2. Pregnancy-related AW/vents/randoms for this week? We found out were having a GIRL last week!! I'm so excited!
3. Questions for the group? No
4. How is your DH handling your pregnancy? Is he helpful? excited? detached? Hes been handling it fine until he found out it was a girl and now hes a bit scared. Hes always said he was nervous about having a girl, but now that its happening hes glad hes got some time for it to sink in.
2. Pregnancy-related AW/vents/randoms for this week? I'm DONE. I keep waiting for contractions to start and am slightly bitter a bunch of you ladies due after me will likely have your babies first lol.
Yesterday I decided it was imperative that I beautify our yard a bit before baby arrives, so I went out and bought 4 shrubs and a bunch of flowers and spent the afternoon planting them. I'm sure it was a sight for the neighborhood to watch a 9 months pregnant woman digging and squatting and lugging shrubs around! I was hoping it would jump start labor...but here I am. Womp womp.
On the bright side, my last day of work is Thursday and I'm working from home this week, so that's nice!
3. Questions for the group? I want to hear status updates from my fellow late 3rd tri ladies!
4. How is your DH handling your pregnancy? Is he helpful? excited? detached? He's excited, but I think we've both been a little more detached this time around, just because we're so busy with DS. He also seems to forget I'm very very pregnant a lot. In general we are very 50/50 about childcare duties (trade off who wakes up/gets ready with DS, who does daycare dropoff/picks, who does bedtime, etc) which in general works good, but I wish he'd throw me a bone these days. We have a 1 mile walk to daycare and it'd be nice he would offer to do both pickup/drop off or give me a night off bedtime, etc. He probably would if I asked, so I don't know why I'm waiting for him to read my mind.
2. Pregnancy-related AW/vents/randoms for this week? I'm sick with a sinus infection and feel like death. I was scheduled for my amnio Friday but apparently the membranes are not fused where the needle entry is so I have to wait a week. I go back this Thursday and they will try then.
3. Questions for the group? none for now
4. How is your DH handling your pregnancy? Is he helpful? excited? detached? Unfortunately I'm doing this pregnancy solo. I'm getting my tubes removed after this one because I'm too fertile and keep finding crappy men. I'm also going to be 35 this year and after all the scares this pregnancy has given me I just really can't emotionally deal with another pregnancy this late in life plus the risk for me will keep getting higher.
2. Pregnancy-related AW/vents/randoms for this week? I felt like crap for a few days last week (all my organs hurt, it was weird), but better now thank goodness.
I'm annoyed that people at work keep asking when I'm due and then following up with "are you going to take any time off?". No...I figured I'd let them pull a child out of me, pop a few ibuprofen and come in the next day. Dummies.
DS has been a handful lately. He will not stop saying no and being difficult. OMG. Save me.
3. Questions for the group? Nope
4. How is your DH handling your pregnancy? Is he helpful? excited? detached? Pretty good! I think we're both at the same level of excitement/it's coming really quickly and we keep forgetting I'm even pregnant. He's been helpful with DS. Even came home for the weekend from a work trip just so I wouldn't need to deal with the maniac, I mean DS, all by myself all weekend. DH keeps saying things like "I'm going to be more helpful with this one when he's a newborn!" LOL. So hopefully he is...
1. How far along are you this week? 37+5. 10 days to go!
2. Pregnancy-related AW/vents/randoms for this week? We made and froze about 6 or 7 dozen lactation cookies yesterday, so that feels good to have done. Mostly I'm just counting down the days. I have until Thursday PM to have this baby before my OB leaves, or he needs to stay in for another week. Sugar is making me have arthritis in my hands. How annoying.
3. Questions for the group? If you go into labor when are you supposed to go into the hospital if you are having a RCS? H is freaking out lol.
4. How is your DH handling your pregnancy? Is he helpful? excited? He's probably more excited than me, but I think we are both a little more detached. Second child woes and all. He's helpful, and busting his ass getting stuff down, but it's not necessarily MY stuff and I'm left with the child care. It's frustrating, but I don't feel like I can say anything since it's not like he's sitting around. Meanwhile I'm so big and uncomfortable that we're just in a rut. I'm ready for this life stage to be over.
Also, if I make it to my scheduled day, we will be spending our 10 year anniversary in the hospital. How romantic!
2. Pregnancy-related AW/vents/randoms for this week? Still feeling like total garbage but am definitely feeling some movement now so at least there’s a positive pregnancy sign too. It helps with my anxiety also!
3. Questions for the group? Now that it’s been a little bit since the RnP recall, has anyone decided on what baby will sleep in overnight at the beginning if not the crib? My kids both had reflux and slept in the RnP, so I’m not sure what we’ll do this time.
4. How is your DH handling your pregnancy? Is he helpful? excited? detached? He’s very excited. We struggled with IF and a loss this time TTC and had to do fertility treatments, so had quite a bit of time to prepare. He’s been very helpful with the kids and me, but isn’t so much a housekeeper so it’s often like we’re living in a tornado 🤷♀️
3. Questions for the group? Now that it’s been a little bit since the RnP recall, has anyone decided on what baby will sleep in overnight at the beginning if not the crib? My kids both had reflux and slept in the RnP, so I’m not sure what we’ll do this time.
I got a Halo bassinet. To be honest, I still plan to use the RNP as a baby containment device but won't let her sleep in it overnight like I did (for months...) with DS.
3. Questions for the group? Now that it’s been a little bit since the RnP recall, has anyone decided on what baby will sleep in overnight at the beginning if not the crib? My kids both had reflux and slept in the RnP, so I’m not sure what we’ll do this time.
I got a Halo bassinet. To be honest, I still plan to use the RNP as a baby containment device but won't let her sleep in it overnight like I did (for months...) with DS.
I’m sure I will too while I’m awake! Both mine slept in it until they rolled over and really needed the incline.
Post by dreamcrisp1 on May 20, 2019 8:45:06 GMT -5
1. How far along are you this week? 26w
2. Pregnancy-related AW/vents/randoms for this week? I have GD but I was only over the threshold by 0.01, which sucks. I have to go see my midwife in an hour and then pick up all my new tools. Yay... Evrything hurts and I don’t know how to sleep anymore without it hurting. We got his dresser organized this weekend and set up his bassinet. It feels good to get things done.
3. Questions for the group?
4. How is your partner handling your pregnancy? Is he/she helpful? excited? detached?
He is very excited! Helpful when I ask for things to be done but unaware of what needs to be done or what is required for babies. I try to educate him.
2. I'm definitely on board the struggle bus. Baby dropped a week ago, and my pelvic organs, especially my bladder, are in ongoing agony. It basically feels like I have a UTI all the time, I have all the symptoms except burning when I actually pee. But I don't have one, so there's no fix, it's just positional. With DD, she dropped on a Friday and I had her by the end of the weekend, so this whole living, working, preschooler-wrangling with a dropped baby is new to me. It's pretty painful.
I'm now on cervical checks at every appointment, which I hate. Ob/gyn exams give me serious anxiety due to past history, so as desperate as I am to not be pregnant anymore, this is not something I take lightly. With a GBS test at 36+0, a cervical check at 37+0, and upcoming cervical checks at 38+1, 38+6, and 39+1 before we even get to labor and all the follow up examining, it's mentally a little overwhelming. It's especially hard when I don't get anything for it, like last week when she told me I was only fingertip dilated "but very soft" (yay?) at 37+0. Which is... useless info and discouraging.
I don't have an end date for my induction yet, and I won't until it's basically go time. They want to induce me at 39+0 or ASAP thereafter when there is room, but any date scheduled now is so susceptible to bump that it's not worth calendaring. I will do 39+0 or soonest available IF by then I am 2cm, because that will mean a morning-of induction rather than the whole foley bulb/night before routine. If I'm <2cm at 39w, I'll wait a few more days because that isn't the experience I want. I don't want to spend the night before in the hospital, or with people that far up in my business for that long. But man, do I hope I reach 2cm by then on my own...
My dad keeps telling me he wants a day's notice since it's a 5 hour drive for him to come take care of DD. Yes, I'd like a day's notice too. But I can only give as much notice as I have, and I am likely to have <1 day's. We have local contingency plans in place, and we're going to do the best we can. Please stop reminding me that you really want a day's notice! No number of reminders will make it so!
3. Nothing ATM.
4. H is telling me he's "getting excited now" that it's close, and while that's great... it is also frustrating me. I'm clearly not having an easy time, and that's not even to speak of all the prep I have to do at work, where I'm about to go out for 8 weeks, and my billing numbers don't get prorated in my absence. I will be in the office until I deliver, and after we put DD to bed, he watches TV every night while I put in another 3-4 hours of work. I'm having trouble not resenting that I'm working 150%+ time, and carrying the baby, and subjected to all the invasion of privacy, and responsible for all the gear acquisition, and, and, ... and he's just basically waiting for Christmas to show up for him.
Thanks to Susie, now I remember what I originally wanted to ask!
Is there any point in having a cervical check if you're having a c section? I didnt have any last time, and none so far this time. If I'm far enough along (and how far is that?) will I get sent to l&d that day?
2. Pregnancy-related AW/vents/randoms for this week? Well most everyone probably saw my news about our overnight in the hospital last Friday due to slightly elevated blood pressure. Essentially, even though I had some pre-pregnancy hypertension issues, they wanted to eliminate the possibility that I was developing per-eclampsia and get an updated baseline for 24-hour urine and a few updated tests.
The bad (good?) news is that while my blood pressure isn't going UP, it's not really going back down. AND baby is measuring super large very suddenly (was in the 56th percentile less than four weeks ago, and now is in the 88th) so he's fat, healthy and happy as far as they know. So we've moved my induction up to next week and I'll be going in either Monday night or Tuesday night (depending on my conversation with my main OB tomorrow).
3. Questions for the group? None right now, I'll have more later this week once we have a plan
4. How is your partner handling your pregnancy? Is he/she helpful? excited? detached? DH has been incredible. He works from home and has taken on probably 80% of the work around the house in my 3rd trimester. Every day before I leave for work he's asked if there was anything he can do for me that day. He's so excited about the baby, optimistic about how amazing life will be with a little one, and just overall been the very best partner I could have asked for during our IVF journey and this pregnancy.
hamster, what recipe did you use for the cookies? And my OB office says to wait to head to hospital under contractions are a minute long and 4-5 minutes apart for close to an hour.
Susie, can you refuse cervical checks? Would you want to? I still haven't had any and I'm refusing them until this Friday when I'm done with work. I totally understand with your quick labor history that might not be an option, but I also think it's important to balance your time/comfort level/stress level at this stage.
2. Pregnancy-related AW/vents/randoms for this week?
My endo closed her office unexpectedly last month and I'm having a terrible time finding a new one. It's been stressing me out a lot but I won't bore you all with the long saga.
3. Questions for the group?
4. How is your partner handling your pregnancy? Is he/she helpful? excited? detached?
He's happy but it's still so early that things really aren't that different from normal.
woowoo I make these. They are super dry and crumbly to roll, so I have to have H do it for me. They also take more like 17 minutes to bake in our oven.
Susie , can you refuse cervical checks? Would you want to? I still haven't had any and I'm refusing them until this Friday when I'm done with work. I totally understand with your quick labor history that might not be an option, but I also think it's important to balance your time/comfort level/stress level at this stage.
Last week she told me she "had to" check me, because I was full term (37w), reporting contractions, and had a history of precipitous delivery. I didn't have a single check in my first pregnancy, and wasn't expecting that. I mean, nothing there was new info!
I'm sure "have to" is relative, they can't actually MAKE me... but it wasn't a question of "do you want" or "are you ok with". I think they don't trust me to correctly ID labor, which based on last time is kind of fair. OTOH, checking me at one or two random times a week isn't very likely to catch it either, given the lack of predictive value. If they just let me choose and ok it, rather than "we are going to do this to you now," it would be a lot less stressful, but I find there's not a lot of that in ob/gyn in general. I wish I could pass on the one at 38+1 because no matter what the number is, they can't induce for 6 more days, so why bother? But with the next one at 38+6, if I get lucky, I'll be 2cm and that'll cue scheduling for 39+0. Fingers crossed.
Post by goodygumdrop on May 20, 2019 10:09:01 GMT -5
1. How far along are you this week? 38 +3
2. Pregnancy-related AW/vents/randoms for this week? I have a new lovely symptom, pain and stiffness in my hands accompanied by some pins and needles! Chiropractor says its fluid build up in my wrists and will likely stick around until I deliver.
3. Questions for the group? Any suggestions for how to stay asleep/get to sleep/fall back asleep after waking up to pee? I am literally getting like 2 hours of sleep a night between being so uncomfortable and then insomnia after waking up to pee. Please help!
4. How is your partner handling your pregnancy? Is he/she helpful? excited? detached? My husband does not generally show outward excitement about anything which holds true in this situation as well. He has been very involved, coming to all my midwife appointments, reading tons of books and being completely on-board with practicing hypnobirthing with me. We both took a bit longer to get used to the idea that we would finally be parents after thinking it just wasn't in the cards for us.
Any suggestions for how to stay asleep/get to sleep/fall back asleep after waking up to pee? I am literally getting like 2 hours of sleep a night between being so uncomfortable and then insomnia after waking up to pee. Please help!
I dealt with horrible insomnia with this pregnancy and when I did sleep I had crazy vivid dreams. My doctor told me to take benadryl or ZZZQUIL which is basically the same thing. It really helped me a get a good nights sleep without making me feel hungover in the morning. My issue is that sometimes the clock moves faster than I realize then it's too late to take something and still get up for work on time.
2. Pregnancy-related AW/vents/randoms for this week? They canceled my appt on friday at the last minute so I have what could be my last appt today. My next one isn't until 40+2. My docs seem pretty laid back compared to some of yours! I finally feel like we are ready for DD, got laundry done and put away, picked up the few last minute things. Work is another story, I am stressing out about how to get all the things wrapped up in however much time I have left.
I feel like I am the only one who is happy for DD to continue cooking as long as possible. Physically I feel fine most of the time so she can stay put as long as she wants so I can wrap stuff up.
3. Questions for the group? Nope
4. How is your partner handling your pregnancy? Is he/she helpful? excited? detached? Detached would be the nicest word for it? We were OAD before this surprise (him way more than me) and while I have come around to being excited and happy he is not there. I don't expect he will get there anytime soon. So yeah.
Post by chocolatepie on May 20, 2019 10:34:10 GMT -5
1. How far along are you this week? 15w+5d
2. Pregnancy-related AW/vents/randoms for this week?
3. Questions for the group? When did y'all have conversations with your OB/Midwife about birth plans? Like induction plans and such? I'm assuming that's talked more about in 3rd tri?
4. How is your partner handling your pregnancy? Is he/she helpful? excited? detached? To be honest, we are both still pretty detached. I still do not feel or look pregnant so I think we forget.
Susie, you can definitely refuse if you want to, I just encourage you to proactively acknowledge the risks. It's your body, and if you'd rather skip a few checks you are allowed to do so.
hamster, are they sending you for additional monitoring?
woowoo it's just a home reading. I've been averaging 115/70-75 and this morning it was 126/81, then 120/80. I'll just keep an eye on it at this point. I know an elevated BP can also be a precursor to labor, and C was born tomorrow gestationally so maybe that's all it is! Of course I'm out running errands and now extra worried about my water breaking lol.
Guys, I just got an email from my MIL that was all "I'm so excited for us to come for a visit June 1st!". Um, say what now? This is the first I"m hearing about this, and that is 3 days after my induction. NOPE NOPE NOPE. I sent DH a tense text that was all "DEAL WITH THIS, and by the way, when your parents come (not June 1st) they will be staying in a hotel". Sooo that's gonna be a fun tense situation between DH and I later, and MIL and I when they finally do visit. I live in a city apartment and they are squeamish about BFing. You are not parking yourself on my couch for days when I'm freshly postpartum, hormonal, and topless constantly. Sorry!
1. 37 weeks. On Wednesday we will pick the induction date after a sonogram and NST. OB said range of June 5-10 for induction last week. Hoping she's ok with June 7 so my two boys can finish the school year with me around and not at the hospital. She has not done a cervical check and I don't think she will unless I request it.
2. My friend hosted a lovely brunch at a beautiful hotel yesterday as a little celebration for baby. It was perfect.
3. None at the moment.
4. DH is relaxed about the whole thing. To be totally honest his day to day doesn't change much with arrival of baby. I do all the nightime stuff (we may hire a night nurse if I need it) and my parents will take the older boys to camps etc. DH can take as much time as we need but will likely be stopping into the office/ working from home as necessary - he's not able to completely disconnect from work ever. I'm not sure if we are both in denial or what but we both seem to be relaxed and not to concerned about adding another baby to the family at the moment.
oooh, scm1011, that is a hard no indeed. How far away would they be coming in from? I wish you the best in navigating this, mostly meaning I hope your H shuts this shit down in favor of a more reasonable plan pronto. Why tf would they spring this on you NOW!?
2. Pregnancy-related AW/vents/randoms for this week? I think the skin under my ribs is stretching and it hurts so bad if I'm standing or walking a lot. And it's getting more difficult to get up from the couch and get down on the floor with DS.
3. Questions for the group? Not right now
4. How is your partner handling your pregnancy? Is he/she helpful? excited? detached? He's been better this time around than last I think. He was pretty detached with DS, and it made me really sad. I actually talked to him about it when we found out I was pregnant again, and he's definitely made an effort. I still do a lot of housework and it would be nice if he chipped in more with that, but overall he's been good.
Congrats on the girl, G22!! Little girls are so much fun. So much, that I don’t care what we have this time. I didn’t the first time either, but i assumed maybe I’d wish for a boy this time since we already have a girl. But I am 100% ok having a girl again if that’s what happens.
1. How far along are you this week? 11+5
2. Pregnancy-related AW/vents/randoms for this week? I took the Panorama test on Friday, so in 2 weeks or less we should know more about the health of this baby & the sex!
3. Questions for the group? Nope, but you STM’s are making me nervous about the second pregnancy being more difficult. With DD I was perfectly comfortable up until about 40+2 (and I went to the hospital at 40+4) and I feel like I was just really lucky and will be miserable this time around.
4. How is your partner handling your pregnancy? Is he/she helpful? excited? detached? He is great. He’s probably more excited than me (LOL that sounds bad)and he is a huge help with dd. We’re both a little more detached this time around because we’re so busy, but overall things are good.
oooh, scm1011 , that is a hard no indeed. How far away would they be coming in from? I wish you the best in navigating this, mostly meaning I hope your H shuts this shit down in favor of a more reasonable plan pronto. Why tf would they spring this on you NOW!?
They are in the Hudson Valley (so 3.5 hours away). They just think that is normal/appropriate, despite 15 years of me trying to set boundaries. At my baby shower for DS my SIL confronted me about how cold and unaccommodating they all think I am, so things have been strained since. I used to give in a lot more, but since then I'm all "fuck it, I'll show them cold and unaccommodating!". Thankfully DH (reluctantly) shut it down and pushed them back to 6/6-7 (one night, in a hotel). I know its tough for DH though, his mom is a strong personality and gets in his head about how unfair it is that my family gets to meet the baby right away. Sorry, they're local and dems the break! If you want to drive up and visit in the hospital for 30-60 minutes like my family will and then go home, more power to you MIL!