I was 28 when I met my husband, so I had a little time to rack up some "serious" relationships and...uh, not-so-serious ones.
My confession? I just tried to make a list and I couldn't remember everyone. I counted before I met my H, and kind of remember what the number was...but when I went through just now, I couldn't count that many. And I couldn't even remember names. I can blame pregnancy brain and not having been on the market for 9+ years, right? It was like "Guy I Couldn't Be Bothered to Keep Dating Because He Lived in the Suburbs", "Guy With Weird Nickname", "Jake's Friend at Wedding". For shame, halfpint, for shame. Whatever, I had fun.
I think the last time I counted it was 14 or 15. I don't know. This will seem so not what you would think, but after the SA when I was 23, I went through a phase of being less selective which I think would surprise people. I do regret some of those.
I was 28 when I met my husband, so I had a little time to rack up some "serious" relationships and...uh, not-so-serious ones.
My confession? I just tried to make a list and I couldn't remember everyone. I counted before I met my H, and kind of remember what the number was...but when I went through just now, I couldn't count that many. And I couldn't even remember names. I can blame pregnancy brain and not having been on the market for 9+ years, right? It was like "Guy I Couldn't Be Bothered to Keep Dating Because He Lived in the Suburbs", "Guy With Weird Nickname", "Jake's Friend at Wedding". For shame, halfpint, for shame. Whatever, I had fun.
I think this is probably normal I couldn't name all of mine either. Most happened between age 20-22 and then I met my XH when I was 22 and I've only had sex with him and my current H since then. So despite a relatively high number (I THINK 17?) most were a lifetime ago and didn't mean much. I drank entirely too much and had some self esteem issues in my early 20's. I am pretty lucky that I got out of that period relatively unscathed (unless you count an 8 year relationship/marriage to my crappy XH, who was supposed to be a 1 night stand....).
Post by followyourarrow on Oct 30, 2017 14:47:08 GMT -5
I'm another former evangelical, but I've made up for lost time since I got divorced. No regrets. Except when I have to fill out the annual paperwork with my gyn and it asks how many partners and I have to try to count back.
2. My high school boyfriend and MH. Also, count me in the former evangelical camp. Had a youth group sponsor freak out when she found out I was having sex in high school. She basically told me I ruined my life and would never find a good Christian man to marry.
2. My high school boyfriend and MH. Also, count me in the former evangelical camp. Had a youth group sponsor freak out when she found out I was having sex in high school. She basically told me I ruined my life and would never find a good Christian man to marry.
This kind of thinking is why we waited as long as we did. We were convinced we would never have a good marriage if we had sex before.
"Why would you ruin perfectly good peanuts by adding candy corn? That's like saying hey, I have these awesome nachos, guess I better add some dryer lint." - Nonny
I voted in the poll, but my go-to answer is always "more than one, less than Madonna". I had two lovers in my university years, it picked up between 23 and 31 (when I met the X) and has picked up again since 2013. But I never had a one night stand - that's probably strange...