Honestly, simplify sounds like a nutcase, but I wouldn't encourage any future kids to sleep with someone they'd just met. I don't really feel I'm in a position to pass judgement or make recommendations for anyone else.
I'm not judging anyone for doing it or having done it, but to me sex is something you share with a person once you have an emotional connection. But that's my choice and the way I've lived my life and it's not any better or worse than anyone else.
Your choice (as well as simplify 's) are 100% valid. I also don't plan on encouraging my daughter to sleep with everyone under the sun. My issue with simplify is the judgment.
I have slept with less than 10 guys and I lost my virginity at 22 to the guy I was in love with at the time. However, when things went south with him, I "whored" it up. Yes I slept around a bit. I never thought I'd wind up married to one if the guys I slept with during this time. And if I didn't meet him, my number would probably be higher.
For me, it was a period of sexual freedom, fun, not being tied down. I used condoms, went to the gyno, etc etc. I don't judge anyone for wanting to experiment and have fun if they are safe. And maybe they'll luck out like me and meet the person they'll marry.
No problem. Sorry if whatever someone said upset you! Internet fighting can be fun if you don't take it seriously.
No one specifically upset me, but fights in general aren't fun to me and I am definitely not a fan of name calling. I think we as women should pull each other up, not push each other down. I don't think there is anything worthwhile or redeeming in Internet fighting.
But that's me. If it's not the prevailing attitude on here, I think I'll go back to lurker status and find another board that better suits my personality and beliefs.
Ah, well I think you should just look at it in another way. Nothing would ever get changed in this world if we just sat there and said "wow, your idea is different, but I can appreciate your views."
The majority of this time we do not fight on this board. And even if we do unless you are a crazy person most of us can still be friends and supportive of people we disagree with (so many of us are lawyers after all, we happen to be argumentative ha ha). The ladies of this board can be incredibly supportive and wonderful (but they also aren't going to hesitate to call someone out when they spout out ridiculousness).
Sadly, I am not sure there is any board on the internet that doesn't enjoy a good flamewar (and I have been on internet message boards since 1996 )
No problem. Sorry if whatever someone said upset you! Internet fighting can be fun if you don't take it seriously.
No one specifically upset me, but fights in general aren't fun to me and I am definitely not a fan of name calling. I think we as women should pull each other up, not push each other down. I don't think there is anything worthwhile or redeeming in Internet fighting.
But that's me. If it's not the prevailing attitude on here, I think I'll go back to lurker status and find another board that better suits my personality and beliefs.
I do enjoy the debates. This board has helped me refine & clarify my beliefs on a lot of issues.
I actually think I've learned the most from people who approach me with kindness, respect and patience. I highly doubt anyone has ever changed their mind as a result of being called names or insulted. I know I wouldn't.
And I don't like arguments. Just not my nature. But I'll keep your thoughts in mind, so thanks.
FTR I've *never* had a one night stand. Or slept with someone I just met.
What about the men? Are they fucked up? Are they gross? Is it okay because "they're men?"
Oh and High Horse is what really got the thread going by specifically calling me out and not just stating an UO. It was uncalled for and could have been better presented.
Yes there are people who sleep around to fill an emotional void, but there are also people who get married for these reasons. There are also people who sleep around who are fully confident in themselves and enjoy consensual sex just for the fun of it without an emotional connection. Making blanket statements like "whoring yourself out" and all that crap just make the judger sound ridiculous.
I actually think I've learned the most from people who approach me with kindness, respect and patience. I highly doubt anyone has ever changed their mind as a result of being called names or insulted. I know I wouldn't.
And I don't like arguments. Just not my nature. But I'll keep your thoughts in mind, so thanks.
No problem! I guess the way I figure it. When I really need these ladies (like when my mom died) they went above and beyond to be supportive and that matters more than some argument in a late night post
FTR I've *never* had a one night stand. Or slept with someone I just met.
What about the men? Are they fucked up? Are they gross? Is it okay because "they're men?"
Oh and High Horse is what really got the thread going by specifically calling me out and not just stating an UO. It was uncalled for and could have been better presented.
I've had plenty of both in my single days. It was awesome!!
No one specifically upset me, but fights in general aren't fun to me and I am definitely not a fan of name calling. I think we as women should pull each other up, not push each other down. I don't think there is anything worthwhile or redeeming in Internet fighting.
But that's me. If it's not the prevailing attitude on here, I think I'll go back to lurker status and find another board that better suits my personality and beliefs.
And, I guess my UO is that the people that don't really need to concern themselves with life "being fair" are the people that aren't in bad situations, disenfranchised, or otherwise struggling. And it makes the "life isn't fair" type comments sound pretty insensitive.
Thanks barefoot. It looks like a long one so I'll put it aside until I have a bigger screen than my phone.
I actually think I've learned the most from people who approach me with kindness, respect and patience. I highly doubt anyone has ever changed their mind as a result of being called names or insulted. I know I wouldn't.
And I don't like arguments. Just not my nature. But I'll keep your thoughts in mind, so thanks.
Personally, I can't take insults seriously from people who "don't know me." I won't change from insults from people who I don't interact with IRL. I get flamed a LOT here and name called often, but I've never met these people. I can't take stock in what the say.
Now, if my BFF insults me well, that hurts. That might make me change because this person "knows me" and loves me. I respect and love them, so their insult means much more.
"Whored myself out" = yes, I'll pull the feminist card. Women who have consensual sex are not fucking prostitutes or immoral.
Why quote half of my sentence? Consensual sex, for the second time, isn't the issue. Sex w total strangers is the issue.
I never said or implied your emphatic last sentence above. You are hell bent on trying to make it seem that way though!
My response you are quoting was a statement about me (not other men or women) in response to the pp suggesting my sex life couldn't have been fulfilling. I threw a barb back, simple as that. A person can have a very fulfilling sex life without resorting to sleeping with strangers.
How is sex with strangers not consensual? The two aren't mutually exclusive.
Just because I'm curious, isn't the point of an Unpopular Opinion thread to safely post what would otherwise be unpopular opinions?
I'm not defending anyone or any statements, and I definitely am not looking for an online fight, but just let me know because if it's just a way to find out who thinks differently to you so you can attack or flame them, I'll know to not post on them anymore. Not in the mood for online fights (or any fights) these days.
I always look at UO threads as an excuse for flaming whoever posts something flameworthy to make the thread a good reas. Flame free confessions on the other hand, should theoretically be more interesting for the confessions rather than the fighting.
I don't think people should be shamed for having consensual sex with whoever they want, but I really don't get what makes a one-night stand "fun."
Orgasms.
Lol, I get that part, but I just can't picture how anyone would feel comfortable getting that intimate with someone they weren't close to.
I get that there are people who DO feel just fine sleeping with people they don't know well or aren't in a relationship with, but in my mind I can't separate sex from an emotional bond, or at the very least from being with someone I'd known for a long time and could fully trust.
It's not even a "morality" thing. I would just be really uncomfortable letting myself get into a vulnerable state with someone I didn't know well ... Letting them see me naked, an off chance of pregnancy or STDs (even with protection the slight risk is still there), being alone with someone I didn't know well, etc.
I'm just having trouble understanding how people can get themselves comfortable with this. I don't think even a mind-blowing orgasm would be enough to allow me to overlook those concerns.
Been there done that. Ask most women in their 40s and looking back, it was not all that satisfying. It is like women swearing they love to swallow cum when they are in their 20s.
Been there done that. Ask most women in their 40s and looking back, it was not all that satisfying. It is like women swearing they love to swallow cum when they are in their 20s.
Again, to each their own. I'll be in my 40s in 6 months and at this point, looking back it still seemed pretty enjoyable. This is really just a personal preference issue. There's no right or wrong.
Been there done that. Ask most women in their 40s and looking back, it was not all that satisfying. It is like women swearing they love to swallow cum when they are in their 20s.
That's fine. Still not a reason for others to deem women gross or sluts or whores for doing it.
Also, some people just aren't that shy, don't feel all that vulnerable naked, and don't see sex as something that needs to be an emotional thing.
In addition to some shyness, I would be a little afraid to be in that position with someone I didn't know well. What if he did something bad to me or didn't stop if I asked him to?