We could never afford a cleaning lady right now lol Plus, I know I'd be the lady who'd clean before the cleaning lady came because I'd be paranoid she'd be judging my dirt. So it'd be counterproductive.
I'd be paranoid she was judging me too. DH offered to get one when DD was a newborn, but I told him not to. I also am a freak and wouldn't think she cleaned as well as I do. I have issues.
I have the same issues, no worries!
Claralou, do not beat yourself up at all. This is more common than you think and you've got a lot of your plate, momma. Not a mom fail at all. If this is the worst thing you're doing, sweetie, than you're doing a lot better than you think. Love you. If it makes you feel better, A thinks it's only bedtime if she's sleeping on my chest like a newborn lately. I get too tired to give it a solid fight by the time 1am rolls around. So we're doing great in the bedtime routine department now too, haha.
I think having a car wash and begging for donations to help pay for your friend/family member's funeral is tacky and distasteful. I seriously hate being pestered at the convenience store for money. I'm sorry for your loss, but I won't fund their funeral. Sorry.
Post by erniebufflo on Jan 11, 2013 11:20:30 GMT -5
We're taking the girls to daycare and going out to lunch. I am starting my self-directed semester of studying on Monday. Today is just a me day. The biggest confession is that I feel zero guilt.
I hate trucks. They are fucking loud, ugly and there is nothing at all nice about them.
And they make too much fucking noise when my baby is napping!
In my head, I compose odes to my hatred of trucks at least every other day.
Are you talking about trucks that we drive or Semi trucks. I Know semi trucks can be scary to drive with on the highway and they are annoying. But i always think of how Semi-trucks play a pivotal role in the American economy. Think about it. Everything we need to survive basically comes in on a truck. I then get less annoyed at them when i am in traffic, or in your case when they wake the baby.
Semi trucks (although I do hate the trucks that people drive in my area. Brooklyn SUV owners are generally assholes and drive horribly and can't stay in their fucking lane. Same for vans. A van almost side-swiped me yesterday because he couldn't stay in his fucking lane. Grr! Almost gave me a heart attack.)
Someone should just make a more efficient, quiet way of distributing goods. DH asked me what would be better and the only thing I came up with was blimps. Get a motherfucking Zeppelin to deliver groceries to the store. Bitches. Or the Willy Wonka chocolate fax thing.
Trucks really piss me off and its totally irrational and I know the blimp thing would never work. But still!! lol
I'm pretty sure most of you would be disgusted at the state of cleanliness of my house. It's bad and I need to put in more effort, but I fucking hate cleaning and we can't afford a cleaning lady.
Dude, I think some folks here would puke walking into my house.
Are you talking about trucks that we drive or Semi trucks. I Know semi trucks can be scary to drive with on the highway and they are annoying. But i always think of how Semi-trucks play a pivotal role in the American economy. Think about it. Everything we need to survive basically comes in on a truck. I then get less annoyed at them when i am in traffic, or in your case when they wake the baby.
Semi trucks (although I do hate the trucks that people drive in my area. Brooklyn SUV owners are generally assholes and drive horribly and can't stay in their fucking lane. Same for vans. A van almost side-swiped me yesterday because he couldn't stay in his fucking lane. Grr! Almost gave me a heart attack.)
Someone should just make a more efficient, quiet way of distributing goods. DH asked me what would be better and the only thing I came up with was blimps. Get a motherfucking Zeppelin to deliver groceries to the store. Bitches. Or the Willy Wonka chocolate fax thing.
Trucks really piss me off and its totally irrational and I know the blimp thing would never work. But still!! lol
Tamb might freak out if we start distributing goods by blimp, hahaha.
I'm pretty sure most of you would be disgusted at the state of cleanliness of my house. It's bad and I need to put in more effort, but I fucking hate cleaning and we can't afford a cleaning lady.
Dude, I think some folks here would puke walking into my house.
Same here!
Also, as a cat owner, I do not know how to keep fur off of my non-furry baby. She always has fur on her. At this point, I just don't really give a shit.
I don't love that she tries to eat it. The confession: If I'm tired enough, I just let her.
Yes! I used butthurt to mean you have a giant stick up your butt. I do not think any of us use it in a way that is anti gay.
Also, I feel we have learned that gays do not have a corner on the anal market. In fact, I think it is more derogatory to think of gay people when the word butt is mentioned.
Sent from the future.
Also, not all gay men enjoy anal sex, according to Dan Savage.
I have a hard time keeping a clean house right now so all bets are off once I'm back to work. I do plan on having someone come in at that point but don't know if I want to go with a service or someone through word or mouth.
Post by creamsiclechica on Jan 11, 2013 11:47:53 GMT -5
Speaking of cleaning, I should be cleaning/disinfecting the crap out of mine right now since A is sick and I just got her down for a nap. I'm sitting here drinking coffee instead with my sleeping dogs. Awful.
Post by musiclover on Jan 11, 2013 11:52:14 GMT -5
-First of all, I died at Dorothy's "cornering the anal Market comment", like seriously, how the fuck do you think of these things? I know it must seem like I have a cyber hard on for Dorothy everyday, and I'm ok with that.
-Mine: I miss that embarrassed emoticon from the bump, more than you know. Like I really want to use it all of the time and the PBs don't have one. So I went over to the bump and thought I'd see if I could copy that emoticon code over here, it did not work. Yep, that just happened.
Post by charlielove on Jan 11, 2013 11:54:00 GMT -5
I felt kind of bad for all the probies that were told they were intimidating the other day. I don't even know if it bothered them, but I know it would bother me.
My maternity leave is about to run out and I cannot find a job that can justify putting Wy into daycare. We are one foot in the poor house and my husband doesnt seem to grasp that fact. I am scared for next month. Scared!
Post by spaghetticat on Jan 11, 2013 11:56:28 GMT -5
My confession is I feel like a failure at regular life. If life was just about being book smart, I think I would be okay. But stuff like looking decent and keeping a house/car spotless and cooking meals every day and completing all of your errands just escape me. I always feel like I'm behind. And this isn't really because I have one kid. That just exacerbates it. I would be this way if it was just me, too.
I felt kind of bad for all the probies that were told they were intimidating the other day. I don't even know if it bothered them, but I know it would bother me.
I think those threads always give me anxiety. Mostly because I feel it separates people into categories of personalities and has the ability to make who might be more timid or less active feel unnoticed , and people with bolder personalities to be labeled intimidating. It's hard to find that middle ground where everyone feels accepted and appreciated. And I do appreciate our variety. And we should celebrate that.
I felt kind of bad for all the probies that were told they were intimidating the other day. I don't even know if it bothered them, but I know it would bother me.
I think those threads always give me anxiety. Mostly because I feel it separates people into categories of personalities and has the ability to make who might be more timid or less active feel unnoticed , and people with bolder personalities to be labeled intimidating. It's hard to find that middle ground where everyone feels accepted and appreciated. And I do appreciate our variety. And we should celebrate that.
My confession is I feel like a failure at regular life. If life was just about being book smart, I think I would be okay. But stuff like looking decent and keeping a house/car spotless and cooking meals every day and completing all of your errands just escape me. I always feel like I'm behind. And this isn't really because I have one kid. That just exacerbates it. I would be this way if it was just me, too.
I feel this way sometimes too. Or when i do feel like i finally have it all together, something happens. Example: It was my dads birthday on sunday. I thought we were meeting at 2. MY mom called me at 11, asking where i was. I felt terrible and we rushed over there. They werent mad, and were super cool about it, but i got really sad. How could i miss a stupid detail like that.
I felt kind of bad for all the probies that were told they were intimidating the other day. I don't even know if it bothered them, but I know it would bother me.
I think those threads always give me anxiety. Mostly because I feel it separates people into categories of personalities and has the ability to make who might be more timid or less active feel unnoticed , and people with bolder personalities to be labeled intimidating. It's hard to find that middle ground where everyone feels accepted and appreciated. And I do appreciate our variety. And we should celebrate that.
Everything is better with varieties. Snacks that consist of variety, are in fact the best kind of snacks.
Post by monkeybabe on Jan 11, 2013 12:09:01 GMT -5
Maybe it's partly because I'm intimidated by really smart people, but being told it's wrong to say "I went to college" when really I went to trade school, kind of widens the perceived gap for me. It's like, I didn't do the normal, intelligent route, so I can't use that word. Even though someone that went to CC and took like, P.E, can say they went to college, hell, it says college in the name, right?
Fun tidbit: I had a friend come up with her family to visit Portland and, when she told her family that her friend (me) was in culinary school, her aunt, whom she lived with, said I must be fat (thanks for telling me, friend, btw). Then her grandpa, in front of me, told my friend that she was too smart for culinary school when she mentioned thinking about enrolling.
My confession is I feel like a failure at regular life. If life was just about being book smart, I think I would be okay. But stuff like looking decent and keeping a house/car spotless and cooking meals every day and completing all of your errands just escape me. I always feel like I'm behind. And this isn't really because I have one kid. That just exacerbates it. I would be this way if it was just me, too.
Not doing all of this stuff totally does NOT make you a failure!
Look at how awesome you are at things like taking such great care of Viv, being a teacher and wife...this makes you so un-failure like in my book
Aww thanks I walked into the kitchen this morning and was just like, "wtf? Didn't I JUST clean?!"
And I agree with Cream as far as threads like those.
Maybe it's partly because I'm intimidated by really smart people, but being told it's wrong to say "I went to college" when really I went to trade school, kind of widens the perceived gap for me. It's like, I didn't do the normal, intelligent route, so I can't use that word. Even though someone that went to CC and took like, P.E, can say they went to college, hell, it says college in the name, right?
Fun tidbit: I had a friend come up with her family to visit Portland and, when she told her family that her friend (me) was in culinary school, her aunt, whom she lived with, said I must be fat (thanks for telling me, friend, btw). Then her grandpa, in front of me, told my friend that she was too smart for culinary school when she mentioned thinking about enrolling.
I get that. I was thinking most people found them intimidating based on personality, etc. - not schooling. I know plenty of people with Masters that are dumb as a sock full of rocks (I've worked with some and am related to one!). I find you intelligent monkeybabe, no matter your education level. I hate that anyone thinks they are better than someone else because they have letters behind their name.(Not that I think that is what anyone here was insinuating.)
My confession is I feel like a failure at regular life. If life was just about being book smart, I think I would be okay. But stuff like looking decent and keeping a house/car spotless and cooking meals every day and completing all of your errands just escape me. I always feel like I'm behind. And this isn't really because I have one kid. That just exacerbates it. I would be this way if it was just me, too.
I feel this way sometimes too. Or when i do feel like i finally have it all together, something happens. Example: It was my dads birthday on sunday. I thought we were meeting at 2. MY mom called me at 11, asking where i was. I felt terrible and we rushed over there. They werent mad, and were super cool about it, but i got really sad. How could i miss a stupid detail like that.
The only time I feel like this is when I overdraw my checking account. It's simple math! Why can't I get it right!
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