Post by HeartofCheese on Jun 26, 2019 10:15:28 GMT -5
I broke up with the hot nerdy guy, which was sad b/c he was hot and the sex was really good. But now I'm on to a hot high school social studies teacher. We'll see how things go...
I really want to send my kids to camp (I always wanted to go as a kid but no one I knew went) but these descriptions are nerve-wracking. I’m sure they’re having a great time!
I’m sure it’s way harder on the parents. DS did not cry, and he told us our tram was here as in time to leave crazy parents.
waverly I have no idea what adaptive cruise control is and have never used cruise control in my car . SoCal has too much traffic for that!
It’s a sensor/ camera. It spots the car in front of you and measures the distance to you and the car and changes the speed for you based on that. My CRV is a little more aggressive in terms of slowing down and slower to speed up, but our Outback is very smooth and DH can use it in stop and go traffic in Chicago. It will go all the way to stop. You can totally over ride it which we have when cars all of a sudden go from 60 mph to 0. But for more gradual changes in speed it is super awesome.
DS’ surgery to remove the pin in his arm is tomorrow morning. DH opted to travel this week - we scheduled surgery based on his travel schedule. He didn’t feel like traveling earlier this month so pushed his trip onto surgery. He left Sunday afternoon and didn’t see a reason to come home tonight. Is this a big surgery? No. But is DS getting anesthesia? Yes.
DS’ surgery to remove the pin in his arm is tomorrow morning. DH opted to travel this week - we scheduled surgery based on his travel schedule. He didn’t feel like traveling earlier this month so pushed his trip onto surgery. He left Sunday afternoon and didn’t see a reason to come home tonight. Is this a big surgery? No. But is DS getting anesthesia? Yes.
I’m increasingly resentful. Very anxious.
I know. I did ear tubes, tonsils and adenoids while DH was traveling. But I don’t think it was optional. Good thing my mom came to town to watch DD because his sleep study results came back severe sleep apnea because the tonsils were so large which bounced him into an overnight stay. Although honestly I don’t think the sleep studies or overnight stay were necessary.
DS2 just started saying 'I love you' today. I went to write it in our little 'quotable kids' book (that has less than 20 entries for all 3 kids ever) and I had also written down the first time DS1 had said 'I love you' - on 2-5-16, when he was 2 years and 12 days old. Today, DS2 is 2 years and 12 days old exactly. How weird is that?
I got an info package from the public online school that is available in my area. I really liked what I learned about it and see it being a good fit for DD. She could do school in my spare office at work during the off season. I'm going to talk to a few people over the next couple weeks who are SAHM with littles who have expressed interest in nannying or starting small in-home daycares to see how they feel about babysitting DD during tax season and being her learning coach those 4 months. I feel like I need all my ducks lined up and working well before I make this kind of decision plus I need to make sure DD is okay with it too.
Post by freezorburn on Jun 27, 2019 21:30:09 GMT -5
DDOT - I’m at a networking event and there is less than 2 dozen people here. Granted, I arrived over an hour late. I’m feeling super shy and the only person I’ve been able to make eye contact with and chat up is the product sponsor. Le sigh.
ETA: I also think the one familiar face that I waved to across the room, snuck out because she probably didn’t want to talk to me
Post by mustardseed2007 on Jun 28, 2019 4:59:32 GMT -5
freezorburn, I'm sorry you feel that way but also she probably didn't sneak out JUST because she didn't want to talk to you. She probably had to go because of some reason. She's not networking very well if she doesn't wait 5 minutes to say hi.
freezorburn, I'm sorry you feel that way but also she probably didn't sneak out JUST because she didn't want to talk to you. She probably had to go because of some reason. She's not networking very well if she doesn't wait 5 minutes to say hi.
This. I’m a terrible networker and my general feeling at those events is get me out of here. I’m totally the one to skip it or sneak out early for no reason related to anyone there just because I want to go home and sit in my pajamas.
Post by mustardseed2007 on Jun 28, 2019 8:58:26 GMT -5
I HATE networking. I always feel so stupid doing it and like I'm crap at it. I try to remind myself that lots of other people feel that way. But lawyers like to talk in general, or they don't and they do it so much out of necessity that they seem like they like it? I don't know. Either way I figure if I'm there and trying that's as much as I can expect out of myself.
My biggest positive about my current company? I have zero requirements to network. Which may not be ideal if I'm job shopping down the road or end up in a role where I need a diverse network, but for now, it works for me.
At my prior company, I was required to attend at least 2 networking events a month, meet 3 new contacts, and report on my follow up with them. I was miserable. The minute I got enough business cards collected? I don't care if they were going to hand out $5 bills at the end, I was out of there.
freezorburn, I'm sorry you feel that way but also she probably didn't sneak out JUST because she didn't want to talk to you. She probably had to go because of some reason. She's not networking very well if she doesn't wait 5 minutes to say hi.
This. I’m a terrible networker and my general feeling at those events is get me out of here. I’m totally the one to skip it or sneak out early for no reason related to anyone there just because I want to go home and sit in my pajamas.
All true. I need to get out of this negative mindset. It took a lot of internal work for me to feel brave enough to go, and I guess I’m just disappointed. I used to go to these things and would easily know at least a half dozen people. It’s not so easy now.
I think I’m going to keep networking by targeting old contacts, rather than these mixers. Probably a better use of my time.
DDOT- part of my job is working with environmental non-profits since I’m the head of our Sustainability program. It was one of the areas I was most excited about in taking over this role. Well, it’s the worst part of my job. I’m finding people in the area are just not very professional. I mean, I’m giving these people big money. Thousands or tens of thousands and in some cases over $100k. They can’t run a meeting to save their lives, they spend waaaay too much time navel gazing, and they are perpetually late. I just got off a call with a guy from the organization we give a boatload of money to. They are a very large environmental nonprofit. The dude was 12 minutes late. He didn’t email to say he was running late. Just called in super late with an apology that he was on the phone with AT&T. I don’t care. I’m your donor, you doofus.
freezorburn- do both! As hard as it is, you need to meet new contacts. And I say this as an introvert with some social anxiety who honestly comes out of one of those events and if I’m not dying of shame from having been awkward I declare it a rousing success. So keep doing it, even though it’s hard!
My uncle and his wife are having a little boy. No ideas on names yet; they have a difficult last name. I am so happy for them and can't wait to snuggle the little one.
So I just found out that I won the big new client that I've been working on for the past few months. It's a client type that our firm is trying to build, and I'm the lead, with 3 guys as the other team members. We staffed this client across offices since they're located in the middle of the country (I'm in San Diego, secondary team member is in Boston, and other two team members are in Boston and a home office in Houston). Because this client did an onsite with our largest office in Boston, we invited our Boston-based co-CEO to dinner with the prospect, and then he followed up with them and they ended up negotiating fees with him. I normally don't have much exposure to this Boston co-CEO because our other co-CEO is my boss in San Diego.
So Boston-based co-CEO just called to congratulate me and then suggested that maybe the secondary team member in Boston should be the internal lead because he has more capacity. Um, no. I've worked hard on this one and want to continue as the lead. The other guy has more capacity in part because some other people find him difficult to work with. I think I responded non-defensively on the spot that I was excited to continue as both the internal and external lead and that I have strong teams on my other clients that will allow me to devote time to this new client. For good measure, I called and left a message on my San Diego co-CEO's office voice mail (not his cell, since I didn't want to bother him on vacation) just to let him know what had been suggested and that I wanted to make sure he knew that I was excited to be both the internal and external lead, if staffing happens to come up.
That suggestion put a damper on something that should be super exciting. It feels like "benevolent sexism" - let's give the opportunity to the guy because the lady with 3 kids has too much on her plate already. I'm pretty sure my boss won't let that happen, but it's still annoying.
So I just found out that I won the big new client that I've been working on for the past few months. It's a client type that our firm is trying to build, and I'm the lead, with 3 guys as the other team members. We staffed this client across offices since they're located in the middle of the country (I'm in San Diego, secondary team member is in Boston, and other two team members are in Boston and a home office in Houston). Because this client did an onsite with our largest office in Boston, we invited our Boston-based co-CEO to dinner with the prospect, and then he followed up with them and they ended up negotiating fees with him. I normally don't have much exposure to this Boston co-CEO because our other co-CEO is my boss in San Diego.
So Boston-based co-CEO just called to congratulate me and then suggested that maybe the secondary team member in Boston should be the internal lead because he has more capacity. Um, no. I've worked hard on this one and want to continue as the lead. The other guy has more capacity in part because some other people find him difficult to work with. I think I responded non-defensively on the spot that I was excited to continue as both the internal and external lead and that I have strong teams on my other clients that will allow me to devote time to this new client. For good measure, I called and left a message on my San Diego co-CEO's office voice mail (not his cell, since I didn't want to bother him on vacation) just to let him know what had been suggested and that I wanted to make sure he knew that I was excited to be both the internal and external lead, if staffing happens to come up.
That suggestion put a damper on something that should be super exciting. It feels like "benevolent sexism" - let's give the opportunity to the guy because the lady with 3 kids has too much on her plate already. I'm pretty sure my boss won't let that happen, but it's still annoying.
sdlaura, congrats! And for reference, as someone who hires outside counsel and specifically looks for diverse teams, if a firm attempted to switch out the lead female lawyer who pitched me the work for a male lawyer, they would immediately lose the work. You can lay that on the Boston CEO.
Thanks, ladies! In talking to more close work friends, it seems like the issue is that we’ve hired a few senior level people in Boston who are under capacity because they were expected to either bring over or win more clients by now. So it doesn’t seem like it’s anything specific to do with me. Hopefully I nipped his suggestion in the bud and it won’t come up again.