Post by InBetweenDays on Feb 28, 2024 10:14:27 GMT -5
Covid is the only time we slept in separate rooms due to illness. When H had it he slept in the guest room in the basement since it was more isolated. I slept on the pull out in our home office because I continued to work for the most part.
We usually just both stay in bed. Sometimes one of us will sleep in our sunroom, where we have a twin mattress, but not typically since it's not as comfortable. Neither of us is a particularly light sleeper, so it doesn't bother us if the other is a little restless or coughing in bed. And our toddler is usually the one who gets both of us sick, so trying to prevent transmission between the two of us feels pretty pointless.
Unfortunately we don't have a guest room, one of us has to sleep on the couch in the basement. I have horrible hips and I hate it and toss and turn all night.
If you hadn't guessed, I was feeling sick and H told me to go to the basement, he had to get up early. Mind you when he was sick for 10 days last week I ALSO had to sleep in the basement bc he was sick and needed his rest.
And to top it off he called ME selfish last night for not automatically offering to go to the basement!
Unfortunately we don't have a guest room, one of us has to sleep on the couch in the basement. I have horrible hips and I hate it and toss and turn all night.
If you hadn't guessed, I was feeling sick and H told me to go to the basement, he had to get up early. Mind you when he was sick for 10 days last week I ALSO had to sleep in the basement bc he was sick and needed his rest.
And to top it off he called ME selfish last night for not automatically offering to go to the basement!
Omg is he usually this self centered? Did you point out that when he was sick, you went to the basement?
Post by expectantsteelerfan on Feb 28, 2024 10:23:22 GMT -5
It depends for how sick the sick person is. We separate for Covid, and also if one of us is coughing all night kind of sick. We also are lucky enough to have multiple options for separating, so we tend to do whatever makes most sense for our schedules and who is sick. Dh has uses the 3rd floor bedroom as his home office, and there is a bed up there. When he works the night shift (usually 1 week a month), he sleeps up there during the day. So if he's sick, he might sleep up there. We also have a guest room with an ensuite bathroom that is next to our bedroom. If I am sick, I often sleep in there (I did the last time I had a really bad cough, and when I had a stomach bug). But when we had Covid, the one who was sick stayed in the main bedroom to isolate.
Post by litskispeciality on Feb 28, 2024 10:26:53 GMT -5
Depends on the circumstances, but I'm pretty much always can't get sick now.
Usually DH is the sick one, and he'll get up to move to the guest room when he starts to not feel well. Smaller size bed, but full private bedroom. When he's had COVID or a cold I can't catch he's also hunkered down in the basement with streaming services and game consoles, so it's not really that much of a punishment.
We sleep separately.,DH always takes the guest room, regardless of who is sick. This is because our dog sleeps on our bed and I’m her person (she can’t get on the guest bed and it would cause dog drama if I moved) . Our guest room bed is pretty nice so it’s not a big deal/a bad thing to sleep there
If one of us is sick to the point of needing to sleep separately from the outset (either contagiousness or just being up all night), the sick person usually will get our bed. If we end up separating in the middle of the night, whichever one of us is awake goes and sleeps in the guest bed. So if the sick person is up coughing or just awake/tossing and turning, they'll go to the other room. If the non-sick person is being kept awake, but the sick one is technically asleep, they'll go to the other room.
I seem to be an anomaly here but we don't do anything different and just stay in the same space. Sometimes the other spouse catches whatever the illness is, sometimes not. We also don't really have a guest room which affects the decision. I have an office with a futon but it's not that comfortable
ETA- maybe if one of us had something extremely important that we couldn't get sick for, I'm sure we'd suck it up and separate.
Post by fortnightlily on Feb 28, 2024 10:34:57 GMT -5
DH almost always sleeps in the bed, and he also rarely gets sick. Exception was when he was recovering from sinus surgery and needed to be propped upright so he slept in the corner of the sectional.
I tend to move downstairs to the couch if I'm sick. DS's room is right across the hall from ours and we all share one bathroom so I just want to be on my own floor where I don't have to worry about if I'm waking up anyone else.
Unfortunately we don't have a guest room, one of us has to sleep on the couch in the basement. I have horrible hips and I hate it and toss and turn all night.
If you hadn't guessed, I was feeling sick and H told me to go to the basement, he had to get up early. Mind you when he was sick for 10 days last week I ALSO had to sleep in the basement bc he was sick and needed his rest.
And to top it off he called ME selfish last night for not automatically offering to go to the basement!
I'd sleep in the bed anyway and if he had an issue, he can move. That's BS.
Some people responding here don't have sleep issues and it shows.
im amazed at how many people have guest rooms. Of the 14 places I’ve lived in my life, only one had a guest room (ages 4-7).
I haven’t even lived somewhere with a couch large enough for an adult to sleep on since childhood (small furniture is what fits our smaller house and our previous apartments).
Post by mrsslocombe on Feb 28, 2024 11:01:41 GMT -5
We don't have another bed, so typically we just stay together. If it's bad enough that we are disturbing the other person than we typically alternate who goes to the couch each night.
Somehow I am the one that doesn't get the bed either way. I have stopped sharing the bed when he's sick, but it doesn't seem to help because I don't know he's sick until he calls out of work and has been breathing in my face all night. There was illness in my house Nov through the middle of this month so I am not feeling empathetic about this.
ETA no guest room. I have a pull out love seat in the office/extra room. It is not comfortable. We have a living room couch that's big enough to sleep on, but sheer curtains and I need it like a cave to sleep.
I always leave the bed and go to the guest room regardless if I am the sick one or if he is sick. I am too fickle of a sleeper to either worry that I am keeping him up or have him keep me up.
H would never in a million years dream of going to a different bed. It is always me. He is also the person who chooses to take a nap in the living room while the whole family is around if he is sick. I think he loves having an audience lolol.
We typically share a bed still if one of us is sick. The exception is an illness that is so severe that the other person is not really sleeping at all, so then in that case they would go to the couch. For example, norovirus where one is running to the bathroom every 5 minutes.
Luckily, we don't tend to have hacking coughs, and have only gotten Covid once. We both had Covid at the same time, so we didn't isolate. The kid brought home Covid and spread it to us all at the same time.