TW - Cancer (update)

[wanderingback]

My partner has a malignant tumor in his bladder. He/we haven't told anyone, so I think I just needed to get it off my chest.
Thankfully what we know so far seems like it can just be removed, but ugh, what a 1.5 weeks it's been, it feels like so much longer!

From my medical knowledge and a few patients I've had with bladder cancer I knew that it typically doesn't spread, so I was trying to think logically, but a few days before it was found he had an unexplained fever to 102 for 2 nights so I was freaked out. Plus his cpap was in our other house accidentally so he wasn't sleeping well, so he was extra tired. So I was like fever plus fatigue, ugh that's not good. Plus he had other symptoms about 1.5 years ago that he didn't follow up on, so that was also a little worrisome.

But he had a CT this week and all looks fine and not anywhere else. Plus based on visualization during a cystoscopy, the cytology from a urine sample and the CT images it looks like a specific type and low grade that typically doesn't spread. 

He's a typical guy that doesn't share feelings too much, so I feel like we didn't talk too much the first 2 days. Poor thing was obviously so worried and all he told me was, "I just want to continue to be her dad" as we were laying together with our daughter, heart wrenching. 

His doctor's are still in our other city, so that makes it a little more complicated. But he has his surgery scheduled, my work is very understanding, so that's good. I think he'll have to continue to have regular monitoring with cystoscopies, but hopefully this is just a small speed bump.

I know others have gone through this so thanks for listening!

Updated on 4th page.....

[minzy]

Thinking of you all! 🤞

[dove]

I’m so sorry you are both facing this. Hoping for the best

And obligatory “Fuck cancer”.

[daisycat]

Sending lots of good thoughts to you and your partner for complete removal and speedy recovery.

You are not alone. My dad was just diagnosed with a bladder tumor this morning via a cystoscopy (it didn't show up on other scans). Luckily it doesn't appear to have spread. We don't know whether it is malignant, but the dr. wants it removed right away, so surgery is being scheduled for next week.

[pierogigirl]

Sending speedy recovery thoughts.

[scm1011]

I’m so sorry; keeping your little family in my thoughts. I’m glad that it seems like a manageable case and I hope it stays that way.

[blondemoment123]

Sending good thoughts your way!

Anecdote: My mom had bladder cancer that was treated in the summer of 2019. She's been doing well since.

[mofongo]

((@wandering)) I'm sorry, so scary!

[sometimesrunner]

How scary! I’m glad it sounds like it’s treatable. Sending good thoughts your way.

[InBetweenDays]

Sorry you are going through this scary time. I hope the surgery goes well and he's soon on the road to full recovery.

[Saudade]

(((wanderingback)))

My thoughts are with you. I’ve had many patients with the same or hx of same and all have done well. I know it’s anecdotal but maybe it will bring a little solace

[aprilsails]

Big hugs to you and your partner. I hope he has a successful surgery, a swift recovery, and a lifetime of happy days with you and your daughter.

[underwaterrhymes]

That’s scary news to get. How are you doing?

[mpm]

So sorry to hear this. My uncle had bladder cancer. It was rough, but he’s on the other side of treatment now.

[RoxMonster]

I'm so sorry to hear this. You and your family are in my thoughts.

[lilypad1126]

I’m so sorry to hear this. I am glad that so far it seems like it hasn’t spread. Sending healing thoughts your way!

[CurlyQ284]

((big hugs)) hoping for a swift recovery

[dexteroni]

Oh my goodness I’m sorry. I’m very glad that it’s a kind that doesn’t spread. I hope he has a speedy recovery and is feeling back to normal in no time.

[Jalapeñomel]

Oh no! Sending so much love. 🧡🧡🧡

[cleo29]

I am so sorry to hear this! Keeping both of you in my thoughts and that his prognosis will continue to be good.

[goldengirlz]

I’m so sorry to hear this. It sounds like it’s contained, so hopefully this is just a blip in an otherwise long, healthy life.

I’ve gone through something similar with my H; I so understand what you’re feeling and send you my best wishes. 💙

[mysteriouswife]

I’m sorry to hear this.

I will share a positive story, if you feel inclined to read.

H’s uncle had bladder cancer. He’s 5 years out and no reoccurrence. He had the tumor removed and precautionary treatments. (Don’t remember if it was radiation or chemotherapy) Outside of a few weeks of rest and recovery he has been fine. He has yearly checks at this point. I can ask for more details if you would like. H probably remembers more than me.

[googled]

I’m sorry y’all are going through this. Big hugs!

[ohgillian]

So sorry you guys are going thru this. Life with a baby is already challenging. Please let us know how the board can support you, as you go.

Also daisycat I’m sorry about your dad’s diagnosis too.

[cricketwife]

I’m so sorry you all are going through this. I wish the most positive outcome for your partner and hope that this quickly becomes a chapter in the rear view mirror.

[gummybear]

I am so sorry you are all going through this. Holding you all in the light and wishing your partner a comfortable and successful path to healing.

[VillainV]

I’m so sorry that you’re going through this, and I’m praying for an easy and swift course of treatment and full recovery. I know it’s hard to talk about, but I hope this place can be a pressure relief valve for you. Lord knows many of us on this board has gone through some things over the years, and you have ALWAYS been there for us. Let us be here for you now.

[jinkies]

I'm so sorry you are going through this, but glad it's a good prognosis. Sending love to you and your partner.

[Bad Dingo]

So many hugs to you all <3

[expectantsteelerfan]

Sending good thoughts that all goes well and he has a speedy recovery. That is a lot for you both to deal with, I'm sorry.