Ready to be totally flamed

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Good for you then. When is life ideal? As long as you can love and support the baby on your own if needed (you know--hope for the best, plan for the worst), then there is no reason you shouldn't be absolutely thrilled.

The only thing I side eye is that you didn't know you should use a back-up. Lesson to all the other ladies;)

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Congratulations and best wishes!

[gt7301b]

Congrats! I love that you will be on your exhusband's health plan when you deliver.

[winnied]

Congrats and best wishes for a healthy pregnancy!

[emilyinchile]

Congrats! I think you're right to prepare for some side eyeing comments, just because preparing will probably make it less painful when those comments come, but it sounds like you are in a good place to really enjoy being a mother.

[Deleted]

Congratulations! It's definitely a whirlwind but you're happy so I am happy for you.

[Deleted]

This makes me nothing but happy for you. Congratulations!!!!!!

[AAM2012]

Dec 20, 2012 10:58:41 GMT -5 rikki said:

Dec 20, 2012 10:55:58 GMT -5 carrotsmakemefat said:

No flames here. Congrats!

To be clear, you are formally divorced right? I know pregnancies can hold up the final paperwork.

How will this work since you're on his health insurance? Or are you still?

Yes, the divorce was finalized in October.

I am on his insurance until 1/1/2014. It's pretty funny that he (technically) will be paying for my prenatal care, but you know what, I don't feel bad. Karma!

That is awesome! Congrats and wishing you the best!

[rikki]

Dec 20, 2012 11:04:07 GMT -5 carrotsmakemefat said:

Do your parents know yet? His?

No and no. His brother knows and I plan to tell my sister this weekend. We are going to tell our parents after my first prenatal appointment on January 4th.

[rikki]

Dec 20, 2012 11:08:21 GMT -5 RockNVoll said:

Holy wow! Did you know when we saw you in Chicago or are you talking about a subsequent trip there?

I wish you every happiness in the world and I know how much you want this baby. Now I'm really upset I didn't make it to the GTG! Let's try again soon after the holidays.

I meant to email you right after posting this. I found out 2 days after I saw you and Sara. I actually took the test in the bathroom of Whole Foods because I just had a hunch and couldn't wait any longer.

[rikki]

Dec 20, 2012 11:09:28 GMT -5 @msstarry said:

oh do you have an EDD?

Based on last period it is August 2nd. Hopefully I will have a more definite date after the doctor in 2 weeks. The appt. can't get here fast enough!

[ladygrey]

Life doesn't always happen the way you think it will, but it sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders and a good support system in place. Congrats and good luck!

[Deleted]

Waiting for that first appointment is so hard & exciting!

[takeonyou]

Good for you! I am happy that you are happy H&H 9 months to you. Pass on our congrats to the BF.

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Dec 20, 2012 10:51:47 GMT -5 @booby said:

unlike your friends here, i am sitting over here witha major side eye. having said that, you seem mentally stable and i like you enough, so congrats.

but yeah, i still think this is definitely not an ideal situation. there is lots of room for this to end badly.

Perhaps. But it also has every chance of ending well. You never know what will happen in life. You have to take the bad with the good. And celebrate the heck out of the good when you get the chance. A wanted baby is a blessing.

[keweenawlove]

Dec 20, 2012 11:11:51 GMT -5 ladygrey said:

Life doesn't always happen the way you think it will, but it sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders and a good support system in place. Congrats and good luck!

This! Congrats. What a nice suprise so close to Christmas

[kimibrighteyes]

Congratulations!!! I hope all works out well for you. A baby adds a lot of stress to a relationship (even a very desired baby), so it may be worthwhile discussing this part with your BF and preparing for it.

[rikki]

Dec 20, 2012 11:16:44 GMT -5 RockNVoll said:

Dec 20, 2012 11:13:27 GMT -5 BirdGirl said:

Know that when you tell people in real life (and it sounds like you already do know), that their lack of unbridled enthusiasm at first may come from a good place. Having a baby is hard. Having a baby under less than "ideal" (whatever that means) circumstances makes it even harder. It's hard not to worry about the people we care about. Be gentle on the people who love you through this - and hopefully they will offer you the same kindness in return.

This seems like incredibly wise and very kindly delivered advice.

Ditto. Thank you.

[sockerheel]

As long as you are happy, that's all that matters. Congrats!

[limey]

Congrats to you!

Best wishes for a H&H 9 pregnancy.

[agnes]

The only flamable thing is that you thought the whole antibiotics thing was a wives tale.

Anyhoo, I am so excited for you! Congratulations rikki!

[kittycatlove]

Congrats!

[Becca]

Congrats!

I have learned that life doesn't always work out the way we expect, but it always works out. Enjoy every second of the experience!

[kittycatlove]

Congrats!

[dr.girlfriend]

Dec 20, 2012 10:46:58 GMT -5 rikki said:

I'm pregnant. I found out a couple of weeks ago. I was on antibiotics and I always thought that it was an old wife's tale that they decreased the potency of the pill, but apparently not.

Clearly this was not at all planned, however, BF is AMAZING and so supportive. I found out when I was in Chicago and I was freaking out. He was so calm and loving. I can honestly say that there is not a single part of me that doubts he will be the most wonderful father. He is ridiculously good to me and makes me beyond happy. I'm due the first week of August.

I know that this is way soon after my divorce and I am extremely worried about how people are going to judge me and their reactions. The more I think about it though, the more I do not care. I am (almost) 30, am financially ready to be a parent, am responsible, I have a partner that wants this and will be there 100% of the time, and I am generally just ready. In addition, the more I reflect, the more I am aware that even though I was in denial, my marriage had been "over" for years. This is not the ideal timing, but then, when is? I am not sure that I would be any more ready in a couple of years. I've been waiting my whole life for a relationship like this and to be a mom. I refuse to let myself not enjoy every moment of it.

Putting on my (maternity sized- I'm so bloated!) flame retardant vest.

F*ck what anyone else thinks, I am SO happy for you. I can't help thinking this was the way it was supposed to happen for you. Enjoy every minute -- your kid is going to be adorable!

[emilyinchile]

Dec 20, 2012 11:26:15 GMT -5 agnes said:

The only flamable thing is that you thought the whole antibiotics thing was a wives tale.

Anyhoo, I am so excited for you! Congratulations rikki!

I've actually been told by pharmacists over the past couple of years that most modern antibiotics don't have an effect on BC. I still always worry about it though.

[agnes]

Dec 20, 2012 11:32:09 GMT -5 emilyinchile said:

Dec 20, 2012 11:26:15 GMT -5 agnes said:

The only flamable thing is that you thought the whole antibiotics thing was a wives tale.

Anyhoo, I am so excited for you! Congratulations rikki!

I've actually been told by pharmacists over the past couple of years that most modern antibiotics don't have an effect on BC. I still always worry about it though.

And I've been reminded by Dr.s and pharmacists of the effects it could have (pretty recently).

[Deleted]

I'm pretty traditional but you know what...I'm excited & happy for you. Congrats!! You deserve happiness & as hard as being a mom is, I bet you'll be awesome!

[countthestars]

Congrats Rikki! I'm very excited for you.

[theintended]

What a year!

Congratulations!