I'm really not much liking the posts with the implication that the only people who contract STIs are irresponsible and have had a lot of partners. That's not always the case. If you're having sex, you're at risk. End of story.
I wasn't implying that at all. I know anyone can get a STD anytime. Just statistically, it's less likely the less partners you have. I mean most of my friends are still virgins, have had one partner or maybe two. So the chances of them getting something when they have such limited experiences, isn't as high but of course there is always a chance. And I always say people having sex are always at risk b/c condoms don't protect against everything so it's an inevitable risk you take every time. I am so aware of that and why I am always afraid of STDs!!
I'm curious about most of your friends being virgins.
We've been talking a lot lately about the possibility of me moving (especially since I hate where I am). Like, talking about pet peeves when being with someone, especially how they live. Yep, we've seriously talked about that.
I am an oversharer. I need to stop this and slow it down and I know this but I can't seem to do it.
I blabbed to SBG last night about some things that I really shouldn't have ... and woke up feeling like "OMG I've scared him off." Thankfully I didn't. Yet. But I need to knock this shit off.
Chronic oversharer here too. HOLLER! We should go to oversharers anonymous. Except it wouldn't be anonymous cuz none of us could keep our mouths shut.
Me too! I also can't keep a secret. My life is an open book.
Obviously the bolded is true, but you greatly reduce your chances of contracting an STD if you don't have a lot of partners or use a condom correctly every time you have sex.
All it takes is one infected partner. One broken condom. No one is immune, and that's why I refuse to judge or make assumptions.
Generally, though, slut-shaming just isn't my bag.
Andddddddddddddd, now I'm off for the day. Bye, folks!
Yup. STIs, Pregnancy, anything can happen only having sex once even with protection. Doesn't anyone else stalk ML? Those people are having babies with IUDs and vasectomies!
I have never had an STI and I was a big ole ho in undergrad, my friend who has had 3 sexual partners has HPV. Shit happens, you deal with it and I won't judge for it.
I had a total mental breakdown last night about never having a baby. One of my bf found out shes pregnant and sent me a video of how she told her parents. Im just really mourning the fact that there is a chance I will never have a child.
I ended up at the gym and spent 2.5 hours on the elliptical and now I cant walk today!
I should be writing a cover letter right now but instead I am on here. A position came open that would allow me actually use most of my classes. I think I would like it if I could ever get used to it. I really like a job that ridgid in that it has set tasks, I know exactly what is expected of me etc and this job is not at all like that. My mom's all like you should like a job that has varying things to do, you would be so bored if you did the same thing everyday. Um. no I wouldn't in fact I probably would enjoy it. So basically I am just going to do the application so she'll be quiet. Then she turns around and says, "well, I don't really care if you work or not it's not like you need the money" Grr and she gets mad when I say I want to move and have my own space.
My other confession is I don't think that most people REALLY confess what they KNOW would be flameworthy. I wonder what secrets we all really have that we wouldn't dare share.
My other confession is I don't think that most people REALLY confess what they KNOW would be flameworthy. I wonder what secrets we all really have that we wouldn't dare share.
The only thing flameworthy about your cofession is the fact that you think there is something wrong with thinking a guy is great! What's up with that?
My other confession is I don't think that most people REALLY confess what they KNOW would be flameworthy. I wonder what secrets we all really have that we wouldn't dare share.
The only thing flameworthy about your cofession is the fact that you think there is something wrong with thinking a guy is great! What's up with that?
The only thing flameworthy about your cofession is the fact that you think there is something wrong with thinking a guy is great! What's up with that?
I got some flack for it though (see page 1).
Oh I don't think there's anything wrong with it...I just think it's hard that he's so fresh off of his marriage though....but no, he's all sorts of awesome.
My other confession is I don't think that most people REALLY confess what they KNOW would be flameworthy. I wonder what secrets we all really have that we wouldn't dare share.
Oh, I will totally admit that I don't not post my flameworthy stuff on here.
Define what kind of slut you think it's okay to shame. Someone who has a lot of sex but is smart and protects herself? Or some slutty mcslutterson who goes around fucking 5 guys a week that she meets in bars with no protection and has herp out the wazoo and 9 babies at home from 8 different daddies?
My other confession is I don't think that most people REALLY confess what they KNOW would be flameworthy. I wonder what secrets we all really have that we wouldn't dare share.
Oh, I will totally admit that I don't not post my flameworthy stuff on here.
Nor do I....but I share with others in my real life....nothing is off limits!
Speaking of slut-shaming, one of my BFFs keeps telling me she wants a relationship but won't stop hooking up with random guys several times a week. I can't help but think she's going to have to go wayyy outside of her circle and meet someone who doesn't know this about her in order for her to find someone to actually date for any extended period of time.
Define what kind of slut you think it's okay to shame. Someone who has a lot of sex but is smart and protects herself? Or some slutty mcslutterson who goes around fucking 5 guys a week that she meets in bars with no protection and has herp out the wazoo and 9 babies at home from 8 different daddies?
Why are all of these options female?
In general, I see the loosening of sexual standards as being a part of the beauty myth (and probably its precursors) in a way, or at the very least, an outcome of it. I've noticed people don't seem to be able to invest all that much in sex, much as they say otherwise, and I can't help but wonder how that plays into how rare truly happy long-term couplings are. I just think that people don't have much to invest in each other, period, which makes it hard to truly connect.
Define what kind of slut you think it's okay to shame. Someone who has a lot of sex but is smart and protects herself? Or some slutty mcslutterson who goes around fucking 5 guys a week that she meets in bars with no protection and has herp out the wazoo and 9 babies at home from 8 different daddies?
Why are all of these options female?
In general, I see the loosening of sexual standards as being a part of the beauty myth (and probably its precursors) in a way, or at the very least, an outcome of it. I've noticed people don't seem to be able to invest all that much in sex, much as they say otherwise, and I can't help but wonder how that plays into how rare truly happy long-term couplings are. I just think that people don't have much to invest in each other, period, which makes it hard to truly connect.
Having been in a committed 3 year relationship before having sex the first time, then going crazy in undergrad, then settling down again, I think there is a big difference in sex for fun and sex with someone you care about. My slutty period was more me learning what I like and what I don't like-both in a guy and in sex. I had had sex with one person (kissed one person) in my entire life by 22, and I really just didn't know much about anything sex wise.
I'm sure there are other ways of figuring it out, and I am positive, had I been with the right person the first time, two people can experiment and work on it and figure it out. However, I personally think I would always wonder "what if" "what if sex is better with someone else" "what if I am doing it wrong" etc. I don't think no strings sex is for everyone, but I think for some, as long as you are safe, it can help you learn about yourself and what you want in a partner.
I think I am very connected with my husband when we have sex. It is a very different experience than it was with my FWB. What do you think people who have been promiscuous aren't able to connect about? Or haven't "invested" in their partner? Not being snarky, just interested in your point of view.
My other confession is I don't think that most people REALLY confess what they KNOW would be flameworthy. I wonder what secrets we all really have that we wouldn't dare share.
Oh, I will totally admit that I don't not post my flameworthy stuff on here.
You "don't not post" your flameworthy stuff? So you DOOOO post it.
In general, I see the loosening of sexual standards as being a part of the beauty myth (and probably its precursors) in a way, or at the very least, an outcome of it. I've noticed people don't seem to be able to invest all that much in sex, much as they say otherwise, and I can't help but wonder how that plays into how rare truly happy long-term couplings are. I just think that people don't have much to invest in each other, period, which makes it hard to truly connect.
Having been in a committed 3 year relationship before having sex the first time, then going crazy in undergrad, then settling down again, I think there is a big difference in sex for fun and sex with someone you care about. My slutty period was more me learning what I like and what I don't like-both in a guy and in sex. I had had sex with one person (kissed one person) in my entire life by 22, and I really just didn't know much about anything sex wise.
I'm sure there are other ways of figuring it out, and I am positive, had I been with the right person the first time, two people can experiment and work on it and figure it out. However, I personally think I would always wonder "what if" "what if sex is better with someone else" "what if I am doing it wrong" etc. I don't think no strings sex is for everyone, but I think for some, as long as you are safe, it can help you learn about yourself and what you want in a partner.
I think I am very connected with my husband when we have sex. It is a very different experience than it was with my FWB. What do you think people who have been promiscuous aren't able to connect about? Or haven't "invested" in their partner? Not being snarky, just interested in your point of view.
I don't think it's really a divide between people who have been promiscuous and people who haven't been. I think it's everyone raised in this culture where visuals are key and a certain amount of promiscuity is the norm, whether you're partaking or not. It's a culture that impedes real connectedness in favor of a dissatisfaction that keeps people buying things, and the idea of "sex for fun" is part of that.
Define what kind of slut you think it's okay to shame. Someone who has a lot of sex but is smart and protects herself? Or some slutty mcslutterson who goes around fucking 5 guys a week that she meets in bars with no protection and has herp out the wazoo and 9 babies at home from 8 different daddies?
Why are all of these options female?
In general, I see the loosening of sexual standards as being a part of the beauty myth (and probably its precursors) in a way, or at the very least, an outcome of it. I've noticed people don't seem to be able to invest all that much in sex, much as they say otherwise, and I can't help but wonder how that plays into how rare truly happy long-term couplings are. I just think that people don't have much to invest in each other, period, which makes it hard to truly connect.
Good point, I just always associate "slut shaming" with women since most people don't seem to care when guys are out sluttin it up. It's just "being a guy".
Post by dakotadangerdog on Oct 19, 2012 15:33:53 GMT -5
CFG is still here for at least 2 weeks, but I reactivated my match and okc profiles. I haven't really made an effort to talk to anyone, and won't meet up with anyone while he's still here. I feel shady about it though, even though we aren't even a couple.