I'm pregnant. I found out a couple of weeks ago. I was on antibiotics and I always thought that it was an old wife's tale that they decreased the potency of the pill, but apparently not.
Clearly this was not at all planned, however, BF is AMAZING and so supportive. I found out when I was in Chicago and I was freaking out. He was so calm and loving. I can honestly say that there is not a single part of me that doubts he will be the most wonderful father. He is ridiculously good to me and makes me beyond happy. I'm due the first week of August.
I know that this is way soon after my divorce and I am extremely worried about how people are going to judge me and their reactions. The more I think about it though, the more I do not care. I am (almost) 30, am financially ready to be a parent, am responsible, I have a partner that wants this and will be there 100% of the time, and I am generally just ready. In addition, the more I reflect, the more I am aware that even though I was in denial, my marriage had been "over" for years. This is not the ideal timing, but then, when is? I am not sure that I would be any more ready in a couple of years. I've been waiting my whole life for a relationship like this and to be a mom. I refuse to let myself not enjoy every moment of it.
Putting on my (maternity sized- I'm so bloated!) flame retardant vest.
Congratulations!!!! This is very exciting! You are pregnant and happy to be so. And after a very rough time in your life. Who on earth will flame that?
Congratulations!!!! This is very exciting! You are pregnant and happy to be so. And after a very rough time in your life. Who on earth will flame that?
You know, a really similar turn of events (and timing) happened with one of my work friends. She's due in < 2 weeks. And you know what? It's a good thing for her. Her bf is really being awesome about it, she feels loved, she's ready to love her little one, and it's going to be great. Her baby shower was every bit as happy and excited as any other, and everyone's as excited for her baby as any that's in an "ideal" set of circumstances.
So congratulations lady, enjoy this. This is joy in a world where too many bad and evil things happen.
To be clear, you are formally divorced right? I know pregnancies can hold up the final paperwork.
How will this work since you're on his health insurance? Or are you still?
Yes, the divorce was finalized in October.
I am on his insurance until 1/1/2014. It's pretty funny that he (technically) will be paying for my prenatal care, but you know what, I don't feel bad. Karma!
My only advice and I hope I don't get flamed for it is to take things slow and don't rush any decisions like getting married just because you're having a baby.
You have plenty of time to figure things out and I wish you the best.
Congrats! I don't *know* you but I feel like I " internet know you " and I feel that this will be amazing for you. You seem stable, mentally and financially. It sounds like your BF is very supportive.
I wish you nothing but the best. Now come over and hang on MMM!
Congratulations! It sounds like you are ready for this baby (both mentally and financially), and that you and your BF will shower this baby with what he/she needs most...love.