Post by lilafowler on Sept 20, 2023 6:36:53 GMT -5
I have calmed down after my rage post over my kid and chores. I promise I love my kid and try to help her but I have just been so frustrated lately. Mentally I took it out on her-it did help to type it out to get me to really think about it.
This week at work is an employee appreciation week. Yesterday there was an ice cream bar in the cafe and on Thursday they’re bringing in Chinese food. We also got muscle rollers and massage balls in a little drawstring bag.
On top of the ice cream one of the sales reps in Alabama sent a coworker a jar of his favorite bbq sauce to share with all of us (we’re a small group and tend to talk to the same reps daily) so my boss ordered some chicken tenders and wings so we could try it. It was good and now I want to order some and make ribs.
I'm never getting divorced. My STBXH lawyer keeps asking for more and more documentation. At this point, the only thing he hasn't asked for is my medical charts. We were very close to settlement, and they requested that I get a mortgage pre-approval, which I did, but STBXH has changed his mind again. Now he doesn't agree with settling based on the appraised value, instead he wants a realtor to look at the house because he thinks it will sell for even higher than that. I'm losing my mind. I can't stop crying. The approval that I got is the absolute max of my budget. If we have to go this route, I'm going to have to sell. I don't know how much more I can take. It's been a year of this crap and he still lives here.
My 10yo came home from her volleyball game last night saying she was freezing. Her fever was 104! Negative for COVID, strep and flu and urgent care got it down to 101 with Motrin and Tylenol.
By 10:30 she was in tears bc she was “sweating too much to sleep.” I gave more Motrin and then Tylenol at 1:30am even though she felt cool. Still felt cool at 4:30am and now(still sleeping).
Is it possible to have a fever THAT high and it to break that quickly? I hope we didn’t take down the 5th grade class and/or volleyball team.
I’m working a few hours then flying to Kansas City. I managed to pack carry on, and I hope I didn’t forget anything. I threw in a rain jacket last minute, because I remembered to check the forecast. I’m trying not to make too many jokes about it, but Kansas City, sorry locals, is not a cool boondoggle.
((( @sameoldstory ))) I fucking hate that piece of shit. I preface this with I know nothing about the legalities of all this: What happens if you just say no to the realtor demand? Why do you have to be the one to give in on everything? I'd push back.
((( @sameoldstory ))) I fucking hate that piece of shit. I preface this with I know nothing about the legalities of all this: What happens if you just say no to the realtor demand? Why do you have to be the one to give in on everything? I'd push back.
I honestly don't know. From talking to a couple of people, in the end it might not even matter, because an appraisal and a market analysis should supposedly be in line any way since both are based on comps. So, who knows. All I know is that the more he drags this out, the more it puts me in a financial hole. Between this and my custody case I'm already $10K in to my attorney. I can't afford much more. Which is also why I'm dreading calling my attorney about this knowing that it's only going to cost me more money. Ugh.
((( @sameoldstory ))) I fucking hate that piece of shit. I preface this with I know nothing about the legalities of all this: What happens if you just say no to the realtor demand? Why do you have to be the one to give in on everything? I'd push back.
This. It sounds like you've given in on money etc. Can you counterdemand like ok we'll do this, but then I'm not doing....
Also, have housing prices in your area changed at all for the better? Does it still make sense to hang on to this place that carries his memory vs a clean slate elsewhere?
Post by starburst604 on Sept 20, 2023 7:51:39 GMT -5
When I did my weekly grocery pickup, I got home and saw they accidentally included a bag of Freshpet large breed fresh food. We feed the dog regular PurinaPro kibble but I figured rather than waste it we’d mix it in with some of his kibble until we use it up. OMG. I’m not sure we’ll be able to return to just normal kibble because it’s like crack to him. He’s a lab so he’s always happy to eat anything, but he doesn’t beg for his breakfast and dinner. He’s had 3 meals with this mixed in and this morning he was doing circles while I prepped his food and bounced along beside me as I went to set it down. It’s well reviewed with seemingly healthy ingredients but damn I didn’t intend to create a bougie eater of a dog lol.
Post by maudefindlay on Sept 20, 2023 7:53:55 GMT -5
It's school picture day for DS1 (freshman). I asked what he was wearing and he said it didn't matter. Apparently the boys' cc team has a sweater, as in one, that they all pass around and wear for their photos which are also used for their school IDs. I'm envisioning an ugly Christmas sweater.
Ugh, I had some contractors out last week for quotes on adding a roof over our patio with lights and ceiling fans. The first guy sent his quote within 24 hours. The other dude, David, now wants to meet to go over everything and what they will do. David, that's what we did last week, I want the numbers David. A meeting with him at this point is I'm guessing a high pressure sales tactic. We don't plan to go with David at this point, but I do want the quote to see if it is in line with the first guy's quote.
((( @sameoldstory ))) I fucking hate that piece of shit. I preface this with I know nothing about the legalities of all this: What happens if you just say no to the realtor demand? Why do you have to be the one to give in on everything? I'd push back.
This. It sounds like you've given in on money etc. Can you counterdemand like ok we'll do this, but then I'm not doing....
Also, have housing prices in your area changed at all for the better? Does it still make sense to hang on to this place that carries his memory vs a clean slate elsewhere?
Unfortunately housing prices here are still pretty insane. Even to downsize in to a rental is going to be more than my mortgage. My real hope is to stay here for another 3 years when my youngest graduates from high school and then sell and move back closer to my family in the next county over.
I should take my Peloton off the table if he wants to go this route
It's school picture day for DS1 (freshman). I asked what he was wearing and he said it didn't matter. Apparently the boys' cc team has a sweater, as in one, that they all pass around and wear for their photos which are also used for their school IDs. I'm envisioning an ugly Christmas sweater.
Haha I love this! A couple of weeks ago I was in one of our elem schools while kid was at cheer practice and they have a display of teacher pictures and all the 2nd grade teachers were wearing the same shiny gold jacket - female and male presenting and it was awesome!
starburst604, I might freeze that fresh food in a few portions so your dog doesn't start to expect it. Take out a portion once in awhile, add it to a few meals, and then go back to regular kibble.
Post by ProfessorArtNerd on Sept 20, 2023 8:00:52 GMT -5
lilafowler, I'm tired and reading comprehension is hard. I thought you got muscle RELAXERS for employee appreciation week. I wanna work where you do!
The acting president of Temple University died yesterday- she suffered some kind of medical emergency at an event on campus. I went to TU for grad school and was driving past on my way to get Lucy from school when it was happening (unbeknownst to me at the time of course). I didn't know her, but man, it's rattling.\
Does anyone else play NYT Connections? Do the colors look different to you today? This is a very important question.
I haven't played yet today, but the colors changed slightly for me a week or two ago when it moved from being web-based to being natively supported by the app. I think the colors are slightly more muted now.
Post by lilafowler on Sept 20, 2023 8:10:08 GMT -5
ProfessorArtNerd LOL! My H was watching an episode of Dark Side of the Ring (show about professional wrestling) and I overheard a guy saying “Back then there was this muscle relaxer that ALL the wrestlers loved…”. I called out “SOMA”. I was right. Those Soma days…like a warm hug.
Disclaimer: I have not taken a muscle relaxer recreationally for at least 15 years or more. 😅
@sameoldstory, yes to if he wants to drag out the house stuff you keep the peloton. Your attorney should be absolutely going after everything at this point. He's the one dragging everything out.
hermione, last Halloween E had a random virus that would drop as soon as she had meds, but would spike again once they wore off. Negative for COVID, just a random 2 day thing for her.
Does anyone else play NYT Connections? Do the colors look different to you today? This is a very important question.
I haven't played yet today, but the colors changed slightly for me a week or two ago when it moved from being web-based to being natively supported by the app. I think the colors are slightly more muted now.
I only use it in my phone browser, but yes! They’re more muted today. I’m not crazy. Thank you.
Aldi has this cast iron bread baker in today’s ad and my goal today is to acquire it. It is one of my husband’s in office days I normally I reserve these days to get work done in the quiet but but clearly my bread needs this.
You never know what item is going to be popular so I feel like I need to try on the first day of the sale. It looks a lot like the Le Creuset one that’s $240 and I’ve had good luck with Aldi cast iron so I figure it’s worth some effort. It’s only $25! I wish the app had stock lists for my locations though!
Post by sproctopus on Sept 20, 2023 8:31:00 GMT -5
I'm sure this is my parking spot karma, but I really want the Halloween Bluey inflatable and it's sold out everywhere...just to be resold on Ebay and Amazon for 1.5x the price.