Uh oh, this is kind of me right now. We'll have lots to talk about next weekend......I officially deactivated OKC after some particularly weird guys were contacting me who I would never even consider going out with.....I felt like a snob but seriously I would never date these men
Yes! Also I was like why isn't ONE decent guy contacting me. I mean I realize they may not necessarily be a fit, but jesus NONE of them were normal at.all.
I feel a little bit better knowing that I'm not the only one with this problem
Yes! Also I was like why isn't ONE decent guy contacting me. I mean I realize they may not necessarily be a fit, but jesus NONE of them were normal at.all.
I feel a little bit better knowing that I'm not the only one with this problem
I actually was proactive and contacted 3 of which I thought were cute and appeared normal. None wrote back so whatever!!!
No offense but that's the dumbest thing I've ever heard about online dating. Get some confidence woman and email these men! They're probably sick of crap girl emailing them and are waiting for your awesomeness to come along. What's the worst that can happen? He ignores it? Fuck it, email the great looking dudes! Not to mention, your type might be totally not someone else's type. You never know who your competition is and your'e pretty fabulous so go for it!
I agreee...i think it's better to be proactive with online dating. I usually just wink at guys and then they emailed me
Uhhh yea that just seems like so much work honestly! I mean I think online dating really isn't for me.
Also I did a lot of proactive outreach when I first joined (last year and was on for a month) and probably reached out to about 20-25 men. And got ZERO responses. I mean that doesn't really seem totally normal to me. And they were all ones who were active with a decently built out profile, etc. We did have lots in common too.
To be honest I have a LONG history of being rejected by men and I don't get it. I've approached several men at bars, like standing in line ordering a drink (I know, I know, but I was younger). I've been like "hey, how's your night going?" They look at me and seriously turn away. I've NEVER had them even give me the courtesy of a hello. This has happened a lot. Not even a polite "good???"
Honestly I'm beginning to think I give out some sort of male repellent vibe and a girl can only take so much blatant rejection.
For the record I still think I'm totally awesome and super datable. I just don't get why men don't feel the same way.
No offense but that's the dumbest thing I've ever heard about online dating. Get some confidence woman and email these men! They're probably sick of crap girl emailing them and are waiting for your awesomeness to come along. What's the worst that can happen? He ignores it? Fuck it, email the great looking dudes! Not to mention, your type might be totally not someone else's type. You never know who your competition is and your'e pretty fabulous so go for it!
I agreee...i think it's better to be proactive with online dating. I usually just wink at guys and then they emailed me
Bully's advice is not to wink at all...if you're interested EMAIL!
Post by starburst604 on Sept 20, 2012 13:46:52 GMT -5
Look at online dating like setting out a lobster trap. Put in some bait and leave it out there. Check it once a day or so, keep or throw back whatever you caught and just put the trap back in. You are bound to catch SOMETHING eventually. It doesn't mean you can't explore other ways to meet someone but what's the harm in just leaving it out there as one more avenue?
Post by jojoandleo on Sept 20, 2012 13:54:35 GMT -5
Can someone alert me when msbetty posts on ML? I want to see how well she fits in and how nice they all are to her because it would make me feel better about life right now. She should totally post!
Can someone alert me when msbetty posts on ML? I want to see how well she fits in and how nice they all are to her because it would make me feel better about life right now. She should totally post!