So, I'm seeing this awesome guy. But.... We've had sex like three or four times now and he hasn't gone down on me (and I haven't give him a BJ either). I'm starting to wonder if he doesn't do oral. Deal breaker?
LOL no. 3 or 4 times is nothing. Hopefully he doesn't think you're a dealbreaker either since you never gave him oral.. You know, if you want oral, at the begining of foreplay, just guide him down there and see what happens.
LOL no. 3 or 4 times is nothing. Hopefully he doesn't think you're a dealbreaker either since you never gave him oral.. You know, if you want oral, at the begining of foreplay, just guide him down there and see what happens.
How exactly do you do that? I've never tried that...
For the record... not a dealbreaker, yet. Give him some and see if he reciprocates or "guide" him down there and see if he bites or licks... whatever you prefer?
D loves going south... oh, lord, I'm a lucky woman!!!
LOL no. 3 or 4 times is nothing. Hopefully he doesn't think you're a dealbreaker either since you never gave him oral.. You know, if you want oral, at the begining of foreplay, just guide him down there and see what happens.
How exactly do you do that? I've never tried that...
It's easier if he is already near that area like kissing your belly or whatever. Then I just gently grab his head and guide it down there. I've never met a man who didn't get a clue, they understand pretty fast, or who was turned off. They were all happy to oblige ;D
How exactly do you do that? I've never tried that...
It's easier if he is already near that area like kissing your belly or whatever. Then I just gently grab his head and guide it down there. I've never met a man who didn't get a clue, they understand pretty fast, or who was turned off. They were all happy to oblige ;D
Got it! I was just wondering if there was ever a guy who wouldn't do it after you gave him the hint... I'm not sure how I'd feel about that if it ever happened to me...
How exactly do you do that? I've never tried that...
It's easier if he is already near that area like kissing your belly or whatever. Then I just gently grab his head and guide it down there. I've never met a man who didn't get a clue, they understand pretty fast, or who was turned off. They were all happy to oblige ;D
Yeah, lovely, get with it! Just take his head and shove it down there!
LoB, I am totally teasing you. I was just getting some majorly funny mental images.
It's easier if he is already near that area like kissing your belly or whatever. Then I just gently grab his head and guide it down there. I've never met a man who didn't get a clue, they understand pretty fast, or who was turned off. They were all happy to oblige ;D
Yeah, lovely, get with it! Just take his head and shove it down there!
LoB, I am totally teasing you. I was just getting some majorly funny mental images.
LOL!!! I know! I have this mental image of a girl shoving his head or climbing onto his face and he's like "NOOOO!! I don't wanna!" LMAO!!!
I agree with the others. It's still new and neither one of you has done it....yet. Let us know what happens! Good luck. (Oh and yes if a guy was against, it's a deal breaker )
Am I the only one that doesn't like oral? I'd be thrilled if a guy never tried to go down there. Ugh so uncomfortable and does not feel good IMO. Do guys even like doing it?
Am I the only one that doesn't like oral? I'd be thrilled if a guy never tried to go down there. Ugh so uncomfortable and does not feel good IMO. Do guys even like doing it?
Am I the only one that doesn't like oral? I'd be thrilled if a guy never tried to go down there. Ugh so uncomfortable and does not feel good IMO. Do guys even like doing it?
Oh yes, D LOVES it!! and I love it too so we're happy campers... If it's not your thing, it's not your thing.
Dammit! So I can't just grab his hair and shove his face down there and say "Get that tongue working, bitch!"??
PSA: I've had 3 beers. Forgive me.
Oh well, this is what I did...
Or I started my period and we didn't do anything because the universe likes to fuck up my plans! So now I get to wait this shit out for a few days...
Noooooooooooooooooo!! We need to know! But yeah, don't do it during your periods. I am pretty sure he will hate oral if you try it now lol, which would skew the results.
Am I the only one that doesn't like oral? I'd be thrilled if a guy never tried to go down there. Ugh so uncomfortable and does not feel good IMO. Do guys even like doing it?
Uh, yeah. Not all guys enjoy doing it and not all girls enjoy receiving it. But, yes, guys enjoy doing it.
I used to think I didn't like oral, but then I found a guy who actually knew how to give oral and now, yes, it would be a deal breaker if he didn't give oral OR if he wasn't good at it.
I used to think I didn't like oral, but then I found a guy who actually knew how to give oral and now, yes, it would be a deal breaker if he didn't give oral OR if he wasn't good at it.
"Everything happens for a reason, people change so that you can learn to let go, things go wrong so you can appreciate them when they're right, and sometimes good things fall apart so better things can come together." ~Marilyn Monroe
Am I the only one that doesn't like oral? I'd be thrilled if a guy never tried to go down there. Ugh so uncomfortable and does not feel good IMO. Do guys even like doing it?
Maybe you haven't found the right guy??? Because IMO it's sooooo friggin awesome. Some guys like it more than others...those guys get bonus points!! :Y:
Uh, yeah. Not all guys enjoy doing it and not all girls enjoy receiving it. But, yes, guys enjoy doing it.
I used to think I didn't like oral, but then I found a guy who actually knew how to give oral and now, yes, it would be a deal breaker if he didn't give oral OR if he wasn't good at it.
I wasn't trying to be bitchy. I just don't understand how someone can NOT like it.
I had a friend once who claimed she hated it. She was all, "I don't understand how you like it? I get so self consicous and I can't relax, etc. etc". Once I gave her a pep talk and she calmed the fuck down about it she said it was better than sex. Ha!
I will be extremely sad if he doesn't do oral. It is funny that this could be the deal breaker and not our age difference, political stance, or some other glaring character flaw.
I will be extremely sad if he doesn't do oral. It is funny that this could be the deal breaker and not our age difference, political stance, or some other glaring character flaw.
I feel like this should be on a dating application. Drugs/addictions? Cheater? Micro peen? Give oral?
Haha! On OKCupid there is actually a question as to your stance on oral.
Uh, yeah. Not all guys enjoy doing it and not all girls enjoy receiving it. But, yes, guys enjoy doing it.
I used to think I didn't like oral, but then I found a guy who actually knew how to give oral and now, yes, it would be a deal breaker if he didn't give oral OR if he wasn't good at it.
I wasn't trying to be bitchy. I just don't understand how someone can NOT like it.
I had a friend once who claimed she hated it. She was all, "I don't understand how you like it? I get so self consicous and I can't relax, etc. etc". Once I gave her a pep talk and she calmed the fuck down about it she said it was better than sex. Ha!
Ha, no, I was agreeing with your faces. The whole "Do guys even like it!" was eye roll worthy. Different strokes for different folks people. Vagina's aren't a black hole of despair no man would want his face near.
Complete deal breaker. I could not imagine oral not being a normal part of sex. In fact such a deal breaker for me that he would have never even got to the sex part. You have to go downtown and be good at it before I am willing to let you get it in. I reciprcate in a big way though. Maybe this is why I've never had bad sex.
Complete deal breaker. I could not imagine oral not being a normal part of sex. In fact such a deal breaker for me that he would have never even got to the sex part. You have to go downtown and be good at it before I am willing to let you get it in. I reciprcate in a big way though. Maybe this is why I've never had bad sex.
Post by starburst604 on Oct 14, 2012 17:30:05 GMT -5
I can't come from it but I still love it as foreplay, but I never liked it as much as I do with T. He's really taken the time to figure out how I like it and he loves doing it. It would definitely be a deal breaker for me, also because I love giving BJ's and I'd be really pissed to not have that favor returned.
Well, since he hasn't gone down there yet that's why I was so concerned. I've always had oral as forplay. Granted, I haven't slept with many people. I just always considered it the norm in the forplay line up.
The way he goes to town on my nipples it seems like he would really be down with oral. Ugh. Oh and I just realized we may not have sex for at least two weeks because we both travel for work this month.