LOL! That commercial came out shortly after my birthday. Immediately after seeing the commercial I turned to DH and told him I was going to start a vlog of me using the new coffeemaker he had just gifted me. Then on my birthday next year we can watch a video of me drinking coffee every morning for the past year and he can know how much I appreciated that gift.
My parents are divorced now after 30 years of marriage but my mom called her ILs mom and dad. I obviously don’t know how it came to be since I wasn’t alive when it started. My grandma has been dead for about 15 years now and my grandfather just went on hospice, but my mom is still super close to the family.
To be honest, I didn’t really know people’s hatred towards their in-laws until joining these boards because both sides of my families get along so well. I thought it was normal to call in-laws mom and dad in certain circumstances if you’re super close, ha.
My parents are close to my SO and neither of them would have a problem if he started calling them mom or dad, but he’d never do that. (I had an ex from another country who started calling my mom "mom" kind of early on, I think that was just their cultural norm, my mom didn’t care).
I love my in laws (well, most of them) and my parents love my DH!
Other than my one friend, I haven’t heard anyone call their in laws mom & dad. I just think it’s strange that she didn’t ask them first. None of their other kids spouses call them mom or dad.
my former sil called her 1st serious boyfriend post-divorce parents ‘mom and dad’ and I thought it was completely bizarre. You’ve been together a whole 9m and you’re calling your boyfriend’s parents mom and dad ... ok 🙄 I’ve been w J for nearly 2 1/2 years and I still call his parents by their first names (dd does too) !
I’d bring it up. I’m fine with a quick snap or text but phones down, please! I just stop seeing people who were on their phone all the time. Its exhausting and I’d always feel like I was competing for their attention. No thank you! I’d want someone to tell me vs quietly seething.
Our friend’s ex wife would have her iPad with her all the time, playing games while we were hanging out. It was weird and rude.
Why come out and be around people, then? This is so weird.
Actually, my FIL can sometimes be really bad with this. But it usually happens when we'll be talking about something, he'll go "Oh- let me look that up!" and then he ends up sitting on his phone for the next 1/2 hour totally oblivious to us and anything else. Then will be like "Oh! Look at this article!" that has nothing to do with what we were talking about.
Yesterday it was a Little Mermaid snowglobe. Friday it was Mickey Mouse earrings.
Who does she want to buy her this stuff? That’s bizarre.
my old neighbor who I am no longer FB friends with used to post things like can someone pick up my kids X day or would someone mow my lawn or clean my house when she didn’t want to. I always wanted to ask what her lazy husband was doing but I was always shocked when people agreed to do these things for free. I want to know if people ever buy this woman things she shares links to. I need these people..ha ha
I’d bring it up. I’m fine with a quick snap or text but phones down, please! I just stop seeing people who were on their phone all the time. Its exhausting and I’d always feel like I was competing for their attention. No thank you! I’d want someone to tell me vs quietly seething.
Our friend’s ex wife would have her iPad with her all the time, playing games while we were hanging out. It was weird and rude.
Also, the rules things. It’s so bothersome when rules exist but they’re followed willy nilly. The kids soccer organization is run like this and it drive me insane. Not that it matters in the grand scheme of things, but my kids have lost games bc of people randomly following/not following rules.
This is one of my pet peeves, as I'm both a Coach and Board Member of my kids soccer club. If your children are playing Travel, they are part of a league with professional paid referees. If the refs suck, by all means have the coach and those in charge report them.
If your kids are intramural, 99.99% of the time, these people are volunteers, who may not know that much about soccer and are doing this 'job' because someone needs to do it (or your kids would not have a club to play at). Or, if they are like many clubs in my area, refs are local HS soccer players or members of the Travel teams. Sometimes my refs blow calls. While it sucks, they are 14 and 15 years old and miss things or are not 100% on the rules. Many clubs would have to raise their rates considerably to get professional refs, and at least in where I am, getting a pro doesn't mean they'll be any better than a teenager. Cut the club some slack. I know you said that in the grand scheme of things it doesn't matter, however just take into consideration that many of the people running these clubs are doing the best they can.
I just got a Christmas card in the mail from my dad and his wife. Its a photo card and features pics of me, my kids, and my siblings/nephews. I know in the grand scheme this shouldn't matter but OMG I am SO annoyed by this. Why did they think it was OK to send a photo card with me/my kids on it without asking??
My MIL does this. But H is an only child so it's just a pic of me, H, and our two kids. It's so weird.
Also, the rules things. It’s so bothersome when rules exist but they’re followed willy nilly. The kids soccer organization is run like this and it drive me insane. Not that it matters in the grand scheme of things, but my kids have lost games bc of people randomly following/not following rules.
This is one of my pet peeves, as I'm both a Coach and Board Member of my kids soccer club. If your children are playing Travel, they are part of a league with professional paid referees. If the refs suck, by all means have the coach and those in charge report them.
If your kids are intramural, 99.99% of the time, these people are volunteers, who may not know that much about soccer and are doing this 'job' because someone needs to do it (or your kids would not have a club to play at). Or, if they are like many clubs in my area, refs are local HS soccer players or members of the Travel teams. Sometimes my refs blow calls. While it sucks, they are 14 and 15 years old and miss things or are not 100% on the rules. Many clubs would have to raise their rates considerably to get professional refs, and at least in where I am, getting a pro doesn't mean they'll be any better than a teenager. Cut the club some slack. I know you said that in the grand scheme of things it doesn't matter, however just take into consideration that many of the people running these clubs are doing the best they can.
This is not a rec team. And I’m not talking about bad ref calls bc I know those happen. I’m talking about facility rules of the game that the coaches don’t always follow bc , I dunno. We pay thousands for this and I think I have a right to expect them to follow their own rules. (Or eliminate the rules bc I’m good with that also. Just pick one)
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We get bagels, muffins and fruit delivered to work on Mondays. Several times, I have seen a muffin cut horizontally in half. The top has been taken and the bottom is left.
It bothers me so much. You can’t take the top half of a muffin and leave the bottom! If you want half a muffin, it should be cut vertically. I don’t even eat the muffins so I really don’t know why I care. It just seems like an unspoken rule is being broken.
I am guilty of only eating muffin tops. but to be fair to myself, I only do this at home and my boyfriend eats the bottoms.
Gotcha. I am pretty sure I asked my in-laws and they said mom and dad were fine, but then when I would answer the phone with, "hi mom" she would then say ,"Well, your Mother-I-inLaw". I know. I have caller ID. lol I feel like I stopped calling her mom as much. If they had said they preferred being called by their first names i would have done that.
I am sorry about your mom being sick and the lack of help from your brother and sil; I can see how that would add to your annoyance.
That’s awkward! I’d stop calling her mom as much too.
I don’t think I ever had a formal chat about it with my ILs. They sign cards to me with their first names so I just took the cue.
It bothered me before but it is really pushing me over the edge now that she’s sick. Like she can’t be bothered to do the really basic low level things she’s asked but then she’s calling my mom, mom. It seems disingenuous to me. Back off!
They sign my cards mom and dad. I think she would just get flustered or something. lol This summer she wrote out to me that I am wonderful mother and daughter-in-law and it brought me to tears. I had not been out there in years, in part, because I would use that time for some alone time, but now I feel like I should have kept more of an effort to see them.
I am really annoyed with my SIL. Her mother is dying. Her father has freaking support and is caring for his wife 24/7 alone. Well, now a woman comes three times a week to help her bathe. And she has not taken it upon herself to go out there any time other than when her family always goes out there. H has been there twice and will go again late winter. I am not saying it is easy. I see how hard it is for H when he comes home, but this is time. Time to say all the things and time to give their father a much needed break. Maybe this should not annoy me, but it does. And their dad will never complain or ask for help but his level of frustration is high and he does not get a break. All of this might be an unpopular opinion.
When we go some place like the zoo and people are taking 8 zillion pictures of the animals. Not their kids in front of the animals but just the animals. The giraffe is doing something funny? Fine, snap a picture but what do you really plan to do with that five minute video of the zebra just standing around? This is not limited to the zoo, I am also bothered by people taking pictures of every single whatever we are there to view. Just enjoy it while you are there!
My nephew is obsessed with our local area's fire trucks. So, my father-in-law films all of the local parades. My nephew watches the parade footage over and over. He has the parade announcements memorized. He can tell you exactly what the parade emcee said about every single fire truck as each one drove past the grandstand.
Perhaps people get annoyed with my father-in-law filming all of the parades instead of filming his grandson watching the parades. LOL.
IDK, maybe the people at the zoo are the parents or grandparents of kids who are obsessed with a particular zebra or giraffe or something. LOL.
My H is one of those people who takes all the random pictures. As far as I know, he puts them on Facebook then never looks at them again. But he doesnt let taking the photos distract him from enjoying the moment. It’s just one of those quirks I’ve come to accept about him.
When people thank their children for choosing them to be their parents. They didn’t chose you!!!
Also when people talk about their child being their best friends. Or that they “made” their best friend.
OMG - YES! Do people not realize how creepy this sounds? Wouldn't you worry about a 40 year old person having a 5 year old "best friend." And as a parent, I would be VERY concerned if my 10 year old told me that their best friend was 45 years old! Why? So weird!
Also when people talk about their child being their best friends. Or that they “made” their best friend.
OMG - YES! Do people not realize how creepy this sounds? Wouldn't you worry about a 40 year old person having a 5 year old "best friend." And as a parent, I would be VERY concerned if my 10 year old told me that their best friend was 45 years old! Why? So weird!
I hate when the kids' teachers refer to their class as "friends." Their teachers are great, but this is like nails on a chalkboard.
I told my kids that we can be friends when they are 25. In the meantime, it's my job to discipline them when needed, so they're not always going to like me much.
OMG - YES! Do people not realize how creepy this sounds? Wouldn't you worry about a 40 year old person having a 5 year old "best friend." And as a parent, I would be VERY concerned if my 10 year old told me that their best friend was 45 years old! Why? So weird!
I hate when the kids' teachers refer to their class as "friends." Their teachers are great, but this is like nails on a chalkboard.
I told my kids that we can be friends when they are 25. In the meantime, it's my job to discipline them when needed, so they're not always going to like me much.
I’ve always interpreted that the teacher is saying they are all “friends” to each other — not that the children are the teacher’s “friends.”
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When my mom says “He doesn’t do this for us” whenever my son does something like refuses food or throws a temper tantrum.
Well, he doesn’t do it for me, so it must be you. Because when he screams, you give him what he wants, like a different meal or animal crackers. That doesn’t happen in my house. He IS doing it for you. So STFU before I completely lose my shit.
That’s awkward! I’d stop calling her mom as much too.
I don’t think I ever had a formal chat about it with my ILs. They sign cards to me with their first names so I just took the cue.
It bothered me before but it is really pushing me over the edge now that she’s sick. Like she can’t be bothered to do the really basic low level things she’s asked but then she’s calling my mom, mom. It seems disingenuous to me. Back off!
They sign my cards mom and dad. I think she would just get flustered or something. lol This summer she wrote out to me that I am wonderful mother and daughter-in-law and it brought me to tears. I had not been out there in years, in part, because I would use that time for some alone time, but now I feel like I should have kept more of an effort to see them.
I am really annoyed with my SIL. Her mother is dying. Her father has freaking support and is caring for his wife 24/7 alone. Well, now a woman comes three times a week to help her bathe. And she has not taken it upon herself to go out there any time other than when her family always goes out there. H has been there twice and will go again late winter. I am not saying it is easy. I see how hard it is for H when he comes home, but this is time. Time to say all the things and time to give their father a much needed break. Maybe this should not annoy me, but it does. And their dad will never complain or ask for help but his level of frustration is high and he does not get a break. All of this might be an unpopular opinion.
That is very sweet of your MIL!
I would be frustrated with your SIL too. No one wants to deal with any of this but sometimes you just have to!
Yes. Anything at all that is over the top is annoying, positive or negative. I’m fine with sporadic positivity/negativity but I have so many people that profess their life and adoration for kids/husband/whatever every single post and I want to shank them. Especially since I know better. I had one friend like that and she ended up divorcing her husband after she cheated on him with her boss. Lol. Mmkay miss positivity.
I have a friend like that. Every single post was about how perfect and kind and flawless her kids are and how blessed her life is. Completely over the top. Then one day, boom, she announces a divorce. Not sure why but it sure seemed out of nowhere because of her non-stop posts about her exquisitely perfect life. She also sells stuff MLM so there's that.
When my mom says “He doesn’t do this for us” whenever my son does something like refuses food or throws a temper tantrum.
Well, he doesn’t do it for me, so it must be you. Because when he screams, you give him what he wants, like a different meal or animal crackers. That doesn’t happen in my house. He IS doing it for you. So STFU before I completely lose my shit.
My MIL is always saying they are SO great with her. “Right until you showed up they were angels!” Makes me want to be like “oh! Ok well we’ll just head off again then, see you in a week or so!”
When my mom says “He doesn’t do this for us” whenever my son does something like refuses food or throws a temper tantrum.
Well, he doesn’t do it for me, so it must be you. Because when he screams, you give him what he wants, like a different meal or animal crackers. That doesn’t happen in my house. He IS doing it for you. So STFU before I completely lose my shit.
My MIL is always saying they are SO great with her. “Right until you showed up they were angels!” Makes me want to be like “oh! Ok well we’ll just head off again then, see you in a week or so!”
My mom asked us to let him stay the night tonight and tomorrow.
SURE. Bye. He’s been a grump for the last few days so have fun.
OMG - YES! Do people not realize how creepy this sounds? Wouldn't you worry about a 40 year old person having a 5 year old "best friend." And as a parent, I would be VERY concerned if my 10 year old told me that their best friend was 45 years old! Why? So weird!
Someone on my Facebook posted something about how they are their sons first love, first kiss, first blah blah blah. I thought it was so gross and weird lol.
Also when people talk about their child being their best friends. Or that they “made” their best friend.
OMG - YES! Do people not realize how creepy this sounds? Wouldn't you worry about a 40 year old person having a 5 year old "best friend." And as a parent, I would be VERY concerned if my 10 year old told me that their best friend was 45 years old! Why? So weird!
I can’t stand it when moms say they are going on a date with their son. No. No you aren’t. You are not dating. You are being a mom who is taking the kid out and doing something special. It’s not a date.
I hate when the kids' teachers refer to their class as "friends." Their teachers are great, but this is like nails on a chalkboard.
I told my kids that we can be friends when they are 25. In the meantime, it's my job to discipline them when needed, so they're not always going to like me much.
I’ve always interpreted that the teacher is saying they are all “friends” to each other — not that the children are the teacher’s “friends.”
Oh I say “my friends” all of the time! Yes, we are all friends . A classroom family.
It annoys me when I am hanging out with a friend, and they are on their phones so much. I mean, I guess this is probably not irrational, but I guess maybe they don't think its an issue because we are close friends so it should be okay. I don't know, maybe I am just overly sensitive about it. I make an effort to be present with the people I am with, and I don't really like it when others aren't on the same page. I suppose I can bring it up, but it feels petty, like I don't get to demand attention from someone when we hang out a lot.
OMG - YES! Do people not realize how creepy this sounds? Wouldn't you worry about a 40 year old person having a 5 year old "best friend." And as a parent, I would be VERY concerned if my 10 year old told me that their best friend was 45 years old! Why? So weird!
I can’t stand it when moms say they are going on a date with their son. No. No you aren’t. You are not dating. You are being a mom who is taking the kid out and doing something special. It’s not a date.
My kids, being kids, are egocentric and they've completely confused the idea of date night.
When we have date night, my mom watches them. But they misunderstood from a young age and think of it as them having date night - so they call it "grandma date night." It's gotten to the point where if I'm busy for the evening, they call it "daddy date night." If my husband makes it home for dinner (which happens about once a week) it's "family date night" and the default - just me and them "mommy date night."
We let it go at first because we thought it sounded funny (like other strange kid sayings) and now it just sounds normal.
Date night = "regular dinner at home with the designated adult, practice piano, do homework and read a few stories."
When people thank their children for choosing them to be their parents. They didn’t chose you!!!
Also when people talk about their child being their best friends. Or that they “made” their best friend.
My cousin does this and it drives me nuts. Listen, I love my kids with my whole being, but they are not my best friends. I don’t want them to be my best friends. That’s not what this relationship is supposed to be!
Oh, I have one! MIL texted me the other day to tell me to let her know when we will get family pictures taken again because she wants a family picture with her and BIL. So, you want to crash our annual family photos that we pay for, and I plan for, so that *you* can have a picture with your kids? For real? Who does that?
My officemate uses the word attain all of the time instead of get or obtain and it makes me insane. And also it sounds like she's trying to use big words and not doing it right. For example "I will attain you that cup of coffee". "You have to go to the registrars office to attain that form". You attain a goal, not a cup of coffee! ARGH!!!!!