I’m so sorry to hear this, Wandering. My thoughts and heart are with you both—you are so kind and giving to others and I hope my thoughts help you even the tiniest bit as much as yours have helped me over the years.
Post by emilyinchile on Jun 8, 2023 19:11:10 GMT -5
Oh lady, sending you guys such big hugs and the best vibes for his treatment. This must be so scary for you both, especially as new parents, and obviously please continue to share here however it can be a support to you <3
So many hugs to you. Sending lots of positive thoughts your way.
My coworker is currently going through this with her DH. He just had surgery to “scrape out” the cancer cells, and I think the plan is for him to have a scan soon to check on success of that, then they will likely go in one more time for another scraping to get any areas they missed. Then continued monitoring/scans, but they are very optimistic, and have been told that bladder cancer is relatively easily treatable. It just means a fair amount of going in for scans to keep an eye on things.
ETA: apparently the surgery was NBD for him, as they went in though the pre-existing hole/aka no incision was needed.
Oh I’m so sorry to see this. Sending you both all the strength and good vibes. It sounds like you are both in very good hands. I hope for his continued recovery.
Post by mainelyfoolish on Jun 8, 2023 20:14:20 GMT -5
I’m going through this now from the patient side. I got my diagnosis of non-invasive urothelial carcinoma (in my bladder) about 9 months ago. As a female non-smoker under 50, that was not something I ever expected. My tumor had some high grade cells so I had a second TURBT and am doing BCG treatments now. I’m comforted by the fact that when it’s caught and treated at this stage, it rarely ever becomes life threatening. But I’m still on a roller coaster of emotions, even if it is just a “little bit” of cancer. I was able to get some support from a local cancer resource center; I recommend looking into something like that in your area for you and your partner, or just you if he doesn’t want to go for himself.
I hope his surgery goes well and that this is just a small speed bump in your lives! Feel free to PM me if you want to talk more.
ETA - I highly recommend wearing Fuck Cancer socks to the hospital on surgery day.
Sending all the good thoughts and strength. It’s life altering to receive a news like this and realize there are challenges ahead. I wish you all the smoothest road and remember this community is here for you. Take care of yourself (a most hated phrase when my H was first diagnosed) however you can.
While I am glad his prognosis is good, I am sorry you guys are going through this, especially as new parents. Please keep us posted and let us know if you need support!
Post by timorousbeastie on Jun 8, 2023 20:53:12 GMT -5
I’m so sorry you’re going through this, but I’m glad that it seems contained at this point. Fuck cancer. I hope the time until surgery passes as quickly as possible; the waiting for the next step is always so terrible.
Be sure to take care of yourself. If you think it may help to talk to others going through the same, look into support groups. If there is a Gilda’s Club in your area, I can’t recommend them enough. They have support programs for the patient, for loved ones, for children of the patient (obviously your daughter is young for that, but I thought I’d mention that in case that info is helpful to anyone else who needs it). My local Gilda’s played an incredible role in getting through my own diagnosis many years ago. If you feel like that could be helpful to you or your SO, don’t hesitate to reach out to a local group.
I don’t know exactly how old you and partner are, but under 40 (some places 45) is considered an adolescent and young adult (AYA) cancer. I tend to self-identify AYA, probably bc my OG Dx was at 29. Anyways there are a couple resources I know of for the AYA cancer community. Gryt, Stupid Cancer, and Elephants & Tea. I Twitter-know the guy who started Stupid Cancer, he started the org because there weren’t AYA support resources when he was first diagnosed (and we’ve chatted about that a lot, he is my age, which is decidedly not AYA anymore). If he wants to talk to others dealing with things like being young, new dad, and cancer - these are probably places he (and you) can find support. It’s a shitty club to be in.
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Post by wanderingback on Jun 9, 2023 3:21:51 GMT -5
Thanks everyone for the thoughts and positive anecdotes.
mainelyfoolish, sorry you’re going through this as well. Glad it seems like the treatment is going ok for you. Thanks for sharing. He did tell me his doctor said she might have to do a 2nd procedure so I was wondering why but that makes sense with what happened to you and what you describe, so that makes me feel better.