Post by Leeham Rimes on Dec 4, 2017 15:15:53 GMT -5
Xavier got 2 Ds and an F on his graded seatwork (which I have bitched about here often. There are only 3-6 questions on these things ). He was so scared to show me he threw it away.
He told me in the car bc I told him I knew about the grades and not to be too upset when he gets them. (Well first he lied and then 20 seconds later he told the truth)
I remember that feeling and it was awful. I’ve turned into my mother. I feel like I’m failing miserably at everything I do. And now I don’t even know how to punish him or if I should bc (1) his teacher is batshit crazy and I hate her and (2) I’ve set up this stressful scenario in his life. A second grader shouldn’t have a panic attack over bad grades.
I just want to cry bc life is hard. (We also saw an amazing house but they want $5,000 at move in so that's adding to my stress. I don’t want to deal with this teacher anymore and the faster we move the faster we can transfer)
Last Edit: Dec 4, 2017 15:16:58 GMT -5 by Leeham Rimes
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I think it's absurd she is giving a 2nd grader Ds and Fs. Lu is in second grade and the worst thing she can get is a "needs extra support." This teacher sounds nuts.
Oh honey. You are NOT failing. and I wouldn't punish for that at all. I wouldn't punish for grades, but effort. So, does he try? Is he giving his best, or close to best effort (we can't give 100% all the time)?
If it's more on the teacher than X, then I wouldn't stress over that at all and make sure he doesn't either. Especially if you plan to move.
Wow, that is really harsh to give those out to a 2nd grade student. We do not have letter grades yet. I do not think my DDs even know what a D or F is.
I am sorry, this is hard. Did the teacher offer feedback/suggestions?
I think it's absurd she is giving a 2nd grader Ds and Fs. Lu is in second grade and the worst thing she can get is a "needs extra support." This teacher sounds nuts.
What does she recommend for helping him progress?
Nothing. ITs his fault bc he doesn’t focus. Nothing she can do. I’ve adked this question over and over.
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I think it's absurd she is giving a 2nd grader Ds and Fs. Lu is in second grade and the worst thing she can get is a "needs extra support." This teacher sounds nuts.
What does she recommend for helping him progress?
Nothing. ITs his fault bc he doesn’t focus. Nothing she can do. I’ve adked this question over and over.
Oh honey. You are NOT failing. and I wouldn't punish for that at all. I wouldn't punish for grades, but effort. So, does he try? Is he giving his best, or close to best effort (we can't give 100% all the time)?
If it's more on the teacher than X, then I wouldn't stress over that at all and make sure he doesn't either. Especially if you plan to move.
How are his other grades?
I can’t tell if he’s trying or not bc she grades the most random things, after the fact. They’re not told it’s going to be graded when they do it. I mean, are 7 year olds expected to be “on” at peak performance 24/7? Maybe the answer is yes but we’re having a real hard time.
He gets mainly a’s on everything but the way she grades is weird bc it doesn’t ever add up. When I use grading calculators, her grades don’t add up.
I’m so over this school and this grade. And she told me 3rd grade is even worse. I just don’t even know which way is up.
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Oh honey. You are NOT failing. and I wouldn't punish for that at all. I wouldn't punish for grades, but effort. So, does he try? Is he giving his best, or close to best effort (we can't give 100% all the time)?
If it's more on the teacher than X, then I wouldn't stress over that at all and make sure he doesn't either. Especially if you plan to move.
How are his other grades?
I can’t tell if he’s trying or not bc she grades the most random things, after the fact. They’re not told it’s going to be graded when they do it. I mean, are 7 year olds expected to be “on” at peak performance 24/7? Maybe the answer is yes but we’re having a real hard time.
He gets mainly a’s on everything but the way she grades is weird bc it doesn’t ever add up. When I use grading calculators, her grades don’t add up.
I’m so over this school and this grade. And she told me 3rd grade is even worse. I just don’t even know which way is up.
ugh. Fuck her. I'd be he is trying with all of his little 2nd grade heart. I'd give him a big hug and tell him you are proud of him for trying hard and for telling you about the grades.
And I ditto @natariru, (I think she posted it) and get that bat shit crazy lady to put in writing it is all his fault.
You are not failing. His teacher is. At this point, I would escalate this situation to the principal. No 2nd grade teacher should throw up her hands and say there's nothing she can do to help him. That attitude from a teacher is unacceptable at any age except maybe college.
I'm so sorry. You have so much going on. I hope things fall into place so you can get him out of that school ASAP.
Nothing. ITs his fault bc he doesn’t focus. Nothing she can do. I’ve adked this question over and over.
Do you have this in writing? Documentation of your questions, etc?
Bc it's time to bring this to the principal. SHE IS FUCKING WITH YOUR CHILD'S LOVE OF LEARNING. IT'S NOT OK.
The principal is a piece of shit. She hates me bc I got her in trouble with the school board over her doing literally nothing (other than blaming X bc “the bully said it wasn’t his fault”) about two straight years of physical bullying (hitting, slapping so hard x had a handprint on his face, spitting).
She (princial) also racially profiled Xs BFF so going to her will do a fat lot of nothing, I’m trying to get the parents I know are having issues to contact the school board about all of this but so far people are not wanting to for fear of retaliation (which is a legitimate fear in this school).
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The principal is a piece of shit. She hates me bc I got her in trouble with the school board over her doing literally nothing (other than blaming X bc “the bully said it wasn’t his fault”) about two straight years of physical bullying (hitting, slapping so hard x had a handprint on his face, spitting).
She (princial) also racially profiled Xs BFF so going to her will do a fat lot of nothing, I’m trying to get the parents I know are having issues to contact the school board about all of this but so far people are not wanting to for fear of retaliation (which is a legitimate fear in this school).
I'll be in FL on Thursday. Who should I light on fire?
The entirety of Florida if you want to get technical.
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I'm definitely not one to suggest charters, but, I'd pull him and start him in FL Virtual School (I don't think you'd be eligible for either of OC or VC's virtual schools right now, but, worth a look, too).
It's not ideal, but, it's less work for you than true homeschooling.
You're doing the best you can with really difficult circumstances- he's going to be fine. No reason to keep sending him to a school that clearly is not interested in helping him succeed, though.
As a teacher I hate bashing other teachers but damn this lady is crazy. This is not developmentally appropriate for 2nd grade. Not this or any of the other backstory issues. She either needs to change her class work & class expectations, change her grade that she teaches or just change her profession.
Post by georgeharrison on Dec 4, 2017 16:42:03 GMT -5
A. We have already established this teacher is just the worst. B. I'm pretty sure that a person failing as a parent does not consider that they are failing as a parent.
I'm with chilerellanos and would strongly consider homeschooling temporarily at this point. FWIW, I'm never a "burn it down" type person or one to run away from difficult situations, but stuff like this, if left unaddressed, can have long lasting consequences. You have tried to talk to the principal and the teacher and things have only gotten worse. It sounds like he's not learning much there aside from his "inability" to do what the teacher asks. That's certainly not something you want him to absorb. There are lots of fantastic resources for homeschooling, and even lots of opportunities (at least in my area) for homeschool kids to take classes together and/or do other social things. And since you only have one student to teach, wait to follow instructions, go to the bathroom, etc, it can be done successfully in much less time than traditional school.
I had a teacher like this in elementary school. It made me dread going to school and I felt like a terrible student. I still went on to be a total nerd and get a Ph.D.
It sounds like you're doing everything you can to get your son out of that shitty situation, so you're absolutely not a bad parent. 2nd graders are resilient and I'm sure your son will bounce back once he gets away from that crazy school.