I think I am too selfish to have a big family. I like things, vacations, free time, etc My brother and his wife have 4 kids now, maybe more to come, and we only get to see them twice a year as it is so expensive/difficult to travel with that size of a family, especially on one income. Hopefully we can visit them to help even it out more!
You know what's weird? I love seeing big families on TV or movies. I know it's not real life but a big family home for the holidays seems so wonderful. But then I got to Target and see parents with 5 kids under the age of 7 and I think "WTF are you doing?" Too bad TV isn't real life
But…I only want one so I think my holidays will be…quiet.
I see moms walking around Target with 4+ kis regularly. They are almost always well behaved.
I think WTF am I doing wrong. I dread taking my kids with me into target and I'm an uptight bitch while we are there, reprimanding them for the slightest twitch of the arm.
I don't see large families out often, but when I do at least 2 of them are crying and one parent is distressed or yelling. It just doesn't look fun to me.
I'm sure you're fine. You probably notice things more than other people do.
I think I am too selfish to have a big family. I like things, vacations, free time, etc My brother and his wife have 4 kids now, maybe more to come, and we only get to see them twice a year as it is so expensive/difficult to travel with that size of a family, especially on one income. Hopefully we can visit them to help even it out more!
This is me exactly. I like going on vacation, going out to eat and buying whatever I want. Everyone I know with 4+ kids can never afford to go anywhere. I think I will stop at 2.
There is no reason to take your baby/toddler to Target at 10pm+. Take your children home to bed, morons. I see this phenomenon on a regular basis (10pm+ is the only chance I myself have to get there, but you don't see my baby with me, now DO YOU?) and it is beyond me why it occurs.
Parenting is working. Today, I took a dump with my child on my lap because I had to go and my baby screamed everytime I put her down. I did put her down to wipe and wash hands. However, at yourjob, even a bad job, your boss doesnt accompany you on your poops.
And my UO is that I can't understand why parents (not specifically you, but this post brought it up) can't put a kid down a let it cry long enough to use the bathroom or whatever other 5 minute task they are currently complaining about not having time for.
They can but are suckers. When u have twins you learn your babies will survive and be happy kids even when they cry ... Bc they will cry bc you simply can't always make them stop when there are 2 (and in my Case +1 more too)
He is totally talking to the dog about what a handsome head he is right now. Are you a good puppy dog? Yes you are. D you want kisses? Yes you do! Oh the oyster breath! Sweet puppy.
He is totally talking to the dog about what a handsome head he is right now. Are you a good puppy dog? Yes you are. D you want kisses? Yes you do! Oh the oyster breath! Sweet puppy.
kid? Dog? Obsessed.
Are you drinking? You kind of don't make sense, lol.
No, just repeating what he's saying to the dog, minus the quotes. Sorry.
Also, can you define "cuts" to Social Security? I would potentially support opting out of the system for those still contributing (young people like me who have no faith we'll ever see that money again), but it's not okay to take away money that was promised to those closer to retirement. .
To clarify I would want some caveats to the flat tax. So a greatly simplified tax code, but with a certain amount of income not subjected to the tax (perhaps whatever the poverty line is).
I think Social Security is a welfare program. I fully support welfare when it's warranted but I think there should be a means test to receive Social Security. The idea that you get out what you pay in is just false and unsustainable. People who are earning in retirement what my parents will be earning shouldn't get Social Security. We can start there. I AM SACRIFICING MY OWN PARENTS FIRST.
With the right caveats, I could maybe see a flat tax working. So far every proposed system I've seen sounded like a horrible idea.
I don't really see SS as a welfare program, but I guess it is kind of a safety net in the same way that welfare is, except that anyone who has worked can get it. Apparently if you make more money, you get higher SS benefits, which makes sense as COL adjustment but otherwise seems unfair. On the other hand, it would also be really unfair for everyone to pay in and then those who failed to save for retirement get a free ride while those who scrimped for years to save have to rely entirely on what they have until it runs out, then get back on SS benefits. Kind of like how financial aid for college can be really screwed up - "oh, you saved 40k for your kid's education, that's great - no grants for you, we'll take it all this year, you can obviously afford it" - meanwhile someone else whose parents didn't save anything can get a sweet package because it's "need-based" aid (obviously not all systems are like this, but some are). So pretty much, yes, I agree that the really rich shouldn't necessarily get full SS benefits, but whatever the metric is, it shouldn't punish saving for retirement.
Having a child is a choice. You know what you are getting yourself into. I hate when parents complain and act like martyrs about their lives and compare it to your easy life. Your choice.
I don't think most parents really know what they've gotten themselves into. Doesnt mean its bad (or good), but still. I side eye that comment.
I retract my statement. True. You really have NO clue what you are getting yourself into. I remember 5 days post partum thinking, " shit, what have we done?". Worth it, but a bit of a shock. And I consider myself organized and a planner. Buncha, my H showed pics of L to opposing counsel, the stenographer and the janitor at a deposition.
This is random but a 32dd is not big!!! I always see people saying this on here and it drives me crazy. It's like they hear they are a dd and suddenly they need all this support and have fit issues. You have a small rib cage and normal size boobs.
Do you guys want cookies? I don't mind being a sahm. I dare say I enjoy it. Most days. But if you don't have kids and you don't sah, you have no idea wtf you're talking about.
Totally agree with this. Also, I'd have to pratically be on death's doorstep for my husband to randomly take the day off to watch the kids. I think it's happened once in the four years since we've had kids and even then he still went in for a meeting later on in the day.
Unless you have family members nearby who don't work, it's extremely difficult to get cover at the last minute.
Don't most women wear the wrong bra size? I think that's why they think a DD is big. They're still trying to stuff themselves into a B.
I think I'm a late bloomer. I have never been this "big". It's big to me because I have been a B for years. Again, not many people with a small ribcage of a 32 don't usually have a cup size of DD.
Actually a lot of people are just wearing the wrong band size a 32 really isn't that small but they don't carry it in most chain stores so people assume they are a 34 since it is the smallest. I worked at Nordstrom and a 32d/dd was a very average size.
I am a 34F and don't think I look like a porn star or anything. However, my sister, who wears a 34E, looks a lot bustier than I do because she is 7" shorter than me.
Actually a lot of people are just wearing the wrong band size a 32 really isn't that small but they don't carry it in most chain stores so people assume they are a 34 since it is the smallest. I worked at Nordstrom and a 32d/dd was a very average size.
I find those of us who were fitted at Nordstrom have much smaller bands / higher cup size than the general population. So that makes sense to me. BTW, I having been loving my life since upgrading to the 36G even though the bra itself is comically large. You guys at Nordies do good work!
I agree. I went from a 40C to a 36F. Amazing! I don't look like i have big boobs.
Being a SAHM is not a job, and I do not at all feel sorry for you. Even if you are staying home due to finances (cost of child care), the ability to SAH is a luxury.
Yes, we all have bad days, and those are acceptable complaints. However, the "it's a 24/7" job statements are just crap. Do you know how bad working moms must have it? Do you? I'm not a mom, so I can only imagine the weight of working and being a parent.
Obv not directed at the vast majority of SAHMs on this board. Or any that come to mind, in fact.
Taking care of a small child IS very very difficult and in some cases more difficult than being a working mom.
Staying at home may be a necessity to one and a luxury to another. Just like working is a luxury to some and a necessity for others.
There are martyrs on both sides of this issue and both are annoying, especially those who do not yet have children.
Post by Willis Jackson on May 19, 2012 13:07:18 GMT -5
Whether or not being a working mom or SAHM is hard depends on the mom, the kid(s), and the job in question. When the stars align, it's easy. When they don't, it's hard.
We're comparing apples and oranges and cherries and grapes here. It's dumb.
I will say, if you don't have kids, you don't know what you're talking about. I don't care if you "practically raised" your siblings, have 10 dogs, nannied, or have a zillion nieces and nephews.