Post by awkwardpenguin on Apr 3, 2013 7:16:23 GMT -5
Whine: Work is just a mess. I'd like a pause button, a Xanax, and a nap. I'm really bad at admitting when I'm in over my head and I'm paying the price.
Wine: C is making me coffee. And she cleaned the house last night and it looks great.
Post by ballandchain on Apr 3, 2013 7:47:02 GMT -5
Whine: I should be transferring an embryo today and instead I'm starting Lupron.
Wine: At least we get to move forward right away with FET, take 2. And I had a great day off with my wife yesterday. And I think I might be able to get out to do work in the garden this weekend.
Whine: I think I have pinkeye. It's probably viral. I'm still home right now and can't decide if I'm going to work or not. My doctor's voicemail indicates that she moved offices and the new phone number has a voicemail for some group practice and individual voicemail boxes for various issues - none of which is general medical questions for your doctor.
Wine: Homestretch to the weekend. Just talked to a new sitter and she seems great and she is available when we need her to go to this work event for L's work. I get to leave early to pick up the kids from camp...meaning we get home early and have a relaxing evening.
Whine: I need to find something to wear to this event for L's work. I am just....blah.
Wine: I'm removed the toilet and sink, finally, and will, hopefully, have the laundry tables completed (if I can choose the fabric) by the time K gets home from work! Nothing celebrates 20 weeks pregnant like power tools
Whine: I overdid it lifting the larger table to size the space and am having BH contractions.
Whine: I just accidentally just sent my sister a text with possible girl names, that was meant for K. I'm fairly sure we're having a boy but obviously need girl names picked out, in case. We want to use my sisters middle name, if we have a girl and I stupidly just sent a text using the whole name. Blerg. surprise!
Whine: Our agency is pushing for a faster finalization but ASW isn't hearing it, looks like it will be late summer/early fall before we are done.
Wine: Owl's paperwork has been sent to the school district, now we wait to schedule her IEP testing! A is reading at a 6th grade level (3rd grader) and Iz is reading at a 1st grade level (kinder), yay for advanced readers!
Thanks. I've been keeping it on the quiet for the most part, there were only a few people who knew. But I figure I might need some support, so...
Well I am happy to answer any questions if I can. I'm rooting for you! I will say it is more overwhelming at the beginning...after it was over, I thought it really wasn't that bad.
Thanks. I've been keeping it on the quiet for the most part, there were only a few people who knew. But I figure I might need some support, so...
Well I am happy to answer any questions if I can. I'm rooting for you! I will say it is more overwhelming at the beginning...after it was over, I thought it really wasn't that bad.
Ditto to all of this. Blue, obviously I hope that your IVF cycle is smoother than either mine or ballandchain's was, but if you have questions or need support or anything I'm available. Are you doing a long lupron protocol? Good luck.
Wine: There's been some goodish news on Baby S's case.
How are things going with the girls, MK? How's SAHM life? We haven't heard much from you since they started keeping you busy.
Um, it's really hard. I'm struggling with the girls, a lot. I always wanted to be a SAHM, but it never occurred to me that I wouldn't love my kids. Most of the time I don't even like the 3 year old. I'm trying. Intellectually, I get why she is the way she is, but it's still just really hard to deal with. If I can't figure out a way to keep her from hurting herself, her sister, Baby S, and my dog, we might have to disrupt. I know that's the last thing she needs, but I can't let everyone else get hurt. So- thanks for checking in!
How are things going with the girls, MK? How's SAHM life? We haven't heard much from you since they started keeping you busy.
Um, it's really hard. I'm struggling with the girls, a lot. I always wanted to be a SAHM, but it never occurred to me that I wouldn't love my kids. Most of the time I don't even like the 3 year old. I'm trying. Intellectually, I get why she is the way she is, but it's still just really hard to deal with. If I can't figure out a way to keep her from hurting herself, her sister, Baby S, and my dog, we might have to disrupt. I know that's the last thing she needs, but I can't let everyone else get hurt. So- thanks for checking in!
I'm sorry to hear that you're struggling. I think it makes a lot of sense that you wouldn't immediately love the girls just because they're placed in your home, especially with difficult behaviors. I know there's a lot you can't share on the internet, but if you want to talk more about the parts you can please feel free. Are you getting good support from their social worker?
Well I am happy to answer any questions if I can. I'm rooting for you! I will say it is more overwhelming at the beginning...after it was over, I thought it really wasn't that bad.
Ditto to all of this. Blue, obviously I hope that your IVF cycle is smoother than either mine or ballandchain's was, but if you have questions or need support or anything I'm available. Are you doing a long lupron protocol? Good luck.
Thanks so much. I'm doing an antagonist cycle with Ganirelix, not a long lupron protocol. I'm supposed to get my med schedule tomorrow when I go in for bloodwork and my baseline U/S, I've only seen a draft.
Um, it's really hard. I'm struggling with the girls, a lot. I always wanted to be a SAHM, but it never occurred to me that I wouldn't love my kids. Most of the time I don't even like the 3 year old. I'm trying. Intellectually, I get why she is the way she is, but it's still just really hard to deal with. If I can't figure out a way to keep her from hurting herself, her sister, Baby S, and my dog, we might have to disrupt. I know that's the last thing she needs, but I can't let everyone else get hurt. So- thanks for checking in!
I'm sorry to hear that you're struggling. I think it makes a lot of sense that you wouldn't immediately love the girls just because they're placed in your home, especially with difficult behaviors. I know there's a lot you can't share on the internet, but if you want to talk more about the parts you can please feel free. Are you getting good support from their social worker?
Thanks. No, their case worker is awful. We sort of can't stand her.
Post by never2amazing on Apr 3, 2013 14:09:01 GMT -5
whine: I fell at the daycare, I fell at the bowling alley, I tripped in the kitchen, and I stumbled off the edge of a sidewalk...now instead of saying good-bye to me in the morning the Kiddos say, "Don't fall today Mama, okay?" *sigh*
wine: Sixty people at work were chosen to work with a personal trainer for 28 days at the on-site gym. I was one of the sixty and am rather hyped about it. (We had to apply for the chance to be chosen.)
Whine- our anniversary is in 9 days and I have zero ideas for a gift for S. it is a big one 5 years so I want to do something nice but don't want to spend too much. I have about $100 to spend. Any ideas?
Wine- well first I have an anniversary to celebrate. I wasn't so sure last fall. Also S is planning something special. I don't know what but I think it is going to be fun. S is excited about it. I want to know what we are going to do but also want to be surprised.
Post by twomoms2twins on Apr 3, 2013 18:40:03 GMT -5
whine: Al-Anon meetings suck so far been to 3 and so far they told me its all my fault and I'm controlling and lots of "GOD"- well, It's not my fault and I WAS NOT controlling till this all happened - clearly, I have reason to be a lil controlling because I everything is so suspect right now. Really, I dont think I am even that controlling just wanna know the plan and expect her to be extreamly forthcoming which she is not so if that is controlling fine. Also, i learned that apparently what ever happ with her and her Addiction is NON OF MY BUSINESS ... how is that even possible ... she is my wife and her on going and going on are mu business that money she uses to buy drinks is our money ( my business) the things she does affect our relationship again my business... so far two people said I need to mind my own business and not concern myself with what she is doing. REALLY SO PERPLEXED and well i do admit its only been 3 times that i have gone so I am going to keep going but BOY does it aggravate me.... and all the GOD stuff bothers me ...and i knwo its god as you know it ...
wine: I told my parents and it went so much better than I expected and they just HUGGED me and I really needed that and they said they love us both and we need to do whatever it takes to get through this and I agree but i said I was still angry and my mom went through the process with me and said I know your angry and that is ok and you can feel that way then you will get mad and be in denial and then ... it was cute. but the hug was the best !!! and the fact that they did not judge and were supportive and I even cried in front of my dad (thats a big deal ) I am working on it ... and i still dont feel like she is doing enough but i guess that is just how we are different
I'm sorry to hear that you're struggling. I think it makes a lot of sense that you wouldn't immediately love the girls just because they're placed in your home, especially with difficult behaviors. I know there's a lot you can't share on the internet, but if you want to talk more about the parts you can please feel free. Are you getting good support from their social worker?
Thanks. No, their case worker is awful. We sort of can't stand her.
Not the answer I was hoping for, sorry. Do you have any local foster parent support groups?
Are there any other alanon meetings you could try attending? Sometimes the first thing you try (whether a support group or a therapist) just isn't a good match for you. Of course what's going on for M effects you emotionally and financially and is part of your business, so it's understandable to be annoyed if people are telling you that's not the case. But you can't fight this battle for her, so there is a reasonable point at which you just have to let go and let her do that even though it's hard. I'm glad your parents were supportive!
Post by rikkiandjulie on Apr 3, 2013 23:40:08 GMT -5
Whine: The person I had the affair with text me "I hope you know I'm sorry" I immediately called Verizon and blocked his number along with his sisters. I asked you to not contact me VERY clearly. I didn't reply to the text either. I let DW know he text me. It brought up feelings but she said "It's fine you can't control who texts you, only how you respond, just know i love you"
Wine: Counseling has been going well, but at out last session we felt as though we had nothing left to talk about. Good or bad?
Wine: DW had decided to move to KC for various reasons. A better paying job, and financially it makes the most sense. We already signed a lease for a home we will be moving to in August, but in the mean time we will stay in the townhouse I rent. This is also good news bc we will sell my car, and become a one car family again. CAN'T WAIT! However, I'm mostly thrilled bc my wife and I will be living together again soon, by May!!! :-)
Wine: My training went well on Monday! Whine/Wine: My MIL and her sisters went home yesterday. Whine: It's still going to be a busy two weeks. Wine: We can start to shift our focus to the house and baby prep.
So it's not Wednesday anymore but yesterday was h3ll!
Whine - the boys both have severe reflux and so far nothing has helped. The last option is cereal and I don't know how I feel about that when they are almost 10 weeks.
Wine - the boys are starting to talk and interact more and it's amazing. Oh and I get my teeth fixed today!!! Smiling me is back.