2. My high school boyfriend and MH. Also, count me in the former evangelical camp. Had a youth group sponsor freak out when she found out I was having sex in high school. She basically told me I ruined my life and would never find a good Christian man to marry.
This kind of thinking is why we waited as long as we did. We were convinced we would never have a good marriage if we had sex before.
I ended up leaving the church because they told me I was going to hell for moving in with MH (then BF) before marriage. 10 years later and we're still going strong.
I was 28 when I met my husband, so I had a little time to rack up some "serious" relationships and...uh, not-so-serious ones.
My confession? I just tried to make a list and I couldn't remember everyone. I counted before I met my H, and kind of remember what the number was...but when I went through just now, I couldn't count that many. And I couldn't even remember names. I can blame pregnancy brain and not having been on the market for 9+ years, right? It was like "Guy I Couldn't Be Bothered to Keep Dating Because He Lived in the Suburbs", "Guy With Weird Nickname", "Jake's Friend at Wedding". For shame, halfpint, for shame. Whatever, I had fun.
My list included random emo dude (it was a phase), dude with the cowboy boots from the Irish pub, and mr. I'm not sure that counted as sex
I was 28 when I met my husband, so I had a little time to rack up some "serious" relationships and...uh, not-so-serious ones.
My confession? I just tried to make a list and I couldn't remember everyone. I counted before I met my H, and kind of remember what the number was...but when I went through just now, I couldn't count that many. And I couldn't even remember names. I can blame pregnancy brain and not having been on the market for 9+ years, right? It was like "Guy I Couldn't Be Bothered to Keep Dating Because He Lived in the Suburbs", "Guy With Weird Nickname", "Jake's Friend at Wedding". For shame, halfpint, for shame. Whatever, I had fun.
I think this is probably normal I couldn't name all of mine either. Most happened between age 20-22 and then I met my XH when I was 22 and I've only had sex with him and my current H since then. So despite a relatively high number (I THINK 17?) most were a lifetime ago and didn't mean much. I drank entirely too much and had some self esteem issues in my early 20's. I am pretty lucky that I got out of that period relatively unscathed (unless you count an 8 year relationship/marriage to my crappy XH, who was supposed to be a 1 night stand....).
There is one who in my mind I just call "that one guy who did science stuff for work" LOL
Post by lexxasaurus on Oct 30, 2017 16:42:30 GMT -5
Err, I picked my best guess. After leaving my ex who was kind of grey-asexual (and I'm definitely not) I decided to go a little wild and that number jumped up.
I feel like this pole should be in increments of 5. While I haven't slept with too many, I didn't care enough to count, nor to sit here and recall each moment.
I voted “16-20” because I really think I’m over 15. But then I wrote them out and there were only 14. Hmmm... this is bothering me. Like TR, a lot of mine were post XH during my “wild” time right after my divorce.
I'm really sad that my number includes a one-night stand with Pencil Dick.
When it was over, I said, "That's it?"
I regret both the act and my lack of a filter, but I really was very surprised.
One of my 6 includes a one night stand with someone I have always referred to as Tootsie Roll Dick. I didn't say anything when it was over because I wasn't even sure when it actually started.
Post by nextbigthing on Oct 30, 2017 17:47:37 GMT -5
XH was my first then there's been three since we split (Currently in a monogamous relationship, 1st one after the split was a fling 2nd I dated for a few months). I didn't know how bad XH was at it until I was with other people!
I feel like this pole should be in increments of 5. While I haven't slept with too many, I didn't care enough to count, nor to sit here and recall each moment.
Well, it is, beyond 10.
I mean, it's not that hard to remember 10 people, is it?
One of my 6 includes a one night stand with someone I have always referred to as Tootsie Roll Dick. I didn't say anything when it was over because I wasn't even sure when it actually started.
I seriously LOL'd at this. I was on a first date with a guy once and we ended up making out in his car with me sitting on top while he was in the driver's seat. After a few minutes, he kind of gyrated and whispered 'Do you feel that?' Uh, no, sorry but no. Doomed.
I’m very surprised about the high number of 1’s. I was raised in church too, but had a few wild teen years.
PK here and lived up to the reputation once I went AWAY to school and my parents got divorced ... it always pissed off xh that I had those way reckless years - I don't regret a moment of it
Since xh - 4 - and I'm in a monogamous relationship ..