This is my biggest issue with it. I mean, I would love it but with just like a 4 day work week, it's just no doable for most. This is something we'll never deal with in our situation, but like I said, I was curious because David talked about it so much.
I had Fridays off in college. Our University really only held science labs and stuff like that on Fridays, so I pretty much always had the day off. It was fantastic. So, tell him to go to the University of Denver and he can have 4 day school weeks when he's 18.
When I was in elementary school we had 1/2 day every Friday. We did Mon - Thurs 8:30 - 3:30 and 8:30 - 12:30 on Fridays. It was fantastic! They often had extra classes you could take on that Fri afternoon - like typing(this was before computers were common). It was a different time of course, because I would just walk home after school and stay by myself (my sister was two years older, so I was alone at 4th grade). My parent got home from their schools around 4 pm (both teachers).
Chill weekend so far. We went to the library this morning for DS to play and check out some new books. He's playing up in his room now for quiet time (he won't really nap anymore unless he's behind on sleep or sick). We are going for hibachi dinner with my parents tonight for my birthday which was last week. We were going to go last weekend but DS had a fever. I'm kind of anxious about it because DS isn't great in restaurants- he's so active and just gets bored easily in them- and we usually just end up giving him a phone to play with so that we can relax and enjoy ourselves (which I know isn't great but I just don't feel like fighting it sometimes). I want to try to avoid doing that because I feel like my parents might be a little judgey about that. Oh well. Going to BYOB enough wine to hopefully not care about this so much.
Tomorrow I think we're either going to dinner with friends or having them come over and hang out. More than likely they will come here due to aforementioned toddler being not fabulous in restaurants.
My in-laws are off doing something with our nephews. They wanted nephews and other SIL to come over last night (or tonight) because they hadn't exchanged Christmas gifts with them yet, and other SIL said no. This made SIL who was staying with us furious and she did an end run around her and just went to nephews directly (2 of them are over 18, so this isn't unreasonable, not sure what they did about the 3rd). MIL was also threatening to contact SIL estranged husband to see the boys, but after we all just kind of blankly stared at her she dropped that idea. OMG.
Meanwhile I slept horribly last night and am getting a migraine, but I agreed to go run errands with my H in a little bit because for some reason he seems excited at the prospect of having an "errand date." Sure, if that will make you happy, I'll tag along. It will also give me an excuse to hide away and "nap" when we get back.
Post by Monica Geller on Feb 15, 2020 20:37:36 GMT -5
I’m so tired. DS2 is doing well in the NICU. I’m pumping every 3 hours around the clock. And due to scheduling and timing and the fact that I’m still restricted from driving I’ve only seen him once today. But I’ve gotten to spend all day with DS1 whom I’ve missed like crazy while I was in the hospital for a month. My heart is so torn. Add the PP hormones and I’m a weepy mess tonight.
I’m so tired. DS2 is doing well in the NICU. I’m pumping every 3 hours around the clock. And due to scheduling and timing and the fact that I’m still restricted from driving I’ve only seen him once today. But I’ve gotten to spend all day with DS1 whom I’ve missed like crazy while I was in the hospital for a month. My heart is so torn. Add the PP hormones and I’m a weepy mess tonight.
((((Monica))))
You are doing so well for BOTH of your boys, all while still trying to recover from childbirth. I'm sorry you can't be with both boys tonight and soak it all in, but I am sure your DS1 is feeling so lucky to have time alone with Mom before his brother comes home. Both your boys are so lucky to have you for their mom, no matter where you're sitting tonight. Just remember how much you have done to get to here. It is INCREDIBLE what you have done, and for how long.
I hope tomorrow goes really well for you.
Take heart. You are doing a good job. No matter what - you are doing a good job, and all that you can. And it is enough. ((((Monica))))
My poor baby boy has cold and wicked cough. He took a 2 hour nap today (very unlike him) and didn't fight bedtime at all. Fell asleep within 10 minutes of turning off the lights. I feel bad for him. He's in good spirits, but clearly feels terrible. Poor dude.
We are visiting friends in NC. We used to live in the same town in our old state (we worked together) and we both moved out of state about the same time. It is fun to catch up finally. It's weird how little I've seen friends from that period of my life since we moved... I miss a lot of great people.
They had a kid since i last saw them which is so weird! They don't seem any different but its funny how much has changed really.
We did an escape room today. We failed. It was fun but really hard!
I’m so tired. DS2 is doing well in the NICU. I’m pumping every 3 hours around the clock. And due to scheduling and timing and the fact that I’m still restricted from driving I’ve only seen him once today. But I’ve gotten to spend all day with DS1 whom I’ve missed like crazy while I was in the hospital for a month. My heart is so torn. Add the PP hormones and I’m a weepy mess tonight.
((((Monica))))
You are doing so well for BOTH of your boys, all while still trying to recover from childbirth. I'm sorry you can't be with both boys tonight and soak it all in, but I am sure your DS1 is feeling so lucky to have time alone with Mom before his brother comes home. Both your boys are so lucky to have you for their mom, no matter where you're sitting tonight. Just remember how much you have done to get to here. It is INCREDIBLE what you have done, and for how long.
I hope tomorrow goes really well for you.
Take heart. You are doing a good job. No matter what - you are doing a good job, and all that you can. And it is enough. ((((Monica))))
When I was in elementary school we had 1/2 day every Friday. We did Mon - Thurs 8:30 - 3:30 and 8:30 - 12:30 on Fridays. It was fantastic! They often had extra classes you could take on that Fri afternoon - like typing(this was before computers were common). It was a different time of course, because I would just walk home after school and stay by myself (my sister was two years older, so I was alone at 4th grade). My parent got home from their schools around 4 pm (both teachers).
We have this now for our elementary schools, but Wednesdays. It’s such a pain!
Post by Leeham Rimes on Feb 16, 2020 10:21:01 GMT -5
Got my workout in today. I’ve got to step stuff up. I don’t understand why I’m not losing *any* weight. I’ve changed my diet, I workout EOD [and a fucking hard workout at that (ETF Fitness)]. Nothing. Not a single, solitary, pound.
I don’t wanna be chubby at my sister’s wedding. 😢 🎻
Frank’s skin is still a mess, his ear infection is still gross and getting discharge everywhere. Ugh. My life is glamorous. Lol.
This week I’m pushing myself out of my comfort zone and attending an 11 week program put on by my city to learn more about the inner workings, how a city runs. I’m really looking forward to it and maybe some contacts/friends I may make. I have so much anxiety bc I don’t like new things, or people, but this seems really worth my anxiety. Lol.
I need ham like water Like breath, like rain I need ham like mercy From Heaven's gate Sometimes ham salad or casserole or ham that’s free range, all natural I need ham
Post by notoriousmeg on Feb 16, 2020 10:31:11 GMT -5
We are away for a fun family weekend snowboarding, and I fractured my wrist on day one 😥 It’s my right wrist, and I’m right handed. I can’t do anything by myself. Boo! I’m supposed to fly to LA for work this week, and I’m dreading telling my boss I may not be able to fly and may have to have surgery.
Got my workout in today. I’ve got to step stuff up. I don’t understand why I’m not losing *any* weight. I’ve changed my diet, I workout EOD [and a fucking hard workout at that (ETF Fitness)]. Nothing. Not a single, solitary, pound.
When I was trying to lose weight one time and working out a ton a nutritionist told me that I wasn’t eating enough. She had be add back in a couple hundred calories, and I finally saw some results. Maybe something to look into? Good luck!
Got my workout in today. I’ve got to step stuff up. I don’t understand why I’m not losing *any* weight. I’ve changed my diet, I workout EOD [and a fucking hard workout at that (ETF Fitness)]. Nothing. Not a single, solitary, pound.
When I was trying to lose weight one time and working out a ton a nutritionist told me that I wasn’t eating enough. She had be add back in a couple hundred calories, and I finally saw some results. Maybe something to look into? Good luck!
I don’t feel I’m going too low but I’ll track my calories and see what I’m doing. I don’t usually eat breakfast bc I’m not in the mood but maybe I should add a protein or something. Thanks for the suggestion!
I need ham like water Like breath, like rain I need ham like mercy From Heaven's gate Sometimes ham salad or casserole or ham that’s free range, all natural I need ham
I’m in the Florida Keys now alone with DH. Much better than Cleveland.
This looks amazing! Where is this beach?? I couldn’t find any great beaches in KW but we staying closer to Mallory Square.
We’re at the Islander Resort in Islamorada. I think it’s a man made beach. If you want to go into the ocean, you have to walk down some steps past a rock wall at the edge of the sand. It’s like a drop off edge. I think I remember reading that the keys don’t have great beaches typically. I’m laying by the pool now. Our flight home is tomorrow at 5 pm so we’re soaking in the sunshine.
When I was trying to lose weight one time and working out a ton a nutritionist told me that I wasn’t eating enough. She had be add back in a couple hundred calories, and I finally saw some results. Maybe something to look into? Good luck!
I don’t feel I’m going too low but I’ll track my calories and see what I’m doing. I don’t usually eat breakfast bc I’m not in the mood but maybe I should add a protein or something. Thanks for the suggestion!
I think i was around 1400 and she had me go to like 1700. HTH!
Got my workout in today. I’ve got to step stuff up. I don’t understand why I’m not losing *any* weight. I’ve changed my diet, I workout EOD [and a fucking hard workout at that (ETF Fitness)]. Nothing. Not a single, solitary, pound.
I was having this issue. I was doing hardcore bootcamps 5-6 days a week and eating lower carb (which had previously worked). It was super frustrating and almost twilight zone-ish as my weight did not budge after a month of total dedication and tracking. I also loosely follow IF (so no breakfast) but listen to my body if I'm starving. So, I tweaked a few things.
I added more carbs into my diet - but I've been more diligent about tracking actual calories. I also added in more cardio to my workouts. I am back to running 2-3 days a week and added in some HIIT/tabata instead of the weight-lifting heavy bootcamps/WODS every day. I googled your gym and it looks a lot like what I do. I know that my bootcamps have METCONS and AMRAPS but the sustained cardio (running) and really intense tabata (typically 30-60 minutes) has changed everything. I've dropped 5 lbs in 2 weeks.
Are you in Colorado? My son was just telling me that some schools in Colorado have 4 day school weeks. He's a HUGE proponent of that, lol. He talked to his teacher about it and she told him these schools still go to to school the same amount of days a year. Is that true?
No. You do not want to go to this. It impacts instruction time and makes it more difficult for kids to get everything in. It's also incredibly hard on basically any working class family without a SAH parent.
The district we moved out of when we moved to this house had a funding measure on the ballot in 2018. Thank God it passed because if it hadn't, they would have gone to 4 days weeks. I don't know what the fuck we would have done. Not to mention, it's a pretty clear indicator in most districts that they are severely underfunded and can't afford to pay staff for that 5th day.
eta: This is also not just a "Colorado" thing. There are certain districts in the state (again, generally ones without adequate funding) that have moved to 4-day weeks, but it's not the norm.
etaa: I only work 4 hours on Fridays, so I basically have Fridays off. It's wonderful as an employee. I love it. But I truly cannot imagine what a hardship it would be on many families to not be able to send their kids to school on Fridays. Also, as someone who works, I use that time on Fridays to grocery shop and get things done. I don't want my kids at home with me. I would advocate for any company to move to 4 day weeks if it made sense for the organization, but it does not make sense for schools.
etaaa: I should really stop, but it's just so bad. Think about all the ancillary positions, like cleaning staff, hourly paraprofessionals and assistants, office staff, etc. All of these people are working on an hourly rate, so cutting out that 5th day often means their hours are being cut. I've been in Colorado for 15 years now and this 4 day week thing is coming up more and more. Go look at what Colorado invests in education. It's abysmal. Truly. We are one of the lowest in the nation for per student investment. 4 day weeks have never been an indication of a better schedule for students and teachers. There's no evidence that it benefits students or staff. In every instance that I know of, it is a very clear indication that the school just doesn't have enough money.
Clearly I feel very strongly about this.
Our district is comprised of mostly ranching families. We (school employees and parents both) vote on 3 different school calendars every year. One with 0 Fridays, one where we attend one Friday a month, and a regular 5 day school week. The 4 day week wins out every year. If we were both working full time jobs like we were before we moved here, it would be impossible for us to do a 4 day school week in this town if our kids were younger since child care is extremely lacking.
H was the maintenance and transportation director for a year and his staff (the cleaning staff) worked 5 days a week and sometimes on the weekends due to sporting events. His staff was all salary. He said he rarely saw teachers or office staff there on Fridays and I know I don't see staff there on Fridays very often. I know the teachers and the office staff are salary and I think the paras are also, but am not 100% sure.
Our school district is decently funded. It's not great, but it's not awful either. And the issues we do have are because of poor money handling by the board in the past so we are trying to fix the budget and catch up from all of that.
Post by Patsy Baloney on Feb 16, 2020 11:57:33 GMT -5
My MIL is staying with us this week (this is week 2 of 2) as a live-in babysitter. She’s extremely generous to do so and the kids adore her. She’s been doing such a great job and I am so grateful.
But she will not. stop. talking. And she says things like, “Sammiches,” and, “Hambaker.”
I went out to “look for something” in my car yesterday and just sat for 20 minutes in the quiet.
I’m about ready to start a round of the quiet game.
I'm sort of over my entire family today. I just need some space. No one but the cat understands that lol. I sit down on the couch to have some coffee and relax and the 70 lb dog has to climb into my lap while 11 year old DS comes to sit down next to me, close enough I'm using him as an arm rest. He's doing on overnight trampoline park with his youth group tonight so I'm trying to grin and bare it but it's really hard.