Post by 1confused1 on Sept 18, 2023 11:26:47 GMT -5
My daughter and I went shopping for Homecoming dresses this weekend. The line for the fitting room was so long that we just decided to buy all the dresses she liked and try them on at home. I swear we will do this from now on. She was so much more comfortable trying them at home, we live close enough to the mall that we can return everything easily.
I usually don't complain about the price of stuff because there's nothing I can do, but it was over $90 for us to go out to Mexican this weekend and I'm just like "damn."
I remember going to the same place in college and getting lunch for $5.
E goes "mommy, that was like 20 years ago, you're old." Thanks kid, thanks.
Did it at least include good margaritas?
DH had beer and I opted for a pina colada, but yes, both delicious.
Post by litskispeciality on Sept 18, 2023 11:36:49 GMT -5
I slept bad last night too. We ripped up the basement floor (::sobs: yesterday and I was ex-hausted all day, like falling asleep on the couch until I went to bed...then woke up a bunch of times during the night.
Let me preface this next part that I understand mental health professionals, psychiatry, social work, and those who work with senior citizens who have dementia are overworked, underpaid, understaffed and so on. I really feel bad when I make a call to an office and make an ask of these staff. I'm trying to calm myself here. We're still waiting for my dad's test results to give us an idea of what kind of dementia he has. The place requires a support person be at every meeting (understandable and important.) We've been going through this with the agency since April of this year. Last month my dad was able to not only get a live person on the phone (they never answer any line or return calls within 3 business days), but he cancels his results apt and doesn't remember to tell my brother or I. What gets me is that a manager spent a long time trying to save the apt, but never called my brother or I to confirm we in fact weren't helping him on Zoom when my brother had taken the (next) day off for said apt. So dad's rescheduled tomorrow, and a lot of staff are moving things around to squeeze us in (a month later). I got the manager on the phone today, and she was a snatch, refusing to make a note to not let him cancel again. I think this is karma because I swore at her during the canceled apt day (although I apologized many times), but like doood, don't let this get canceled. I have a super long day driving up to my dads, then working another half day out of his place so I don't have to use PTO. I really hope this is the last apt for a while because it's taking a toll on my brother and I.
On a positive note, I can't remember if I posted this. DH and I are going away for our anniversary and we're staying at the (fancy) place we got engaged. They were open that they have to pay a pretty hefty price to the booking sites, so they offered 10% off if we canceled the online booking and re-booked through them. We ended up with a nicer room and saved over $60, which sadly will cover like lunch. Anyway I'm really excited.
I'm sorry that you are going through that litskispeciality, it's a lot. And I am agog that they won't put a note in the file of a dementia patient to not let him cancel appointments, that is just crazy to me.
Last year I bought a vest from LL Bean, but somehow got the sizing off. I probably should have gotten a large, but I got an XL. It fits, but it's got a bit more room than I prefer.
I was thinking of selling it to get the Large, but DH tells me no one cares, but me and that it looks fine. It doesn't look too big at all.
He's probably right, but my brain just can't seem to get over this honestly small thing.
If you have cleaners, do they come at a consistent time? I am thinking about switching. We use a service, which I like because they are insured. But it seems to just stress me out on cleaning days. They can come anytime throughout the day, and there is an app that tells you the morning of the cleaning approximately what time they will come, within a 1.5 hour window. But it often changes throughout and sometimes they just randomly show up hours earlier than what the app says. I feel very privileged to have cleaners so I hate to complain, but when we both are working from home it can be kind of difficult to schedule meetings, eat meals, etc when we don't know when we will have to get out of their way. Is this normal? I would really prefer a consistent time, or at least to know in advance the approximate time so we can move things around if needed.
Omg. So I have a ton of eye issues including retina problems so I see a retina specialist every 6 months. In June I was getting weird new floaters and we were about to go to Costa Rica so I was worried and called my eye dr. My regular retina guy wasn’t in that day so I saw a colleague who did a retina exam, assured me I was fine, said it was no problem traveling, and sent me on my way.
Today I had my regular check up with my regular retina dr - he gets all concerned when I’m talking to him about this because he can see from mr retinal scans that I DID have a problem in June and the other guy missed it! Apparently I should have had all these follow ups done, he would have potentially advised against traveling, and at a minimum would have gotten me set up with a dr/hospital contact in Costa Rica. OMG. Thank GOD the issue is now ok but WTF. I’m basically having a retroactive panic attack.
Last year I bought a vest from LL Bean, but somehow got the sizing off. I probably should have gotten a large, but I got an XL. It fits, but it's got a bit more room than I prefer.
I was thinking of selling it to get the Large, but DH tells me no one cares, but me and that it looks fine. It doesn't look too big at all.
He's probably right, but my brain just can't seem to get over this honestly small thing.
If it bothers you, it's real. Do you think you could have the vest tailored to fit better? Not sure if that would be more economical than selling and rebuying.
If you have cleaners, do they come at a consistent time? I am thinking about switching. We use a service, which I like because they are insured. But it seems to just stress me out on cleaning days. They can come anytime throughout the day, and there is an app that tells you the morning of the cleaning approximately what time they will come, within a 1.5 hour window. But it often changes throughout and sometimes they just randomly show up hours earlier than what the app says. I feel very privileged to have cleaners so I hate to complain, but when we both are working from home it can be kind of difficult to schedule meetings, eat meals, etc when we don't know when we will have to get out of their way. Is this normal? I would really prefer a consistent time, or at least to know in advance the approximate time so we can move things around if needed.
our cleaning lady comes at a consistent time within an hour (so she arrives anywhere between 11:30-12:30). But she runs her own business/it’s just her and she has consistent clients on each day
Last year I bought a vest from LL Bean, but somehow got the sizing off. I probably should have gotten a large, but I got an XL. It fits, but it's got a bit more room than I prefer.
I was thinking of selling it to get the Large, but DH tells me no one cares, but me and that it looks fine. It doesn't look too big at all.
He's probably right, but my brain just can't seem to get over this honestly small thing.
totally get what you are comfortable with! You should only wear clothes you like and are comfortable in (altitude for outer wear like vests I sometimes size up since I know I’ll be wearing them over big/bulky sweaters etc. so base the fit off what you will wear under it. If it’s too big definitely sell!)
If you have cleaners, do they come at a consistent time?
Yes. They come at 9am every other Monday. She lets me know if she needs to come later due to an appointment. I really only care in the summers when DH is there so he can leave before they get there (we both hate to be home when they clean).
We have an extra busy week with cheer pictures and Homecoming activities added on top of the usual chaos. I'm leaving work early 3 days to manage it because of course this week has an early release day scheduled as well. I joked with H that this would probably be the week they finally finish with my truck and we'd have to add it coordinating picking that up LOL
Related to homecoming and cheer - Friday is of course school spirit day and then the parade is that day. Kid came home last week saying that they get to wear their uniforms to school on Friday and I was like - perfect, got spirit covered and will make it easier to not have to take time to change between school and parade drop off. Someone asked in the group text if uniforms on Friday were allowed and the coach said they had to ask the coordinator. What? I replied that someone told them that last week. We paid for these uniforms so my kid will wear hers regardless. There is a lot of unnecessary chaos in this team!
I want & need to go clothes shopping because so many items are just falling apart or are just very outdated. But I also don't want to go shopping because I so often end up frustrated when I try to find stuff. I also really need new dress shoes so maybe I'll start with that because that's usually not so frustrating - maybe because I've worn the same size shoe since 7th grade and nothing else is the same size as 7th grade LOL
Post by litskispeciality on Sept 18, 2023 12:07:23 GMT -5
ssmjlm, I think my answer would depend on if it's comfortable or not. I try to buy a size up as I like to have room to breathe, and I think a vest would feel more comfortable with a little space. I can see though being self conscious if it really doesn't fit right and sort of just hangs if that makes sense. I agree with deadwing to look in to tailoring first, as the price of a new vest might be more than just having it taken in. Also hope you're starting to feel better.
@sameoldstory, thank you! My brother and I were like "WTF, how did you let him cancel his apt?" when it happened last month. Like literally their whole practice you have to be over 65, and have at least one referral from PCP or neurologist etc. to even be screened, so you know that the patient is either in denial and doesn't want to go, doesn't understand or remember why they need the apt and so on. How dare you not call the support person, and even just say "we didn't get a response within so long so we canceled. I told DH if we literally had any other choice in care I would start all over again because these people are so unprofessional and hard to work with. Thankfully the person who did the testing is better, but I think this will be our last time seeing her My dad's fantastic neuro can't do any of this either, just refers us to someone else to tell us what he already knows. The only saving grace is my number is on the confirm, so we think he won't know about this until I show up tomorrow. I'm making sure not to tell him tonight either. I'm sorry I'm treating him like a child, but this is not his first rodeo with canceling apts. and forgetting to tell us until we're there wasting PTO. My brother is a little better with setting boundaries and talks me down a lot.
If you have cleaners, do they come at a consistent time?
Yes. They come at 9am every other Monday. She lets me know if she needs to come later due to an appointment. I really only care in the summers when DH is there so he can leave before they get there (we both hate to be home when they clean).
Same. On the random dates that a change needs to be made it's communicated prior to. I would NOT like a "show up anytime" type set up!
Post by jackie011 on Sept 18, 2023 12:17:30 GMT -5
maudefindlay tomorrow. She just told me she has no plans to leave the house today. So glad I took the day off work 😖 DH has a huge presentation this afternoon and I told him we’d vacate (he works remotely). This should really ease the tension 🙄
If you have cleaners, do they come at a consistent time?
I miss having cleaners! When I did have them, it was an individual and then she would bring 1-2 others with her. They were pretty punctual. We had a scheduled time, and they would always confirm a day or two before, and if they weren't going to make it at the normal time for any reason they would communicate that. This girl actual took over the business from her cousin. When the cousin was doing my cleanings, she was less timely and was pretty much late every single time. I didn't mind so much if I was in the office, but then I started working from home full time and wanted my office space cleaned and it was always hard when she just showed up whenever and I had meetings and what not.
I had Beyoncé tickets with 3 friends. One had a baby 6 weeks early, and another didn't want to go so we decided to sell them.
When she went to list them there was an offer, which was $270 more than what we paid per ticket. We took it.
One of the friends checked, they were immediately re-listed for $1073! We paid $206 initially!
That is insane, and I feel kind of bad, like did we contribute to this problem by accepting the offer? They aren't really selling at those high prices but idk.
Also it was on a Wednesday! I wouldn't have agreed to go had I realized that in advance.
Ok douche, go ahead and call it mud. My husband DID have halitosis. We addressed it after I talked to you girls on here and guess what? Years later, no problem. Mofongo, you're a cunt. Eat shit. ~anonnamus
Post by mrsukyankee on Sept 18, 2023 12:31:26 GMT -5
We did a food and drink tour in Lisbon last night...and then my husband decided we needed to join the late night party tour. We are both hungover and tired (as we didn't sleep well for obvious reasons). It was a lot of fun, though. It's our last night in Lisbon and I don't see myself having more than one drink of wine tonight as we're heading to Porto next and that will include a lot of port tastings. My liver is going to need a break after this!
We got a dog yesterday and she’s great. I know we may have a honeymoon period with her, but so far she’s cooperative, adores the kids, but loves snuggles from anyone, and hasn’t barked once. We came to us filthy so I bathed her this morning and I now understand why pet stores have dog washing stations.
Post by beerlover on Sept 18, 2023 13:10:03 GMT -5
My random of the day:
I have this neighbor who is very nice, definitely a little odd, but would do anything to help you, I should preface with that. She does not have a job and doesn't seem to go very many places so she's always home. But she.is.always.outside. and I feel like I can never quite enjoy myself in my yard or porch without coming across her and having to chat. The houses on our street are very close together. I cannot go in my yard without her being outside in her yard and saying "whatcha doing?" and it leading into a conversation. I am raking leaves, WTF does it look like I am doing. Do we have to talk every single time. I try to wear my Airpods so that she sees I can't hear her, and that works sometimes, but often times I get trapped in a conversation for 20 minutes because I'm bad at getting away from people, and I don't want to look rude. It just makes me not want to go in my yard at all, which is ridiculous. I just went to my unattached garage in the alley to get a few things and I saw her in her yard when I was about to come back inside, so I literally walked around the block and in through my front door so that I didn't have to talk to her, lol. I guess this is a social anxiety thing? I'm always fine if we do end up talking, but I just dread seeing her and getting into it. I am a weirdo, right?
Post by NewGirlNic on Sept 18, 2023 13:11:11 GMT -5
We had a such a fun, busy weekend and I am now going to be exhausted all week, I can feel it. Friday we took the day off and went to a music festival. It was fun and a long day. I'm getting too old for all day music fests. Saturday H got up early to golf, which meant I was up early too. We had a wedding in the evening. Sunday I was so hungover, but had already bought all the stuff to make sauce and meatballs, so H helped and we made about 75 meatballs. I laid on the couch watching football all afternoon and went to bed at 9. I'm still tired. Hangovers last multiple days now. Ugh. I cannot wait to get into bed tonight.
We got a dog yesterday and she’s great. I know we may have a honeymoon period with her, but so far she’s cooperative, adores the kids, but loves snuggles from anyone, and hasn’t barked once. We came to us filthy so I bathed her this morning and I now understand why pet stores have dog washing stations.
I have this neighbor who is very nice, definitely a little odd, but would do anything to help you, I should preface with that. She does not have a job and doesn't seem to go very many places so she's always home. But she.is.always.outside. and I feel like I can never quite enjoy myself in my yard or porch without coming across her and having to chat. The houses on our street are very close together. I cannot go in my yard without her being outside in her yard and saying "whatcha doing?" and it leading into a conversation. I am raking leaves, WTF does it look like I am doing. Do we have to talk every single time. I try to wear my Airpods so that she sees I can't hear her, and that works sometimes, but often times I get trapped in a conversation for 20 minutes because I'm bad at getting away from people, and I don't want to look rude. It just makes me not want to go in my yard at all, which is ridiculous. I just went to my unattached garage in the alley to get a few things and I saw her in her yard when I was about to come back inside, so I literally walked around the block and in through my front door so that I didn't have to talk to her, lol. I guess this is a social anxiety thing? I'm always fine if we do end up talking, but I just dread seeing her and getting into it. I am a weirdo, right?
No you are not a weirdo. That is a nightmare. We have a new neighbor who just moved in this summer and I feel similar, but it's not as bad. He's on the front porch a lot, which is where I like to sit after dinner to read. So I've moved to the backyard now. He's very nice but just talks and talks and talks. I came home from grocery shopping Saturday and was trying to bring bags in the house and he wouldn't stop talking. As I'm standing there with 3 bags over each arm about to fall over.
I have this neighbor who is very nice, definitely a little odd, but would do anything to help you, I should preface with that. She does not have a job and doesn't seem to go very many places so she's always home. But she.is.always.outside. and I feel like I can never quite enjoy myself in my yard or porch without coming across her and having to chat. The houses on our street are very close together. I cannot go in my yard without her being outside in her yard and saying "whatcha doing?" and it leading into a conversation. I am raking leaves, WTF does it look like I am doing. Do we have to talk every single time. I try to wear my Airpods so that she sees I can't hear her, and that works sometimes, but often times I get trapped in a conversation for 20 minutes because I'm bad at getting away from people, and I don't want to look rude. It just makes me not want to go in my yard at all, which is ridiculous. I just went to my unattached garage in the alley to get a few things and I saw her in her yard when I was about to come back inside, so I literally walked around the block and in through my front door so that I didn't have to talk to her, lol. I guess this is a social anxiety thing? I'm always fine if we do end up talking, but I just dread seeing her and getting into it. I am a weirdo, right?
I have a neighbor like this. I vote neighbor is the weird one. I replaced my picket fence with a privacy fence for other reasons, but it also fixed the annoying neighbor problem. It was the same conversation every time. I don't have the patience for that shit.