it anymore. She is emotionally abusive, manipulative and an alcoholic. She is SO mean to her kids and her h.
I've been distancing but she finally pushed me too far the other day and I told her I can't be around her anymore until she gets help. It...didn't go well, lol. But I'm fine with it, sadly.
My sister is 3 years younger than me. We were close growing up, but the last few year she has become a pretty miserable person and has said some shitty things. She has no filter, even around my kids, and I can't really handle not knowing what shitty thing she'll say next around them. We don't really hang out anymore, but will text every once in a while. We only live 10 minutes apart.
Post by carrotsmakemefat on Sept 6, 2017 6:53:08 GMT -5
My sister and I went through so many ups and downs! And like many things reflected our stages of life.
High school I was annoying to her. I loved her in college She got married and disengaged a little. Divorced and we were close again Got cancer and we got super close
So I say make the first move if you want to see them! It shouldn't matter who reaches out in most cases. And I never once regretted that closeness we eventually had. I'm only sad it wasn't that way our whole life.
I am 5 years older than my sister. We are both in our 30s and she is constantly in some sort of competition. She will point out how fat I look in pictures and how much thinner she looks for example. We used to get along when we would see each other(mostly because I couldn't care less about her trying to always be or look better than me) but the last 2 years, she's been cold. She wants me to apologize because she thinks I am trying to make her look bad in front of my H, who is totally oblivious. At our ages, I refuse to engage in this BS. She does the same thing with my brother but to a lesser degree. She wants him to apologize for something too. And my SIL needs to apologize. You get the picture. I wish she wouldn't drag other family members in her shenanigans. While my brother and I are pretty good at ignoring it, my grandparents can't.
Post by onomatopoeia on Sept 6, 2017 8:47:19 GMT -5
My sister and I are 5 years apart (I'm older). We weren't close growing up and I regret that - I mostly blame myself because I was kind of a self-absorbed twat. We didn't have much in common, then I left for college and ultimately another country. In our mid-20's/early 30's, when we both got married and started having more in common (and had grown up a bit), slowly our relationship got better. While we still live far apart we text a lot, and try to talk on the phone at least once a week. Between kids and work it's hard to find time, but it's like those friends you have where you can just pick up where you left off. I feel like I could tell her anything. We still have very different personalities but they're more in sync now than when we were younger.
I have three sisters. We have dinner at my parents house every Friday, usually two of them come, the third one doesn't drive so she rarely comes. I see them at birthdays, holidays, etc. My older sister and I are close and live in the same town, I see her the most.