It was a very orthopedic-heavy week for us. I spent half of the day with DD2 at the ortho to find out that she fractured her wrist, and then to get the splint that she needs to wear for the next 4-6 weeks. Then my dad had his second knee replacement this week as well. I have been very anxious about it - he's 75 and while healthy, he has never done well under general anesthesia. They did a nerve block and he was home in just over 24 hours. But it was an anxiety-ridden week for me...
I'm cutting out early and heading to my parents' with lunch today. I only slept for about 4 hours last night, so I very much just wanted to stay home this evening, but DD1 has her heart set on going to the school football game tonight. So I'll bring her at some point and pick her up later. I don't think she'll last long as the weather is supposed to be awful.
Tomorrow DD2 has a soccer game, but it's supposed to be rainy and very windy. The league has said that they're definitely playing since they've already had to cancel twice, but it could be gross and dangerous so who knows?
Sunday DD2 has another game about an hour away, so that will take up most of the day. DH is leaving at some point on Sunday until some time Wednesday for some work meetings, so we will have a few busy days. Even though I do like 90% of the kid stuff, the 10% that he does makes a big difference and I feel it when he's gone.
Tonight we're taking a family trip to my office to unload the 75 pumpkins I bought for our Halloween party next week. The kids love my office - game room, snacks, all kinds of fun stuff. It's right near Dave and Buster's so I think we'll head there for something to do afterwards.
Our only other plans for this weekend are yet another awkward adventure in blended family fun! The girls really, really want to teach DS how to play Dungeons and Dragons and he really, really wants to learn. They play with their dad and have hyped it up to be so fun. But it's too complicated for the girls to be able to teach on their own. So on Sunday, ExH is coming over to run a game with the kids and teach DS how to play. DH is such a good sport for agreeing to this plan of exH hanging out at our house for several hours. It's one of those "we do it for the kids" situations that we will both suck it up and get through because we know they'll have so much fun.
Post by sandandsea on Oct 20, 2023 10:03:48 GMT -5
I survived the tax deadline and am in recovery mode but somehow work is still super busy. Ds1 started school soccer this week so that adds 3 more practices to our evenings so he has 6 a week (doubled up twice a week) and ds2 has 2 so it’s a bit hectic. I’ll be out of town for work T-TH this coming week and am expecting a full implosion at home but hoping Dh manages it all. I’m super bummed I’ll miss dss first school team soccer game.
This weekend we have a soccer match on the coast and I made sunset dinner reservations afterwards at a tree top restaurant so I’m looking forward to trying it out and having a nice family dinner out and have to remember to bring layers as it will be chilly.
Post by librarychica on Oct 20, 2023 10:17:49 GMT -5
twinmomma, H loves D&D and would be jealous of your girls’ enthusiasm. Ours like board games and we’ve played some that are kind of D&D style, but they haven’t been interested in an actual campaign.
Tonight we are meeting friends for an early HH down the road. It’s the first time the kids will be alone at the house, but we will be nearby and home before dark. Saturday we have a family volunteering activity with DD1’s school leadership club, and have tentatively planned a family board game night, and then Sunday DD2 is having some friends over to do Halloween crafts.
I’ve been on an adolescent parenting book kick. So far I’ve worked my way through Brainstorm (Dan Siegel) and am now reading Never Enough about achievement culture. Any recs?
Post by supertrooper1 on Oct 20, 2023 11:10:18 GMT -5
It has felt like a long week. I've been extra tired and sore from the gym even though I didn't change my routine. Then last night the sore throat started and has continued into today. I'm really hoping it's my allergies and not a cold.
Tonight, Beau and I are headed to our riding spot. We keep saying it's our last trip before the snow, and this one probably will be that trip. I took Monday off to give us another day of camping.
It has been a heartbreaking week for my family. My Dad died on Wednesday after complications from heart surgery a month ago. The funeral is next week. I just finished writing his obituary. I decided to write it so I could capture who he really was - a kind, generous man with a witty sense of humor. I'm riding the roller coaster of emotions right now and trying to stay a little distracted. We're going to have dinner with my Mom tonight and go shopping for dress clothes tomorrow.
On our way to meet dd, ds and Ds's girlfriend in Gatlinburg! We we will get there before them, so a glass of wine on the balcony over the creek.
Tomorrow. Dss girlfriend has never been, so some hiking, Clingmons Dome, a nice dinner. They want to do the Mysterious Mansion haunted House since it is close Halloween.
Sunday we will probably hang out at the Island and take ds to lunch since they have to leave. We will hang out with dd the rest of the trip. I will go to Cades Cove and run through like the Sound of Music at some point.
The dog had an "incident" with the groomer. We're not 100% sure what happened (she said it was entirely her fault), but he's on his way to the emergency vet for stitches in his ear. He is a champ and you'd have no clue he was hurt based on his demeanor and happy face. Groomer has agreed to reimburse us for our costs, but I'd rather she just reduce her prices going forward.
We have a busy weekend... The kids have their huge carnival/walkathon tomorrow, DS has a playdate after that, and DD has a skating competition out of town on Sunday. So sounds like a fun and exhausting weekend. And we need to figure out what to do about the doggo since not sure we can leave him alone...
DS has a tournament and DD has 2 soccer games. I’m hoping DH does the tournament and I’m with DD because at least her games are local. I’m so over the soccer season and really this is our last weekend.
Then DD is going to the Eras movie again with friends. All the games are at the same time so we have to split up.
It’s been a shit week. Capping a shit month. But things have to improve, right? I’m leaning heavily into the Maya Angelou quote, “Every storm runs out of rain.” I need to cross stitch it onto a pillow or something.
I talked to a headhunter this afternoon. I can’t anymore with my job. It felt good to take that first step.
DS had a rough week at school and what I’m pretty sure was his first autistic meltdown. At school. Of course. So he had to stay home Thursday and Friday and we had to get an evaluation so he can return Monday. They wanted assurance he’s not a threat to himself or anyone else. We will meet with the school Monday morning to ensure we have a good path forward. Just what we needed right now.
I need this weekend to be calm. I’m not doing shit other than taking DS to his ninja class. Other than that, it’s me and my pajamas and my couch and my softest blanket. The world can fuck right off.
polecat8 I am so sorry for your loss. I hope the upcoming days give you some peace and that you may find ways to happily remember your father as time goes on.
twinmomma, H loves D&D and would be jealous of your girls’ enthusiasm. Ours like board games and we’ve played some that are kind of D&D style, but they haven’t been interested in an actual campaign.
Tonight we are meeting friends for an early HH down the road. It’s the first time the kids will be alone at the house, but we will be nearby and home before dark. Saturday we have a family volunteering activity with DD1’s school leadership club, and have tentatively planned a family board game night, and then Sunday DD2 is having some friends over to do Halloween crafts.
I’ve been on an adolescent parenting book kick. So far I’ve worked my way through Brainstorm (Dan Siegel) and am now reading Never Enough about achievement culture. Any recs?
How do you like Never Enough? I just heard the author speak on the Ask Lisa podcast. I'm intrigued! Also, I have to give a shout out to waverly for suggesting the podcast this summer. Thank you!
I really liked the book "get out of my life! But first could you take me and Cheryl to the mall?" It was written in the late 80's (ahem, for our parents, dealing with us!) and has some timeless messages.
This week was "happening" at work. (odd personal quirk: I hate saying I'm busy and will use multiple terms to avoid that one!)
H was out of town all week, so in addition to having a larger than usual work load, I was stuck with all the parenting stuff. Fortunately, the Ds were great and I had reliable carpool help.
This weekend is full. DD2 had a soccer tournament in a nearby town. My youngest nephew also had a basketball tournament in said town so my sister and I did both tournaments today. It's another nephew's 18th birthday today too. We are doing a big family dinner shortly.(real Mexican food - yeah!!)
Tomorrow h has ski patrol training. I really need to finish some work before Monday and I would love to work out or run. We'll see how this fits with making time for the Ds.
We flew to Hawaii today for fall break! We’re on Oahu in the Ko Olina area. The kids actually did really well on the 6-hour flight. It was much better than when we came to Hawaii a year ago and DS3 was 2, or 2 years ago when DS3 was 1. But, he puked about 20 minutes after we got off, and then another couple times over the next hour. That makes it even more fun than usual to drag all our luggage to a rental car, install car seats, and get to where we’re staying with four kids
This same thing happened last year when we flew to Hawaii and back (after both flights), but not when we took shorter flights during the last year. It’s very weird. He’s totally fine when on the plane. I’m going to try giving him some motion sickness meds before we start our descent on the way back and hope that helps? The only saving grace is that now that he’s 3, he has the language to tell me he’s going to be sick and we can make it to a bathroom.
We don’t have many plans while here. We had a lot planned for Maui before we switched islands after the fire. There are like 30 people from our school district randomly staying in our same building - a big group of people who are good friends with each other. We know a couple of the families but they all go to a different elementary school than our kids. Hopefully that ends up being fun and not awkward.
mommyatty I hope the storm runs out of rain soon too. (Hugs) and empathy. My autistic DS(7) had a rough week at school as well. His routine was all off based on my work schedule. He screamed in his teacher's face and ran out of his classroom. So that was awesome. /s
Post by librarychica on Oct 22, 2023 10:07:23 GMT -5
sdlaura, my oldest has had serious issues with motion sickness over the years, and her sister too to a lesser extent. We will never go whale watching. Thanks H.
Anyway! She has started to grow out of it but when she was younger the driving after the flight must kinds of pushed DD over the edge. It’s cumulative for her. Children’s Dramamine is best ahead of any triggers and lasts 6-8 hours. We also use those pressure bracelets. Idk if the science behind them but DD’s friend’s mom swears by them and I think the kids like the idea of nothing else.
She can absolutely not use any device in a car and very little in a plane. Look out and forward, not down as much as possible. We’ve become very into audiobooks as a result.
We flew to Hawaii today for fall break! We’re on Oahu in the Ko Olina area. The kids actually did really well on the 6-hour flight. It was much better than when we came to Hawaii a year ago and DS3 was 2, or 2 years ago when DS3 was 1. But, he puked about 20 minutes after we got off, and then another couple times over the next hour. That makes it even more fun than usual to drag all our luggage to a rental car, install car seats, and get to where we’re staying with four kids
This same thing happened last year when we flew to Hawaii and back (after both flights), but not when we took shorter flights during the last year. It’s very weird. He’s totally fine when on the plane. I’m going to try giving him some motion sickness meds before we start our descent on the way back and hope that helps? The only saving grace is that now that he’s 3, he has the language to tell me he’s going to be sick and we can make it to a bathroom.
We don’t have many plans while here. We had a lot planned for Maui before we switched islands after the fire. There are like 30 people from our school district randomly staying in our same building - a big group of people who are good friends with each other. We know a couple of the families but they all go to a different elementary school than our kids. Hopefully that ends up being fun and not awkward.
Have a great time! We love Ko Olina. Dd2 gets random motion sickness when flying. We don’t let her have any dairy or cheese flavored food en route and also use the motion sickness suckers.