Did you guys see the post on MM Moms?

[TrickyBob]

I HATE when men think that they are babysitting their children. They are NOT babysitting their children, they are taking care of their child! My Husband would have his balls shoved down his throat if he took the attitude that our future kids were mine to parent and his to babysit.

[pantsparty]

pandce.proboards.com/thread/159054/babysitter

[daisybuchannan]

Dude, there is so much more in that thread. I'm not a babysitter is the least of it

[goaskalice]

I might be calling my sister to hide my husbands body (technically wife in my case) if that was said to me.

[daisybuchannan]

Apr 3, 2013 18:26:42 GMT -5 nicbreeful said:

Apr 3, 2013 18:22:22 GMT -5 daisybuchannan said:

Dude, there is so much more in that thread. I'm not a babysitter is the least of it

I'm starting to get to it! I'm feeling enraged on the OPs behalf. Wtf?

Yeah, it's just really freaking sad and crazy to be honest. She obviously posted bc she knows exactly how horrific it is, and just wanted confirmation. I would 100% leave my husband if he was that way. Not being "into" being a dad is shitty enough, but not leaving your kid with your H bc he's left the baby (as a freaking newborn) to cry so long she puked (and not sleep training stuff)? Neglect. Smoking around the baby bc you're bored? WTF. 

[daisybuchannan]

Apr 3, 2013 18:33:59 GMT -5 killercupcake said:

I'm so sad for her. What an awful situation to be in.

Just to clarify, I feel SO sad for her. I'm not "if you love your kid, then leave!" at all.

[sonrisa]

"That's right. You're her fucking father and it's time to start acting like it, asshole."

[ElizabethBennet]

I just read the OP but this is so so sad. I don't see how a marriage like that could work.

[Deleted]

That's really sad, I don't know how you could move past that type of checking out.

Especially since he has so much down time to be with her. A lot of working parents don't get that opportunity.

[pantsparty]

It sounds like he's not into being a dad or a husband, or basically anything that interferes with his interests. That's really terrible.

[rex]

Yeah, I said in my reply that heads would roll.

There's no fucking way I would let that go.

Spending time with your child is NEVER babysitting.

[lola]

I read it earlier today and my heart breaks for her. Like Frkls said, to think that the man you married would be a great parent and then have to realize he isn't (or at least isn't right now) must be so sad. I hope that they're able to work it out and that he comes around but damn - I don't know.

[Deleted]

If I told h I wanted counseling, and he laughed at me, it would break me.

How horrible.

[daisybuchannan]

Apr 3, 2013 18:39:14 GMT -5 Que? said:

Apr 3, 2013 18:22:22 GMT -5 daisybuchannan said:

Dude, there is so much more in that thread. I'm not a babysitter is the least of it

For real. She's married to a child who wants to turn back time and live without kids. My H would give anything to have that kind of time with G.

Exactly. My h gets SO sad if he has a day where he doesn't see C because he gets home after bedtime.

[EmilieMadison]

WTH though. She said she doesnt think he'll change and she wont leave him over this. So...what does she think will happen? She'll be miserable while he lives like a bachelor and she sits by and isn't willing to do anything about it? I hate this kind of shit.

[idoinjuly]

Apr 3, 2013 19:33:51 GMT -5 @booby said:

Apr 3, 2013 19:31:44 GMT -5 EmilieMadison said:

WTH though. She said she doesnt think he'll change and she wont leave him over this. So...what does she think will happen? She'll be miserable while he lives like a bachelor and she sits by and isn't willing to do anything about it? I hate this kind of shit.

i was just going to say something similar.  she sounds kind of....dumb.  as in, she sounds oblivious to how bad this situation actually is.  

I get the feeling she was catching on to how completely unacceptable his behavior is towards the end of the thread.

[thatgirl2478]

That would piss me off!  In fact, I just asked my husband 'when I go out and leave you here with DD, is that babysitting?'  THANK GOD he said 'no'!

[speckledfrog]

Apr 3, 2013 19:33:51 GMT -5 @booby said:

Apr 3, 2013 19:31:44 GMT -5 EmilieMadison said:

WTH though. She said she doesnt think he'll change and she wont leave him over this. So...what does she think will happen? She'll be miserable while he lives like a bachelor and she sits by and isn't willing to do anything about it? I hate this kind of shit.

i was just going to say something similar.  she sounds kind of....dumb.  as in, she sounds oblivious to how bad this situation actually is.  

I think she sounds desperate.  It one thing to hate a behavior but it's another thing to get to the point where it's too much.

[Kristinmo]

Is rage an appropriate response to this? I would be irate but I've been told that's not the right reaction in the last few days so I just want to check.

[lindsaymg]

That thread breaks my heart. Not just for the mom, but for her daughter. It also makes me feel appreciative of my H. We have our issues, mostly involving his work travel (so I really understand the one parent feeling she has) but when he gets home he is such an "on" dad. 

This post may have ruined my whole night. 

[pantsparty]

Is she the same poster that got remarried pretty quickly? Lol, that's not very descriptive, but I remember them both being doctors.

[CurlyQ284]

I read it to DH and he laughed and called the guy a douche. I didn't read all the replies but I don't get how that's the *only* bad thing in a 'great' relationship. That is a HUGE negative, its not like he is leaving dirty socks on the floor FFS.

[EmilieMadison]

Apr 3, 2013 20:00:00 GMT -5 Que? said:

Apr 3, 2013 19:33:51 GMT -5 @booby said:

i was just going to say something similar.  she sounds kind of....dumb.  as in, she sounds oblivious to how bad this situation actually is.  

Apparently they're both doctors. So, yes. It's pretty dumb to be that well educated and have access to the best, yet still smoke in front of your kid and let her cry til she pukes just because.

She'll have another baby soon, guaranteed. She'd rather be with that loser than be divorced twice. People with that thinking also tend to think it's best to rush another kid so they both have the same Dad.

I think you're spot on, que. Puke. 

[Deleted]

If you told me someone hacked her account today, I'd easily believe it. She has helped me and so many other women throughout the years realize their own self worth that I am so sad she would be looking for a way to accommodate this behavior in her marriage. She deserves more and she knows it.

[starlily]

Apr 3, 2013 20:12:56 GMT -5 pantsparty said:

Is she the same poster that got remarried pretty quickly? Lol, that's not very descriptive, but I remember them both being doctors.

Yes.

[pantsparty]

Apr 4, 2013 0:23:24 GMT -5 starlily said:

Apr 3, 2013 20:12:56 GMT -5 pantsparty said:

Is she the same poster that got remarried pretty quickly? Lol, that's not very descriptive, but I remember them both being doctors.

Yes.

Oh. Very sad I definitely don't know her as well as the MM crew, but I'm pretty shocked now knowing that.

[Deleted]

BURN.THAT.SHIT.DOWN.MAD.