2. Pregnancy-related AW/vents/randoms for this week? I ran a 15K race yesterday! It was hilly and windy and I'm proud of myself for powering through 9+ miles. I ran with a GBCN friend from H&F the whole time so that really helped the miles fly by.
3. Questions for the group? nope
4. What does your ideal family size look like? Are you and your partner in agreement? We are stopping at 2 kids. That is our ideal size both from both a manageability and financial standpoints. We want to stay in the city and travel and that just seems really hard with a larger family. With DS, we went into it with the idea that we may be one and done, but would be open to a 2nd. I'm so glad we both decided we wanted another, but we are both DEFINITELY done at 2.
2. Pregnancy-related AW/vents/randoms for this week? My Ob graciously reminded me I'm over halfway and keeps asking if have a name yet. Not helping, lady! Lol I'm gonna send H through the SS 1000 and make him write down what he likes, rather than me shouting names he is only half paying attention to.
3. Questions for the group? Don't think so.
4. What does your ideal family size look like? Are you and your partner in agreement? 2 kids, definitely in agreement. He was worried when this one was a boy also because he was worried I'd want a third. Nope! I may have wanted another (regardless of sex) if we were younger and could space them more, but at this point I'm very content.
2. Pregnancy-related AW/vents/randoms for this week? I should get my NIPT results this week (aka--gender reveal!). I'm really nervous.
On a related note, the estimate says the lab they used is out of network. Ugh. I think I'm just going to stick my head in the sand and hope I don't get a huge bill, but it's so annoying.
3. Questions for the group? I don't think so.
4. What does your ideal family size look like? Are you and your partner in agreement? 2 adults, 2 kids and a dog. We're both in a agreement and we're 4/5 of the way there.
Sometimes I do look at bigger families and get envious of lots of siblings and lots of grandkids and lots of cousins, but it's not realistic and also you can't predict that people will even like each other. Also, the world was build for 4 human families.
ETA: I also don't have the mental or physical capacity to continue doing IVF for a third. I'm tapped out. So basically...that's a limiting factor.
Post by dreamcrisp1 on Jan 28, 2019 9:52:09 GMT -5
1. How far along are you this week? 10 weeks
2. Pregnancy-related AW/vents/randoms for this week? I bought so much cute stuff in South Africa for the baby. I also got really cute animal prints for the wall at an art market there. Perfect for my safari theme is being in Africa. I just got home last night and I’ve finally taken down all my Christmas stuff.
3. Questions for the group?
4. What does your ideal family size look like? Are you and your partner in agreement?
Honestly, no idea. Probably 2 or 3. He was originally only for 2 but I think he is getting excited about a bigger family. We will see though. You never know where life takes you so I’m not planning anything strict.
2. I'm just venting: My 3 yo is driving me crazy, all mommy and whining and crying and immediate needs that she's totally capable of handling herself, but wants me to do for her: getting out of her own bed, fixing her sock, putting on her mittens, etc. They're all invariably directed to me. I'm trying to put my foot down and urge her toward more independence, because I WILL NOT be able to juggle all that with a baby in a few months. I'm feeling needed-out, and I don't even have a baby yet! I need more backup from H on this, but he just doesn't seem to notice it, probably because all the needs begin, "MOOOOOMMMMMMMMMMMMYYYYYYYY..." I'm getting really frustrated. It's also just getting hard for me to get down on the floor and fix the freaking sock each time.
3. Not right now.
4. This is baby #2, and we agree it is definitely our last.
Post by cherryvalance on Jan 28, 2019 9:54:30 GMT -5
1. How far along are you this week? 35w5d
2. Pregnancy-related AW/vents/randoms for this week? Just super uncomfortable and having lots of pressure. I hope DD stays put until eviction day! We did get in all of the nursery furniture, so we'll be painting this weekend and setting up next week (finally!).
3. Questions for the group? No
4. What does your ideal family size look like? Are you and your partner in agreement? This is a tough question because after infertility, we basically have the attitude that we'll take what we get and be grateful. We were overjoyed to just be able to have DS, so this baby is beyond. We do still have six embryos on ice, but only one is great quality, so we might be open to doing another FET in a few years, but who knows?
Post by cherryvalance on Jan 28, 2019 9:58:43 GMT -5
Susie, I feel you on being tapped out. DS is only 18 months, so I obviously know he needs a ton of help, but he's dramatic about everything right now and it's killing me. Milk takes too long? CATASTROPHE. Can't touch something dangerous? END OF THE WORLD.
Everything hurts and I’m dying. My entire pelvis and lower back feel like they have been involved in some sort of accident. Also, heartburn.
No questions.
This is #2 for us. We are both open to/would like a third but have agreed not to make any permanent decisions until this one gets here safely and we are out of the newborn/first year with a baby fog. Especially with the bp issues I’m having this time around, I’m just not sure if I should even be pregnant again after this one.
Post by UMaineTeach on Jan 28, 2019 10:07:50 GMT -5
Should be at 34-4, but Little Miss decided that she should take this easy typically developing pregnancy and puncture her sac on Friday and was born by induced vaginal delivery on Saturday.
Since she was early (34-2), she won a pass to the NICU. She’s doing well overall, slight blood sugar issue, but all respiratory and digestive systems have been working on their own. She just needs to get bigger and mature some skills that she didn’t give herself time to learn as an inside baby. No timetable for her discharge, but mine should be this afternoon. It will be easier when I can stay in her room and not have to coordinate my patient schedule with hers while walking across the hospital.
1. How far along are you this week? 33w4d. Getting closer!
2. Pregnancy-related AW/vents/randoms for this week? Well, the hospital scare certainly lit a fire under my and DH's butts because we've made a lot of progress as far as preparations. The nursery is painted, thanks to my MIL and my niece. The car seat and bases are clean, and one base is installed (need to show DH how to install the other, as he's forgotten). My hospital bag is packed, and the baby's going home outfit has arrived and washed, so his diaper bag is now complete as well. I've asked DH to get the pack n play out of storage asap so it can be cleaned and set up in our room. I'm going to once upon a child today to get a "new" rock n play, as our old one broke. The crib should be set up sometime this week. I need to wash bottles and pump parts.
The medication slowed down my contractions, about every 20-60 minutes now. It does make me drowsy but nothing I can't handle. I use my bloomlife contraction monitor at night since it requires you to be still, and it shows about every 7-15 minutes overnight.
OB appointment in the morning. I wonder what she's going to want to do with me.
3. Questions for the group? Anyone else using/used bloomlife? If so, how do you like it?
4. What does your ideal family size look like? Are you and your partner in agreement? Growing up, I wanted a boy, twin girls, then another boy. All before I was 35. LOL. Not gonna happen. I'm 35 in April.
DH never wanted more than 2, and even having 2 was iffy. I always wanted at least 2, so we basically compromised. I would be happy if, in the future, he decides he doesn't care about his age (he's 40 right now) and wants another (although there's no way we would go through IVF again... we have 4 embryos frozen, and if all FETs fail, we'd be so done).
2. Pregnancy-related AW/vents/randoms for this week? There was a big diaper sale this weekend so I bought 9 jumbo boxes of pampers, so we are stocked and ready to go for awhile, but now the whole upstairs smells like diapers. My mom also ordered us a rocking chair/recliner that should be here Thursday, which will be our first piece of baby furniture.
3. Questions for the group? Not that I can think of
4. What does your ideal family size look like? Are you and your partner in agreement? This is our first, but our current plan is 2. That just makes her most sense for us.
Post by aprilsails on Jan 28, 2019 10:24:59 GMT -5
6w4d and sticking around so far.
DD appears to have slapped cheek or some other parvovirus so I’m home with her today. As of 9 am she has turned a corner and is ravenous after two days of not eating anything other than fruit freezies.
This will be #2 and finished for us. Getting to the point of trying again was a bit of a struggle for DH although he’s excited now that he’s figured out that the budget works.
2. Pregnancy-related AW/vents/randoms for this week? I had the NT scan and all measurements looked good. I had to retake the NIPT because apparently it got rejected by Labcorp for some reason. I have an appointment wih my OB today so I should find out the results.
3. Questions for the group? Not right now.
4. What does your ideal family size look like? Are you and your partner in agreement? We are 100% stopping at 3. That’s it! Lol. For a while I wasn’t sure if I wanted to stop at 2, DH always wanted 3 or even 4. I know it will be crazy at first but we both grew up in bigger families and loved it, I’m looking forward to seeing them grow together
2. Pregnancy-related AW/vents/randoms for this week? Am I ever going to sleep again? I've been tossing and turning so much at night because I can't get comfortable. And when I'm awake I'm stressing about prepping for baby and all the things I need to buy still.
3. Questions for the group? Is there a point in pregnancy where you become more excited about having the baby than you are terrified of labor/delivering the baby? Because right now the thought of having to give birth makes me panic a bit 😬
4. What does your ideal family size look like? Are you and your partner in agreement?
We are most likely going to be OAD. H used to be adamant we needed to have 2 kids so we wouldn't have an only child, but has come around to being 100% OAD for money and lifestyle reasons. I used to be pretty sure about only one kid, but now I don't want to make that call for a couple years. We'll see, but this kid will probably be an only. I don't think we could afford 2 in daycare even if I wanted a second!
Post by stillswimming on Jan 28, 2019 10:45:00 GMT -5
1. How far along are you this week? 6 wks 5 days today
2. Pregnancy-related AW/vents/randoms for this week? I think I figured out that if I eat before 7:30 am I don’t feel like barfing all day long. Lol
3. Questions for the group? Has anyone done the for fun mail order blood test to find out the baby’s sex? We are opting out of genetic testing but thought it might be fun to just do the sex testing.
4. What does your ideal family size look like? Are you and your partner in agreement?
If it were up to me I’d have another one after this one, so two sets of two. Haha. But I’m pretty sure dh is done after this one barring a surprise. I’ve learned to never say never! I remember driving in the car with dh when my 7 year old was a baby and begging him to get a vasectomy. He was reluctant and I said “but what if I get pregnant at, like. 35? That would be HORRIBLE!” 😂
Who tried for six months to get this baby at 35? This lady right here.
Your perspective can definitely change as your kids get older, I think. They’re really only kids a short time, and having an adult sibling support system with aging parents and just general life challenges is so valuable, if your kids turn out as adults who get along. That’s obviously not a given. I guess I think about ideal family size now as more about how many adult children I’ll want someday.
pandorica, at some point you just get so uncomfortable that you just want the baby out, however it comes.
But I have plenty of patients who are anxious about the labor and delivery process. That's natural. Whatever you're nervous about, ask your OB. Ask your L&D nurses. We are used to the questions and and try to reassure patients as much as possible without lying or sugarcoating.
I guess I think about ideal family size now as more about how many adult children I’ll want someday.
That's why I always wanted a large family too. I never really thought about the younger years, I though about the school age kids and teenagers and adult children. And that thinking is basically how my H talked himself into a second child... he didn't want our son to have to take care of us all by himself.
pandorica, at some point you just get so uncomfortable that you just want the baby out, however it comes.
But I have plenty of patients who are anxious about the labor and delivery process. That's natural. Whatever you're nervous about, ask your OB. Ask your L&D nurses. We are used to the questions and and try to reassure patients as much as possible without lying or sugarcoating.
I think part of my problem is that it's not even because I'm worried about what's going to happen so much as being worried I can't handle the pain. I am a big pain wuss and it just seems so scary! I'm just keeping my fingers crossed for that "so uncomfortable I don't care" point to happen before I go into labor 😂
2. Pregnancy-related AW/vents/randoms for this week? Nothing really going on this week. I need to pick a daycare situation still. There are two more centers I want to tour before deciding but can't get motivated.
3. Questions for the group?
4. What does your ideal family size look like? Are you and your partner in agreement? LOL no. This baby is very much a surprise and DH is not happy about it. I always wanted two so I am ok with it, even though I had previously come to terms with being OAD.
pandorica, at some point you just get so uncomfortable that you just want the baby out, however it comes.
But I have plenty of patients who are anxious about the labor and delivery process. That's natural. Whatever you're nervous about, ask your OB. Ask your L&D nurses. We are used to the questions and and try to reassure patients as much as possible without lying or sugarcoating.
I think part of my problem is that it's not even because I'm worried about what's going to happen so much as being worried I can't handle the pain. I am a big pain wuss and it just seems so scary! I'm just keeping my fingers crossed for that "so uncomfortable I don't care" point to happen before I go into labor 😂
I've had plenty of patients get their epidurals well before they're actually in pain. That is totally an option at my hospital and something you can probably request.
I'm a huge wuss too and requested my epidural about 1.5 hour after my waters spontaneously broke in the hospital. It was glorious.
36+2, though as a surprise our twin boys arrived this morning!
Twin A was 6#11oz and Twin B was 6#5oz. We are still figuring out names and should have them by tomorrow.
2. Pregnancy-related AW/vents/randoms for this week? Now that they are here, no vents! The past couple weeks have been touch and go and the goal was to make it as close to 37 weeks as possible. I had contractions all night last night and high bp today sparking concerns of pre e so out they came!
3. Questions for the group? N/A.
4. What does your ideal family size look like? Are you and your partner in agreement? I think we initially envisioned two, but as we grew older we liked the idea of a bigger family. Now we have five who are four and under, while we both work full time, so we have hit our limit. Honestly too, if we did not live overseas, we probably would have stopped at two. We have an amazing support system here that allows us to work and parent without juggling a million other things to run the house.
pandorica , I had such an easy pregnancy with DS that I was happy to keep going. He also just mainly wanted to stay put and had I not been induced, I think he would have stayed in another week or so. But ultimately, what helped calm me was preparing for what I could and letting go of what I couldn't control. That's a big reason why I had no birth plan (although I'm sure they can have the opposite effect on other people).
ETA: I was also afraid of the pain. I made sure I knew all my pain management options and was clear about what I wanted. I'd say I got an epidural probably around 2 hours after my water broke? The nurses were great about checking on me and making sure I had whatever I needed.