cville , what would you recommend if you were in Sedona/Grand Canyon by yourself?
I have a wedding in Flagstaff next month on a Saturday evening. So far I've only bought my ticket there. I'm debating if I should stay there 2 more days and go to Sedona and the Grand Canyon. The other option would be to go only to Sedona for brunch on Sunday and fly home on the overnight Sunday back to reality on Monday morning. If I fly home on the overnight Monday, I can go to the Grand Canyon and save a lot of money/points on the flight home. I went to Grand Canyon in 1999 and don't remember anything about the actual park.
The mom guilt of leaving my kids from Thursday morning until Tuesday morning is eating at me. Not so much my guilt but all the crap I'm going to have to hear from my husband and mother about basically abandoning the kids and the disappointed sighs from my dad.
Post by maudefindlay on Sept 23, 2023 15:26:04 GMT -5
sent does your husband go off on trips alone? I know you know you deserve this trip. I know you know the guilt is unwarranted. I wish there was a way to make it so they don't ruin this for you.
sent does your husband go off on trips alone? I know you know you deserve this trip. I know you know the guilt is unwarranted. I wish there was a way to make it so they don't ruin this for you.
He’s out of state right now for a football game. Very infrequent that he goes away on overnight trips. He left Friday morning and will be home tomorrow evening. This trip would be Thursday morning to Monday mid-day at best because flying to the west coast always adds a day to a weekend trip. I usually fly home on the overnight on Saturday when I fly west for a CE course but this time it won’t work because the wedding is Saturday evening.
I’ll never hear the end of it of how I just left everything and went away to have fun. Why yes, I’m allowed to have fun, my therapist actually said this!
I saw the same dentist for 30 years. He was fine. The next dentist I had for 3 or 4 years and I really liked her.
Unfortunately she closed her practice and since then I've been to 4 different dentists and hate them all.
I didn't realize how lucky I was to have had such good experiences.
My H was like "at this point, I think it's just that you hate the dentist, not really the dentist's fault."
I mean, I guess he's not wrong but is it normal to feel like they are trying to sell you something every time? Like please just clean my teeth and let me know if I have cancer or an urgent cavity. You don't need to sell me on cosmetic stuff or expensive preventive options that are probably not really necessary.
sent, with that amount of time I'd go either to Sedona or to the Grand Canyon, not both. They're in opposite directions from Flagstaff.
Were I to go alone, I'd just do Sedona. It's closer than the Grand Canyon to Flagstaff and very beautiful. More chill vibes, but you can also hike. Rent a car, stay at a spa, drive the red rocks highway, and hike someplace easy like the Courthouse Rock/Bell Loop.
If you prefer instead to see the Grand Canyon, I'd go to straight to the Desert View Watchtower and the visitor center, which is right close to the rim and has lots of parking. They're on the side closer to Flagstaff too.
Also, near Flagstaff is the Wupatki National Monument, which is an 800-1000 year old Pueblo. And in Flagstaff the Lowell Observatory was completely awesome.
I don't know how to say this nicely, so I'll just say it: screw them for judging you about this. Honestly, they should be supporting you in taking a break for a few days, not guilting you into not going.
I'm very much not neutral though, we're 12 days into a 35 day work trip DH is on. But seriously, I go away for weekends with friends once or twice a year and he encourages me to do it. If he's traveling for work my parents (and his!) jump at the chance to have the kids for a weekend.
Post by wanderlustmom on Sept 23, 2023 17:21:31 GMT -5
Yes I have a deeply introverted husband and I am very extroverted. I take trips a few times a year without him and he never takes guy trips. He doesn’t want to—but I told him years ago this is my priority. All of my best friends are not local so I’m going to see them. And I also love solo vacations. So you add on to your trip and love it. Their issue is not yours and talk to your therapist about it! My husband doesn’t guilt me and I’m a much happier person with my friends, trips and regular therapy
ny96 we had a dog that wouldn’t pee on a new route. But once she knew the route, she was peeing/marking all over. So yeah, maybe just the dog gett8ng comfortable with the new everything.
sent - Sedona! It would be far better on your own because it’s so magical.
jinkies - I was with the same dentist for 20 years. I never knew how wonderful he was until I moved and tried a new one. And then I drove an hour back to see him. He just retired (well, 2 years ago) and I’m still trying to find a new one. I’ve been once, and she was fine but I had to pay out of pocket.
This morning, I managed to get motivated and go to the gym, even in the rain. I’m still kind of who are you and what have you done with Ruby as far and this desire to work out. But, I guess it’s a good thing. Then I tried to fix my broken equipment. And failed. So I texted a friend and asked for assistance. He hasn’t gotten back to me.
I feel my glasses prescription is annoyingly off. Or I need to go full old person and increase the fonts in my iPhone and iPad. I can’t even read what I’m typing right now. But yet, these glasses aren’t that old. So annoyed.
Post by wanderlustmom on Sept 23, 2023 17:26:27 GMT -5
Also I know this has been said on here but I am getting annoyed at the people in my life who don’t go to regular therapy. I feel like they aren’t evolving as fast. Yes it’s work but I’m so different than I was three years ago before I said okay—repeat for life. And that includes my awesome husband. Okay people it’s like the faster ladder in chutes and ladders—let’s go. 😅
I saw the same dentist for 30 years. He was fine. The next dentist I had for 3 or 4 years and I really liked her.
Unfortunately she closed her practice and since then I've been to 4 different dentists and hate them all.
I didn't realize how lucky I was to have had such good experiences.
My H was like "at this point, I think it's just that you hate the dentist, not really the dentist's fault."
I mean, I guess he's not wrong but is it normal to feel like they are trying to sell you something every time? Like please just clean my teeth and let me know if I have cancer or an urgent cavity. You don't need to sell me on cosmetic stuff or expensive preventive options that are probably not really necessary.
I went to a dentist in high school through grad school who i really liked- until it was a snowy day, and all his appointments after me cancelled. He tried to get me to turn my silver fillings over to porcelain or whatever- like, that day! . I almost did it, too. I was so mad!
My SS was invited to a Dave and Busters type place we have here. The invite told us the cost of the shoe rental and laser tag- so we had to send money for that and some for games. There’s no admission so all they paid for was the actual bowling game.
THEN they didn’t even feed him! We picked him up and asked what he ate, said they didn’t have food! I was pissed!
I made sure the place takes Apple Pay and he’s also bring a backup $20 bc I’m assuming he’s on his own for food.
I hope he eats! My 14 year old just played and didn’t eat…
I saw the same dentist for 30 years. He was fine. The next dentist I had for 3 or 4 years and I really liked her.
Unfortunately she closed her practice and since then I've been to 4 different dentists and hate them all.
I didn't realize how lucky I was to have had such good experiences.
My H was like "at this point, I think it's just that you hate the dentist, not really the dentist's fault."
I mean, I guess he's not wrong but is it normal to feel like they are trying to sell you something every time? Like please just clean my teeth and let me know if I have cancer or an urgent cavity. You don't need to sell me on cosmetic stuff or expensive preventive options that are probably not really necessary.
I think it’s the dentists and not you! I had the same issue after my long term dentist retired and finally found a nice one who doesn’t upsell and fit me in when I had issues with my crown right away. But it took me like six dentists to get there. What finally worked was finding one that didn’t focus on cosmetic stuff on their website at all. It was just another bullet point after all their other offerings
I wish streaming services kept the original names of their international shows with maybe an English subtitle. It would make them easier to find and look up and be a little hint that they aren’t going to be in English. We watch lot of subtitled tv but sometimes I want to know more about the show or want to watch something in English and I feel like it’s one extra step involved that doesn’t need to be there.
We were supposed to go to DC for DD's October break but decided to pivot thanks to the looming government shutdown. A small concern compared to what so many families are facing if the Republicans can't pull their heads out of their asses but DD has been asking to go to DC for several years and part of the trip included a side trip to visit a friend who moved away. We are rescheduling for early June and are going to Santa Cruz instead to visit my SIL. It will be fun but our cheap trip paid for by airline credit and Marriott points isn't so cheap anymore.
Though this does explain why Senator Cornyn's office denied my request for a White House tour by telling me that the White House won't even be open the first week of October.
Post by timorousbeastie on Sept 23, 2023 20:13:33 GMT -5
DD had a couple friends over for a playdate this afternoon. While playing in her room, they came across DD’s “It’s Not the Stork” book. When their mom came to pick them up, one of the first things they said was “did you know that boys put their penis in a girl’s vagina???” DD yelled out, “I told them not to look at that page, that page can give you nightmares!” 🤦♀️
I’m just so very glad this happened with the kids of DH’s bff of 30+ years (so they’re more like family at this point), instead of friends from school whose parents we barely know. At least now I know to hide the book when friends come over!
Our new dog is so sweet, but her elimination habits are driving me crazy. Yesterday we left her all day for the first time. I came home and took her for a short walk during which she sniffed everything, but didn’t go. When we got home I took her out and she peed, and then at bed time I had to walk her around for 20 minutes before she peed. Then this morning I woke up and took her out, and nothing happened, I brought her back inside, two hours later I took her back outside and finally 15 minutes into what was supposed to be a short walk she finally peed. She won’t go in the backyard. We’re spending so much time just trying to get her to go.
My dog was like this for a couple of weeks when we first brought her home. I started bringing treats and rewarding her when she peed. She’s quick now (but still won’t go in the yard??)
"Hello babies. Welcome to Earth. It's hot in the summer and cold in the winter. It's round and wet and crowded. On the outside, babies, you've got a hundred years here. There's only one rule that I know of, babies-"God damn it, you've got to be kind.”
DD had a couple friends over for a playdate this afternoon. While playing in her room, they came across DD’s “It’s Not the Stork” book. When their mom came to pick them up, one of the first things they said was “did you know that boys put their penis in a girl’s vagina???” DD yelled out, “I told them not to look at that page, that page can give you nightmares!” 🤦♀️
I’m just so very glad this happened with the kids of DH’s bff of 30+ years (so they’re more like family at this point), instead of friends from school whose parents we barely know. At least now I know to hide the book when friends come over!
More kids, teens and adults need proper anatomy and sex education so I don’t think you need to hide the book!
Post by cricketwife on Sept 24, 2023 7:03:36 GMT -5
Argh. I am throwing H a surprise party today for his 50th bday. As of Wednesday night, I had only 3 people coming. All the rest declined or didn’t reply. I sent a message to all the “didn’t replies” to please reply by Friday so I could know how much food to order. THIS MORNING I got 6 more “yes’s” (3 couples). Two were no’s that changed to yes. One sent a “sorry we were late🤷♀️” with a 🤷♀️ emoji! One asked “can we bring anything?” And I so want to reply, YES, PLEASE BRING DINNER FOR 6 SINCE IVE ALREADY ORDERED THE CATERING!” you are telling me 9 hours before the party that you can come?!! 😠
So, because my sister is pregnant, I figured it would be a good way to start the sex conversations with 7 yo dd. I told her that the man puts his penis in the woman’s vagina and she was like, why did you tell me that? Don’t talk about it. Lol.
Well, C decided he didn’t want to participate in his guitar recital yesterday. We knew he was wavering, and told him he could decide right up to the last minute if he wanted to do it or not, and we wouldn’t get mad or pressure him either way. We went to the brewery, and once he saw how many people were there and how chaotic it was, he wasn’t feeling it. I’m proud of him for his decision. And H and I got to have a few beers and hear some live music. Then we stopped at McDonalds for C on the ride home. Maybe next recital he’ll feel up to it.
Post by dreamcrisp1 on Sept 24, 2023 8:15:20 GMT -5
I had our newest baby 11 days ago! He’s amazing. It felt so surreal to hold him in my arms and see this tiny human after all we went through to get him. And beautifully - he was born on 13/09 at 8:39 am weighing 3.93 kgs. My first miscarriage was September 3 and my second was November 9. It all felt so symbolic with the 3s and 9s.
My recovery has been going well. I’ve really focused on resting this time and taking my time to get back to things. Today was his first venture out of the house and we went for brunch. It was easy and nice. Breastfeeding has been tough as I’m confident he has ties but Thursday is his appointment with the pediatric dentist.
My intuition was right all along and i can’t believe I have 3 boys. 😅 my grocery bill will never recover. 😂😂 he is definitely our last one so I guess I’ll get a girl dog next. 🤣 but finally I understand what it means when people say you’ll know when you’re done. He made me feel like we are now complete and this was a missing piece of our family.
Post by SusanBAnthony on Sept 24, 2023 8:27:39 GMT -5
This is the third weekend in a row that I've been gone for the weekend for fun or had to leave for a work trip on Sunday morning.
This week I am in Phoenix Sun-Thur and the are highs over 100 what is this shit.
Next week I am in Philly Sun-Tues
The following weekend I am going to visit my parents.
After that I am never leaving my house.
Each of these work trips has been super busy with tons of peopling. I generally like work travel because I get to do whatever I want and eat good food and starfish in the bed and I often fit in some hiking or sightseeing but unfortunately that hasn't panned out for this string of trips.
Post by lilypad1126 on Sept 24, 2023 8:28:52 GMT -5
Congrats dreamcrisp1! Enjoy all the little baby snuggles ☺️
I had a nice dinner out last night with a friend. Then I made it home to watch my college team play a nail biter of game. I was so hyped after it that I ended up reading my book until after midnight. Glad it’s Sunday, and I could sleep in, lol.
Vent- DH got a new Samsung phone and watch with cellular for his birthday in April. It was a WHOLE THING to upgrade his phone.
I swear, he only returns half of my texts now. I have repeatedly asked what the fucking problem is that his watch and phone can’t communicate.
At one point Samsung had defaulted to his watch only getting the text, not the phone.
Just this morning I knew he was home, on the couch while I was at the grocery store. I texted about eggs. He finally responded over 20mins later as I’m pulling in the driveway.
I can’t figure out if this is just an android, Samsung, or husband issue. I don’t have this problem with my iPhone or Apple Watch at all.
I asked him what if it was an emergency and the only way for me to tell him was via text?
Post by ProfessorArtNerd on Sept 24, 2023 8:59:11 GMT -5
I’m waiti n out front of Sam’s to open. I swear I’m gonna change my name to Instacart bc my mom only texts or calls me when she needs me to go get her something or order it. But she’s coming home tomorrow finally thank god. I think she’s upset that I didn’t go see her every day but it’s the beginning of the school year, I’m working 4 days a week and the baby’s birthday was Friday.