Maybe it's partly because I'm intimidated by really smart people, but being told it's wrong to say "I went to college" when really I went to trade school, kind of widens the perceived gap for me. It's like, I didn't do the normal, intelligent route, so I can't use that word. Even though someone that went to CC and took like, P.E, can say they went to college, hell, it says college in the name, right?
Right now I'm in one class just so I am enrolled until the actual class I need to graduate is open. It is a class where we watch movies then take a quiz about that movie and join in a discussion about it too. So.. no judgement for trade schools from me. I'm actually super jealous that you knew what you wanted to do instead of the crappy way I've gone about things.
Arguing over what is "technically" college or university or whatever is just splitting hairs to me and not worth it. Whodafuq cares, right? You did what you wanted to do.
Post by mikehoncho on Jan 11, 2013 12:24:07 GMT -5
I think this board often confuses someone who is good at writing or uses a large, expansive vocabulary with intelligence. Regurgitating big words = intelligence in my book.
I want to watch Monsters Inc. more than anything right now.
Maybe it's partly because I'm intimidated by really smart people, but being told it's wrong to say "I went to college" when really I went to trade school, kind of widens the perceived gap for me. It's like, I didn't do the normal, intelligent route, so I can't use that word. Even though someone that went to CC and took like, P.E, can say they went to college, hell, it says college in the name, right?
I didn't mean to hurt feelings by starting that thread. I know it's hard to tell tone or whatever in text. I mean, think of it on the flipside....if someone said they went to culinary school and they really just took Home Ec in high school...THEY DIDN'T GO TO CULINARY SCHOOL!
The trade school/university thing was just what was happening in MY house.
Also, we have a school here called Calvert Hall College. It's a high school...grades 9-12.
Oh, and also, you know what they call the person who graduated bottom of the class in medical school......
Yeah, level of education is not at all a measure of intelligence in my world!
C25K...it works Seaside 5K...........40:45(2012) Turkey Trot..........41:30(2012)/37:08(2013)/37:40(2014) St Pat's 5K..........39:27(2013)/38:48(2014)/35:12(2015) Belair Town Run......38:09(2013)/36:27(2014) Back To Football 5K..37:36(2013)/43:44(2015) Balt Run Fest 5K.....34:59(2013)/41:50(2014)/35:54(2015)
C25K...it works Seaside 5K...........40:45(2012) Turkey Trot..........41:30(2012)/37:08(2013)/37:40(2014) St Pat's 5K..........39:27(2013)/38:48(2014)/35:12(2015) Belair Town Run......38:09(2013)/36:27(2014) Back To Football 5K..37:36(2013)/43:44(2015) Balt Run Fest 5K.....34:59(2013)/41:50(2014)/35:54(2015)
Also I'm wondering if she'd clean my fridge if I paid her more. I haven't cleaned my fridge in a long time.
Mine cleans my fridge and its awesome! Especially since I'm so bad about doing it myself.
We don't tip, but that's because it's not through a service and we just pay in cash.
Rjamz, that is such an awesome deal! We pay $120 for about 2.5 hours, but its two ladies. We only do every other week.
The main reason we have cleaning people is because I just can't get my act together to tidy up without the motivation of someone coming into my home.
My FFC is that I only make dinner maybe twice a month and the rest of the time we order in. I asked for a crock pot for Christmas, but I still haven't picked one out! I need to just do it so we can start eating better.
My confession is I feel like a failure at regular life. If life was just about being book smart, I think I would be okay. But stuff like looking decent and keeping a house/car spotless and cooking meals every day and completing all of your errands just escape me. I always feel like I'm behind. And this isn't really because I have one kid. That just exacerbates it. I would be this way if it was just me, too.
I feel like this all the time. I see people who have nice matching clothes and hair that looks good and makeup and stuff and they wear nice shoes and they aren't late to things and their children are in classes for stuff and they do baby sign language and they cook proper meals and they don't forget birthdays. Their houses are clean.
I feel like I'm never going to have my shit together. It was bad before I had a kid, now its worse. It's only going to keep GETTING worse as I have more kids, if I have more kids.
My house is clean once a month. The rest of the time its only not TOTALLY vomit worthy disgusting because my husband is slightly less messy than me. My baby is always covered in animal hair. She's always finding crap on the floor trying to eat it. Sometimes I don't even cook any dinner at all.
I'm always late to everything.
sometimes I feel like such a failure of a human being!
Sometimes I feel like a failure as a mother, because I don't do the weekly/monthly photos, I don't scrapbook or do keepsakes, I don't take as many pictures/videos...
We are always going to feel like we're failing at something, but we just need to sit back and realize all the ways we're NOT failing, and realize how awesome we are.
oh I do none of these things either. Forgot to add that to my list of life failures! hahaha
Post by creamsiclechica on Jan 11, 2013 12:54:05 GMT -5
Spaghetti, I think you rock. I might clean, and I cook, but there's no way in absolute hell I could hold a proper class for a room full of people and manage to not screw them up entirely. You're a great mom, and that's the bottom line. I see how concerned and attentive you are to Viv strictly by what you post here. There's no way you fail from any angle. Just my two cents.
I've never ever been able to look polished or put together in my entire life. Sans kids or not. If a company doesn't manufacture seat pans or workout clothes, they're not on my radar. And I've never managed to keep my closet clean or my laundry folded. And I've made my husband a lunch for work handful of times in the 6 years we've been together. Nobody's perfect. I think you've got strengths and weaknesses, and the fact is, you've got strengths some of us don't have, and that's admirable and inspirational.
Well sometimes a skirt. But always something. Even in the house, because I feel weird walking around with no pants, and hubby might think I'm trying to have sex with him if I do that. I prefer to discourage such thoughts.
My brothers wife irons the sheets. She also irons UNDERWEAR.
I do not iron anything ever. My skirt yesterday at work was definitely more wrinkled than acceptable. However, I didn't care enough and just wore it anyway.
I got into a habit of wearing a little makeup every day to work so as to feel better about myself. It literally takes me three minutes to do. BUT this week I have not worn any at all, any day. Ugh.
Also I'm wondering if she'd clean my fridge if I paid her more. I haven't cleaned my fridge in a long time.
Mine cleans my fridge and its awesome! Especially since I'm so bad about doing it myself.
We don't tip, but that's because it's not through a service and we just pay in cash.
Rjamz, that is such an awesome deal! We pay $120 for about 2.5 hours, but its two ladies. We only do every other week.
The main reason we have cleaning people is because I just can't get my act together to tidy up without the motivation of someone coming into my home.
My FFC is that I only make dinner maybe twice a month and the rest of the time we order in. I asked for a crock pot for Christmas, but I still haven't picked one out! I need to just do it so we can start eating better.
I can send you her name if you want - she might have days open!
My husbands aunt gave me a really nice sewing machine once as a christmas gift. She loves sewing and making quilts and such. I thought it was an odd gift as I don't recall ever expressing any interest in learning to sew. Also we see them like twice a year so it's not like we were going to be hanging out making quilts together but maybe she wanted to do that? she often ignores messages from us about getting together to hang out though so I'm not sure.
It's still in the box in the basement so it just makes me feel so guilty whenever I see it.
C25K...it works Seaside 5K...........40:45(2012) Turkey Trot..........41:30(2012)/37:08(2013)/37:40(2014) St Pat's 5K..........39:27(2013)/38:48(2014)/35:12(2015) Belair Town Run......38:09(2013)/36:27(2014) Back To Football 5K..37:36(2013)/43:44(2015) Balt Run Fest 5K.....34:59(2013)/41:50(2014)/35:54(2015)
My husbands aunt gave me a really nice sewing machine once as a christmas gift. She loves sewing and making quilts and such. I thought it was an odd gift as I don't recall ever expressing any interest in learning to sew. Also we see them like twice a year so it's not like we were going to be hanging out making quilts together but maybe she wanted to do that? she often ignores messages from us about getting together to hang out though so I'm not sure.
It's still in the box in the basement so it just makes me feel so guilty whenever I see it.
My parents bought me a sewing machine for Chanukah when I was pregnant. I asked for it, so it was random, but I never learned to use it and I feel really awful whenever I see it. Anyone want to come teach me how to use it?
I sit in a cubicle farm at work. I just pulled popcorn out of my hair. It must have been there for a couple hours. I am also wearing tops that I wore while pregnant so they're all kind of over sized and stretched out, but I am too tired and lazy to go shop for new things.. I am definitely not pulled together. However I am wearing makeup ;D
Post by dixeedeluxe on Jan 11, 2013 13:11:25 GMT -5
I always wear makeup at work. Not because I don't like my face without makeup. I think my nekkid face is awesome. But because I hate when people say "you look tired". UGH. I'M NOT TIRED THAT'S HOW I LOOK!
I get that as often as I get "are you sunburned?" NO JERKOFFS, I HAVE PINK SKIN! THAT IS MY SKIN COLOR!
C25K...it works Seaside 5K...........40:45(2012) Turkey Trot..........41:30(2012)/37:08(2013)/37:40(2014) St Pat's 5K..........39:27(2013)/38:48(2014)/35:12(2015) Belair Town Run......38:09(2013)/36:27(2014) Back To Football 5K..37:36(2013)/43:44(2015) Balt Run Fest 5K.....34:59(2013)/41:50(2014)/35:54(2015)
My husbands aunt gave me a really nice sewing machine once as a christmas gift. She loves sewing and making quilts and such. I thought it was an odd gift as I don't recall ever expressing any interest in learning to sew. Also we see them like twice a year so it's not like we were going to be hanging out making quilts together but maybe she wanted to do that? she often ignores messages from us about getting together to hang out though so I'm not sure.
It's still in the box in the basement so it just makes me feel so guilty whenever I see it.
My parents bought me a sewing machine for Chanukah when I was pregnant. I asked for it, so it was random, but I never learned to use it and I feel really awful whenever I see it. Anyone want to come teach me how to use it?
I have the same relationship with my banjo. My husband tried to get me lessons for Christmas, but (surprise, surprise) there's no one within a 60-mile radius who can do this.
Post by biblionerd on Jan 11, 2013 13:28:32 GMT -5
Fiona had an AWFUL night last night- up all night. She just got shots, is teething, and her skin is bothering her, so I can't be too mad but it is TIRING. So she's finally crashed and has been sleeping a looong time back in the bedroom, which is unusual- I usually make them get up and nap at the same time so I have some semblance of a schedule and get some time alone. So I've been taking care of Linus alone for the past 3 hours and it makes me feel like a crappy mom because I can do so much more with him. I know people with 3+ kids probably say the same things about people with 2 kids, but it is so much freaking easier just taking care of 1. It makes me feel guilty that they're each not getting my undivided attention this much during the week and makes me feel selfish for wanting to have them close so I could get my childbearing years over with.
I'm going to the mall today myself and I am so excited. I plan to take my sweet time, eat a Cinnabon just the middle thing, and drink an entirely too large diet coke.
Umm I did this yesterday expect before I left I ALSO got a cinnamon sugar pretzel from Aunti Anne's. fatty right here!
Post by biblionerd on Jan 11, 2013 13:41:44 GMT -5
Also... I had another chemical pg, but was too hurt from what happened last time to even post about it. I feel like last time totally ruined my "online life" and it hasn't been the same since. I mean, I lurk as much as I can, but I feel like I can't say anything for fear of going through some bs like that again.
Post by biblionerd on Jan 11, 2013 13:45:49 GMT -5
Thanks, don't get me wrong, you ladies didn't give me any reason to feel like it HERE, just online in general I guess. I feel better sharing though now- as much as DH tries, I know he doesn't understand. After the OB gave the go ahead, we haven't been trying, but kind of half-heartedly preventing.