Post by blondemoment123 on Feb 2, 2020 10:36:18 GMT -5
I think my cats are protesting. None of them have eaten their breakfast. I know they’re all healthy since they all had annual visits in the past 2 months.
Now to figure out what they’re mad about. #crazycatlady
I think my cats are protesting. None of them have eaten their breakfast. I know they’re all healthy since they all had annual visits in the past 2 months.
Now to figure out what they’re mad about. #crazycatlady
There is a post on another board I go to called "why my cat is sad" and it is so fun to read.
I think I'm accidentally hosting a puppy bowl/pre-Superbowl party this afternoon. Which would be cool if I didn't still have stuff to do and errands to run to get ready for Brownie and PTA stuff tomorrow.
We spent the day with our 12 year old yesterday. The youngest went to the grandparents. It was such a lovely day capped off with us binging Stranger Things, which he is obsessed with.
It made me a bit nostalgic. I don't know how many years we have left of him him happily hanging out with us. He even turned down an invite from a friend.
And then we got a call from the ILs this morning that the youngest is sick. Sigh
Post by goldengirlz on Feb 2, 2020 12:02:34 GMT -5
DH and I were having a debate over whether it’s acceptable to go into each other’s wallets without telling the other.
His argument is that our money is our money. Mine is that if I thought I had a certain amount of cash on me and then went to pay for something and discovered I was short, I would be pissed.
DH and I were having a debate over whether it’s acceptable to go into each other’s wallets without telling the other.
His argument is that our money is our money. Mine is that if I thought I had a certain amount of cash on me and then went to pay for something and discovered I was short, I would be pissed.
There’s no way he’s right about this.
I’m on your side. You don’t go into my wallet without saying “hey, can I go into your wallet, I need x”. My answer will always be “you sure can”. it’s not like I have anything to hide but that’s mine, get your paws off.
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I slept in this morning woohoo! I am still in bed, drinking tea and playing around online. I will have to do a little bit of work soon though to make sure I know what I will be teaching this week. We are going to watch the superbowl with friends.
It is really warm for the time of the year right now and tomorrow the temp is going to drop and it will be cold and snowing basically all week. I am having a hard time mentally preparing for it.
DH and I were having a debate over whether it’s acceptable to go into each other’s wallets without telling the other.
His argument is that our money is our money. Mine is that if I thought I had a certain amount of cash on me and then went to pay for something and discovered I was short, I would be pissed.
There’s no way he’s right about this.
We only have joint money and don't really do fun money, so our money is our money and I wouldn't care from that perspective. But you're definitely right. I am bad about carrying around cash, so I would not be happy if I thought I had some and it turned out DH took it. Just tell me if you need cash! Realistically, DH is usually the one getting cash and me taking it, but I always tell him!
Post by wanderingback on Feb 2, 2020 12:44:50 GMT -5
I just learned that the Super Bowl is today yesterday. I still don’t know who is playing in it. This makes me happy because the NFL is trash and the less I hear about football the better.
We are going to a free crawfish boil at a lodge about 30 miles away with 3 other families this afternoon. Then we are going to one of those family's house to watch the Super Bowl. I am so excited.
I also need to get my kids dressed so we can go to the grocery store. We are out of milk so we need to go this morning.
DH and I were having a debate over whether it’s acceptable to go into each other’s wallets without telling the other.
His argument is that our money is our money. Mine is that if I thought I had a certain amount of cash on me and then went to pay for something and discovered I was short, I would be pissed.
There’s no way he’s right about this.
I do sometimes grab money from DHs wallet without asking as he's a lot better about carrying cash than I am but I always give him a heads up right away and limit it to those times DD needs cash for a school thing. If it's the last of his small bills, I check first in case he needs it that day for tipping a valet or something.
DH and I were having a debate over whether it’s acceptable to go into each other’s wallets without telling the other.
His argument is that our money is our money. Mine is that if I thought I had a certain amount of cash on me and then went to pay for something and discovered I was short, I would be pissed.
There’s no way he’s right about this.
NOPE.
I only take cash out when I need something. We'll often ask each other "do you have cash?" If something comes up, like wanting to park at a garage where it's easier to use cash, but I would not be cool with that unless he told me and said it would be replaced ASAP.
I grew up with a financially abusive father and a mom who was a SAHP, so watching her have to beg for $20 for the week when my dad was going to be traveling in case something came up and she needed it for the kids, means that although my H and I share finances, we also have somr independence over discretionary spending. That would make me feel helpless over my own finances and potentially be triggering for me, honestly.
I've been up for about half an hour and so far I've started laundry, customized my FabFitFun box, and fixed a review on Goodreads that fell into the ether and wasn't counting towards my goal for the year. Now in a few minutes I need to go throw together chili meatballs in the crockpot so they'll be ready for our Super Bowl party. I don't really give a shit about the game, but I am looking forward to hanging out with our friends and eating junk food all afternoon. We're recording it too because our Tivo notified us they brought "Game Skip" back, so we'll be able to go back and watch all the commercials and skip the game. LOL!
DH has become the go-to parent to assistant coach all of DS1 & DS2’s sports teams. He really likes helping out & being involved. At the end of each season, the parents sometimes pool together to get the coaches gift cards. At the end of football season last fall, he got $50 in Starbucks gift cards. Which was so super generous of the parents. But DH doesn’t ever drink coffee. And I only drink it once a week at the most. So I just recently finally finished the gift cards from football.
Yesterday was DS2’s last basketball game. DH got a card and we had to laugh when we saw the $20 Starbucks gift card. I feel a little bad taking his reward, but he doesn’t seem to mind. And I am the one who has to listen to him vent about all the parents who complain about their kids not getting enough playing time, so maybe I deserve it a little?
My H and I always ask before getting into each other's wallets. For both of us we don't want either of us to be without expected cash, and for him he is also like, "you never ever go in a woman's purse without permission, and even then you don't know what you'll find in there and it's better if she gets out whatever you need for you." I've told him the wrong pocket before and he's too put out by coming up with a handful of lip balms instead of keys. LOL!
Usually we get each other cash anyway - if one of us needs cash we ask the other if they need any before we go to the ATM.
My daughter has plans to meet a friend at the playground. I don't mind taking her because it's nice to get some exercise and fresh air, but I really don't feel like making small talk with the other mom. She's nice, but we're not really friends and I'd rather just read my book.
Even though I was really tired, I did not fall asleep until 3 this morning and got up at 7:30 to feed the dogs and let them out. I am so darn tired. I think I might take an additional rest day tomorrow.
And, I have no co-troop leader and no other parent has signed up to help me lead tomorrow. In theory, we are supposed to be getting ready for World Thinking Day, but I just don't know if I have it in me.
It's 60 and sunny here today and feels magnificent. We haven't seen the sun since last Sunday. We went for a nice long walk at the state park.
Even though we don't watch the Super Bowl, we decided to do just a bunch of apps for dinner tonight. I'm also excited about the Masked Singer starting.
My daughter has plans to meet a friend at the playground. I don't mind taking her because it's nice to get some exercise and fresh air, but I really don't feel like making small talk with the other mom. She's nice, but we're not really friends and I'd rather just read my book.
Maybe you can mention to the other mom that if she has errands to run, you can keep an eye on both girls? Small talk like that drives me crazy. I’m so awkward. I always have my kindle with me at the playground (my kids are old enough now that I don’t need to watch them like a hawk).
I went thru the car wash yesterday thinking I had no where to go today, so it would stay relatively clean for at least a day or two. Nope, didn't realize I was out of some basic shit I thought I had on hand for my apps tonight. Off to the grocery store I went. I HATE YOU PUDDLES!!!!
DH and I were having a debate over whether it’s acceptable to go into each other’s wallets without telling the other.
His argument is that our money is our money. Mine is that if I thought I had a certain amount of cash on me and then went to pay for something and discovered I was short, I would be pissed.
There’s no way he’s right about this.
NOPE.
I only take cash out when I need something. We'll often ask each other "do you have cash?" If something comes up, like wanting to park at a garage where it's easier to use cash, but I would not be cool with that unless he told me and said it would be replaced ASAP.
I grew up with a financially abusive father and a mom who was a SAHP, so watching her have to beg for $20 for the week when my dad was going to be traveling in case something came up and she needed it for the kids, means that although my H and I share finances, we also have somr independence over discretionary spending. That would make me feel helpless over my own finances and potentially be triggering for me, honestly.
In fairness, it came up because I asked if he had money for DD (she needs bagel money for Hebrew school on Sundays.) And he was like, “You don’t need to ask. You have my implicit consent.” And I was like, of course I’m going to ask. And, um, just so we’re clear, don’t take money without telling me.
Also, commiseration: my dad was/is an asshole to my mom too. Not necessarily about money (more about her weight and general self worth), but it definitely affected my views on having my “own” money. So I totally get what you’re saying.
I think Shipt went relatively well yesterday! My entire body is sore from all the lifting and cart pushing, but I made ~$110 with 4 deliveries. It was surprisingly fun and I’m looking forward to doing it again!
I wouldn't care if my H took money without asking, but I would be annoyed if he didn't give me a heads up afterward so I knew the cash was gone. He almost never spends money on anything (outside of commute related costs) so I don't worry about him using it in a way he shouldn't. This is very relationship dependent I think - but money is a non-issue for us.
Speaking of money, we just put in an application to consolidate H's student loans. They have gained THIRTY THOUSAND DOLLARS in interest since he started grad school 8 years ago. That is absolutely criminal IMO. That's more than he made per year as a grad student. I hope to god that PSLF is a real thing and that they will be forgiven that way, otherwise we're going to be paying on them until retirement because I have no idea how you get ahead on something that is accruing interest like that. Anyway, I guess it will be "good" to get going on repayment and having that figured out. It's been kind of a looming unknown for years.
DH and I were having a debate over whether it’s acceptable to go into each other’s wallets without telling the other.
His argument is that our money is our money. Mine is that if I thought I had a certain amount of cash on me and then went to pay for something and discovered I was short, I would be pissed.
There’s no way he’s right about this.
100% agree with you. My H and DS can go into my purse for a mint, gum or a tissue but don’t touch my cash. I rarely carry any and if I think I have some and go to use it for a cash only purchase, I’m going to be be hella pissed. Now if you ask and I tell you to get it, that’s fine.
i bought a new travel bottle for shampoo and conditioner yesterday and H asked if I wanted it taken to our bathroom and I said no, I wanted to wash it first, he looked at me like I was nuts because it was new. Maybe I’m a germaphobe, but I’m ok with it. Lol