Tuesday 2/8 Randoms (No 🤡)

[lilafowler]

I just want to thank isabel and TR for reading and caring about my mini breakdown yesterday. ❤️

It’s been a month since I was laid off and I’m still going through stuff. I know I sound dramatic, even I’m getting tired of myself.

[icedcoffee]

I'm sorry things are so rough lilafowler. I just read your random and I'm team you. I hope today is better!

I'm in the office today. I need to be productive.

Lately I can't stop thinking about getting a second beagle. As my dog gets older I am seriously paralyzed in fear about my mental health if something were to happen. I even brought it up to my therapist and he was not helpful with his "a second dog sound nice". No!! Tell me I'm crazy and it's a bad idea. Beagles are fucking lunatics.

[lilafowler]

icedcoffee I know I could have handled it better and I’m sure she has to make calls to defensive parents all the time. What made me upset was that when I asked her to familiarize me with the class she went and started speaking slower and enunciating and telling me what specialist classes are (art, music, etc.) and that they have them on a weekly basis. I didn’t appreciate her treating me like that. I know what a specialist class is. Don’t patronize me.

Anyways my H who is the actual educator in the family will call and speak with her today.

[wanderingback]

I recommended a patient go to the emergency department yesterday, which is very rare for me, I don’t think I’ve done that in over 2 years.

Anyway, I was texting with her while she was there and thankfully all was well and she got all the tests to rule out the possibly life threatening thing we thought was going on.

She was so appreciative of my help, so that made me feel good. Much better than patients yelling at you! I’ll prob eventually get out of full time direct patient care at some point in the future, but interactions like that make all the bullshit of insurance companies and paperwork worth it. I don’t want to give that kind of patient interaction up too soon!

[ProfessorArtNerd]

lilafowler I had no idea how depressed I was when I wasn’t working til I started again. It’s ROUGH. And when you’ve been there for a long time it definitely feels personal. It’s so hard! Vent when you need to, if you want you can get me on messenger.

My random- today lucy will see the psychiatrist to get started on medication. I hope this will help her. I met with the doctor yesterday and she thinks am ADHD diagnosis might be possible for her and I agree. The doctor even said she could tell I have OCD and what type by how I talked about my kids 😂. She’s GOOD!

[icedcoffee]

lilafowler, I get it. I've been in a similar spot. I hope your H gets clarity today.

[ProfessorArtNerd]

Oh and that teacher sounds like a dick wrinkle.

[lilafowler]

wanderingback have you ever had patients argue with you about going to the ER? My BFF is a nurse practitioner and she was on call one weekend and had two patients that she recommended to go to the ER and both of them argued with her! One wouldn’t go and kept trying to get her to make an appointment in the office on Monday (this was at 3am on a Sunday).

[calamity]

I'm in the office today and it is freezing in here! I'm wearing my jacket and mask just to keep warm.

We are going to look at a new car tonight, I'm so excited!

[twinmomma]

Feb 8, 2022 9:03:56 GMT -5 lilafowler said:

wanderingback have you ever had patients argue with you about going to the ER? My BFF is a nurse practitioner and she was on call one weekend and had two patients that she recommended to go to the ER and both of them argued with her! One wouldn’t go and kept trying to get her to make an appointment in the office on Monday (this was at 3am on a Sunday).

I'll confess - I argued with my PCP about going to the ER recently. She wanted me to get scans done to check for pulmonary embolism after COVID. Insurance was dragging their feet on approving the appointment, so my doctor wanted me to just go to the ER and request that they do it. But going to the ER would have meant 5+ hours of waiting around to be seen, sitting amongst sick people (mainly COVID+ people), and paying more for copays and everything. Insurance ended up approving the scans in time, which meant I could walk into the radiology department, get it done, and walk out in 20 minutes. I realize how ridiculous it sounded that I didn't want to go to the ER for such a serious thing, especially since it turns out I do have multiple clots, but I knew how it would pan out and didn't want to waste my time and money on it. 

[nancybotwin]

DD1 turns 12 tomorrow and I’m having so many feelings about it. She is really into aerial arts and wanted a rig for home practice- they are $$ so I told her we couldn’t do it but we got some other family members to chip in and while it’s still a LOT I’m so happy we can give her this. I’ve spent hours researching what to get, so this feels like it’s been a big project. She becomes alive when she does aerial and I love seeing her passion be nurtured.

[deadwing]

Feb 8, 2022 8:53:03 GMT -5 icedcoffee said:

I'm sorry things are so rough lilafowler . I just read your random and I'm team you. I hope today is better!

I'm in the office today. I need to be productive.

Lately I can't stop thinking about getting a second beagle. As my dog gets older I am seriously paralyzed in fear about my mental health if something were to happen. I even brought it up to my therapist and he was not helpful with his "a second dog sound nice". No!! Tell me I'm crazy and it's a bad idea. Beagles are fucking lunatics.

I adopted a second dog recently for this exact reason.  Feel free to PM me if you want to discuss.  I can't speak specifically to beagles, though.

[tacokick]

[mention]lilafowler [/mention] looking at it now—that whole interaction was weird on their part. When I had to call home I did the concern sandwich (lol) Summarize the class and specific concern, talk about what I was doing as the teacher to get better results and then give a suggestion of how the adults at home could support the goal. I wasn’t crowdsourcing tips for the classroom. I might have tried to ferret out if there were issues at home depending on the problem but that doesn’t sound like the issue here. Maybe they were annoyed both of you weren’t taking what seems like a very low key elective/extra as seriously as they did?

[lilypad1126]

lilafowler , losing your job (especially when it's one you've held for many years) is so, so hard! I'm sorry you are struggling.

My H is driving me up a wall this morning. He didn't sleep well so this morning, he's being super whiney. And I swear to god if he asks me what I want for dinner before I finish my coffee... Ugh.

[bex1973]

It's SO quiet in my office today - there are very few of us here and it's kind of a slow part of the semester so the phone and email has even been quiet. I have some trainings I need to get done but I really don't want to. It's one of those tasks I know I have to do and it probably won't take me long but I just don't want to - but then I'll be irritated with myself when I get them done because I know I've spend longer complaining/procrastinating them than it will actually take to just DO them LOL.

It's cold, I have a little heater but it's loud and it makes it even more dry in my office - so I'm trying to decide which is the lesser of the 2 evils.

I have a calendar on my desk that I got for Christmas that's really cute wit family pictures but I just realized yesterday I never flipped it from January to February so I guess I don't use it much haha.

We "interviewed" a couple of neighborhood sisters to use for babysitting and they were great. We've always been bad about having babysitter options so I'm glad we did this so that H and I can have date nights again. All of our previous sitters (those that weren't family) have moved away or stopped babysitting so it's been a while.

[TR]

(((lilafowler ))) also, I don't know what you do, but my company has a virtual office so a lot of positions are hired remotely and we have a lot of different types of roles. Just putting it out there lol

[tacokick]

Feb 8, 2022 8:53:03 GMT -5 icedcoffee said:

I'm sorry things are so rough lilafowler. I just read your random and I'm team you. I hope today is better!

I'm in the office today. I need to be productive.

Lately I can't stop thinking about getting a second beagle. As my dog gets older I am seriously paralyzed in fear about my mental health if something were to happen. I even brought it up to my therapist and he was not helpful with his "a second dog sound nice". No!! Tell me I'm crazy and it's a bad idea. Beagles are fucking lunatics.

But it is a good idea

We have a beagle mix and she is very sweet and 95% calm.

[Deleted]

I managed to throw out my back starting my car this morning. I took a Flexeril and have the heating pad on and am fighting falling asleep. Oh, and to add insult to injury, I think my period is showing up today after not having one since early December. Good times.

I had a second interview yesterday and I think it went well. Now I'm just waiting to hear back from the recruiter to find out when they expect to make their final decision. I'm hoping that it is sooner rather than later, I need to know one way or another because my nervous stomach is really bad right now.

[TR]

I'm expecting a call from our vet today re: putting Donny on medication. H has finally come around to my side of agreeing he needs something to help him not be so scared of everything all the time. I hope she's open to it. My ILs are coming to stay with us next weekend and I'm already stressing about how terribly he's going to behave. If we get something soon, maybe we can have him on it and having it help by then.

[flygirl]

((( lilafowler,))) hugs

Thank you to all who commented on my post yesterday- I went to the Dr and was practically waiting for him to tell me to stop eating, but he was very understanding and then had to leave for an emergency so my anxiety was all for nothing-til I get my test results-ha! I stopped myself from eating a cookie this morning-now I just need to do that 20 more times today! I think I need to see a nutritionist or someone to hold me accountable. Does anyone want to have a small support group? Maybe there is something like that already?

[TR]

Truly so very random: I'm rewatching Gilmore Girls as my falling asleep tv show and time makes no sense on this show. Rory has her first formal, right? So Emily brings that up at one of their Friday Night Dinners. Then, over some period of time Rory decides to go and asks Dean to go with her. Lorelei makes her dress. While finishing up the dress (presumably the night before the dance because she throws out her back and is on the couch for dance night) Emily calls Lorelei upset that Rory isn't going to the dance, Lorelei tells her she's going and yada yada yada says, "Do you want to come over Saturday night to see her leave?" WHAT. Wouldn't they be AT Friday night dinner then? And if it's Friday, why didn't she say "tomorrow night"? If it's NOT Friday, why wouldn't they have just seen her in between? And it had to be Friday because of Lorelei's back. It really bugged me lol

[midwestmama]

My DD turned 11 today! My baby (she's my youngest of two kids) is growing up so fast and I'm kind of emotional about it today. Just a low-key celebration planned for today - I'm picking her up from school (usually she rides the bus home), and then we'll go out to dinner as a family, then come home and have cake and she can open presents.

[mysteriouswife]

I will echo everyone else. Job loss is depressing and stressful. I lost a sense of who I was. It isn’t an easy transition. I hope you find a job soon

[lilafowler]

Feb 8, 2022 9:11:00 GMT -5 twinmomma said:

Feb 8, 2022 9:03:56 GMT -5 lilafowler said:

wanderingback have you ever had patients argue with you about going to the ER? My BFF is a nurse practitioner and she was on call one weekend and had two patients that she recommended to go to the ER and both of them argued with her! One wouldn’t go and kept trying to get her to make an appointment in the office on Monday (this was at 3am on a Sunday).

I'll confess - I argued with my PCP about going to the ER recently. She wanted me to get scans done to check for pulmonary embolism after COVID. Insurance was dragging their feet on approving the appointment, so my doctor wanted me to just go to the ER and request that they do it. But going to the ER would have meant 5+ hours of waiting around to be seen, sitting amongst sick people (mainly COVID+ people), and paying more for copays and everything. Insurance ended up approving the scans in time, which meant I could walk into the radiology department, get it done, and walk out in 20 minutes. I realize how ridiculous it sounded that I didn't want to go to the ER for such a serious thing, especially since it turns out I do have multiple clots, but I knew how it would pan out and didn't want to waste my time and money on it. 

I totally get that and she thinks that may have contributed to decisions made. She used to work in a neighborhood health clinic in an underprivileged area so unfortunately she’s familiar with it 😞

[wildrice]

Echoing everyone - getting laid off in 2014 was one of my low points of my life. I distinctly remember people here being like... um do you need counseling? medication? Because I was not in a great place at all. It's normal to feel that way and it will get better!

Speaking of low points in my life, I realized this morning when I was looking at my FB memories that February 5th came and went this year without a thought from me about how it was the day I ended my first marriage. It was 9 years ago so it's about time, but I usually at least have a fleeting thought of the anniversary (it's also my parents' wedding anniversary so that was a weird day). Tomorrow is my 5th wedding anniversary to my H, so February is always my "life is weird" month.

[daisyduck]

Feb 8, 2022 9:26:05 GMT -5 flygirl said:

((( lilafowler,))) hugs

Thank you to all who commented on my post yesterday- I went to the Dr and was practically waiting for him to tell me to stop eating, but he was very understanding and then had to leave for an emergency so my anxiety was all for nothing-til I get my test results-ha! I stopped myself from eating a cookie this morning-now I just need to do that 20 more times today! I think I need to see a nutritionist or someone to hold me accountable. Does anyone want to have a small support group? Maybe there is something like that already?

I have had periods where I didn't allow myself to eat sweets at work (if you work from home it could be during work hours), but I could have them in the evening and on weekends. My office always had a ton of junk that I didn't want to eat, and I was better about just banning it than trying to have moderation. It worked because I could treat myself when I got home or on the weekend. Maybe you could try something like that.

The more you eat sweets the more you crave them, so any amount you can cut out will help. Good luck! I hope you start to feel better and less stressed soon.

[tacokick]

Feb 8, 2022 9:27:23 GMT -5 TR said:

Truly so very random: I'm rewatching Gilmore Girls as my falling asleep tv show and time makes no sense on this show. Rory has her first formal, right? So Emily brings that up at one of their Friday Night Dinners. Then, over some period of time Rory decides to go and asks Dean to go with her. Lorelei makes her dress. While finishing up the dress (presumably the night before the dance because she throws out her back and is on the couch for dance night) Emily calls Lorelei upset that Rory isn't going to the dance, Lorelei tells her she's going and yada yada yada says, "Do you want to come over Saturday night to see her leave?" WHAT. Wouldn't they be AT Friday night dinner then? And if it's Friday, why didn't she say "tomorrow night"? If it's NOT Friday, why wouldn't they have just seen her in between? And it had to be Friday because of Lorelei's back. It really bugged me lol

I remember being irritated by this at the time. I think I decided it was post Friday night dinner. She was sewing after they got home because she does everything last minute and since they didn’t bring the dance up at dinner, Emily called because she was annoyed they didn’t talk about it and assumed she still wasn’t going. It has been a long time since I’ve seen that episode though.

I always notice stuff like this! It is the worst with books. I wish there was a job where you could just read for continuity, timelines and the correct pop culture references.

[maudefindlay]

lilafowler I hope things get better for you. Glad to hear your DH is taking over communicating with that teacher. She did not do whatever the purpose of that call was well. I will say that with teacher shortages we have found out this year that some people are being hired to fill those roles who are not necessarily qualified, they are just getting in under an emergency type situation clause. We found this out when one of DS1's elective classes was a hot mess. He complained daily that kids were throwing pencils, globs of hand sanitizer etc at everyone. I saw messages that teacher sent them on a day she had a sub, very threatening in nature. We got him out of there and in to another class. Going forward trying to watch out for this.

[TR]

Feb 8, 2022 10:01:46 GMT -5 tacokick said:

Feb 8, 2022 9:27:23 GMT -5 TR said:

Truly so very random: I'm rewatching Gilmore Girls as my falling asleep tv show and time makes no sense on this show. Rory has her first formal, right? So Emily brings that up at one of their Friday Night Dinners. Then, over some period of time Rory decides to go and asks Dean to go with her. Lorelei makes her dress. While finishing up the dress (presumably the night before the dance because she throws out her back and is on the couch for dance night) Emily calls Lorelei upset that Rory isn't going to the dance, Lorelei tells her she's going and yada yada yada says, "Do you want to come over Saturday night to see her leave?" WHAT. Wouldn't they be AT Friday night dinner then? And if it's Friday, why didn't she say "tomorrow night"? If it's NOT Friday, why wouldn't they have just seen her in between? And it had to be Friday because of Lorelei's back. It really bugged me lol

I remember being irritated by this at the time. I think I decided it was post Friday night dinner. She was sewing after they got home because she does everything last minute and since they didn’t bring the dance up at dinner, Emily called because she was annoyed they didn’t talk about it and assumed she still wasn’t going. It has been a long time since I’ve seen that episode though.

I always notice stuff like this! It is the worst with books. I wish there was a job where you could just read for continuity, timelines and the correct pop culture references.

Yeah, that's what has to have happened, but it's weird because they usually always show Friday Night Dinner. It's such a "thing". And then why did she say "Saturday night" instead of "tomorrow night"? lol Just call me Alexander Hamilton because I will never be satisfied.

[noodleoo]

Ok, I have to ask because its driving me nuts. What does the clown emoji mean? I must have missed something.