Post by NomadicMama on Sept 12, 2018 14:11:13 GMT -5
Is Amber as truly insecure as she appears on the show? I feel like she’s forever talking about how insecure everything makes her feel. No, Dave is not perfect and he can be judgmental, but she had a tantrum over socks!!! Socks!! She was giving herself a pat on the back for working full time while adjusting to marriage and doing the show as if it were something out of the ordinary. Dave may take some of her comments too seriously, but he’s right to be concerned. She wants to get pregnant ASAP and he’s seeing yellow flags, if not red ones. I understand that she’s 36 years old. I had my son at nearly 38, I know the feeling of needing to beat the clock…but she married a stranger!!!! (Interestingly, I married my husband after a short “courtship”, seven months after our first date. A good friend’s husband asked me if I was sure that trying to have a baby with a man a hardly knew was the best idea. I was incredulous at the time, but with a bit of perspective now, I can see why he had concerns. Things worked out, we’ve been married for 12 years and have a solid relationship, but it was a gamble.)
I’m torn on how I feel about Bobby and Danielle. On one hand, their relationship seems kind of shallow and awfully one-sided. Bobby does a lot of the work and Danielle reaps the benefit. But…outside of the foster’s diarrhea, they seem happy. They seem fairly well-suited for one another. I wonder what their life would like if Danielle didn’t have such a commute. Right now, he seems to pick up the slack to compensate for her long drives, but what would change if she had two more hours at home a day? Also, she needs to learn to share how she feels with Bobby. He poured his heart out to her and she just sat there.
Tristan and Mia…it was quite interesting to me that Danielle, apparently, counseled Mia to have a back up plan just in case. I wonder if she knows something that we don’t. I don’t think moving is necessarily bad, but I think Tristan needs to realize that she’s doing this for him. I wish they’d done separate pro and con lists, I think Tristan would have realized that she’s giving up a great deal for him.
Post by NomadicMama on Sept 5, 2018 12:21:54 GMT -5
I am on TeamTristan, but why didn’t he tell the experts that moving to Houston was of great importance to him because of his business and family? They have been married for such a short period of time and he’s totally pressing the issue. Sign a six month less and be married for a few months. Then talk about it. And don’t talk crap about her family. You don’t know them, but they created, for better or for worse, your wife. She loves them. At least be respectful.
Post by NomadicMama on Aug 29, 2018 13:17:56 GMT -5
Is it just me or do this season’s women seem to be lacking in depth? Mia’s emotional intelligence is minimal, Amber is too insecure for reality television and Danielle keeps everything to herself except her desire for a guy with southern values…
Post by NomadicMama on Aug 19, 2018 19:16:26 GMT -5
@jalapeñomel, I watched the “extended” episode, so maybe it was one of the extras. It’s interesting though, as there was so little conversation regarding where to live. Danielle seemed so willing to move into Danny’s house. A commute of 90 minutes, each way, is significant.
Sorry I’m just being facetious. Because Amber is...something else.
I haven't seen the episode yet. But, if that was her reaction, she is fucking ridiculous.
Amber can’t seem to “get” that her husband can have a “type” (that she is not) AND find her attractive. She is showing a very insecure side of her personality…and, IMO, she doesn’t handle it well.
I was relieved to see that Amber’s “I already have friends” comment was not **as** harsh as it seemed in the preview. It was still very nearsighted and not in the spirit of the show, but whatever. Amber’s best friend is very outspoken and opinionated. Dave was not a fan!!
The dog pee seems to be getting to Bobby. I wonder if that is what sets him off. Danielle had a 90 minute commute, each way, since moving in with Bobby. That will get old very quickly.
It looks like Mia is going to have more explaining to do in the coming episode. Honestly, I’m starting to question her judgment and/or her intelligence.
Post by NomadicMama on Aug 8, 2018 10:58:14 GMT -5
The preview for next week…Amber appears to tell Dave, her husband whose friends are in **world**, that she had friends and isn’t interested in making more. I sure hope that’s a result of editing and not what she actually said. If it is, the experts really screwed up with these two.
He really is unhappy about her cat. It would have helped if they’d “cat proofed” the house first, but he needs to chill. I have to say, outside of fitness, I’m not sure what these two have in common.
Bobby and Danielle kind of seem like an old married couple in many ways. They seem fairly well matched (outside of the SAHM situation).
Mia and Tristan…they seem to enjoy each other quite a bit. I just hope that she’s been fully honest with him.
The people with young children involved bother me the most. Not saying you don't deserve to find love and be happy once you have kids, but it should be a situation where you are able to get to know the person well, in person, before you will introduce them to your children. And when you do, it is not moving that stranger into your house.
EXACTLY! I'm all for moms and dads finding true love and creating a healthy home for their children in a loving family. This is not how you do it.
All parent participants should have to watch Molly and Luis’s segments before moving forward. Theirs is a perfect example of what NOT to do.
Paul likely put all of his efforts into saving money, but Duolingo is free! You can’t spend the rest of your life relying on a translation app!
Post by NomadicMama on Aug 6, 2018 14:13:45 GMT -5
marie, Jon and Rachel are intriguing. In a preview, Jon’s friend said that Jon is not the commitment type of guy. I wonder if part of the attraction is a girlfriend without the in-person dynamics. They seem to be the most organic couple given how they met. I noticed that she didn’t carry a diaper bag and that left me scratching my head.
Post by NomadicMama on Aug 6, 2018 12:38:42 GMT -5
I cringed every time Darcy mentioned “working on herself”. She is clearly trying to become the person she thinks Jesse wants. It is painful to watch. I wish she were setting a stronger example for her daughters.
The 12 year old daughter, Amber, whose dad is flying to Colombia seems to have a better handle on things than her dad…who isn’t even divorced yet. How do you buy a plane ticket without an enthusiastic agreement from your “pen pal”?
Paul has not changed one bit. And it is concerning to me that the woman he intends to marry asked for stuffed animals, unicorn slippers, a unicorn onesie and sex toys. She is very young.
Post by NomadicMama on Jul 30, 2018 13:19:03 GMT -5
Did anyone else watch Nicole and Azan’s update show? Nicole needs to let Azan go and move on…but he’s roped her in with his scam of a store. She put up $6k and he contributed $500, but the paperwork is all in his name since she’s American. Nicole, were you born yesterday?!?!? Also, considering that she’s a barista, and supporting Azan, I’m kind of impressed that she was able to save that much money. I know the Americans get paid to be on the show, but it’s not that much.
Post by NomadicMama on Jul 29, 2018 20:03:28 GMT -5
Anfisa is not going to actually fight Pao. First, Pao would kick her ass. And secondly, Anfisa’s had enough work done on her face that she won’t risk the investment.
And Jorge needs to learn where to place his modifiers when defending his wife. “Don’t effing mess with my wife!” wouldn’t have made me chuckle like I did when he said, “Don’t mess with my effing wife!”
Post by NomadicMama on Jul 26, 2018 14:15:49 GMT -5
I think Pedro and River are both to blame, as are Chantal and her parents. It is obvious that Pedro does not have a positive relationship with his in laws and the visit with his sister is going poorly with regards to Chantal. Why would a “family” dinner, in private, sound like a good idea? Give everyone space!!!
I do think Pedro’s side kick to clear food off of the table was over the top. Dinner had already been ruined, don’t purposely make an even bigger mess.
Molly really lacks self awareness. She argued with Anfisa about not wanting to stick around if Jorge is the father of the ten year old. Had Luis had the awareness that he wanted little to do with Molly’s daughters, Molly would not be in this situation. It’s scary when Anfisa is the most self aware individual on the stage.
Post by NomadicMama on Jul 26, 2018 0:25:56 GMT -5
What’s the deal about the guy from their gym who Amber dated and Dave is all bent out of shape over? I’m curious about the backstory there because Dave’s reaction seems disproportionate to the bits of the situation as presented on the show.
Bobby and Danielle come across as very sheltered, especially Bobby. They both seem inexperienced, as though they haven’t had many dating experiences.
Mia…she plays the “good Christian girl” card but her arrest warrant tells another story. Tristian seems like a good guy…a little misguided to have signed up for MAFS, but otherwise not too out there.
Post by NomadicMama on Jul 23, 2018 22:06:53 GMT -5
I’m watching 90 Day Fiancé and Libby and Andrei make ***so*** much more sense now after seeing her father and her interact. She married the Moldovan version of her father. I’m surprised I didn’t see it last year.
Post by NomadicMama on Jul 19, 2018 20:43:02 GMT -5
It strikes me as odd to add Bristol into the mix…but as the moms/families age and have figured out how to parent/co-parent (except Ryan because he’s an idiot), their story lines are less dramatic. Teen Mom is trying to keep things interesting. I’m curious to see how Bristol interacts with the other moms when the cast gets together.
David is an idiot and he can't get a job because his interview skills suck. Watching that one interview he did was painful. He needs a job coach to help him with his interview skills pronto. I'm sure Annie just saw a sugar daddy and now she's doubly frustrated.
Jorge totally knows that's his kid and he's going to be screwed.
I have not watched the current episode yet…but Annie has got to feel duped. I’d love to know how he explained/described his life in the States. She should have known things weren’t as they appeared when he had to borrow money for her dowry and jewelry—and the wedding. Why she went through with the marriage is beyond me. She knew he was at Chris’ mercy. Chris even offered her a plane ticket home. When he did not have a job at the time of their wedding should have the final failing. I understand wanting to believe in your future husband, but at this point, they hadn’t known each other that long. The investment (beyond the K-1 visa) was not there.
Post by NomadicMama on Jul 7, 2018 20:40:09 GMT -5
Chantal needs to learn to set up boundaries with her family. She can’t complain when her family gets defensive about her when she complains to them when things are rough with Pedro. I agree, Chantal and Pedro would do well to move away from her family. Give them their own space and to grow as a couple.
Post by NomadicMama on Jul 5, 2018 18:33:18 GMT -5
Because she let Dr. Miami broadcast her surgery on Snapchat, he didn’t charge Briana. Publicity for both of them.
I get that military relationships sometimes move quickly, but both individuals need to be on board. And Briana clearly was not. Proposing at two months is crazy (and that’s coming from someone who got engaged at six months and married 24 days later…). Kail talked about how controlling Javi was, but I thought it was more a function of their dynamic. It’s looking like more of a pattern…It’s interesting that Javi and Kail hooked up before Javi ended things with Briana. Not cool.
Jase, Kaiser and Ensley are screwed. Jennel and David are wretched people. The fact that she has zero reaction to a sheriff officer knocking on her door says something. And Jase’s comment about Jennel and David being pieces of excrement is sad. You know somebody has at least said that statement in his presence if not to him. It’s a true statement, but he’s like 8 years old.
It’s nice to see that Leah and Chelsea have relatively boring lives with minimal drama, especially when compared to the other two women.
Yup yup yup. In 14-plus years of I've never found a good psychiatrist who took my insurance AND had availability. I saw some duds who met both criteria but the good ones I've seen I've paid out of network costs. And half the time I don't manage the paperwork to get any reimbursement (thanks to you know, the conditions I'm being treated for). It's exhausting and demoralizing. I've struggled to get in front of someone more times than I can count, and I'm usually pretty high functioning.
I don’t post here but I saw this thread…
I’m in the very same situation. We pay out of pocket for my psychiatrist. I’m thankful that he’s worth it (and that we can afford it). Over the past 20 years, I’ve seen some horrible psychiatrists. It is frustrating.
What I find so hard is once I’ve worked up the energy/courage to call to try to schedule an appointment, the door is often shut in my face or the hoops are too many for someone in a fragile place to manage. One time, I went to the clinic to try to set up an appointment and I ended up bawling in a conference room while the clinic manager worked to help me out.
I can’t speak beyond my personal experience, but in Germany, I had to petition a psychiatrist to see me. He saw me twice and then said that what I needed was beyond his scope of work (depression and ADHD). And then he offered me gummi bears (no joke!). I’m not sure how other countries manage their mental health services, but my guess is that many people struggle all over.
On the one hand, I understand Pedro's sister's reluctance to sleep on their couch. On the other hand, as a guest in someone's home, she should be gracious that they've offered her a free place to stay. Her snooty attitude would have sent me over the edge. I think Chantel's reaction was pretty tame actually.
As a young adult, sleeping on a friend’s couch was not uncommon. At least Chantel and Pedro have a one bedroom apartment now. They used to live in a studio! His sister loves to stir the pot. I would be curious to know what his sister expected Pedro’s life to be like versus what it actually is. He sends money home to his family, but he is not living large by any means. The money he sends home could go to better Chantel and Pedro’s financial future. (I’m not saying he shouldn’t send money, but it does come at a cost.)
I can not wait to see Robalee in Morocco!!! She is going to size up Azan big time!!! I hope they catch all the good stuff on camera.
Annie is getting fed up with David and his lies. I wonder what he does all day. Is he out networking? Does he leave the firehouse and go, perhaps, to the library so Annie thinks he’s doing something, or does he sit around dreaming up new plans he’ll never be able to realize? I understand that he is in a difficult situation. I have been out of the work force for a decade and the thought of going back is daunting. But I didn’t make promises to folks and bring back a young and foreign spouse.
Molly needs to cease all communication with Luis and clean his crap out of her home. And then apologize to her daughters and beg for their forgiveness. She screwed up, big time!
Post by NomadicMama on Jun 28, 2018 16:22:40 GMT -5
She can do soooooo much better than Ryan. Plus, I feel like she would have benefitted from either more time on her own or a more conventional relationship that progressed naturally. Launching directly into marriage after the death of her boyfriend (fiancé?) felt like too much too soon to me.
Post by NomadicMama on Jun 23, 2018 20:12:45 GMT -5
I did something similar when I was in my mid-20s and living with my parents. I drove the Jaguar into the BMW, in the driveway. It’s been twenty years and my dad still doesn’t find the story particularly funny. His car, the BMW (the one I was driving), had just a cracked reflector, but my mom’s car had a huge dent in it. My mom was not thrilled about it, but she made certain to pull me aside and remind me that’s what we have insurance for. I felt awful about it. But, it’s kind of a funny story now.
I’m late to the conversation, but is there any chance that the reason Waterford arranged the meeting with Hannah was to emotional ravage June in the hopes that it might trigger labor?
I also wonder if Waterford and Serena might claim that the rape was only done to help soften June’s cervix and it was necessary? I do think Aunt Lydia would/will flip out if/when she finds out.
I've wondered this too. I mean, he has to know where she is right? He was obviously keeping it from Serena. I almost thought maybe not only did he set it up to trigger labor, but to basically get rid of both June and the baby since June threw it back at him that it wasn't his child.
Is being genetically related important in Gilead? I wonder if the lineage of the child doesn’t matter as much as simply getting a baby. Though, I’m certain that Waterford’s ego took a hit when he learned the paternity of June’s baby.
The farce of the entire handmaid/commander’s wife birth ritual is scary. Serena (and all the other wives) have all bought into the bullshit. I’m certain that June enjoyed the falseness of the labor. She was able to embarrass Serena thinking she’d get away with it.
Post by NomadicMama on Jun 22, 2018 21:51:21 GMT -5
I’m late to the conversation, but is there any chance that the reason Waterford arranged the meeting with Hannah was to emotional ravage June in the hopes that it might trigger labor?
I also wonder if Waterford and Serena might claim that the rape was only done to help soften June’s cervix and it was necessary? I do think Aunt Lydia would/will flip out if/when she finds out.
Post by NomadicMama on Jun 22, 2018 19:55:52 GMT -5
I saw that and was surprised that he filed and that he’s asking for spousal support. He seemed like such an egotistical man, I hope Alexis soars once she’s free of his dead weight. I hope she’s able to think for herself and take care of herself and not depend upon another man.
Post by NomadicMama on Jun 14, 2018 10:52:43 GMT -5
I know it’s all about the ratings, but Bravo could have not used Jeff’s rude and inappropriate comments.
I remember watching that episode and being surprised that the film crew had such access. Regardless of who is legally right, I feel for the surrogate. A very private experience was made very public.
Post by NomadicMama on Jun 14, 2018 10:44:14 GMT -5
I had mine seven and a half years ago. The only thing I remember is that I felt surprisingly good the day after and I completely overdid it—as in going to Target with my parents (who were in town to help with my toddler during my recovery). The second day after the procedure, I was exhausted and achy. So, even if you feel great the day after, rest!!!
Post by NomadicMama on Jun 10, 2018 23:39:52 GMT -5
I understand Nicole’s mom is walking a very thin line…at least Nicole’s dress didn’t cost $2k. But yah, a bit of tough love might be in order. I find it interesting that Nicole thinks Azan’s family is going to foot the bill for the wedding since it’s happening in Morocco. She is delusional.
If I were Pedro, I would stop going to family meals for the rest of the trip. Neither of their families are handling things with any sort of grace. The potential conspiracy theories that Chantel’s mother comes up with…and enough about harvesting the American dollar. Though, if Pedro’s mom is an attorney, why does he have to financially support her and the sister? His mom and sister’s entitlement is in overdrive.
Paola appears to finally start standing by her husband when it comes to Juan. Juan is a jealous and mean spirited man. Paola has handled her move to the US with Russ rather poorly, but Juan is a pot stirring jerk.
Jorge is clueless and I think they both are pretending to get back together for the sake of their paychecks. They both need the money and, I think, Anfisa likes being on television. She has gotten smarter about what she’s willing to discuss on camera. They are boring this season.
David and Annie…David, check back in once you get a job. A real job.