I am surprised by all the strong no caveats for DS. It looks like at least 50% of DS conceptions are terminated. Maybe this is something where you really can't wrap your head around it unless it happens to you.
I would want to. Flameful? But my H wouldn't. I honestly don't know how we'd handle it. I think that's the kind of thing that formerly happily married people get divorced over.
I am surprised by all the strong no caveats for DS. It looks like at least 50% of DS conceptions are terminated. Maybe this is something where you really can't wrap your head around it unless it happens to you.
I had no caveats to my answer, except that I would terminate. With many of these disorders, you don't know how bad it will be until you have the baby
I agree with the bolded--My friend gave birth to a baby with Osteogenisis Imperfecta this summer (Brittle Bone). The baby was likely not even gonna make it to birth according to the Docs. She knew immediately she would not terminate. They met another couple who were going through the same thing that also decided not to terminate in our city (a crazy coincidence because it's super rare & super rare to go to choose to go to term). That couple did loose their baby prior to birth but my friends baby is doing way better than expected & is about 4-5mo old, smiling, laughing & a super content (not a fusser/crier) baby. But even now post-birth the Docs cannot say how serious her case is (which "Type" it is--fatal or not) despite testing because hers case is atypical. Now they think she'll even walk, at least as a toddler.
No. Dh and I are both pro-life. We also believe that if God chooses to give us a disabled child, it's because He thinks we are capable of carrying for that child.
I agree with this 100%.
I always thought I was in the "let the woman decide what to do" until I had a coworker this year abort her pregnancy around 20 weeks due to an abnormality. It broke my heart that the baby could have had a chance at life but she decided it wasn't worth the risk. That child could have been someone fabulous later in life.
. It breaks my heart that your coworker has you as a friend.
I always thought I was in the "let the woman decide what to do" until I had a coworker this year abort her pregnancy around 20 weeks due to an abnormality. It broke my heart that the baby could have had a chance at life but she decided it wasn't worth the risk. That child could have been someone fabulous later in life.
I don't agree with your comment. Presumably if your coworker made that decision, the risk of having a terrible or low quality of life was too high or she wouldn't have done it. That kid wouldn't have been "fabulous", that kid would have been disabled, probably severely so. There are lots of wonderful people with disabilities and I don't think all disabled children should be aborted - but if that ends up being the best option for a parent, I trust that that decision wasn't made lightly and that the outcome of keeping the child was not going to be "fabulous".
I dont agree either.
DH has a DS uncle, and at 58 someone has to watch him all the time. He can barely keep a job when he does have one, I am not one to judge, but this poor guy has no savings and no one really to look out for him since his parents have died. Its really a personal decision, whatever you decide you need to keep in mind these kids get older will you be able to fully support and able to save for their future so they have caretakers?