Separate. My husband usually sleeps in the guest room no matter which one of us is sick. Sometimes I find it more comfortable to sleep on the couch, especially if I'm coughing a lot.
If I have even a hint of a cough, H goes to sleep in the guest room.
If he's sick, I don't really care and would only separate if he was keeping me up. And I go to the basement couch because I don't want to have to wash/remake the guest bed, lol.
I wish we had an actual guest room. I'd make H go sleep in it more LOL.
We have a pullout couch in the basement. The 2 times H had Covid and the rest of us didn't, he slept down there so he could isolate from us (as much as possible).
If we're sick and it isn't Covid, we just stay in the same room since we will both likely end up sick anyway. One time I made him leave because he was keeping me up with the coughing, but I felt pretty bad about it. (I slept well tho!)
Post by penguingrrl on Feb 28, 2024 15:07:18 GMT -5
We sleep in the same room. We don’t really easily have anywhere else to sleep. Our living room couch is an antique and not sleep-level comfy. Our family room is super bright and the kids hang out there in the morning so it would mess the whole house up if someone slept in there (we’ve used it for guests a handful of times, but that means getting out an air mattress). I’ve never lived anywhere with a guest room and in my life have only known one person IRL who had one.
DH and I are going on a year of sleeping in sperate rooms due to illness (DH has cancer). He is restless, sometimes in pain, and his soring is terrible. Given the current situation we both sleep better apart. I am a much better caregiver if I have had adequate rest. At this point it will be an adjustment to sleep together again.
In the past we would occasionally sperate (illness/snoring). Regardless of who is sick, he goes to the guest room - it is where his clothes are, so it works better that way it the morning. The bed is very comfortable, this is not a punishment.
Post by fivechickens on Feb 28, 2024 16:07:59 GMT -5
I sleep in an extra bed in D1 & D2 room during the week because H snores and I have go get up early during the week. On the weekend I will sleep in our room but inevitably end up back in their room because of his snoring.
If either of us are sick I sleep in the other room too.
We're usually sick more or less overlapping because we usually both catch it from the kids, so we don't usually bother isolating. We've had covid once, testing positive on the same day, a few days after DS.
The exception would be stomach bugs, when the kids get one, we usually try to designate the parent with the lighter schedule that week to be the "deal with it" parent. We sleep separately during those instances so somebody can hope to stay upright.
Post by verycontrary247 on Feb 28, 2024 21:32:20 GMT -5
Regardless of who is sick, if someone has to go my husband will sleep in the guest room or on the couch. That is primarily because our two geriatric cats almost exclusively reside in our bedroom and very much want to sleep with me. If I try to sleep in another room they will stomp around the house meowing loudly trying to find me and the guest room bed is too high up for one of them to get on.
Post by hbomdiggity on Feb 28, 2024 22:57:05 GMT -5
I recently had a bad cough cold and for the first time in prob 20 years of living together, I went to the guest room. Honestly, not sure why I don’t do that more often.
I don’t understand putting the sick person in a shared living space. Assuming that’s where most people’s couches are…
That’s like the exact opposite of quarantining.
Well I don’t think most people do it to quarantine. I think most people do it so the person who is sick can either get more rest or not disturb the person who isn’t sick if they’re coughing or running to the bathroom (GI illness), etc.
The times I’ve slept on the couch recently was due to daycare germs (she started with more phlegm type couch and yellow runny nose, then I had the same thing 2 days later) which is pretty much a daily exposure and we can’t quarantine from our daughter so me sleeping on the couch was my personal preference not to disturb my partner too much, not because I was quarantining.
It depends on who is sick and what type of sick it is. If I’m sick, we still share a bed (or sometimes if it’s a stomach thing, he sleeps on the couch). If he’s sick with anything but a stomach thing, he usually still sleeps in bed. If he has a stomach thing, he sleeps upstairs (our bedroom is on the main floor, as is our daughter’s) in his office/the spare room. There’s a bathroom there. He gets violently ill whenever he gets a stomach thing, and no one wants to be near him.
Post by basilosaurus on Feb 29, 2024 4:10:54 GMT -5
As far as sleep is concerned, he has literally slept through a tornado siren. My coughing or sniffling won't do anything. For me, no illness is worse than the foghorn snoring. I honestly sleep in a different room most nights because of it.
I figure by the time anyone is sick all the germs have already been shared.
OP- I’m hoping your H apologized in the light of day.
For us, if it’s a stomach thing, the sicko stays in our room bc we have a half bath in it & it’s less disruptive (if on couch, sicko would need to go upstairs or enter our bedroom for toilet). If it’s a coughing thing, the sicko usually goes to the couch bc it’s easier to sleep upright, meaning everyone gets a better sleep. If someone just feels “meh” or has fever or sniffles , we usually sleep together.
We don’t have a guest bed & the could is comfy so it’s nbd either way & is mostly about logistics.
Post by honeydew1894 on Feb 29, 2024 20:04:55 GMT -5
We sleep separately if one of us is sick, and I always get the master. It is kind of a joke at this point, but DH's mom set the rule that the wife gets the good bed so I just carry on that "tradition." We have a guest room so that is where DH goes.