Try calling the bank, see what they need from you so you can have access to whats yours.
Also is you have direct deposit at work, change that asap.
When you get into the house, look for as many documents as possible. Mortgage, credit card bills, cars, investments, retirement accounts, any thing. Dont forget to dig out your passport and birth certificate if you don't have it already.
If you are in the DC area I know an amazing divorce attorney, he is a shark. Since there are animals involved, I can guarantee you he would rip your H to shreds.
Post by cheeseandcrackers on Mar 20, 2013 8:05:44 GMT -5
Wow!! this is terrible! I had no idea it is that easy to take someones name off the bank account.. surely there is a way around this? I am sorry you are going through this, and what a freaking jerk!
I woke up this morning feeling refreshed and hopeful that we could handle this like mature adults but that was blown away in about 30 minutes.
When I walked outside the car I drove when I left last night (which is the car i normally drive) was gone, replaced by the crappy one that he trashed. All my school stuff is in the trunk of car 1, so I try to call/text him so i can get that and discovered my phone has been disconnected. I can't go to his work because you have to have a special pass to get into his specific parking lot.
All of our money is in an account with his name on it. I know he's already managed to remove me from the "authorized user" list of our CC, not sure if I'm blocked from our regular checking/savings too.
So basically I have an unfaithful husband, no phone, a car that barely works, no money and I can't even go to class without my books because the car he left was running on fumes.
Who have I been married to for the past 4 years? What a fucking joke.
Call a lawyer TODAY. There are things they can do to help.
I'm really not sure a police escort could get her to her Stbx's parking lot as he is on a military base and the fact that a special permit is required indicates that it is an even further restricted area. The MPs might be able to help.
He is in the military, correct? Time to get on the phone to his boss. They will nail his ass to the wall if he is doing this to you. Especially if infidelity is involved. Please PM me if you have any questions, or need any help. You have rights and are protected as a military spouse.
I never recommend this, but I'd call his 1st Sgt and let him/her know what's happened. Even if they can't get you the car, they need to know what he's done with your books and the finances. He's not allowed to financially abandon you while you're still married.
Second, e-mail your professors. You don't need to share all the details, but let them know that you won't be at class today due to some family issues. If there's a strict attendance policy in your program this is the kind of documentation you need just in case you have to go over the allotted allowed absences and want to appeal to retain your credits.
I never recommend this, but I'd call his 1st Sgt and let him/her know what's happened. Even if they can't get you the car, they need to know what he's done with your books and the finances. He's not allowed to financially abandon you while you're still married.
Second, e-mail your professors. You don't need to share all the details, but let them know that you won't be at class today due to some family issues. If there's a strict attendance policy in your program this is the kind of documentation you need just in case you have to go over the allotted allowed absences and want to appeal to retain your credits.
Third, CALL THE LAWYER!
A big ditto to NSL. Get his command involved now if he won't be amicable.
I should also add that I never had to contact XH's command, but I damn sure threatened it a few times. Just the threat alone was usually enough to get him to pull his head out of his ass. If he has any sense about him, he will want to keep his job far away from all of this.
Stay strong, you CAN and WILL get through this. (((hugs)))