I'm honestly not all that worried about social media because none of us are big posters, so that's a non-issue
Friend A will know something is up because we will miss 3 days of gym class. She and I talk regularly and see each other often. If I don't say anything, she will think I'm hiding it. I am not going to frame it as a kayaking trip but as a Friends C invited us to go out to the cabin for a few days and leave it at that.
Thank you all for your input - It is reassuring to know that others would feel the same.
Post by vanillacourage on Jul 20, 2018 20:54:25 GMT -5
Adding 4 more people is a lot, especially if the kids’ ages don’t match up. We have couples we mainly only hang with adults-only because it’s twice as much work to keep two “sets” of kids entertained. Go with your friends and don’t give it another thought.
I don’t think it makes you sound like an asshole. I think it’s nice you care about how your friends will be feeling. I’m glad you feel relieved. Enjoy the weekend!
I agree it’s personal and pretty simple. I’ll stand by my belief that if I'm modifying social media habits to appeal to one person, it’s childish. Nobody has to share their weekend trips. My H posts maybe three times a year and would never post it. I put up pictures almost daily so not posting all weekend would be weird and me changing my behavior. In real life, this issue isn’t an issue at all for me. I’m posting on this thread because my own beliefs made me snort when I read a couple replies.
I mean you can still live your life for you and not be consumed with changing your behavior while also considering the feelings of others. It’s not that time consuming.
But mofo - my fans will NOTICE if I miss one day on Instagram!!!
The only way this could damage friendships is if you all continue to be cagey about it. Why would you not mention it and limit social media posts? That makes no sense. You're adults, just be adults who are allowed to make plans for themselves..?