Also: urgently needing to organize the garage, change air filters, or some other chore that no one will notice whenever we are trying to prep the house for guests. Please clean the bathroom, man. No one is going to care if your wrenches are organized.
OMG. H promised to clean the living room, dining room and kitchen while I did all the other prep for Thanksgiving. I'm waiting to get into the kitchen to cook, and what is he cleaning? THE TOP OF THE REFRIGERATOR.
Losing everything. Misplacing his wallet, phone, credit card, keys, mail, important documents, literally anything in his possession - and then roping everyone around him into frantically searching for things right as he needs to leave the house.
He is a CPA and entrusted with very sensitive information, if his clients only KNEW what was going on behind closed doors...omg.
I’ll ask him something like “What time do you think we need to leave for the soccer game?” And he’ll answer, “Well, it’s 2:30 (or whatever time it is) NOW.” Yes, I know what time it is NOW, I asked you what time do you think we need to leave?!?
We're 14.5 years in and he's still convinced the toilet paper fairy replaces the roll as needed. Every once in a while I'll refuse to replace it and hide what I'm using. He'll eventually replace it but can't take the empty roll to the recycle. Last year he made a whole pyramid out of the empty rolls on top of the toilet tank and thought it was hilarious. Since I'm not a young kid or teenager I was not amused.
Not really doing things around the house (he does a lot, but when he’s working from home) then when I get home, insisting on doing stupid shit RIGHT NOW
"Hello babies. Welcome to Earth. It's hot in the summer and cold in the winter. It's round and wet and crowded. On the outside, babies, you've got a hundred years here. There's only one rule that I know of, babies-"God damn it, you've got to be kind.”
Getting just himself ready to leave while I'm running around packing everything but the kitchen sink for our autistic DS and then stuff for myself too. As we're getting shoes on he'll run & grab a snack for DS. No shit dude, thanks for thinking of that for me as if I haven't already packed the snacks necessary. *eye roll*
Leaving his dirty dishes on the counter right above the dishwasher with dirty dishes in it and his lunch prepping stuff all over the kitchen! "Don't do it for him, he'll get to it later." Later never comes for him because I try to cook dinner but can't until I clean up his mess from lunch. I'm getting pissed just writing this.
That first one drives me insane. MH does that too. Gets up 10 minutes before we’re leaving bc “that’s how much time I need to get ready” yet I’m up an hour before to get everyone else moving.
"Hello babies. Welcome to Earth. It's hot in the summer and cold in the winter. It's round and wet and crowded. On the outside, babies, you've got a hundred years here. There's only one rule that I know of, babies-"God damn it, you've got to be kind.”
Post by killercupcake on Jan 28, 2024 21:24:46 GMT -5
He will start projects, get through about 90% of them, and then won’t finish them until I threaten to unalive him.
It’s his ADHD and he actually brought it up with his therapist a couple of weeks ago and then FINALLY finished the built ins he started upstairs two years ago, so yay for that. Lol
Post by simpsongal on Jan 28, 2024 21:29:37 GMT -5
Complaining he can’t find something before he’s adequately looked. I’ve learned to just not respond or give further direction and in about 3 minutes he finds said item.
Being overly hedgy about things - whether social commitment, a gift idea from his folks. If you know something is 80% for sure a go, say yes and people understand if a work emergency comes up. But he’s always so on the fence. I’ve told him it makes people think you don’t want to spend time together, don’t want the gift, or it makes my life hard bc I can’t count on him. Re the latter, I’ve just started ignoring his hedges and said we’ll figure it out if he can’t commit.
He chews too loud, snores, and makes random weird noises. Plus talks to himself. Like literally he will narrate his actions "I am putting my socks on now. Now I will brush my teeth". Stfu please.
My current biggest complaint, complaint of the day if you will, random "thought experiments". Today's thought about experiment "What if I brought a Sasquatch home? What would the dog do?"
Are you kidding me? That's what you are thinking about??
Post by indianchica on Jan 28, 2024 22:24:57 GMT -5
On weekend mornings, he will have coffee and surf the internet. Let's say we need to get moving to put up the Christmas lights or whatever, I'll ask when he thinks he'll be ready to do that. He ALWAYS says, "when I'm done with my coffee." I find it infuriating bc it technically answers the question but with zero useful information. We've talked about it and he still does it every time.
Mine does a lot of "We need to..." We need to call about the leaking window. We need to make camping reservations for Memorial Day. We need to get more toothpaste. And I know damn well it's not going to happen unless I do it.
Post by donutsmakemegonuts on Jan 29, 2024 8:17:23 GMT -5
Always thinking the worst possible outcome will happen. Most of the time it's for little things like, we're watching football and someone on the team gets hurt. They walk off the field to get evaluated. DH will be like, well he's done for the season, probably broke his leg in 3435 places. Player comes back in on the next play. It's so so negative. This has gotten worse as he's gotten older.
Not knowing where he puts his phone or wallet. Not seeing anything that he might be looking for when it's right in front of him or it's behind something that he doesn't move to check.
Asking me to "remind him" to do things. So now I have to remember to remind you to do something??? No sir, I have enough in my brain already. I always tell him that I'm not doing it, if he needs a reminder he needs to write it down or something.
Calling my name from another room and expecting me to come to him when he needs to tell me something. Luckily, I have broken this habit because wtf. You are not important enough to beckon me.
He eats like a wild animal then wonders why he has digestion issues.
He calls ME and after I answer says "What's up?" - YOU called ME.
He's not handy at all, but every once in a while, he'll try to put something together or something along those lines. 5 minutes in, he's pissed off, throwing in the towel, saying it's not working, etc. I swoop in to fix it and 10 minutes later, it's done. WHY.
He watches stupid videos on his phone with the volume UP. I can hear it from downstairs.
Says cleaning the kitchen is his job. Cool. But then doesn't wipe the counters down or the sink... or the handles on the fridge...
Mine does a lot of "We need to..." We need to call about the leaking window. We need to make camping reservations for Memorial Day. We need to get more toothpaste. And I know damn well it's not going to happen unless I do it.
My DH used to do this a lot and it infuriated me. Now I often act like I misheard him slightly and respond with "Oh, you're right - thanks for handling that!" so he knows its on him. Because what is he going to say -"Oh I meant you"? He knows that wouldn't go over well lol.
He leaves a few seconds on the microwave all the time.
JFC mine does this too and drives me absolutely insane.
The other kitchen-related thing is leaving unrinsed dishes in the sink, in particular like a pyrex he used to microwave oatmeal or bowls with a bit of yogurt in them. I don't mind most dishes sitting unrinsed, but these two are just so gross to find sitting in the sink hours later.
I once completely lost it on H for doing the "we need to" thing on something that he obviously had no intention of doing and was actually just assigning to me. It wasn't my proudest moment, but he never did it again.
Researching purchases and projects. He will research a purchase for months before buying. And projects must be done in the most efficient manner possible. I get this but when you spend 2 months walking around the outside of the house debating between painting or siding before or after installing new windows....holy shit dude. I finally have to step in and say, we are painting this summer, order the windows, we will install in the fall and touch up any paint afterwards. Next time the house needs paint we can revisit siding. Gavel pounded.
He'd still be walking around looking, measuring, and contemplating the best possible way.
He's an analyst by trade, so imagine how that translates into our every day life ::eyeroll::
When he washes his hands, he leave puddles of water all over the counter. Washing your hands is not an Olympic sport. How are you getting water EVERYWHERE?!? Also, take the towel and wipe it up, man.
He will start a conversation with me in one room, but will continue it WHILE HE'S WALKING AWAY and when I don't follow him, he gets mad at me. Bro, I'm cooking dinner. I can't leave the stove to follow you into another room to hear about how Joe the IT guy is stupid and only googles your computer issues at work.
Post by litebright on Jan 29, 2024 12:07:04 GMT -5
He loves background noise. I would be perfectly happy to live in silence, without any device on except my phone/laptop, and music only when I'm working out. On the weekends, he will turn on two or three TVs around the house to the same game or show, and/or have a speaker connected to his phone, and then he will go off to do some chore that is someplace completely separate from any of those noise-makers, so they are playing to empty rooms. Or he'll leave to run errands and leave them all on.
I have built up a certain tolerance to it, but mostly I find background noise terribly distracting. I sit in a silent house all day long while I work. There are definitely times when I go around the house turning things off because it just gets to be more than I can handle.
only wearing one sock instead of the pair, to help his body regulate. This is the weirdest one.
Leaving said socks (and hats and neck warmers in the winter) just lying wherever he takes them off.
Watching every cooking show competition known to mankind. Over and over. It is so weird because he is very picky and will never eat most of what is cooked on the shows.