s/o "sharing" Mother's Day

[pedanticwench]

Go read this: pandce.proboards.com/thread/173787/share-mothers-day#

Bascially, OP doesn't want to share HER speshul day with her MIL.

Question: is it normal/acceptable to stop spending time on the holidays with your MIL/FIL or your parents whenever you become a parent?

I get that we all have time constraints and sometimes you just cannot make it to a certain holiday celebration due to all kinds of factors, but is it right to just completely forget about your extended family once you marry and/or have your own kids?

[jenna]

We usually do brunch with my Mom, Dad, and brother's family. We actually met for brunch last Sunday to avoid the crowds.

MIL & GMIL live out of town.

ETA:  Assuming I live near my sons, I am going to spend some time with them for Mother's Day.  Maybe not that day, but we will do something together.

[demelza]

There was a big old thread on here about making mother's day your own day.

[snickers]

My MIL lives in a different province, so we just call her or skype.

[ECB]

Well, this is more due to my MIL who is jsut... well, I'm not going to go into it. But ever since I became a mom, I like the IDEA of having the day "for me" and being able to really do what *I* want to do.

But. Our moms are still our moms and I don't see why that should be forgotten. But the thing is that WE (DH and I) host everyone at our house. Every year. So while my DH tries his best to make it about me as much as he can and tries to take the load off of me as much as he can, I still end up having to host.

I don't get overly annoyed, though, because I also contend that MOthers Day isn't an "all that and then some" day. What I've been reading that some people do ... it sounds even worse than Christmas plans! That I really don't get.

When it becomes a BURDEN, it seems to defeat the purpose.