Post by Patsy Baloney on Nov 2, 2019 7:05:25 GMT -5
I’ve been having a hell of a time getting DS to settle at night for sleep. We’ve dropped the pacifier because he can’t hold it in this mouth for any length of time, but he’s so desperate for something to suck. He used to find his hands and settle down, but now he just screams.
H is out of town and I just gave up last night after 90 minutes of crying and rocked the poor kid to sleep while I stress-ate Halloween candy and watched Netflix. I put him in his crib before I went to bed. I know that’s a terrible habit to start, but he just would not settle. I bought a light-up crib soother thing, so I’m hoping that will be a good distraction. He seems to like DD’s nightlight when we go say goodnight to her before lying down, so we’ll see. Woof. I was hoping for some solo time last night and instead I got screamed at 😭
Early pacifier droppers - any suggestions or is this just a blip?
pandorica, I have no effing clue, haha. Especially since we have a bunch of stuff already. Clothes, I guess. Walmart has this cute Harry Potter learning lovey that I think I'll get him.
Would it be awful to just... wrap some of the toys we already have from E1? Like the jolly jumper. Lol.
pandorica, I have no effing clue, haha. Especially since we have a bunch of stuff already. Clothes, I guess. Walmart has this cute Harry Potter busy book that I think I'll get him.
Would it be awful to just... wrap some of the toys we already have from E1? Like the jolly jumper. Lol.
Oo I'm interested in that Harry Potter book!
I think rewrapping gifts is smart if you already have everything you need.
pandorica, I have no effing clue, haha. Especially since we have a bunch of stuff already. Clothes, I guess. Walmart has this cute Harry Potter busy book that I think I'll get him.
Would it be awful to just... wrap some of the toys we already have from E1? Like the jolly jumper. Lol.
Oo I'm interested in that Harry Potter book!
I think rewrapping gifts is smart if you already have everything you need.
Not sure if it is a lovey or a book, actually. But here it is.
pandorica, I have no effing clue, haha. Especially since we have a bunch of stuff already. Clothes, I guess. Walmart has this cute Harry Potter learning lovey that I think I'll get him.
Would it be awful to just... wrap some of the toys we already have from E1? Like the jolly jumper. Lol.
I’m going to wrap some of the baby books we still have!
I bought a little Einsteins aquarium crib soother and holyyyy shit that bad ass baby went right to sleep watching that thing. Miracle!!!
Googling this right now... it sounds magical.
The only downside I’m seeing is that it doesn’t have an adapter so it is going to be a battery eater. But, holy hell, our baby was NOT able to calm himself down at all, and he was cranking himself up to scream and scream tonight, we did our usual routine, plopped him in the crib screaming and thrashing, turned on the soother, and he immediately quieted down, watched it, reached for it, sloooowed down, went to sleep. It was amazing.
The only downside I’m seeing is that it doesn’t have an adapter so it is going to be a battery eater. But, holy hell, our baby was NOT able to calm himself down at all, and he was cranking himself up to scream and scream tonight, we did our usual routine, plopped him in the crib screaming and thrashing, turned on the soother, and he immediately quieted down, watched it, reached for it, sloooowed down, went to sleep. It was amazing.
Both of our girls have loved this. It doesn’t go through batteries as quickly as I thought it would either.
The only downside I’m seeing is that it doesn’t have an adapter so it is going to be a battery eater. But, holy hell, our baby was NOT able to calm himself down at all, and he was cranking himself up to scream and scream tonight, we did our usual routine, plopped him in the crib screaming and thrashing, turned on the soother, and he immediately quieted down, watched it, reached for it, sloooowed down, went to sleep. It was amazing.
Both of our girls have loved this. It doesn’t go through batteries as quickly as I thought it would either.
This was a life saver for my older son. Thank you for reminding me, I need to get it out for the baby.
We’ve been up for almost an hour. I’m going to need a nap today.
So DD was crying and fighting sleep so hard (why?!) I tried just putting her in her crib with her stuffed animal that plays music/lights up. I thought it was working... Until it wasn't. Now it's been like 30 minutes of hysterical crying that won't stop and H just had to take over to give me a break. WTF kid?
Post by UMaineTeach on Nov 3, 2019 19:15:06 GMT -5
It took me about 40 minutes to figure out why the kid ate a 5:00 bottle, was zonked out by 5:15 on the floor, and didn’t wake up 20 minutes later like usual naps.
Her body says she ate a 6:00 bottle and went to bed slightly earlier than 6:30-7:00 bedtime.
I have mastitis, wah. I had a little soreness on one side this morning, clogged by lunch, started feeling bad around 2 or 3, and was sick by 5. Checked my temperature at 6:40 and it was 101 and there is some redness over the clog. Thank goodness for protocols for on call OB nurses. I've already got antibiotics called in and DH is going to pick them up.
I feel like crap and I'm sore all over. I knew it came on quick but dang.
D had his third jar of food and loved it! Opening his mouth, not sitting it out, etc. Looks like he's ready to be an Easter! And looks like mom will never have the luxury of her own uninterrupted meal again haha.
pooh8402 that’s awful! I hope the antibiotics work quickly!
DD isn’t feeling well today. She has diarrhea and hasn’t eaten since 4:30p, and what she did eat then, she continued to spit up all night. When I finally got her to sleep, she kept crying like she was in pain, even though I gave her Tylenol about an hour before. She is also congested, so I cleared her nose after her bath, but it didn’t help much. I am sure part of it is teething and it takes a while for teeth to pop out, but I feel so bad for her.
How do you all manage MOTN feedings and the transition back to bassinet/crib/wherever baby sleeps? We keep everything very dark and quiet, but it takes DS over an hour to settle back down to sleep after each feed. Add in my pumping time and by the time we get back to sleep it’s time to start over again 🙁
How do you all manage MOTN feedings and the transition back to bassinet/crib/wherever baby sleeps? We keep everything very dark and quiet, but it takes DS over an hour to settle back down to sleep after each feed. Add in my pumping time and by the time we get back to sleep it’s time to start over again 🙁
DS has improved a lot with this after we crossed the 10 lb mark at 5.5 weeks. Before that he would always stay up one hour, sometimes two after a feed. I am still using the same techniques so I didn’t figure out some new solution- sometimes he falls asleep initially lying upright on my chest, sometimes I have to rock him for a bit to get him sleepy. He always wakes up when I transfer him to his bassinet but then falls back asleep after a few minutes. We’re down to about 35-45 minutes for a feed which I consider very reasonable.
How can every week be worst than the last one? We get like 2 days of good and become hopeful then just crap days. On thé 3rd day of that. Today is worst than ever. When does it get better? I’m at my wits’ end with this baby. He is making everything about my mental health 100 times worse.
dreamcrisp1 what is going on? Are you alone with him all day every day? Do you get a chance to go outside? I had a lot of those feelings with my oldest who was a winger babu. It was really rough. I hope someone can come and give you some help just to get some time when you aren’t the primary caregiver. It’s very hard. I honestly think it gets easier after 3 months. The first 3 are rough.
lovelyshoes, I just don’t get it. The past 3 days, he has decided he hates napping, which then makes him overtired. Today, so much crying. Usually if I hold him, he will nap until I wake him but he woke up in 35 minutes. And then just screamed nonstop. I don’t have anyone here to help other than my H. But my H left work and came home to help because I needed a break. Can’t go for a walk because it’s raining a lot. Thursday and Friday were amazing days and I got so hopeful that it would improve. Then Saturday hit. And today has been worst. I’m so defeated because I try so hard to do all the right things and I try to be patient. He makes it so hard though. I don’t understand and I don’t know what to do. I’m petrified to leave the house with him most of the time. Last Tuesday, I tried to go to baby and me barre with him and only made it halfway down the street before I turned around and came home because he was screaming non stop. I have so much anxiety when he cries when we’re out and it creates this cycle where I’m then afraid to leave the house.
How do you all manage MOTN feedings and the transition back to bassinet/crib/wherever baby sleeps? We keep everything very dark and quiet, but it takes DS over an hour to settle back down to sleep after each feed. Add in my pumping time and by the time we get back to sleep it’s time to start over again 🙁
This baby was like this. We caved and started renting a Snoo. My first got much better at 7/8 weeks. Neither kid would nurse to sleep. We used to lay half asleep ourselves with our hand reached into the bassinet on her tummy and continuously put the paci in until she was out. H and i would also sleep separate and take shifts. I still had to feed, but I could go straight back to sleep during his shifts and he bounced.
dreamcrisp1 How old again? My first was like this and it was awful. It makes people uncomfortable when I talk about it honestly, but she was an awful newborn. Awful. She was a great older baby, toddler, and now kid, but she was a hard miserable newborn. She slowly got better though, sort of patchy like you are describing, and at 16 weeks it was like a switch turned on. She remained high maintenance for a long time, but a happy high maintenance if that makes any sense.
The thing that happened to me and maybe it sounds like it’s happening to you, is I completely lost all confidence in myself. It took me a really really long time to gain it back and for the anxiety to lessen. Too long. Like years. And I honestly didn’t see it clearly at the time. Do you have access to a therapist who specializes in PP woman? I wish I had gone sooner, but I went leading up to this baby out of fear of the newborn stage and my dark period. I think she would have helped me a lot when I was in the trenches.
dreamcrisp1 it’s completely paralyzing when they scream like that. I was breaking out in cold sweat from it. It’s really hard to tell if something is truly bothering them, or if it’s just how the baby is. My baby hated the stroller until almost 4 months. I would try almost daily and walk with him in my arms while pushing the stroller because he would scream so hard. Any chance you can hire someone to come in a few times a week? It’s really hard to be alone with a baby that doesn’t give you any down time. I hope you get a chance to get some fresh air and it settles him today. One day at a time. Lots of hugs to you. Please vent here any time. I think it helps to know you aren’t alone.
How do you all manage MOTN feedings and the transition back to bassinet/crib/wherever baby sleeps? We keep everything very dark and quiet, but it takes DS over an hour to settle back down to sleep after each feed. Add in my pumping time and by the time we get back to sleep it’s time to start over again 🙁
I'm still trying to figure this out on a consistent basis. Until the last few days, the only way I've been able to get him back to sleep is on my chest most nights, so I end up halfway sitting up on the couch with him on me fading in and out of sleep. It has improved as he's getting older though.
Hang in there, just know that these phases change and pass quickly even though it doesn't feel like it in the moment.
Post by farfalla2011 on Nov 4, 2019 10:30:42 GMT -5
dreamcrisp1 I just want to send big virtual hugs because the crying is so draining and tough especially when you can't figure out what to do about it. Know that you are doing a great job even if it doesn't feel like it.