DD and I have spent the last 11.5 hours in the ER because of concerning neurological issues. The place was packed and it took over 6 hours before we got into a room.
But at least now we have a likely answer for what’s been going on with her. She’s been dealing with extreme brain fog and aphasia, and the neurologist we saw thinks she has a functional neurological disorder.
This is in addition to the POTS. I’m frustrated because she had previously seen a neurologist who chalked it up to psychosomatic issues. I’m glad we have someone believing her and taking it seriously.
Of course, now there’s going to be more specialists and appointments.
There is a house near me that has their outdoor Christmas decor up. I’m not judging, do whatever makes you happy. What I do find a bit odd is that until early this week they had outdoor Halloween decor up. So they took their Halloween decorations down before Halloween to put up Christmas decor.
(((katfco))). I can’t imagine how scary that must have been and still is. I’m glad she’s in the right place so they can give her the care she needs and figure out exactly what’s going on.
katfco, I'm sorry you and your DD are dealing with all of this. I remember all of your posts about her different health issues, and she is lucky to have you as such a supportive mom. I'm sure you are exhausted though I hope you get some more answers.
My stbx showed up at the house yesterday before getting served the PFA so I had to call 911. He left but they did eventually track him down, so now he is served and officially evicted from the home. I go back to court next week for the hearing to see how long the PFA will remain in place.
Also, I have pretty solid confirmation that he stole my phone. Yesterday morning he desperately trying to get me to talk to him, he wanted to try to work things out civilly. And then he said "I know that you are going to file a PFA today. Your bestest goodest friend ratted you out". Well, the only two people who knew that I was going to file were my lawyer and my best friend, and I told her via text message. So clearly he was reading my text messages. I've set the phone to erase via Find My, but I don't know if that works if the phone isn't on WiFi or Cellular. He's definitely got the location turned off because it isn't pinging any more, but when I leave my house I'm getting a notification that I left my phone behind (another FInd My feature), so it must be on somewhere. When the police escorted him in the house last night to get some of this things, he locked the deadbolt on the garage so I have no way of getting in there to search for it.
There is a house near me that has their outdoor Christmas decor up. I’m not judging, do whatever makes you happy. What I do find a bit odd is that until early this week they had outdoor Halloween decor up. So they took their Halloween decorations down before Halloween to put up Christmas decor.
Did they put it up or did they have someone do it? There's a house at the beginning of my parents neighborhood that had their roof lights and big wreaths professionally done in early Oct because it saved a decent bit of $. They're not on yet, but you can't miss them in the daylight.
katfco, I hope you guys can get some answers and go home and get some rest soon!
@sameoldstory , what do you mean you can't get into the garage because the deadbolt is locked? Why don't you have a key to your own garage door?
We don't use the garage for parking, it's his workshop. The deadbolt needs a key to open it from either side and I've never had one. I left a message for my attorney this morning to see if he's allowed to do that. I'm thinking not, but want to confirm before I bring in a lock smith.
@sameoldstory , what do you mean you can't get into the garage because the deadbolt is locked? Why don't you have a key to your own garage door?
We don't use the garage for parking, it's his workshop. The deadbolt needs a key to open it from either side and I've never had one. I left a message for my attorney this morning to see if he's allowed to do that. I'm thinking not, but want to confirm before I bring in a lock smith.
Even if you don't park in it, it's part of your house. You should have always had access to a key.
We don't use the garage for parking, it's his workshop. The deadbolt needs a key to open it from either side and I've never had one. I left a message for my attorney this morning to see if he's allowed to do that. I'm thinking not, but want to confirm before I bring in a lock smith.
Even if you don't park in it, it's part of your house. You should have always had access to a key.
In the three years since we put that lock on the door, it's never been locked, so it never occurred to me to need a key.
@sameoldstory, if I were you I’d have two things on my agenda today: going back to the place I got the phone to report it stolen and get it deactivated, and calling a locksmith, because the garage is part of your home and you need to be able to get into it.
katfco, you all must be so exhausted, but I am glad there are answers! @sameoldstory, I am SO GLAD this shitbag is out of the house. For sure report the original phone as stolen to the police and the phone company to see if they can assist you in turning off all service to that phone.
katfco, I am so sorry your daughter is going through all of that - that sounds so scary! I am glad someone is taking her seriously, but that sucks that you had to wait in the ER for so long to get to that point and that it wasn't addressed before now. Hopefully this will lead to getting her a good treatment to get her better quickly.
@sameoldstory, I am so glad he's out of the house. You should be able to turn off service without having to go anywhere - when my phone was stolen a few years ago I was able to do it through either my Verizon or my Google account (I don't remember which one). Mine was an Android but I imagine Apple has the same capabilities. Also, although I think you should get access to the garage, if you think going in there now will just escalate things further with him, I honestly wouldn't if he is being violent. I don't think you have to "play nice" but I think you will be safer if you don't do things that will anger him further, and breaking into what he considers his personal space might enrage him. I'm not saying that because I give even a single fuck how he feels, but rather because I don't want you to be put in danger. Once the dust settles a bit, then call a locksmith and get in there.
katfco, I'm so sorry you and your daughter are dealing with that. I don't know if you follow/know of Kelle Hampton (mom blogger with a child with Down Syndrome) but she posted yesterday that her older (teen) daughter was just diagnosed with the same thing. She has her faults, but posted reaching out for community of others who are in the same boat if of interest.
I have to take my cat to the vet at lunchtime today and I am NOT look forward to it. He's difficult to get into the carrier and it freaks him out completely. He is healthy, he just needs to get up to date on shots and do a general checkup. The place is 5 minutes from our house (if he was a dog I'd walk him there, it's that close) so hopefully I'll be in an out in less than an hour. Especially since we're looking to adopt a dog in the near future, I want to make sure he's up to date!
I haven't talked to my mom in a week, which is super unusual. We've texted, she's fine, she's just been (finally) visiting my sister and since she's in Denver there is a 2 hour time difference, which means our usually conversations before work are just too early. I think my parents got home late last night so I'll probably talk to her sometime this weekend. We usually talk almost every weekday!
DS has a half day today, which are such a pain. And then he's off on Tuesday for superintendent's day or something.
FIL and his wife are staying with us tomorrow night. They are going on vacation and flying out of Buffalo early Sunday morning (they live about 3 hours from us). H needs to give the house a good once over. Thankfully I scrubbed the shower last weekend, so the bathroom is in good shape.
I slept terrible last night. Adrenaline from the Bills game, combined with an iced coffee I got at about 2pm was not a good recipe for sleep. At least it's a victory Friday.
Post by midwestmama on Oct 27, 2023 8:07:23 GMT -5
katfco, sending positive thoughts to you and your daughter. Hopefully you can get some rest today after the long night at ER and will be able to get answers from the neurologist.
@sameoldstory, glad he is out of the house and hoping that you are now able to feel safe.
We need to let our dog out to pee in the middle of the night now due to him being on prednisone. I let him out at 1 am and then again at 3 am, and after he came back onto the porch, he noticed (smelled) an opossum sitting in the corner of where the stairs and porch meet. I was able to grab my dog and pull him into the house before he had an altercation with the opossum, but it definitely scared me a bit.
I had a horrible day at work yesterday, so I'm glad it's Friday and the weekend.
The good news is that I am having friends over tonight and already made a big pot of sauce for dinner, cleaned the house, and set the table. Since I am in the office today, I prepped everything, so it was easy & ready to go.
The bad news is that with such fun & easy plans waiting for me tonight, I want nothing to do with the next 8 hours of work. It’s so stupid to have to earn a living!
Post by wanderingback on Oct 27, 2023 8:15:05 GMT -5
I think we’re dealing with a man cold!
Our daughter brought home her first daycare cold and gave it to me (multiple negative Covid tests). She acted totally fine the whole week. I got it on Tuesday. I did wfh 2 days cause I wanted to make sure it wasn’t covid. But I still got up early, 6:30am, to get things ready for daycare and to get ready for work. My partner does daycare drop off (a 10 minute walk).
Well this morning he declared "I just want one day to sleep in because now I have the cold." Eye roll. Lol. But I was a nice partner and got our daughter ready and took her to daycare cause today I just have meetings at home for my consulting work.
The weather is nice and I’m enjoying a chai at a coffee shop before going back home to get to my meetings. He better not be moping around all day haha. We both never get sick (he and I have both have covid once and I can’t remember us having colds before), but I know that’s gonna change now we have a kid in daycare and omg I will not be happy if he’s the type act like the end of the world with a cold haha.
I had an early morning Bible study and now I’m hiding out at a coffee shop before heading home to deal with DH. He has surgery today for a deviated septum and he also has some viral cold thing that he’s been dealing with for a couple of weeks (finally went to the doctor yesterday and got an inhaler and cough syrup). I anticipate this weekend is going to be rough. I just got back from 5 days in Vegas on Wednesday night; 2 weeks ago I had covid; and last Thursday I had my breast biopsy. It’s been a draining 2 weeks and this is just…not how I want to spend this weekend.
Ugh, I am so annoyed. I got a client meeting request for Halloween day and accepted it because I was reading too fast and didn't notice the proposed time was Pacific time rather than Eastern time. Now I have a dumb meeting going until 430, which is also when I am supposed to have a group of neighbors and their children arriving for a pre-TOT party. When am I going to set up and get my small kids ready for TOTing?? Ugh, so unnecessarily stressful.
Post by gerberdaisy on Oct 27, 2023 8:24:11 GMT -5
Reading the appetizer thread, and this always bugs me. Every time people recommend meatballs in a crockpot, is this really a thing places? Or is it #regional? Maybe because I'm in the land of Italian grandmothers, but have never been somewhere with meatballs served that weren't in sauce.
katfco, That sounds like a nightmare ER visit. I'm sorry for additional concerns for your DD. The folks I know with POTS always seem to have other medical stuff related and most of them were dismissed with "it's in your head" for some time before they were able to out the pieces together.
@sameoldstory, when I had an iPhone stolen, I was able to shut it down over the phone with Verizon. I can't wait for this to be over for you.
My niece took delivery of a MINI Cooper and got a BFP on the same day. She's referring to it as her mom mobile. She's in her early 40s and this will be a first for her and her DH. I'm anxious for her and hope everything goes well for them but it's going to be a long 9 months for me. It's early days but she'll see her ob/gyn on the 8th. Stories of happy endings appreciated if you care to share. Also, do people still do a pregnancy book? If so, what's a good one?
Reading the appetizer thread, and this always bugs me. Every time people recommend meatballs in a crockpot, is this really a thing places? Or is it #regional? Maybe because I'm in the land of Italian grandmothers, but have never been somewhere with meatballs served that weren't in sauce.
Post by litskispeciality on Oct 27, 2023 8:32:02 GMT -5
katfco I'm glad you're finally getting answers! I hope you have a good neuro. Huge hugs as you never get a freaking break.
@sameoldstory I'm glad he's out, but agree about getting a new phone. It's a huge PITA, but it's your literal safety.
Posting this as a general PSA as I think a few folks need it. There's a fantastic free crisis text line 741741. My friend volunteered for a couple of years and said it was life changing. Please use whatever resources you need to protect yourself physically and mentally.
Reading the appetizer thread, and this always bugs me. Every time people recommend meatballs in a crockpot, is this really a thing places? Or is it #regional? Maybe because I'm in the land of Italian grandmothers, but have never been somewhere with meatballs served that weren't in sauce.
There's my unpopular opinion for the day.
I think most meatballs in a crock pot are served in sauce? I've never heard of dry meatballs being served either. I would think continuing to cook dry meatballs in a crock pot would make them overcooked so I don' think that's a thing!
Ugh, I am so annoyed. I got a client meeting request for Halloween day and accepted it because I was reading too fast and didn't notice the proposed time was Pacific time rather than Eastern time. Now I have a dumb meeting going until 430, which is also when I am supposed to have a group of neighbors and their children arriving for a pre-TOT party. When am I going to set up and get my small kids ready for TOTing?? Ugh, so unnecessarily stressful.
Can you reschedule? I would think most people would understand!
I don't even have kids and I wouldn't want to meet at that time - I need to be available to answer to the door and hand out candy!
Post by litskispeciality on Oct 27, 2023 8:34:51 GMT -5
TW TW TW
I stayed up way too late last night watching the news in Maine. I'm sick that so, so many reporters waited right outside of an active police and FBI etc. event to have live footage, but people like me keep that going. No judgement on why he hasn't been found yet. I understand how hard they're all working, and how hard this is on their families. I'm just sick, I'm mad, I'm frustrated, and I don't even live there. I'm glad there are a lot of questions being raised, but I honestly don't think anything will come of this other than hopefully a lot of money and help for the people in those towns.
This is also hard for anyone who's lived through a Shelter In Place because of an active shooter. We had good (police) friends involved in one a few years ago, and it's just so maddening that we go through this at least once a month.
Post by litskispeciality on Oct 27, 2023 8:40:35 GMT -5
Meatballs in the crock pot in my area always have a non-traditional sauce (not red). For example a mix of BBQ sauce and grape jelly. People also do that with Kielbasa and it's really good. Only weird thing is DH and I can't get the right mixture for a thick sauce no matter how many times we've tried and we change it up.
I think I got hit on last night. I stopped in to pick up a wig cap for my DH's Halloween costume, and the (older) gentleman behind the counter started a fun banter about what kind of shenanigan's I was up too. I thought he meant this weekend (Halloween), so I indicated that I was buying the cap for my DH's costume, and said what he's dressing up as. I wasn't sure if the fellow didn't know the character, or wasn't happy that I was married, but the whole tone changed. Anyway I politely wished him a happy Halloween and walked out going "did I just get hit on", lol. It's ok if I wasn't, just funny if I missed it.