I FEEL you. We survived a week of in-laws visiting, and have both agreed SIL and her family are never staying with us again.
A single highlight: H and I are cooking dinner for the whole group. SIL comes in to the kitchen and starts clipping her fingernails directly onto the kitchen counter.
H: what are you doing??
SIL: clipping my nails, obviously
H: I can see that, why are you doing it *here*? It’s inappropriate.
SIL: at least I cleaned it up!!
I'm speechless. Who thinks doing that in the kitchen vs bathroom is a good idea, never mind in someone else's house! Also good to know to never eat food she makes. Yikes.
It was this incident that made me realize it was futile to try and mentally gird my loins, because I could not possibly anticipate the demented self-centered behavior they might engage in.
Post by gretchenindisguise on Jan 8, 2024 13:18:55 GMT -5
A (9) is supposed to be coming home today. Thus far his flight is showing as on time, but yesterdays flight on this route was canceled. Fingers crossed! Although I don't think he will be sad if he has to be with grandma and papa for longer, but I miss him and want him home.
I am mourning the loss of inexpensive kids clothes now that my 5th grader is firmly in the women's shoes camp. I'm 50/50 on girls vs. women's shirts and I just put a women's small fleece lined leggings in my cart for her.
this is funny because we got snow over the weekend and I was laughing at myself that my daughter has "proper" snow gear while I do not. But then I realized her snow pants/bib from Target was tagged $18, and I paid $12. An equivalent women's set would be $100-200 (and that's a low end). Huge pricing difference for kids vs adults!
I have been spiraling on colleges for DS today. He's only a sophomore but there are almost no local options with his expected major (obv this could change in the next few years) so I'm starting to think about doing some quick trips even just to give him a sense of what part of the country he may want to land in. I am probably being too much about this.
I am (as always) feeling very overwhelmed by DD's IEP and what her future will look like and I am probably focusing on DS as a distraction. We have a tutor starting with DD this afternoon and I'm still not sure this is going to get her to grade level math (ultimate goal) but we owe it to her to try.
I'm speechless. Who thinks doing that in the kitchen vs bathroom is a good idea, never mind in someone else's house! Also good to know to never eat food she makes. Yikes.
It was this incident that made me realize it was futile to try and mentally gird my loins, because I could not possibly anticipate the demented self-centered behavior they might engage in.
OMG gross.
My FIL likes to just fart whenever, regardless of company and finds it hilarious. My 10 and 11-year-old boys know better than their grandfather. I leave the room entirely, it's disgusting and rude.
I come from a family that goes overboard with hospitality and whenever we stay at their house, we're crammed together without enough seats for everyone, not enough towels in the bathroom for us all to shower, there's not really enough food ever, and the food that's there is the EXACT same menu items from 1985, and this time there was nothing to drink except beer. Something other than water or alcohol would be nice at like 2 in the afternoon. I love to cook and entertain so it just blows my mind every time.
DH found out a few months that his brother talks to MIL and FIL every day!!?? And we're trying to figure out how he has anything to talk to them about considering FIL never leaves the house and MIL tells the same stories over and over.
DH goes "I barely want to talk to them 1x a week! What they hell are they talking about?" And I said it just reinforced that BIL is just a man child.
I mean, maybe your BIL is. But I don't think someone talking to their parents every day necessarily makes them a child. My mom did it with my grandmother and while I can't manage every day, I try to talk to my mom every other day or so. It's not so much to get new information, but just to check in and make contact. Maybe it's because her mom was and my mom is alone? I don't know. But it's more for the parent than the child usually.
Agreed - I think I need to know how long these conversations are before I judge. I talk to my mom at least twice a day but it's very little "chat" and mostly, "take your morning/evening pills." I also see her at least once a week. Then again, with her memory issues, I can chat about the same stuff over and over. LOL LOL sob-LOL
I am mourning the loss of inexpensive kids clothes now that my 5th grader is firmly in the women's shoes camp. I'm 50/50 on girls vs. women's shirts and I just put a women's small fleece lined leggings in my cart for her.
13 yo DD has been a little peanut her whole life, and all of a sudden in the last year, she started growing. She's officially 5'4" as of yesterday and wearing a size 7.5 shoe. She was 5'3" at Nutcracker auditions just a few months ago so I'm not convinced she's finished either. She's flying through pointe shoes, and at $100-$120 a pop, it's killing me.
She's a kids XL or adult XS. But that doesn't stop her from stealing all my medium/large-sized stuff, especially jackets and sweaters. I've even caught her in my leggings. I'm not looking forward to her stealing my shoes if she keeps up at this rate. My shoes and MINE lol.
I posted last week that my parents were shocked that MH and I booked a place for when we were visiting because otherwise it would be 8 people in a 2 bedroom/2 bath (+ Florida room with a fold-out couch) and I simply could not abide.
Well, my mom reached out to my aunt, who lives down the street and will be out of town, and now MH and I are staying at my aunt's guest room AND my mom wants the kids to stay with her. We'll be a <5 minute walk away from everyone else. I'm insanely grateful and will be a much better daughter/sister/mother/wife in this situation.
You know what's really just like pitiful and sad? As much as I've vented and whined about my job, I miss it. I miss it so bad I'm wearing a fleece pullover with the company logo on it today. It's so soft and comfortable. And every few minutes I look down at the logo and sigh 😪
WTF is wrong with me?
Also, I'm on my third load of laundry. I have not baked bread, but I did do some muffins (which means the oven has to wait another day thank goodness). Fish tank cleaning will happen tomorrow once I'm done washing all of the things. I started a new book. I'm rewatching House. I might start a new crochet project.
And you know how I was bragging about getting the cat bathroom cleaned up? Poor black cat didn't recognize it as his bathroom anymore 😕 I heard him yowling upstairs and ran up only to find him standing in the bathroom totally confused. It took quite a bit of reassurance to get him to go, and then he went for at least 20 seconds 😨 So now I'm watching for signs of uti and intestinal blockage. And I feel so bad for the poor little guy. He had to have been holding it for almost 24 hours 😪 😩
I’m off today and trying to finish laundry and cleaning out DS’s dresser and closet. I’m about 70% complete, but now I need to find a place to store everything until I see my friend who waited even longer than we did to have kids. Hopefully, I’ll have time today and can move on to my office/craft room before the day is over. I love organizing and decluttering in January. The Christmas clutter makes me want to throw everything away!
LOL this type of fan was my "things you think are dumb" contribution on the other thread.
I know a ton of die hard Virginia Tech fans who didn't go to tech or college. I'm trying to wrap my head around where the fandom comes from.
XH is a big Virginia Tech fan. He grew up in VA, but didn't go to that school. I never got it. I maintain that the Hokies are one of the dumbest team names/mascots ever. I liked the colors, though.
Thems fighting gobbler words 🤣
signed, Hokie hokie hokie hi (but I don’t follow sports ball anymore)
I am mourning the loss of inexpensive kids clothes now that my 5th grader is firmly in the women's shoes camp. I'm 50/50 on girls vs. women's shirts and I just put a women's small fleece lined leggings in my cart for her.
13 yo DD has been a little peanut her whole life, and all of a sudden in the last year, she started growing. She's officially 5'4" as of yesterday and wearing a size 7.5 shoe. She was 5'3" at Nutcracker auditions just a few months ago so I'm not convinced she's finished either. She's flying through pointe shoes, and at $100-$120 a pop, it's killing me.
I’m dreading this, my 6th grader is pretty small, still firmly in kid’s sizes and a 3.5 shoe. I just know she’s going to start really growing around the age that she needs a pair of pointe shoes more often than every 3 months. Several of the older girl ballet moms at our school have 2 pairs of pointe shoes auto shipped on the 1st of each month then fill in as needed.
Ballet was so cheap when she was little!
I’m enjoying her school clothes/shoes being cheaper while it lasts.
13 yo DD has been a little peanut her whole life, and all of a sudden in the last year, she started growing. She's officially 5'4" as of yesterday and wearing a size 7.5 shoe. She was 5'3" at Nutcracker auditions just a few months ago so I'm not convinced she's finished either. She's flying through pointe shoes, and at $100-$120 a pop, it's killing me.
I’m dreading this, my 6th grader is pretty small, still firmly in kid’s sizes and a 3.5 shoe. I just know she’s going to start really growing around the age that she needs a pair of pointe shoes more often than every 3 months. Several of the older girl ballet moms at our school have 2 pairs of pointe shoes auto shipped on the 1st of each month then fill in as needed.
Ballet was so cheap when she was little!
I’m enjoying her school clothes/shoes being cheaper while it lasts.
We have a scheduled full fitting tomorrow... she still hasn't settled on a shoe so it's a whole thing every time. She has a super narrow foot on top of it. I think she likes the novelty of trying all of them on and trying ones other girls in her class have.. but really, I wish she'd just get the Bloch ones she's had a few times that she knows work, in her bigger size, and call it a day so I could order them and have them on hand!
Of course, the place close to our house that has less of a selection put her in Russian Pointes last time and she and her teachers HATE them.. so we're back to driving across town to the place that has terrible hours but a much better selection.
She had an audition yesterday so we picked up some new canvas ballet shoes Friday and there was a mom in there with a little four-year-old lamenting how long the shoes would last her and I just bit my tongue.
DH found out a few months that his brother talks to MIL and FIL every day!!?? And we're trying to figure out how he has anything to talk to them about considering FIL never leaves the house and MIL tells the same stories over and over.
DH goes "I barely want to talk to them 1x a week! What they hell are they talking about?" And I said it just reinforced that BIL is just a man child.
I mean, maybe your BIL is. But I don't think someone talking to their parents every day necessarily makes them a child. My mom did it with my grandmother and while I can't manage every day, I try to talk to my mom every other day or so. It's not so much to get new information, but just to check in and make contact. Maybe it's because her mom was and my mom is alone? I don't know. But it's more for the parent than the child usually.
I usually talk to my mom every weekday - I don't think that's weird at all. We're all adults and my parents are also some of my closest friends. I don't talk to my mom to get parenting, I just talk to her because I enjoy her company. We're probably on the phone around 5 hours a week most weeks and we talk about the same stuff I'd talk to anyone else about - weather, politics, entertainment, travel, plans for the day/weekend, daily life stressors, family, etc.
Post by fluffycookie on Jan 8, 2024 17:05:26 GMT -5
I am back after being out for most of last week sick. We had snow yesterday and the beginning part of the storm was was rain/mix so the snow on the car was heavy to move. I cleaned my car off so I could pick DS up and my chest was killing me and ready for a nap. Ugh. I am hoping this resolves soon. I am still on the fence about my girl's weekend this coming weekend. I am still tired and don't want to come home even more run down.
we only got about 2 inches of snow today but of course it was the wet, thick stuff. Do you think anyone in maintenance would shovel the employee walkway?
I'm on a damn knee scooter and the thing does not have very heavy-duty wheels. That was a fun scoot to my car.
My week got much lighter today. Three grades out of the six I work with are doing mid school year reading testing this week (so we can make sure they're in the right skill building groups). So I'm only doing 3 reading groups every day all week.
School is virtual tomorrow because of snow in the morning, changing to ice and then rain/flooding in the PM. I'll keep DS home with me. He has a 10am Zoom and then some assignments to do. I could send him to where he goes to before/after care, as she's open, but I hate driving in bad weather and I also want to be with him to keep him on track, plus I don't have much on my work calendar. I'm hoping we can get his work done and maybe walk over to the coffee shop (if they stay open) and read or play a board game or something.
I had a great weekend which included bumping into a bunch of the kids' classmates at the local sledding hotspot. I was bummed though because a lot of them were talking about leaving our city in the next few years because of the schools/violence and I was a bit taken aback. We plan to stay for the long haul and I'm sad that the little community I've built will be temporary. In related news, you're never allowed to move tiki lol.
I don't understand the violence part *at all*, but were they in A's class? Cause nothing has made me think about moving as much as our current teacher