Yes I let DH drive my car and he lets me drive his car. We each have primary vehicle. Typically he drives because he is the more judgmental of driving/ other drivers than me. So I would prefer he drive then comment on MY driving, but then when he drives he comments on every one else's driving so it isn't really a win.
Post by expectantsteelerfan on Apr 25, 2023 15:19:26 GMT -5
H and I have our own vehicles, and we both definitely prefer driving 'our' vehicles, but we are both fine to drive each other's vehicles when there is a reason to, and there are definitely reasons to at times.
Like tomorrow, I will be dropping my car off for work to be done on it and picking up a rental car. Dh will be working from home. Then I need to pick up the dogs from boarding before the kids' afternoon activity craziness starts. It makes more sense to do that in dh's car than in the rental car, and dh will still be working, so I will take his car to do that.
We both get annoyed when the other has to move the seat, mirrors, or change any other settings, but we are adults who realize that that is part of driving someone else's car and get over it.
Yes, but I drive an suv and it has our youngest’s car seat. He drives a two door car so if my daughter is going and he needs to drive it has to be my car. If I’m going somewhere without kids I usually take his car so he can use mine, again because of the kids. And they are mine or his car in because we call them that but they are both ours.
But he’s doing like 50k a year. That’s a massive amount of driving.
Sure, he drives much more than a normal person, but she drives much less. It's comparing one major outlier to another at the opposite end of the spectrum so IMO not particularly relevant. Someone could be shocked that someone drives only 6k miles a year too!
Even someone who drives the average would be likely be surprised at someone who drives nearly five times that amount though!
IMO it’s easier to understand less than average mileage (people telecommute, live near work and shopping etc) but driving 4-5x more average is harder to conceptualize. The shear number of hours he’s spent in the car each year (each day!) must be massive.
We each have our primary vehicle, but we’re both “allowed” to drive both cars. Honestly unless there was some kind of weird circumstance (very specialized car, inherited or with sentimental value maybe) I don’t understand not “allowing” a spouse to operate a jointly-owned vehicle.
I also have never understood people getting upset that someone adjusts the mirrors. If someone else is driving my car, they’d damn well better adjust the mirrors so they can drive safely! And radio stations are easy to change back.
We swap cars are needed. I take his car when I go to see my mom because it gets slightly better gas mileage. My car is the road trip car so it has more miles on it. We split driving duties on trips. When we go places(meaning local errands), if we are taking my car, I usually drive. I notice that with my friends, many times it is the husband driving their car.
We both drive either, but I have a sedan and he has a SUV & hates driving smaller cars, so he'll only drive my car if he absolutely has to. I'll drive his if we're going downtown together and have to parallel park because he couldn't if his life depended on it. We generally take his car any time we go anywhere together since I work in home health and drive all day for work & want to minimize miles put on my car for other things.
Post by Leeham Rimes on Apr 25, 2023 17:38:43 GMT -5
Where the heck do they go to get that much mileage in 3-4 years? My husband drives for a living and has a much older car and doesn’t have that much mileage!
We usually use Hs car for family things I don’t know why. Just worked out that way. I wouldn’t ever refuse him driving my car if h said he wanted to use it/and or drive it for family stuff.
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While we have two cars that are nominally mine and his, we both drive them interchangeably depending on what we need that day. He does always take his car to work (i work from home)
ex-H liked his station wagons. I didn't. I preferred my Honda CRV. He would borrow it if he needed to get stuff at Home Depot b/c it could fit a ton with the seats folded down. Otherwise he didn't drive it much. About the only time I drove his car was when we traveled. We usually took it since it was much better on gas. It was a VW diesel that eventually got caught up in the emissions scandal...but it drove really nicely!
Post by verycontrary247 on Apr 25, 2023 21:56:02 GMT -5
Yes. Mine is the bigger more comfortable car so if we're going out together we typically take mine and he will drive. I'll take his if I'm going somewhere and he's got our toddler for the day because it's easier to get her in and out of.
It helps that he's only an inch or two taller than me so there are minimal adjustments to the seats needed.
Post by DotAndBuzz on Apr 25, 2023 22:12:43 GMT -5
He can drive it if he wants to, but he HATES it, and says it's uncomfortable. It's a subaru ascent, and I'm fairly convinced they're designed with women in mind, so it's not necessarily meant for a taller guy.
Likewise, I hate driving his car because I don't feel like I can ever get the seatbelt to hit me in the right spot. It cuts into my neck, even after I adjust it on the side. I'm 5'4", and I'd bet money his Tesla was designed "for" men, not shorter women.
He can if he wants to but he doesn't want to. He drives a Chevy 3/4 ton truck for hauling heavy equipment around. I drive a Chevy Trax. You could probably fit my car in the bed of his truck. So on the extremely rare occasion that he does drive mine, he comes back and says, that thing is so small we have to get you something bigger. I ignore him and 6 months later he will say the same thing. It's fine for me it just feels so small to him....he avoids it at all costs.
I, however, will never ever drive his truck and that annoys him. "Just take my truck" he says, if its parked in the way or something. That thing is fricking huge, I'm not parking it, it's a diesel and has way to many....things. Engine brakes, the whole exhaust system is wonky and if it regenerates you have to keep driving or some crap. So I could but I won't.
We each have our own vehicles and our own insurance policies. He has only driven my car once. Of course he isn't the biggest fan of my car being 6'2" and me driving a mustang LOL. I have never driven his SUV.
Well, I went out to run errands this morning, and asked if he could take my car. 😂 One of his errands is to stop by my friends house and pick up a shrub, so cool, I don’t have to drive up there after work, when the traffic is annoying and my friend won’t even be home. If they were home, I’d want to visit. But, for just a PPU? Nah..,
I do not drive my husbands truck because I don't feel comfortable driving large vehicles. I've always had smaller cars. His truck has a lot of miles on it because he drives a lot for work and we take it on trips because it's roomier than my car. If we are going into a city or something we always take my car because it's easier to park. He usually drives if we are going somewhere but I don't mind driving if he wants me to. I drive a prius. I don't care if he drives my car as long as I don't need it. I prefer he puts gas in it if he drives it all out but other than that I don't care.