My brother is adopted. Doesn't change the fact that he is my brother and the thought of being married to him...well, just no. I think I would be less bothered to discover that my DH is actually a blood relative, though that certainly wouldn't thrill me either.
Post by indianchica on Oct 17, 2012 14:27:03 GMT -5
1 is way grosser. 1 has a higher likelihood that someone (mother/father) decieved someone (kids/husband). Also, 1 has the secret love thing going on in the background.
Although 2 is still a little weird. I have close blood relatives I didn't meet until adulthood and the family traits they have are even more pronounced to me than in people I grew up with. My brother just looks like himself to me, but one of my first cousins physically reminds me of my dad every time I see him.
Post by DarcyLongfellow on Oct 17, 2012 14:38:44 GMT -5
1 for sure.
Because the "grossness" factor is that you grew up with this person believing him/her to be your sibling. It makes an outsider think that you were attracted to your sibling your whole childhood, which is just weird.
The second one doesn't really gross me out. I'd be more worried about birth defects and other problems that you get with inbreeding (this seems like a non-PC word, but I'm not sure what to use!), but not as concerned about the "ick" factor because they married before they found out.
I love that this was just a fleeting thought for you OP. This reminds me of those "whats grosser than gross" games we played as a kid. You MUST be pregnant.
If 2 happened to me I'd have to get a divorce because I don't think that's something you can just forget and give the guy a bj in a week, kwim? And a marriage without sex is not my style.