Post by verycontrary247 on May 2, 2013 22:18:23 GMT -5
of the same gender.
My brother's wife is due with their 2nd little girl in a little over a month. They pretty much have everything they need in terms of clothes/strollers/accessories/baby furniture- literally all they need is diapers/wipes.
One of her sisters asked me if I'd help throw her a shower. Is it acceptable to have a diaper shower for a second child, or is that tacky/gift-grabby? If so, how do you word that without sounding like you're telling people what to buy?
I guess it depends on how far apart the two kids will be. A diaper shower is still better than a shower with a registry at least...but if you're wondering about it, others may be too.
Post by thinkofthesoldiers on May 2, 2013 22:21:14 GMT -5
Tacky and gift grabby. If you want to get together as a family for a little lunch or something, have at it. Inviting all her friends and family for some big shindig is so very tacky.
I'm torn about this, I think it's nice if a family member wants to throw the party. But if the mom is asking for one, that's weird.
In this case, I think it's a nice gesture from her sister. However, I wouldn't call it a "shower". I would call it a sprinkle, welcome baby party or something along those lines. You can put in the invite to bring diapers or have a book party and bring a book. Make a note that she doesn't need a lot or ask for gifts to be charity donations.
Post by prettyinpink on May 2, 2013 22:26:01 GMT -5
Call it a Sprinkle and do it after the baby is here. Ask for diapers only, no other gifts. That's the only why I would do it otherwise I think its a little gift-grabby.
DH's friend was a expecting a baby girl and his wife didn't want a shower because she'd had one for her son with EXDH 10 years earlier. This was the first grandchild for the friend's family, and the couple already had to purchase (she'd gotten rid of cribs, strollers, etc. 8 years earlier).
Anyhow...friend's dad's mom and dad hosted a diaper party/BBQ for the guys, and she hand-made invitations that said, "It's a diaper party...you bring the diapers (Size X/Y/Z) and we'll supply the food and beer." Each of the guys brought diapers or wipes as assigned, and then they got shitfaced for the rest of the afternoon and evening.
It's not good. Are her children really far apart in age?
No. Niece #1 just turned 1.
The only reason why I'm considering this is because they are pretty broke. Maybe like a month after baby #2 is born they are moving so my brother can attend med school- the scholarship living stipend he's getting is probably meant for 1 person instead of a family of 4 so it's going to be tight.
I like taking the MTB out to brunch and giving her a few things. You can call it a sprinkle or whatever. But don't ask for diapers because that's boring.
My friend adopted last July. Around Christmas she found out that she was pregnant and due in July.
I asked today if any one was planning a shower, she mentioned her mom and sister were thinking about doing one. (I helped throw a huge shower - and her mom threw her another huge one)
I mentioned we (our friends) weren't sure and then she was all "maybe we could just do a get together or something small"
I was all "uhhh"
Then she text messaged me and was all "can we do traditional games like measure the belly - since we obviously couldn't do that the last time" (which I get is exciting but ..)
I still have PTSD from the last shower I helped throw her.
I suggested to my H that if her mom is having a shower in South Florida - the girls in our group will crash and have a girls weekend. It will cost the same amount as throwing a shower after buying decorations and food and such.
Post by BunnyMacDougal on May 2, 2013 22:50:00 GMT -5
With a one year old at home, do a "sip and see" after the baby is born. That name is stupid, I know. But I had one after C and it was so nice. People held her and I had food, company, a mimosa....and people brought gifts but that's because she was our first.
I would not have cared a bit if no one brought a thing, esp if I had a lot of gear all ready. I loved every minute of seeing folks and showing off my baby!
It's never bothered me. Especially if they could use help financially, I don't see anything wrong with a diaper shower. *shrugs*
Are you sad you only got one shower when you had two babies?
Lol, completely bitter. In all honesty, people were amazing. I feel sorry for attendees to our events (shower, bdays). It kinda sucks to buy two gifts.
You know what I wanted the second time around? Just a little lunch out with friends or something like that, to celebrate the new baby coming, but no gifts allowed. I just wanted that time with my friends. Actually, I wanted to plan a night out for dinner and then dancing, but then I got put on bedrest. Boo! lol
You have enough years between kids that i think you would get a pass anyway.
Also, I was so surprised when I got pregnant with K that the entire time I felt more anxious than excited. It would have been nice to celebrate with friends.
It's never bothered me. Especially if they could use help financially, I don't see anything wrong with a diaper shower. *shrugs*
This is how I feel. EVERY single person I know with 2 kids has had a sprinkle for the second child, during their third trimester. And I've never been horrified. I don't mind buying a few little things, and I think every baby is worthy of some sort of low key celebration.
Post by noodleskooze on May 3, 2013 7:35:51 GMT -5
I think I diaper shower for a second child is fine. If you feel money is tight for them and you care about her and her family, I don't see why you can't just do it because you want to. It's nice.