We moved here (east coast US) for my husband’s job 20+ years ago. He’s an academic, so to a large extent you go where the jobs are. Fortunately, we love it here.
When he retires in a few years we expect to move back to Italy, where he is from. We won’t be in his home city, but back in his home country, so much closer to his remaining family.
Post by EvieEthelGarland on Feb 9, 2024 13:33:14 GMT -5
20something SoCal native me wanted mountains and rivers and trees so I left for Seattle. 2 years later I met my H who grew up here. A few years later my parents followed. I always thought we'd move for retirement but I can't see myself moving a state where they're trying to shut down libraries and ob/gyns are fleeing in droves, no matter how beautiful it is. I also have other health needs that are best served in a large city so I'll probably die here.
H and I met in GA but we're both from the northeast (different states). After grad school he focused on jobs applications back in the general northeast area both because of family, because we hated living in the south and wanted to get out, and I in particular insisted we settle in a blue state. He got a job offer sort of in between our parents in a state/location we were OK with, and here we are.
I now have a job I love, friends, we have kids, we bought a house... I told him I'm never moving again!
I need a "most of the above" option. We live in Philadelphia. We both grew up very close to here, but went away for college and grad school. We moved back bc DH got a job here and I could get a new job easily (still mad about it -- I love love love Philly and wouldn't want to live anywhere else, but my first job in DC was so amazing and I've never been able to replicate that experience). So we moved both to be closer to family and for jobs.
I'll never leave here. There's no greater city in the world (I know people will disagree but Philly has such a great vibe. I love it here so much)
Philly is the only other place I would consider moving to (both my H and I grew up in Bucks County, our apartment is basically a shrine to Philly). Luckily, my brothers both live there (well one is moving into a house he just bought soon), so I visit often.
Post by mrsslocombe on Feb 9, 2024 14:12:50 GMT -5
I moved here after college because the options with NYC or LA to work in TV.
H moved here for grad school. I can't imagine living anywhere besides a big city. We both hate driving. The idea of living/maintaining a house is exhausting. Give me apartment living all day.
Post by dancingnancy on Feb 9, 2024 14:46:41 GMT -5
I live in rural NH. I grew up here, left when I was 17 and then 25 years later moved back with (now) XH and daughter. It’s a great place to raise kids, my family is here, and I still have friends here. Zero regrets.
I moved here after college because the options with NYC or LA to work in TV.
H moved here for grad school. I can't imagine living anywhere besides a big city. We both hate driving. The idea of living/maintaining a house is exhausting. Give me apartment living all day.
I moved here for college and then ended up getting a job in the area after graduation. A year later, H (then boyfriend) moved to be here with me and we've stayed ever since.
I grew up in Buffalo and moved to Los Angeles at 21 because my school had an internship program for anyone with a major or minor in the communications school that was based in LA. They have housing, offices, classes, etc. I did that my last semester without any other plans and ended up staying in LA for almost 10 years.
My husband got a job in the Philly ‘burbs and we moved here to be closer to family in New England and upstate NY. It’s fine. It’s nice having a large city without the large price tag most other cities have and being within driving distance of our aging parents. We bought a house and stuff.
Post by redheadbaker on Feb 9, 2024 18:49:03 GMT -5
I guess because of my job, but we live in the the particular borough that we're in because the apartment we moved to didn't have dog breed restrictions.
After college, I moved back to my hometown. One of my friends was in college about 150 miles from my hometown, in a VHCOL area. Her roommate bailed on her and she was super stressed about paying for the rent. She eventually convinced me to move out to be her roommate, which was super crazy because I didn't have a job, the economy wasn't great at that time, and it's a super expensive area. I was very fortunate to find a job shortly after moving and met my now husband about 6 months after moving. We've stayed here for jobs and stability for the kids, but will likely move once the kids are out of the house.
Post by firedancer10288 on Feb 9, 2024 19:07:18 GMT -5
We both grew up here. Our parents still live here, and all our siblings now live within 1.5 hours of here- some moved for school/jobs/military over the years, but all are back now. We had no plans to stay here so long, but we enjoyed the close family and free babysitting when DD was little, then once she started school we didn’t want to uproot her. So here we are.
I moved here after college because the options with NYC or LA to work in TV.
H moved here for grad school. I can't imagine living anywhere besides a big city. We both hate driving. The idea of living/maintaining a house is exhausting. Give me apartment living all day.
I love not driving.
It is the best! I love just walking outside wandering around with no plans in mind. I love It more even now having a baby/toddler that I can just throw in the stroller and get outside with no agenda and to just get fresh air.
My immediate family all ended up in the twin cities from our original small town, so when i moved from cali after being there 6 years it seemed like a no brainer. H has lived in the area all his life and we both made a career and great friends group here, so we don't see ourselves leaving. The winters are awful so it's a matter of good self care and some vacations to make up for it
We moved to CO for a job transfer for DH but my then company also had an office here and let me transfer. We moved when my kids were 7 months old and my parents lived an hour away from where we moved so that made it more attractive too. I like it here, it’s a good place to raise kids. Plenty of fun things to do. Not crazy about snow but after 11 years I’m used to it.
We bought our house for ridiculously cheap compared to what they are selling for now so we won’t be moving. And now that my kids are in middle school I’m sure we will stay until they graduate and after that who knows. We have thought about going back to Texas but I don’t know with the politics the way they are now. My Mom has passed but my dad now lives closer to us and is an active grandpa. My brother moved here too and is an hour away but we see him and his wife frequently.
Jalapeñomel , since I was 18, I've never lived in the same location for more than 4 years. Even in London, I've never lived in the same part of it (so many different vibes/parts, so it almost feels like new). We're on 4 years in our house this spring and while I would love something different (like a different country), I don't see us moving any time soon (I do love our house and neighbourhood). I do get you on itching to move often.
I feel like moving gets in your blood and it's hard to shake.
I feel like MH and I are totally opposite in this regard. He spent almost all of his life in this city and wants change. I lived in 20 houses before I graduated from high school and moved every few years before we bought our house 9 years ago. I really, really crave stability. I'm also totally over the idea of moving ever again. Especially now that we have a ton of crap.
Post by mcppalmbeach on Feb 9, 2024 21:54:40 GMT -5
I grew up in Florida, left for college and then came back and dragged my H here with me. Who the hell knows why? Well the reason why is because my parents are here and despite my disregard for Florida I can’t even regret being here and having my parents be a constant involved presence in my kids’ lives (and mine too). I also must admit that I romanticize the seasons, but I truly detest the cold and I’m not sure I would have survived many other places. Although we are a dumpster fire, the beaches and living by the water, boating, kayaking, etc. is truly wonderful when I stop to appreciate it. My husband is from Bucks County PA and he would have happily moved back there. It’s a gorgeous area, so much to do within close distance, but I am always surprised at the lack of diversity in the specific area where he’s from. It’s just white UMC as far as the eye can see.
Kind of multiple reasons. We moved here for grad school and initially stayed because DH had a good job and we realized I wasn't going to be getting into higher ed. Now, almost 17 years later, we love it. We're not near any family, and I miss being near the ocean, but it's a great place to raise our kids with moderate COL.
. My husband is from Bucks County PA and he would have happily moved back there. It’s a gorgeous area, so much to do within close distance, but I am always surprised at the lack of diversity in the specific area where he’s from. It’s just white UMC as far as the eye can see.
Honestly this is probably most of the county. Less UMC in my part when I was growing up, my area specifically had a lot of working class and poor families - I'd guess that's changed now based on the sizes and prices of all the new housing - but still extremely white, pretty conservative. I honestly can't believe my parents still live there being a liberal as they are. Our school board president was at January 6, as an example.