I am rapidly running out of pants that fit. :(

[cleo29]

And I just feel like I dumpy over all. I am now the heaviest I have been in 8 years.

I know what I have to do, but it is just hard to do it. 

And I went to Kohls to get one pair of larger work pants and they nothing.  I am trying to not spend too much money as I want to be able to wear the nice pants I already own. 

[madringal]

Trust me, I get it. I’m up 30 lbs in the last 4 months from steroids. Just buy the clothes. Nothing will make you feel more confident than clothes that fit. Your smaller stuff will be there in the future. But for right now, do your confidence a favor and buy yourself some beautiful new clothes that just fit well.

((hugs))

[cuadrado]

I’ve basically had to slowly buy a new wardrobe over the past 6 months. Just sticking to staples right now. Bodies change, it’s OK. You deserve to feel comfortable.

[jaycee]

I’m there too. Really struggling with weight gain and have had to buy lots of new clothes in bigger sizes.

[gretchenindisguise]

Oct 24, 2021 19:34:20 GMT -5 madringal said:

Trust me, I get it. I’m up 30 lbs in the last 4 months from steroids. Just buy the clothes. Nothing will make you feel more confident than clothes that fit. Your smaller stuff will be there in the future. But for right now, do your confidence a favor and buy yourself some beautiful new clothes that just fit well.

((hugs))

And paradoxically it may be exactly what you need to get back in the routine you want to be in.

When I feel dumpy - I have no motivation to change it. When I’m feeling confident and look good - I have increased motivation to keep that feeling.

Buy pants that make you look good, regardless of their size.

[aprilsails]

I just made the plunge and bought some more pants
in the right size for me right now. I’ve been doing well and started losing weight the past two months, however winter is here and I need clothes that fit and look professional now. Considering the roller coaster ride that has been the past 18 months I also know that it is far too likely that I will have further setbacks.

I had a lot more forgiving skirts I could wear in the summer, but pants are not so easy to work around. I also need to be comfortable.

[RockNVoll]

Agree with everyone else here. So many of us are in the same boat and getting stuff that fits will likely make you feel better. Macy's often has options at decent prices and constantly has sales if you want to try there.

[goldengirlz]

I agree with “just buy the clothes.”

I’ve come to realize that my weight is not what determines whether I’m “dumpy” or not. I follow a lot of body positive celebrities and influencers on Instagram and look at how they dress. I’m also at my heaviest weight ever but I feel more confident than I have in a while because I’ve figured out how to dress myself. I tell myself that it’s okay to have some extra weight because this is just how I look right now.

[bugandbibs]

Buy the clothes you need. I shop thredup.com a lot. It can be overwhelming, but if you know what brand you like best you can filter to a manageable page load by color and style.

[sadlebred]

Buy clothes that fit. If you don't want to invest a lot of money, go to consignment shops or thrift stores.

I'm the heaviest I've been in 20 years because of my heart problems. I have one leg that is swollen (edema), and we don't know why. I retain water like crazy elsewhere in my body, too. Thankfully many my pants still fit my waist---just not my calf--, but I'm living in PJs and leggings this winter.

[skidunks]

I agree with everyone else…but the clothes. I’m having to deal with weight gain that I can’t seem to change. I feel more comfortable in the clothes that fit than being I comfortable and pissed off in the stuff that’s too small.

[dochas]

I bought pants at Costco, which was almost as depressing as my weight gain. But I actually like them. They're stretchy, but not tight like leggings. Pointe pants, but I don't remember what else the label said. Wildly inexpensive and I feel pretty good in them.

[cleo29]

Oct 24, 2021 20:45:43 GMT -5 dochas said:

I bought pants at Costco, which was almost as depressing as my weight gain. But I actually like them. They're stretchy, but not tight like leggings. Pointe pants, but I don't remember what else the label said. Wildly inexpensive and I feel pretty good in them.

I bought some there. Still feeling meh. But they are decent pants. 

[wanderingback]

Weight doesn’t define a person’s worth.
Buy clothes that fit.
I’ve gained weight over the years and I buy clothes that I enjoy and still think I’m just as wonderful as I was 10, 30, 40, etc pounds ago.
There’s so much negative self talk around here, I’m sorry that people feel that way. It really is unfortunate and I really do hope you can recognize that you can be fabulous at any weight.

Also, in general I dislike shopping for pants cause my legs are short and they always need to be hemmed and the crotch never sits right, so especially in the fall/winter I love love wearing tights with skirts and dresses. So then there’s no need for pants. For the past several years I’ve been buying the vast majority of my clothes at thrift and consignment stores because they have good quality clothes for at least half the price. At least where I live there’s a lot of thrift and consignment stores that have wider size ranges, above 14 for example.

[Poeticxpassion]

Oct 24, 2021 20:30:16 GMT -5 bugandbibs said:

Buy the clothes you need. I shop thredup.com a lot. It can be overwhelming, but if you know what brand you like best you can filter to a manageable page load by color and style.

Do you have a referral for threadup? I would like to browse.

[sofamonkey]

You aren’t the same person as 8 years ago. And you’ve said in multiple weight posts that you know what you need to do. Maybe you do, maybe you need to delve into what that might truly be at this point in your life. No matter what, maybe consider being kinder to yourself as a first step.

I’m heavier than I ever have been, but while not ideal, accepting myself as good and wonderful no matter what the number says has been a really beneficial step for me. It was hard to do, and I still work on it, but it’s been such a positive influence and change in my life. I highly recommend it.

[cleo29]

Oct 24, 2021 20:54:51 GMT -5 wanderingback said:

Weight doesn’t define a person’s worth.
Buy clothes that fit.
I’ve gained weight over the years and I buy clothes that I enjoy and still think I’m just as wonderful as I was 10, 30, 40, etc pounds ago.
There’s so much negative self talk around here, I’m sorry that people feel that way. It really is unfortunate and I really do hope you can recognize that you can be fabulous at any weight.

Also, in general I dislike shopping for pants cause my legs are short and they always need to be hemmed and the crotch never sits right, so especially in the fall/winter I love love wearing tights with skirts and dresses. So then there’s no need for pants. At least where I live there’s a lot of thrift and consignment stores that have wider size ranges, above 14 for example.

I have been thinking of going the tights skirts/dress route this year. Pants are tough for me too, for whatever reason the crotch area can be tough at times. 

I like my work slacks from Ann Taylor, just do not want to spend that kind of money right now. I will definitely shift my focus to tights and skirts and dresses. Thanks

[cleo29]

Oct 24, 2021 21:03:51 GMT -5 sofamonkey said:

You aren’t the same person as 8 years ago. And you’ve said in multiple weight posts that you know what you need to do. Maybe you do, maybe you need to delve into what that might truly be at this point in your life. No matter what, maybe consider being kinder to yourself as a first step.

I’m heavier than I ever have been, but while not ideal, accepting myself as good and wonderful no matter what the number says has been a really beneficial step for me. It was hard to do, and I still work on it, but it’s been such a positive influence and change in my life. I highly recommend it.

My therapist wanted me to read the book Self Compassion. I think perhaps I should actually do that lol as I think I need it. 

[Doggy Mommy]

Yup. My pants are all too tight. I especially needed jeans (and preferably ones that are a little more in style right now). I gave up trying to find something cheap and went to Nordstrom last week, told the sales person what I wanted, and she found me some really great jeans. They're a size bigger than I want, but honestly I felt so much more confident in them rather than the uncomfortable, too tight ones I've been squeezing into. I'm not giving up on being a size down, I'm walking and working out more, and trying to be healthy. But I also decided not to beat myself up about it. I will happily buy other pants when I'm back to a size I'd like to be at, but me at this size also deserves to wear pants that fit!

[purplepenguin7]

Oct 24, 2021 20:58:48 GMT -5 Poeticxpassion said:

Oct 24, 2021 20:30:16 GMT -5 bugandbibs said:

Buy the clothes you need. I shop thredup.com a lot. It can be overwhelming, but if you know what brand you like best you can filter to a manageable page load by color and style.

Do you have a referral for threadup? I would like to browse.

I only sell on ThredUP, not really buy I can share mine just in case. Feel free to use someone else’s if they post bc I don’t need the credit.

www.thredup.com/r/KELVA9

Also when I went on there is a code for “up to 55% off and free shipping” with code HELLO55. That might get you a better deal.

Back to the OP, I agree buy new clothes that fit well and make you feel good. I am another one in the same boat. It’s a struggle trying to lose and constantly gaining but having a few solid pieces that fit well always helps.

[mambo123]

Yes yes. Sadly many of us are in the same club.

Just purchased some pants and jeans to get over this hump as old navy was having an online sale. So check there!

You will feel better in better fitting clothes.

[wanderingback]

Oct 24, 2021 21:28:37 GMT -5 mambo123 said:

Yes yes. Sadly many of us are in the same club.

Just purchased some pants and jeans to get over this hump as old navy was having an online sale. So check there!

You will feel better in better fitting clothes.

I would just like to point out that your phrase, "sadly many of us are in the same boat" is not true for everyone. It’s not sad that I/we weigh more than I/we did 8 years ago and I’m certainly not sad about it.

[tacokick]

I really just wear dresses. I decided I was tired of hunting down pants that I liked and fit and made the switch like 6 years ago? 8? It’s much more comfortable and the sizes don’t matter quite as much when shopping. I always look put together and getting dressed is so easy when you aren’t worrying about separates. It’s cheaper too—a dress is about what I was paying for pants and of course I don’t need shirts now. 95% of my wardrobe is from EShakti; I find their sizing to be very accurate.

I don’t really worry about size or weight but I know that is easier said than done for a lot of people. I have IBD and my weight has fluctuated a lot and my metabolism has taken a beating. I’m fine at any size. Dressing in clothes that you are comfortable in makes all the difference though!

[notsopicky]

Here's a story. In the year before the pandemic hit, I lost 44 lbs. I was damn proud of myself. I walked, limited grains, and counted calories (that is the only thing that works for me). I bought beautiful dresses, new shirts & pants, the works. FF though the pandemic, and I gained at least 30 of it back; I am a stress/opportunity eater. I now can't wear any of my beautiful clothes acquired pre-pandemic. Now that we're back to working FT in-person again, and still dealing with the stress of the pandemic (plus a hip injury), the stress is still there, and I can't get my act together. I'm sure H, all of my friends and my co-workers think that I'm a slob, that I have failed, and it's devastating. I know what needs to be done, I know how to do it, and I just can't.

I had to do exactly what you're describing--buy new clothes. I'm having a hard time even finding enough shirts that fit (I literally kept 3 shirts from "the before times" that I feel comfortable in to wear to work; I have a few others, but they're terrible).

Point is, buy the new clothes (I would if I could find them). And give yourself grace (although I can't seem to do that for myself). As soon as my kid can get vaxxed, I have to think that my stress will abate at least a little bit, and I can do what I need to do to return to where I want to be.

[bears]

notsopicky if I was your spouse or your friend, I would not think you were a slob because you gained weight. I would think, like a lot of people, your weight has fluctuated. Thinness is not a virtue.

[TR]

Those of you who say “I know what I need to do”, what is that? I’m going to bet it’s some kind of diet you can’t sustain long term and that won’t work long term. It’s really, really hard to come to terms with, but diets just don’t work. I will try to find links to studies, but in general, the weight almost always comes back and then some and then you’re at a higher weight than when you started the diet. And it goes on. So we tell ourselves it’s our fault, but it’s not.

[erbear]

Oct 25, 2021 7:43:30 GMT -5 TR said:

Those of you who say “I know what I need to do”, what is that? I’m going to bet it’s some kind of diet you can’t sustain long term and that won’t work long term. It’s really, really hard to come to terms with, but diets just don’t work. I will try to find links to studies, but in general, the weight almost always comes back and then some and then you’re at a higher weight than when you started the diet. And it goes on. So we tell ourselves it’s our fault, but it’s not.

I don't know. I know that if I didn't drink so much beer and exercised a few times a week, I would probably feel better. I know this. But I don't do it.

[sproctopus]

I was so, so proud when I lost weight. So much so that I kept myself in a PPD and anxiety fueled fog because I was terrified I would gain weight going back on a daily drug. And I did.

Clothes are meant to fit our bodies, not the other way around. Wear things that make you feel comfortable. I have the worst internal dialogue when my pants are tight, shirt fits weird, etc.

Diets are not sustainable. Not going on a diet (this includes Weight Watchers) says absolutely nothing about your ability to do the "right" thing. I think that very often we obsess over food intake because its one of the only tangible things in our lives we can fully control. And controlling it becomes an outlet for our anxieties-- this isn't a healthy relationship.

Looking different than we did is a part of the human experience. It says nothing about your worth.

[Jalapeñomel]

Oct 24, 2021 22:01:36 GMT -5 wanderingback said:

Oct 24, 2021 21:28:37 GMT -5 mambo123 said:

Yes yes. Sadly many of us are in the same club.

Just purchased some pants and jeans to get over this hump as old navy was having an online sale. So check there!

You will feel better in better fitting clothes.

I would just like to point out that your phrase, "sadly many of us are in the same boat" is not true for everyone. It’s not sad that I/we weigh more than I/we did 8 years ago and I’m certainly not sad about it.

Yes!


The world is cruel to women who put on weight, and we are just now relearning how to view weight in society.

Buy the pants. You’re beautiful at any weight.

[Velar Fricative]

I bought some pants that fit and feel a lot better. If you don't want to buy new clothes, I know lots of people are dealing with this and there might be local clothing swaps online for you.

Bonus - pants I'm buying these days are all elastic waist, not because that's what I sought, but because buttons and zippers seem to be disappearing from regular fashion. So if you do choose to buy more pants, you have this to look forward to. I will never buy pants with buttons and zippers again even if I get thinner lol.