Please do tell your grandma. I'd bet that she'll find out somehow anyway, and wouldn't you rather it came from you?
I think you're handling things remarkably well, and much better than I would. I would be a raving fucking lunatic (as long as my kids weren't within earshot).
Thank you. I was hesitant to start posting about this mess on here, since I'm so new, but the support I've received has been awesome. No one can call you guys bullies!
I'm going to chime in about my family: my mom has six sisters. If ANY of them had sex with my husband, my mom would have kicked their ass and snatched them bald!! I don't think I would have told my grandmother about it, but I know my mom and her other sisters (the non-whore ones) would have my back.
I'm still incredulous that your own flesh and blood had sex with your DH.
"Why would you ruin perfectly good peanuts by adding candy corn? That's like saying hey, I have these awesome nachos, guess I better add some dryer lint." - Nonny
Post by Pixiehollow on May 6, 2013 21:08:27 GMT -5
I didn't get a chance to respond to the other post. I'm so sorry that you are going through this. I think you've received great advice and agree that you should tell gma. I would have been temped to cc a bunch of mutual family/ friends on that email.
I have three sisters who I love, and we are all great friends. But I can very easily say that if one of them did this to the other, or to my daughter (in 25 years), I would cut off all contact, no questions asked. I would feel so betrayed, even though it wasn't done TO ME.
I'm so sorry Lily
I have two sisters and two daughters. I agree with jillian. And you can be damn sure they would know what the fuck they did to deserve it. You don't mess with my kids!
I am so sorry you are going thru this. I agree with civille's editing.
I am chiming in to tell your grandma. This isn't some unnecessary tattling that would just upset your grandma. This is information that is dramatically changing your life. If you keep this info from your grandma you will create a secret that you can't share with her, which could cause distance.
I had an uncle fuck over his nephew (my cousin) over a business deal. Like literally took his money and split. When he resurfaced a few months later he had NO Family. To this day (14yrs later) no one talks to him. And that's money. If this were a whore aunt situation I think hair would get pulled first and disowned soon after.
This is so horrible lilybug. So sorry you're dealing with this. I'd definitely tell gma! She needs to know!
Tell your grandma. I know you feel like you're protecting her but secrets are poison and she might be old, but she's no less a part of your family. The others know, so should she.
I am so sorry about all this, lily. I can't imagine.
Your aunt and your STBX are horrible, disgusting people.
Your email doesn't have nearly enough expletives. Mine would most definitely be laced with whore, fuck, and many other choice words.
Team tell Grandma. She will find out. And your dad sucks. I can't imagine not immediately taking my CHILD's side over my raging whore of a sister (and by taking sides, that means by not calling the bitch up and cursing her out, cutting her out of my life immediately, etc). I hope as this spreads through your family, everyone will shun her. She needs to be shunned. She is awful. Your PREGNANT NIECE'S husband. I want to punch her for you.